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I am terrified of dying. I don't believe in after life or second Life. I think we only have one life. Whenever I think about it I think one life is way too short. I know it's stupid but I keep hoping there will be some invention which will make us live much much longer. I am 22 and am so lucky that I have not experienced of death of anyone near me but I am scared of it so much. Specially my parents I know it's inevitable but it terrifies me. I have to go out of my way to keep busy to avoid thinking about it cause whenever I do my heart starts racing really fast, my chest starts to feel heavy like something heavy is weighing me down and my thoughts start racing and I can't stop it. Is there any way to ease this fear" (link)
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When you are 22-years-old you shouldn't be thinking or consumed with death or people around you dying. This fear comes from somewhere be it a repressed memory or something you have experienced and suddenly that's taken center stage. If you can pinpoint the real reason behind the constant fear you can push it aside. You need to talk to someone about it perhaps a therapist.
It's easy to be scared of the unknown or what seems final. I like to look at death like this. Picture a globe and a sailing ship on the ocean approaching the horizon line. The ship suddenly goes over the horizon and you can't see it anymore. Where did it go? It didn't fall off the edge of the world but your eyes couldn't see it anymore.
That's what death is like to me. I believe there is something more to be experienced. Science is even questionining it because enough people who have had near death experiences all seem to experience the same warmth, light and instructions before coming back. They can't all be discredited.
When people have surgery or an emergency where they are put under and or die on table to come back where do they go during that time? The fact is being afraid of death to the point it makes you sick or really anxious is bad.
You do have the right approach about life to assume it's all you have to work with and to fill it with all you can or acheive and learn all you can. That's all anyone can do. You need to talk to someone about your fears so it's not something you're totally consumed with or suffering panic attacks over.
Is there something in your own life that has you thinking you or others could die? That's probably at the heart of the fear and the panic attack feelings you've been having. Maybe you're unesy over something that's happened with yourself or others.
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There is a guy in my building who expressed he like me a couple years ago. Although we never dated or exchanged numbers he would say things that made me like him. He would hold the door for me and compliment me. He did eventually ask me out two years but I said no because at the time I wasn’t interested. The last thing he said to me was I’m here for you and that was in March. I was surprised he said that and felt good to hear something like that. Well, I think the last time I ran into him was October and the only thing he said was Hi and How are you? I was expecting more. I like him but I must admit I believe I should not date him. He has a couple of dealbreakers. But, at the same time, I feel sad that he might not be interested in me. I like him but like I said I found somethings about him that made me think that he might not be a good fit for me.
It seems like he’s no longer interested which is unexpected since he’s been trying so hard this past two years to date me. My questions is what changed that he no longer seems to be into me? (link)
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He's being cordial. He pursued you for two years and you consistently let it be known you weren't interested. He's moved on and likely expects that you have too. He's being nice when he sees you but that's about it for those reasons. That's what has changed the realization that he's wasting his time trying to get someone interested who just plain isn't. He's dropped you because there wasn't a friendship or much else to develop.
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Has anyone had any issues after buying an iphone or apple product with no applecare? (link)
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Yes. I was on a 3 year family plan contract where we bought the phones from a provider. We didn't put Apple Care (though we should have) or a warrenty. Here in Canada it's like you are leasing the phones they own until you pay off a balance.
Apple products are usually constructed extremely well. Their laptops and desktops for example tend to run forever. I had a Mac that I bought in 2006 and it was still working very well in to 2012-2013. My current MacBook is 6-years-old and thats usually when PCs and other makes on laptop crap out.
When did you buy your phone or have you not done it yet? I would call Apple Care up or use the chat function on apple.com and find out if you can still add a plan. It is great to have especially if you have questions about the product and how to do things not in an faq or anything technical develops. the support they give is second to none. It's good to protect it as they can give you a new one or repair it if for some bizarre reason something becomes screwed up. I would buy the plan but odds are like me you won't have an issue until contract renewal.
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Do some apartments accept people if they haven't been on a job for a year? (link)
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My parents used to rent out apartments. The most important thing of all is your credit history. If a check comes back that you're a risk for not paying rent because of a low score that will kill everything there. They need to see you have great finances.
They do look at your employment history. You could mention that you just started a new job but have worked consistently and at other jobs and bring your resume to the interview for the apartment. If they see that you're not job to job and can't hold on to one things may be fine.
The second most important thing is to be honest in your interview and give the impression that you are very responsible. We always tried to weed out people we thought were irresponsible, possible addicts and or potential problems that could irritate neighbors and try to see if they have issues with police and prior landlords. You need references.
