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Q: My boyfriend and i were together for almost 4 months.. and i fell in love with him.. we never really got to see each other.. and we both cheated on each other. But we were in love, so it didnt really matter. He broke up with me a few days ago.. i begged and pleaded and tried everything to get him back. I just want it all to be ok. I cried for 2 days.. and I wrote him a letter explaining all my feelings and how much fun I had with him. The letter made me feel a little better.. but I just need a way to get him off my mind.. its horrible..

please help me! i rate 5s

Well theres many ways to get over a guy ive been through this before.. and maybe you just got to get out with some friends for the day like tha mall and movies and like some of your friends stay to night at your house watching movie to for get about him then aviod him like go around flirting with guys you know and you think you would like it might take a while but its worth a shot Good Luck -Ashlee-

Q: Hey...I don't really think you can help much with this, but I'm curious to see what you think of it all. This is probably gonna be long. Sorry.
Okay. My boyfriend and I are really close in every way. We love each other completely, and we're technically engaged. The only thing is...he'd told me he was staying here for college, but then he went on a trip with his family to see the rest of their family this break, and all of a sudden decided he wants to go there for college. That would be a four year separation, maybe more, and I don't know how to handle it. He went away this summer for 2 months and it, like, killed me. I can't imagine not seeing him for a year. We're not going to break up or anything, and I'm not going to try to make him stay (though I'd like to) because he'd resent me, I'm sure, if I did. I don't want to make him stay here for me, but he's planning to go to tech school. Can't he just stay here? I would go with him, but there are absolutely no good vocal programs where he's planning to go, and I already got accepted into a college here that does. (I'm doing vocal performance as my major).
Anyway...I don't know what to do. I almost don't want to talk to him about it because I'll end up crying and making him feel bad, then feeling bad about making him feel bad. Lol. Plus, I hate for him to see me cry.
So...anything to say?

okay well it might be hard when he goes away but he will be getting and education in a carrer and if its ment for you to , to be married then its gonna be a big deal if he doesnt go to collage. and you will always see him on holidays. and be able to talk on the phone and the computer by email or instant messaging Good Luck-Ashlee-

Q: My friend and I went to the movies at the mall and after it was over, we saw my crush and his friend there too. I know that he saw me, because he knows who I am because he goes to my church and all that stuff. Well, after we went to the bathroom, he was still there. I know that he looked at us a few times. What would that mean? And, my friend and I were smiling and whispering to eachother and looking back at him. She doesn't like him though. Anyways, what would that have said to him, us smiling and looking at him. Would it have told him anything? And why was he looking at us (me)? Thanks and I rate. Oh, he's a year older and we're in jr. high.

Well you guys smiling and giggling he could of took it as you to flirting with him. and It might of ment he likes you also.. but you can never no if you dont find out. Drop hints so that he knows you like him.Good Luck -Ashlee-

Q: EVERYONE i know always says that your first love will always stay in your heart no matter what, etc.. Do you guys think this is true? Even after a year or longer after breaking up and gotten with new ppl and not talking at all, you think that those feelings for your first love are still there?

Yes i think that your feelings with your first love is always with you. Because My first love i still think about alot and i havent talked to him in a really long time then just recently he came over my house one night and hung out and he started talking to me online even tho. we hadnt talked in over a year!-Ashlee-

Q: Ok thre is this guy that i like but he is 18 know and i am 15. And i just found out that his girlfriend is prenget and i like him really bad. but i have know him for since i was little cause he and my uncle were good friends. We use to party together but that was the old days. And i don't know if i should tell him bow i fell. But i hope some one can help me. Michy

Yes, you should tell him how you feel. Because if you ever hang out with him your always going to think of him as a crush and its going to be strange. and plus you never no he might like you as well. Good Luck -Ashlee-

Q: I wrote a question about the guy i saw a while ago and got many great anwsers... alright I went to see him and he gentally grabbed my hand and started rubbing my thumb you know how they do that when you holding hands, we layed down a watched a movie. We were just cuddling. When the movie was over I went out into the living room and he came out there and started talking to me... he told me that he really never meant to hurt me and he will never do it again. I was scared when he told me he loved me and didn't say it back.. he told me to call him but I am too scared. Should I call him and if I do what do I talk to him about.. I need advice before I pick up the phone and dial his number... please help I can honestly say I love this guy... do you think he loves me?

