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I'm 24 and I recently got married. The problem is that my mother is horrible to me. She has always been. She refused to be involved with the wedding in anyway, she refuses to have contact with my kids because she says they are bad(how bad can a 4and 2 year old and a 10 month old be?), she hates my husband and says its his fault she won't come around. She does not "allow" me to talk to my 17 year old brother unless she is there. And she won't allow me to see my daughter that she conned me into letting her adopt. That's not how mothers are supposed to treat their children. She recently told me she doesn't want to see me anymore. Should I just cut her out of my life and let it be?
It sounds like you need to put your foot down and be firm: 'Mother, this is my life and I will *not* allow you to ruin it. If you do not wish to be a part of my life then so bet it, but I would rather you were. If you do want to be then *you* have to start treating me and my family better.'
If she is really sure that she doesn't want to be part of your life then from the horribl things you've said she has done I would let be.
I'm curious how she conned you into letting her adopt your daughter, and I'm sure there is some legal proceeding you could try to get her back.
(Rating: 5) I was on drugs for awhile after I had my daughter and I gave my mom temp. guardianship. When I went to rehab my mom asked for custody for medical purposes like emergencies and stuff ,I signed. Then when I got out of rehab and went to get her back my mom said no and handed me adoption papers..so I had to do all this stuff to bet her back...home studies, drug tests, parent counseling blah blah. Did it all and went to get daughter back and my mom fought because it my daughter was with her for 3 years. But I always had visits and such. She fought me until I ran out of money for a lawyer so I had to chose between my other kids and my daughter. I felt in order to afford my other kids I couldn't keep fighting for custody. I want so badly to have my other daughter back but i doubt that it will happen. I figure she will come back to me when she is 18 and we can atrat over.