I will be honest most people renting out apartments tend not to want to rent to young people. Make sure you present well at the interview and that they gain the right perception of you. That and as I said above a credit check is what can seal fate either way.
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I wanna buy a vibrator but I'm 15 and i dont wanna get carded so where do i go? (link)
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Do you know an adult female who you can confide in that could purchase one for you? That's your best bet. It wouldn't shock them because statistically everyone masturbates. It's normal and nothing to be embarrassed over talking about or doing.
This person would be able to get you one. Believe me most parents would rather have this issue than one where you are having actual sex and being pregnant. These days even Amazon sells them on their site and made a fortune during COVID from adults and college students so says the articles on that.
The problem you have is that sex stores cannot sell pornography which they all do in a place where there are people under 18. It's about them getting busted for doing so. Also, it's because it's labelled "sex toy" and not "novelty item"
That's a big distinction as it's what has allowed Spencer's Gifts to show them in the open for anyone to see. They haven't carded in the past and I'm not sure about now. There was a ton of controversy about them selling to anyone who walked in without carding a year ago but they've managed to get around the you must be 18 for years.
The other thing here is that you don't need to purchase what is labelled as a sex toy or vibrator because products such as massagers etc do the same thing so that's one way around someone asking you for ID.
The benefit if you are an adult of a sex store is that the staff won't judge you over anything and know that people are embarrased. They give you time to look around and ask questions or they will approach and offer help. They can make sure you're getting a product that you feel comfortable using and purchasing.
I would talk to an adult female you trust and mention this is an issue and you can't get one on your own. See if they can help or make a purchase with a credit card.
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Its been 6 months since I quit my last job due to my hours being reduced. I applied for unemployment but was disqualified. I'm currently waiting on an appeal hearing. I live with my parents right now. I've been applying to tons of jobs in my field and some that aren't in my field. I'm afraid of getting infected with COVID and bringing it back to my parents. My mom is sickly. Some interviewers have told me that I would come into contact w/ COVID patients. (link)
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Your mother's health is paramount. Her coming in contact with anyone who has been sick or around those who are put her at HUGE risk. This is magnified times 10 if you are around people with COVID-19. If you're afraid of anything that's your cue to pump the breaks on this and find another job for now that's not in the medical field. When things right themselves again start looking for this kind of gig but for now don't risk her health or yours.
Think of it this way you're young and healthy and unless needing help from a hospital have no business entering a war zone which is what most are with COVID. Stay well clear of them. Why risk everything over a pay cheque? The people in the hospital ER are either sick or dying from it. If they can't gaurentee you won't come in contact with people who could develop COVID than that right there is a deal killer.
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I'm interviewing for a night PRN position at a hospital as a patient screener. I'm not if I'll get a lot of work hours every month because it's "as needed."
I'm thinking about this job because I really want to work in a hospital and move up to other positions for what I went to school for. But it is PRN and I have bills to pay. (link)
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It depends on whether or not they're labelling you a "Nursing Assistant" or if you are a registered nurse according to Indeed.com. The lower part of the pay scale is around $18 per hour up to $43.00 if an RN. There are two lousy parts to your situation. The first has to do with hours and the "as needed" part.
This implies that you won't be working consistently and don't have much of a heads up on when a shift will be coming. If you get paid by the hour having a consistent overall number to guage your earnings is tough. Perhaps you will have enough money for bills and then again maybe not because your cash depends on when and for how long they call you for and the amount will vary by shift. Until you start working for them it's hard to tell if it will pay all your bills.
The second lousy part is that they want you to screen people coming in to the hospital. While COVID-19 patients no doubt see emergency room people first you just have no idea if the people you are screening may in fact have the virus. You're going to want to know how much risk there is for a screener of coming in contact with people. Because of how busy the hospital is you may find yourself scheduled a lot and or not.
There's a lot to weigh here but having a job rather than no job with pay that isn't ideal is better than not having an opportunity to earn money. As long as it's safe and low risk for COVID it's worth doing as it may lead somewhere if they see your skills go beyond what you've been hired for.
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I had unprotected sex a day after my last period in October,i didn't take any contraceptive. I'm yet to get my period now. It's been 36 days (including last period). Could i be pregnant?
