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Q: What is a lap dance? And what is oral sex? My friend talk about that and i just sit and listen.. but nothing i understand.

a lap dance is just that bacicaly a girl stands there and shakes her ass in a guys face when the guy is sitting down and oral sex is using your mouth on some one else privet parts to pleser them there are alot of street names to but i dont wanna go in to any thing nc-17
-*Tori

Q: 14f. I really really want to get my nose pierced I think they're so cute!! My mom said I'm not allowed any piercings until im 16, what can I do to try and convince her that I really want it done!!! & I can't do it myself, it'd be way to difficult/.

my moms the same way with the whole piercing thing but i do have my ears done so i gess its not that bad but any ways what you can do if you really want this is wate or go on to the internet and try to finde alot of stuff on nose piercings and show your mom that you did all the looking up and every thing and mide that you do have to read what you find so you can show her and your self the sideaffects and the good that comes out of it
and tell her that you will take care of it and not let it get infected
-*Tori

Q: I've had a hamster before (when I was really young) and since have gotten into reptiles a lot, and have snakes and lizards and all that. So I'm pretty used to handling a lot of animals, (and, well, I wouldn't do something idiotic like holding a rodent before handling my snakes.)

I think rats are one of the most intelligent species of animals, and make great pets. I've always loved them, and I'd like to get a young rat. - I'm not sure how to take care of one, though. Are they OK in a regular cage? In a tank? Is taking care of a rat more complicated, or about the same as a hamster? If I do get one, I want it to have a full life. How long do they usually live?

I tried looking info up on these guys but everything was contradictory, depending where I got it from. Thanks for anyone who helps, and please - no comments on rats and snakes being "gross! eww!!!11oneone!!". They're really nice animals and beautiful creatures.

i had 2 mice for like 3 days i made a cupple of mistakes that i hope you dont do im pritty sure a mouse is close to the same size as just a regular rat it dependes on what kide you want if you get one thats a fance rat then ther really big i think they live close to around 8yrs but if you get a little one they like around 5 or 6 and with the little ones i would keep them in like somthing of a fish tank cuz i had mine in a cage one with wires and he managed to get out witch sucked cuz the lady at the store thing said that it would be ok to keep them in.all you have to do is go down to the pet store near you wit a adult im gessing thats how it is where i live but any ways just go in and say that you want a rat and they should pick you out a young helthy one and they should tell you how to take care of it and what to feed it
if you finaly do get one tell me about it and if you have any more questions im me or add somthing to my column
-*Tori

Q: Sorry this is long, but i rate high :)

I have liked this one guy for nearly a year. We used to date over the summer, but then some stuff got messed up and we broke up. Well he managed to get over me but i never got over him. Recently he and I have gotten really close (somewhat) and we talk all the time. He has been throwing hints he likes me. And apparently he told a friend of mine he likes me. Well, on thursday he and 2 of my other friends (one guy on girl) went to hang out at his house. They got bored and found an unfinished house. Well, the guy i like and my really good friend (who knew i was head over heals for him) went into the house and made out...Yesterday we went to a new years party and the girl told another one of my friends about it. Who in turn told me. Now my friend (the girl) likes him and asumes he likes her as well. Both of the people who made out have yet to confront me about it. Im so devistated right now and i feel like having a break down...Please tell me what to do because im so frustrated...Thanks.

(Please please please dont delete this!)

wow thats gotta be stresfull well insted of them confronting you, you confront them just be like look i have been hearing that you made out wit what ever his name is and be like im not mad but im a little dissapointed because you know i still had a thing for him(say that to ur friend thats a girl)you might wanna do them sepertaly and to say to the guy.ask him about the stuff you have been hearing that he still likes you and if he dose why did he go and make out with your friend.If your still having trubble with them feel free to im me or add somthing to my column i will be happy to help more
-*Tori

Q: o0ok.. my best friend well she claims we are best friends and i love her to death. but she is aloud to have more friends but if i go hang out with anyother friend she like gets upset with me n im like o0ok how n the heck is this fair. so if you could help me that would be wonderful ik so confused n have no idea what to do.

thanks
Megan

hey megan well did you try to talk to her calm and say that people have alot of friends and not just one tell her that you love her to death but that you need to hang out with other people and maybe if shes getting upset with you, you can add in that your not going to finde some one else that you like more and ditch her.I think thats what her problem might be she thinks that you might fide some one new and never hang out with her agen . If your still having problems tell her or you to im me some time or to go on my colum and talk to me there i will be more then happy to talk to you
-*Tori

Q: My mom was an alcoholic, everyday she would drink. DUring christmas even more, just because she hated using all of her money and was afraid we'd be moneyless after christmas. On 12/23 I came home from school, all happy because it was the last day and now I have a 2 week vacation, and I came home to my mom being drunker then hell! I was sick of it and I went upstairs because I didn't want to talk to her. About 2 hours later my dad got home and yelled me from upstairs ( I was sleeping ) .. he said that we had to go to the hospital because my mother had passed out.. she had overdosed on anti-depression pills and was drinking ALOT of alcohol at the same time. when we got to the hospital we waited about 30 minutes and they came out and told me my mom was dead. I can't stop thinking that this is all my fault, like if I would've stayed downstairs maybe I would've stopped her from OD. I've been to a psychiatrist about this, but nothing seems to be working. What should I do?? Thanks for any help in advance! (sorry its so long)

awwwwwwwwwww im so sry that must be really hard on you but you have to remember that none of this was your fault and that your mom did have some what of a problem you couldent have stoped her she would have had to go to alot of drs to get every thing right with her i hope when reading this and some of the other advice given that you will relise that you could have done nothing.If you still feel like a little part in you is being blamed for this then im me or just talk to me on my column thing and i will be more then happy to lision to you and respond back
-*Tori