Well.. if you really love him then yes you should call him and see if how you feel about him is how he feels about you, but Did he hurt you before? because if u had hurt gotten hurt by him then maybe you should just tell him how you feel about him. Good Luck -Ashlee-

Q: My friend told my other friends that this kid likes me, but i don't like him. I like someone else. I don't want to hurt his feelings because i know how it feels. What should i do?

Well i think that you should tell boy how feel about him that you just want to be good friends with him instead of closer but say it nicely and dont have your friends tell him you tell him yourself good luck -ashlee-

Q: me and my friend got into this huge fight!!! over gym class!! it was sooo stupid!.....now she deosnt talk to me!....how do i confront her abuot this....
help me and i will rate you....you can also answer this in my advice coulmn....but pelase help!!

KristinEmma..

Tell your friend that you are sorry about the fight.. write her a letter but its better to apoligize in person that way they no ur no scared to say sorry tell her you think the fight was stupied and you want to be friends still and maybe invite her over to hang out -Ashlee-

Q: i feel like im growing apart from some of my close friends..is there any way to prevent this??

Signed,

Missed Friend

Hey there are plenty of ways to keep ur old friends.. ive gone through this.. call your friends up more and hang alot more... invite a bunch of friends over to c a movie or the mall or what ever you all like to do

Q: i really hate my dad.

no, really.

i sincerely dislike the man.

i am incredibly opinionated and very vocal about my opinions, which he hates.

i know i am smarter than him, he hates this also.

he yells at me for no reason often. condemning my use of the computer. stating that i'm on it too much.

my sister, on the other hand, watches TV all the time. he says i lack social skills because i'm on the computer "too much."

he's not around when i'm not on the computer and doing other things.

but yet i am still on the computer too much according to him.

i fight back all the time, but i hate it. i hate him.

i cant stand this anymore.

i want out.

due to his working situation i dont see him except for some weekends. (my parents arent divorced).

when he tries to punish me, he fails. he really cant. i have more power than he does in our family.

i'm 14, extremely mature and intelligent, if i do say so myself.

i dont want to kill him (in my head i do, on paper it doesnt look so good) but i'd like some way to come to peace with him.

i am NOT going to shut up and stop being opinionated however.
any advice on what i should do?

hi i think that you need to work things out with your father.. there are many ways to express your feelings to your dad such as.. writeing him a note, telling it to his face, talk to a counsler and etc. when u get very angry at your dad just count down by 10 to 1 taken deep breaths in between instead of slammin doors or what ever else... good luck with your father-Ashlee-

Q: ive been very unhappy latley. maybe that is normal for emo kids, but i dont know. i just wish i could be happy.. is it because i dont have someone to love me?? is there anyway i can be happy at all?

hey.. yes there is plenty of ways to still be happy.. Tell your friends on how you feel and start haveing more fun as in playing games getting involed in a good novel.. sports dancen etc. i hang out with my family when im unhapppy and i tell my friends whats going on in my life and they help me work things out hopefully ur friends will do tha same for you
your friend
Ashlee

Q: 16/f.

The other day me and my mom went to her best friends house, they have known each other since before i was born. She has two step-sons, one is 15 the other is 16. I have known them forever, and done a lot with them over the years but they live with their mom who lives an hour away from their dad and step-moms house and they are hardly ever at their dads house anymore so i hardly ever see them.....anyway, the other day they were there and we hung out while my mom and their step-mom talked while we went down to the basement and the 16 year old, we will call him Sam, anyway sam and i sat together on the couch and i have had a crush on him for so long, and we were watching tv and he laid on my shoulder and started playing with my hand and interlocking our fingers and everything and i had holes in my jeans and he started playing with them and he laid on my lap and watched tv and kept playing with my hand and i think he tried to kiss me but i didnt try to kiss him because i didnt know....so my question is, i dont have his number but i have his brothers which i an also good friends with and do you think if i call and ask his brother for his number it would be stupid and sound desprite....i dont know if i want to do it but i keep thinking about him...and yes my mom and his step-mom are good friends and see each other a lot but we dont see each other a lot...like the last time i saw them before that was about 6 months ago...i know i will see them again but i just dont know when...do u think i should call his brother and ask for his number...but sam knows his brother has my number but he hasnt tried to call me or anything so do you think i should wait till he maybe calls or wait till i see him again....i dont know...i know i sound like a little kid but i have had a crush on him since i was little....please help...thanks!!!

Hi... yes i think you should give a call to Sams brother and ask for his number and tell Sam how u feel towards him.. if you dont express your feelings towards some one you have a crush on he will never no how you feel about him.

bio

My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.