I'm really scared of taking a test that eventually turns out positive. (link)
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Sooner rather than later you are going to need to deal with this issue head on and find out. It's probable that you are pregnant but you need a definitive result. You need to either book an appointment with your doctor or get a test or both. You need todo it and be on top of this as it's a health concern. You also need the help of adults around you. They may not react te way you would like at first but they will assist you.
There really isn't anything to be fearful of and shouldn't work yourself up until you have the result and need to tell someone. Even then you will find help and concern. This is one of those things where you have to be responsible and get checked out. You shouldn't jump to conclusions without an actual result. You'll scare yourself when perhaps this isn't what you fear. Go get checked out and then tell an adult whom you trust most.
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I'm a 16 year old girl and last night I wet the bed. Who the fuck still wets the bed when they're in high school??!?? Me, apparently. And this isn't the first time, it's the second. The first time was last month. Fortunately, no one knows about this (and hopefully it'll stay that way). But I know something must be wrong for this to be happening. I don't know what though. I'm not losing bladder control when I'm awake. It's only when I'm asleep. So what does that mean? Help!!!! (link)
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Have you noticed any problems when you urinate that weren't happening before such as pain or straining? One reason for adults wetting bed could be because of diabetes (on set), a kidney stone blocking normal ability to release urine or it could be a UTI or even a new medicine causing the issue or sleep and other disorders according to the Mayo Clinic web site.
It's more common than you think because people don't want to talk about it. Doctors have seen and heard everything including this a lot over course of career. What you need to do is book an appointment about it and see what they say the cause is so you can nip it in the bud so it only occurs twice.
None of this is your fault and may be a medical issue in which you can get corrected or under control upon talking with doctor about the source.
Also, if it is urine the one thing you shouldn't do is drink before bed especially if you think your body isn't reminding you to get up and go to the bathroom. Try eliminating having fluids at night period.
The only other thing I can think of is that is a long shot perhaps what you think is urine on sheets isn't. You've probably heard in sex-ed classes about wet dreams and males ejaculating during sleep as normal. What they don't focus on is that these kinds of dreams can happen to females if aroused during sleep. While you won't ejaculate there is vaginal fluids and lubrication secreted so that may be what you see on your underwear and bedding. That's no big deal and normal either way. I hope this helps you and covers all angles.
Once you talk to a doctor things will become clearer on what to do and the direct cause. I wouldn't be embarrased over something you couldn't control either.
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my coworker just bluntly hit on me in a company email.....and gave me his phone number and asked me to call or text him when i have a minute.....he has a son, i dont have kids.....he's not with the mom so he says....and he just recently overcame stomach cancer..
now that's bold as hell to do that and let the company know u are fraternizing on the job
anyway should i?
thanks
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I don't have the benefit of reading the e-mail he sent to see if he was blatantly hitting on you. I wanted to see because him giving you a number to text or call when you had a moment could be work related unless he's come out and asked for a date in that email or face-to-face. You have to be absolutelty sure of that being his intent before you tell HR or a supervisor of it being out of line.
There's nothing wrong with him asking you out IF and only if he's not directly done so on work e-mail or while working. If he asked off site it would be okay but at work or in company mail is poor judgment by him and can get him fired. If he's made you feel icky or continues with the behavior note it and archive the e-mail so you can speak up about it later and have evidence so you can establish patten of this from him for HR.. If he's used work email and resources to get your attention it's wrong.
If the cancer story is true I would feel sorry about it and what he's dealt with even though it has nothing to do with how he's acting. If he hits on you again at work or in an email tell him you're with someone and would appreciate it if he kept things professional and strictly work related. This gives him a chance to correct his behaviour and apologize for it.
You don't want him to lose his job so trying to deal with it by telling him you're with someone and won't be calling or texting him is the same as telling him to get lost without the blowup. It should difuse the situation so others aren't involved.
When you go to your boss or HR the entire office will find out about the accusation and that you made it. It could get toxic but you're within your right to tell and let them know you feel icky about it.
If your question at the end of your post is about whether to get with him or not I would say not based on his behaviour and how it could ruin things at work. You might be seen as wrong for starting something with him after he asked over email. It's condoning a behaviour.
If you're asking whether or not to tell I would try to difuse things by tellling him you're with someone and won't text or call and let him back off or apologize first. If he doesn't stop take his email(s) and approach your boss and hope they handle it and protect you. You want as much evidence as possible when approaching them.