Q: ok i have dark circles uner my eyes... i get a enough sleep but i still have them... ive tried concealer and foundation n crap but it gets so annoying because it comes off throughout the day and i hate reapplying... anyone know any way to get rid of dark circles for long periods of time? i rate high =)

dont worry i have the same thing every one thinks im a insomnack(srry if thats spelled wrong) but any ways what could try is to get one of thoes maskes thing that your put in the freezer then sleep with it over your eyes if you dont wanna go out and spend money take a cupple of Qtips and run them under cold water then freez them and right b4 you go to school or work just rub the Qtips under your eyes that should work. Try it and get back to me and if it doesnt work then i will look in to somthing that does
-*Tori

Q: My BFF krystal ebel died in a TRAGIC car accident how should i handle it!?

awww im sooo sry to hear that well best way to handle it is to help other people deal with like her family or you can talk to a consler about it
-*Tori

Q: okay,well,me and my ex-boyfriend went out. Then broke up 6 days later. Then got back together. then broke up a week later. Then made out sooooooooooooo many times. Then we went back out. Then a rumor got passed and we broke up. then we went back out because we still liked each other. Then we broke up because i cheated on him. Then we got back together becuase i broke up with the other guy. And now we are broke up again because he liked my cousin but he doesnt know shes from across the country! okay...how do i get him back? I think i still like him! Ha! Ha!

im sorry to say this but i dont think that you should go back out with this guy i was in the same kinda thing and after all the brake ups it was horbal to go through and in the end i really didnt think it was worth all the pain just cuz i liked him alot
-*Tori

Q: My friend and I experimented with each other. Were both 13 and are both girls also. We kissed, french kissed, nibbled and felt on each other, but nothing "below the belt." I would just like to know does that mean were lovers if we don't have boyfriends? We never had sex before and we experimented, but not "below the belt." Does that mean were not virgins anymore? Help!!

dont worry your still a virgin a virgin is some one who has hasnt had intercors with some one of the other sex well thats one way to define it but some people think its more then that but thats what im going to go by well any ways your young and were just experimenting nothing more you girls are not lovers unless you both think of each other in that way and your ready to commite to somthing like that well i hope i have helped a little
-*Tori

Q: Ok I have a question?? I was at this party... and this guy was there and he waited until I was all messed up. I fell asleep and he woke me up and all the sudden I feel an arm goin around me! He wouldn't stop touching me when I told him to. I tried to move but he wouldn't let me! I told my friend and stuff and then I talked to his girlfriend about it and she doesn't believe me!! And then a couple days later I found out he was labeled as a sex offender before!! I wouldn't let anyone call the police cuz I didn't want to get involved in that! Now,to tell you he was 20 and I am 15 and the sick part is he was like my brother, he was a family friend and was always there for me. Tell me how come I miss him and still cry about what happened. Will someone please tell me what to do and I rate high! THANKS

well i know you dont wanna get in to this whole thing about telling the cops but in the end i think it would be best and i think the reason that your crying over what happend and that you miss him is because he was so close with your family and a you and that he was always there for you,you would never think that he would do somthing like this to you. for his girlfriend not believing you i think you should talk to her agen and show her the information that you found that he was a sex offender or just chech him if you have 3way on your phone then call her up and then call him up and get him to admitt to what he has done believe me it works all the time
-*Tori

Q: Okay, I was at this party last night and it was with a bunch of my guyfriends/friends. The thing is, my boyfriend was with me. These two guyfriends of mine are particularly touchy-feely types, and they like to pick me up and toss me around and all that...I'm small, lol. This one guy, Aaron, dipped me back like he was about to kiss me, and my boyfriend was glaring daggers at him. He was doing that to both Aaron and Kevin through the whole night. He already doesn't like Kevin because he's my ex, but I think he dislikes him more now. My boyfriend isn't usually the jealous type. I talked to both guys and told them to lay off with the touching me, and I told my boy that it doesn't mean a thing, that they're just my friends and they've always done that to me, but I don't think it helped.
Okay, basically, what I'm asking is, is there anything I can tell him besides what I've already said to make my boyfriend stop with the jealousy?

if i was ur boyfriend i would be a lil pissed to but what you could tell your boyfriend that you told your friends to lay off of the touchy-feely stuff and that and that you will try harder to pay more attecnion to him in not saying that you have to compleatly ingore your friends but you do have to make your boyfriend feel important or you might lose him
-*Tori

Q: ok tomorro night my dad and i are going out for a steak dinner and maybe some shopping. My friend tutored me for free a few times, which was really nice of her. My mom suggested me taking her tomorro.. my dad said he didnt mind even though he did mention he'd rather it be just the two of us. What should i choose to do?

well i think that u should just go with your dad and invite your friend along some other time

tori

Q: My cat came to my house as a stray she is was declawed... i put her with my kitten he isnt neuterd she is getting fatter how can i tell she is pregnant?

after reading some of the otehr advice given i agree i think u should take her to the vet but first tell who ever your living with and see what they have to say
-*Tori

Q: I'm inviting 4 of my best friends over for a small group gathering party. We're going to the movies, which'll take up like 4 hours.. But do you guys have anymore ideas.. Thanks XO

well thers alot of stuff you can do after the movie you can go and rent more movies and invite ur friend back to your place and watch movies that are already out till 4 in the morning or you can go shoping most malls that i know of of are at least open till like 11 11:30 or insted of renting more movies you can invite them over to your house and just hang out
well i hope i have helped at least a little
-*tori

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hey im tori but i have alot of other nick names it getting to the point where i will answer to about most any thing that im use to hearing but any ways i love helping people i applyed to answer qusetions on some other websites but i havent got a email back yet conserning them well thats all that i can think of to have in hear for now if i think of other things then i will add them