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Hey my name is Rachael and I'm sixteen years old. Like anyone else on this site, I love to help people. Ask me anything and I'll give the best possible answer I can!

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i have a really good friend jon. he is one of the hottest guys in the school and pretty nice. i never even dreamed of dating him till just a week ago. i would ask him out but what if he denies and it ruins our friendship. what if we broke up and it did the same thing? and, he has one flaw: he cheats on his girlfriends. he has never had a girlfriend that he hasnt cheated on.

help! thanks for everyones advice. 14/f

Dating him is a bad idea. Not because he's your best friend, but because he's a cheater. The last thing you need is boy drama that is completely avoidable. Staying just friends with him is probably your best choice. But if you really wanted to date him, ask him about it. Ask him if he's ever thought of you that way.. if he says no then just say that it's no big deal and that you wouldn't want anything to come between your friendship anyways.

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So there is this guy that i like alot and well he told me that he likes me to but he is just so confusing. and like whenever i see him i can tell that there is that connection. lol. but like online he almost refuses to talk like im fighting to get words out of him. he says its because hes lazy but then why does he talk to other people? and now that its summer i barely ever get to see him and i want to hang out with him but people are like you cant call him, you have to play hard to get. and im like well i doubt he will call me and then they're like well he is a shy one and im like uhmm okay? soo i just dont know what to do with him. can someone please help me?
and sorry it is so longg =\

You don't need to play hard to get if you really like him. If you feel like you're not going to see him over the summer then just call him. There's nothing wrong with just hanging out.. that doesn't mean anythings going to happen. Something may happen, and then you'll know for sure if he likes you.

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okay. im 14/f, and i have a huge problem. my boyfriend is really shy, and i dont know what to talk about around him.(im kinda really shy too.) like, what if i want to start kissing him? how should i do that?(im obviously not experienced)thanks.

Allll you have to do is be yourself. If he's shy, and your shy.. you shouldnt have to feel uncomfortable telling eachother that. Ask him what he likes and work off that a little. Even if you're not really interested in the topic, or if you don't really know about it, just keep asking questions. If you want to kiss him, the best way to do it is naturally. You don't have to say much, just look him in the eyes, he'll probably know what you want.

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How can I be more confident around guys? I've never had a boyfriend and never been asked out before either. My brother (who's 16) says i'm good looking enough, it's just because i'm mean. He says i'm not nice enough around guys. I kinda agree, cuz my philosophy has always been "if you don't need the person, there's no use wasting time getting to know them. screw them for now." i know it's bad...i'm really anti-social and prefer not to interact with people much. I know i come across as bitchy a lot. But now i'm done with it. I'm going into high school, and I'm interested in guys...and want to make new friends, especially with boys. So my question is...how do i be more confident in school and stuff and how do i get guys to notice me?

Treat a boy as you would anyone else. Don't feel any different than if you were talking to just a girl. You don't know the boy to begin with, so all you have to do is be nice.. you don't have to like him. It always helps if you smile a little too.. or be funny. Boys aren't that complicated and smiling and seeming easygoing makes them feel comfortable.

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okay.. im 16\f and i'm not skinny like omg, but a healthy skinny, when i sit my fat that i have rolls out. that doesnt really bother me. but my legs and butt. i dont have a butt, but its bigger then my stomach so i have to buy bigger jeans. and my legs are big, but its bc im in gymnastics and basketball n cheering. is there any way, i can make my legs and butt smaller?.. but to tone them up, but smaller, so i buy smaller jeans?.. thanks!!

There are certain butt and leg exercises that you can do to really tone up your legs. try squats and lunges to work your butt and thighs.

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I have a problem with getting attached so quickly and so much.It may be a problem with my current boyfriend and I don't know how to stop.I always seem to want to know what he's doing or thinking.I mean it isn't ridiculously bad to where I'm obsessed,But I know it may effect being so close.. and if/when it ever happens..that me and my boyfriend might break up.I'd be a wreck.I honestly don't know what to do or how to approach it in any way,But then again.My boyfriend is kind of the same way.Not so much as me,But he always want to see me or talk to me..whatever.It would be nice if I could just chill out or something.I'm just worried that I won't be okay in the future.I want to over-come it.How do I approach this?

Maybe you can try keeping your mind off him a little. It seems like you become emotionally invovled very quickly, but you need to still keep your life. Go out with your friends one night instead of being with him. Maybe just dettaching yourself from him a little more is all you need.

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