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It sounds like a weird question, but I will be sitting in class sometime in the day, and i can just feel guys staring at me, and it makes me very uncomfortable, and i want them to stop. it feels weird asking them to, because when i do they just deny it, its very annoying. (link)
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TACT. Above all use TACT. You don't want to draw and entire class's attendtion to a problem you're having with one or two boys. You have to understand that they're doing it because they like you and haven't figured out that this is an undesired way of showing it. Asking them to stop politely and privately and indicating you don't have any interest is better than any in class confrontation. You don't want to draw attention to it. What they want is attention from you.
I would let your teacher know that you feel very uncomfortable in his/her class and have asked a group of boys to stop starring at you and doing things that make you feel weird. They will know better than anyone how to stop it without bringing any embarassment to you or others or further problems.
You should also consult an older female be it a mother, sister, aunt, teacher, counselor etc and ask how to handle unwanted attention from boys and see if anything they can tell you will help.
The boys are harmless and likely not out to harm you or make you feel uncomfortable. They're doing it because they like you and are checking you out. Yes, it's not right but they don't have an understanding of that yet. They're hoping you'll notice them back and be in to what they are doing. Boys are dumb at that age.
If you have spoken to them and told them how creeped out and unconcomfortable you are than that's all you really should have to do. However, making a teacher aware and having them handle it may resolve matters a lot quicker and ensure it doesn't get any worse.
You have a right to attend school and any class for that matter without feeling uncomfortable. If you feel that way and don't want to be there because of someone else's behavior that is unwanted you need to tell adults about it.
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What is Modalert prescribed for? (link)
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Known by several names it has been used to treat narcolypsy, Schizophrenics and anxiety. However, it does have some pretty bad side-effects and studies against it being used. Doctors tend to know how it should be. This Wikipedia link will tell you all you wanted to know: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Modafinil
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So I met this person at my college last year from a small Bible study group we have on campus. I met the group during my second semester and have been participating with them since then. One of the members I found admirable because of his high level or intelligence both on religious topics as well as other topics in general. I don’t have a vehicle, so two of the members would rotate giving me rides to church since we all lived in the same general area. One of them moved, so this year it had just been one person taking me. I live in the dorms now, so our dorms are right beside each other, so no one has to pick me up or anything. The whole time I had thought he had a crush on this one girl in our group and I found out I was right, but she had turned him down. I hate to admit it, but I’ve started liking this guy and I’m trying not to. I’m like 2 1/2 years older than him and a lot of guys don’t like older girls. Not to mention he likes someone I’m friends with. I’m pretty sure these feelings are one-sided, but I need some advice on how to avoid having them develop anymore? I don’t catch feelings too easily, but with my anxiety and ocd I know that this’ll just end in disaster. This person has become a pretty close friend of mine and I don’t want my feelings to mess up anything (link)
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Trying to stop liking someone you are attracted toand have a connection with is futile. All it does is torment you. A 2.5 year age gap doesn't matter because it's all about maturity. Where did you hear guys don't like older girls? That's false.
Your real problem is actually the friend who likes him. You're going to have to have an awkward but honest discussion with her. Mention that you haven't seen signs he likes either of you and have noticed him with someone else.
Put it out there that you haven't acted on any of your feelings so as not to hurt her but think there's a connection there he hasn't with anyone else. You really have to consider who is more important the guy or her? The feelings you may have for him may be unrequited but you should find out so you can move om if needed.
You can mention to the friend that one reason you never act with guys isyour anxiety disorder and OCD and them finding out and treating you badly. These disorders provided you are getting treatment for them need not lead to disaster. The right persom will have empathy and compassion and will like you for who you are. It's very important this person be able to.
Instead of asking this person out I would ask him for coffee or invite to a party. If he likes you he will move mountains to go and if not will turn you down. This is almost always a guage to determine if there's anything there. If there is things will continue to unfold naturally.
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M/24 so I met this girl last year in university,we became friends. By January I asked her out and we dated for a couple of months (3month). But because of covid my school was closed and I traveled back home as I'm living in another city. so I could only communicate with her through social, call and text....sometimes around June she messaged me to breakup, telling me to never call or text her again (I was deeply crush,because I really loved this girl,but I can't blame her because I was needy in the relationship, super nice to her and i lacked confidence in myself) I've not contacted her since then... I've been working on myself improving myself and healing.
But everything is about to change because my school is resuming next week and I'll be seeing her everyday,I just don't know how to be myself around her.. I thought I've moved on but the thoughts of seeing her(everyday) brings back pains I thought I had healed from.. (link)
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I don't think there is anything to improve really. None of this is your fault. It may be Covid-19 but who the hell dumps somebody via text message? That's pretty cold and cowardly actually. At least call. We also don't know why she suddenly wanted to break up and have you never call again.
The problem is you had a 3 month relationship that turned into something that is NOT a relationship and where you had no interaction and couldn't develop anything real due to COVID. You really didn't know one another all that well in the 3 months you had. For whatever reason she's not interested anymore.
In this case what I would do is go about business as usual or at least put on that front and if you run into her be cordial. Don't stop long and or engage with her. You can expect that she will do the same. Focus on friends and other people who really like you and give them the time you would have given her.
Go about meeting new people and if they have student government or clubs join some. Over time as you go about your business you'll forget about her and will find someone who you genuinely love and click with.
I honestly wouldn't worry about or give a shred of thought or time to someone who got really nasty with me in text messages and breaking it off telling you not to call. Let this be her mistake. You deserve better and will find it. Like I said, if you see her be nice but beyond that put all your energy into your friends and other people. Eventually she will be a footnote.
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I don't know what i should do. I'm a cheerleader as a flyer but I got injured a few weeks ago right before the start of competition season. I still attended every practice when I was injured and they ended up making a base a flyer obviously because I couldn't practice at the time. Now I am all better and they are still keeping me as an alternate instead of giving me a spot on the mat. I was on the competition team last year as an alternate and this year is my senior year. It would be heartbreaking if I never had the opportunity to compete with my team on the mat. I get that the new girl has been working hard but she is still not to my level and she's only a sophomore. I want to talk to my coach about it but i'm afraid she'll get mad at me for even suggesting that i replace someone. Should I talk to the coach or just leave it be? (link)
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Don't suggest replacing anyone or even mention the new girl and do not be jealous of her success. What you should do is consult your physician or the doctor who knew you were injured. Explain to them that you tried to do cheerleading and complicated routinues unwisely when injured. Get them to write a letter to the coach.
Once you have that book an appointment with that person and explain that you hid an injury and unwisely decided to try and compete anyway. Explain the amount of pressure you had on you for your final year. Ask why you are an alternate and communicate that you want to work to get back to where you were. If you do this and silently work now well you likely won't have a problem getting back there. However, if you malign the new girl in any fashion and the coach and team find out it won't end right for you. The new girl is not the problem.
Attitude is what it is all about. Befriend the new person and help them out and do all you can silently and it will be noticed for the right reasons. The coach may want you to work harder and realise that positions aren't just given out or to be expected.
Even if they don't give you a spot where you want to be you still had 4 years worth of accomplishments that nobody can take away from you. If you don't get a spot this year know that you tried and were injured and did your best.
When you silence your inner monologue telling you to always push when you can't physically that's the healthiest thing. You learned from this that you can really hurt yourself farther when you don't.
If your coach doesn't see that injury affected performance that's on them and they're quite dense. Odds are if you are honest with them and tell the truth they will support you but may make you work to get back to where you were.
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Do i drop my toxic friend> (link)
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I think what you need to do is ask yourself why do I suddenly feel this friend is toxic? Ask yourself if there has been a pattern of behavior or not. If this is an isolated thing over one issue and you can resolve it by talking to them about it do that. If the friendship is on solid foundation you should be able to iron out a difference. If it's been consistently negative and isn't going to change than you can drop a friend. You have to establish whether they mean you well or not as well as whether things are trivial and can be forgiven or if it's a lost cause. That's about all I can offer without more details. I encourage you to write in should you need more help with more info to help us really answer.
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music choice is really starting to piss me off they still won't play anything by Bruce Springsteen on any of their channels i tried hearing his songs on there but still had no success at it so can you shut them down or get them to start doing it more often ? (link)
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We have ZERO influence over what any streaming service does including Music Choice. If you don't like something about their services best to contact them. We can't shut them down nor can we get them to play the songs or artist you want.
When it comes to Springsteen and more recently Garth Brooks and The Beatles they don't license their music to streaming services. This is why they can't play it or make it available because the right to do so hasn't been granted. In the event they were playing Springsteen before and then stopped it all has to do with them having the rights before but not now.
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Hi. First of all I want to mention that I am 22.I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years. We have a baby together. My mom never had a close relationship with him from the beginning. He is not perfect but I love him very much. He proposed to me this weekend. When I told my mom she didn't take it well at all. She kept on blaming me and said that I always disappoint her. She started shouting and saying that she hopes it's the best decision I could make. Now she does not want to talk to us at all. What makes things difficult is that we are currently staying with her until we finish building our house (should be done by December). i am really fed up with her always blaming me and never just being happy for me. She is really a toxic person in my life and I am afraid of her because she lashes out over everything. I want to cut her off but she will find a way to manipulate me. I need help (link)
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We're not there to see whether or not she lashes out at everything or if it's only certain things. Could there be something that you are overly sensitive of? At 22 she sees someone who is quite young making a potentially life changing and life long commitment when not truly ready for it.
She sees traits in him that deeply trouble her and thinks you should feel the same. She knows if it doesn't work out which she believes will happen that there is consequences including custody battles with the baby.
I know you have been with this person for four years and love him but moms are usually a good person to gauge character. He's also lived with you all in her home for some time and she's seeing things she's alarmed by.
As far as her saying you always disappoint her that's a pretty harsh thing to say out of frustratiion but you need to investigate further why she feels that way and work to heal things. No matter what your relationship with her is of utmost importance and of greater value than any other person.
You may not like things right now but giving up on her and calling her toxic is not the way to go. Eventually she will resume speaking to you again.
I would actually get therapy with her to mend your relationship because there is tons wrong with it and it's not because you want to marry someone and she doesn't like him.
I wouldn't cut her off but if you feel you would be unwelcome in her house and that you need to live elsewhere start looking. The thing is though that you haven't the financial resources and that's another thing annoying your mother about you getting married. Perhaps the real issue is that it's hard to pull back and let you make decisions abut your life on own.
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So I just turned 16 late last month, and now that I’m old enough for a job. I’m more anxious than before to get a job, but I have a big issue, transportation. My mom doesn’t have a car nor does anybody in my household even know how to drive, the part time job I’m anxious to apply for is two towns away from me, not a long drive but the two people I have in mind to frequent between as transportation, could become difficult. And if I risk having transportation complications then I could lose my job if I actually get it. Another issue is that my mom is on welfare, it’s what we survive off of my sister got a job and they cut our EBT off, if I get a job then I don’t know what they’ll cut her down to, but Ik it won’t be good. So what should I do? (link)
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Become well researched on your sister's situation and what will happen with benefits for your family before acting. You don't want to do anything that will screw things for other people. It's hard to get on assistance but remarkably easy to be taken off of it if you don't know the rules and must adhere.
When it comes to getting a job it is important to be able to get there for your shifts in all kinds of weather. You really can't do that by taking the bus two towns over. If anything got fouled up with missing a bus or being stranded out there you're cooked because nobody can come get you. It's also a bad idea because you'll be spending as much as you're making on bus fare.
It may be a great job but if it's that far away and you haven't a ride it won't work. You can't expect others to get you to and from. Even if it's not a long drive believe me when you add snow and public transport it's hell.
If I were you I would focus on doing something you know you would enjoy close to home and not rush into getting a job just because you now are eligible. You want to find the right situation and one where you can do it without any complications. I would wait most definetly if worried about your family's benefits and what your job could do to them.
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I wrote the cops a long (8 page) thank you letter after they stopped me from suicide.
I’m embarrassed to send it because it’s long, quirky, and informal.
It’s a huge deal to me to be treated well by the cops. The police department has helped my family many times also. I want them to know how grateful I am. I want their superiors to know what a great job they did.
I can’t decide what I should take out, or if I should just send it and have them be glad it’s a thank you letter, not a lawsuit like they usually get. (link)
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I think what you should do is take the points you want to make to your psychiatrist or counselor and/or lawyer and have them draft a letter to the police on your behalf thanking them for turning your life around and preventing suicide.
There's nothing to be embarassed about in thanking them but they may be weary of an 8 page letter especially if it rambles because quite often a rambling letter from a person with the issues you had and they intervened on may make them think you're still not stable. Anything written can be used by people to gauge your thought process.
Also, if you have been charged or have a recent case or hospitalization they initiated it's best that a doctor, lawyer or counselor write a letter on your behalf because they know what to include and what not to talk about and what your treatment and their involvement was. There's a lot you may not be aware of as having occurred if in mental health crisis.
Having them write the letter thanking them highlighting milestones and points you want to make is the best way to go because it carries a ton of weight coming from an expert on your health and situation. Nobody can misinterprit it or pass judgment that way.
Your intentions are pure but this must not come across as overly long or without clear focus. An 8 page letter can do more harm than good especially if it's quirky, odd or anything they can possibly twist to mean not well. If dealing with the police let the docs do it.
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