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I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18, we've been together a year and a half.
The other day when we were at the mall I saw this really pretty ring and told my boyfriend I really liked it. Later on he asked me what I wanted for christmas and I told him I wanted that ring.
Last night he called me and said, "Is there anything else I can get you other than that ring, because I don't really feel comfortable giving a ring to you" I was really surprised, he said he didn't think it was a good idea because "rings usually mean something else."
I honestly wasn't thinking it to be a "Promise ring" or anything like that, I just really thought it was pretty. Now I'm sort of hurt, not because he won't buy it for me,(and I know its not a money issue either) but because of what he said about not being comfortable giving it to me. I don't know why but it makes me doubt our relationship, and I'm upset about it. What should I do? Should I try to talk to him about it, or would that just make things worse?
i think you should let him know your intentions for the ring. make sure he knows you just liked it and you didn't mean it as a promise ring or anything.
hope i helped!
14/f
Me and my boyfriend have been dating almost three months now, I liked him for ages. I'm pretty sure I loved him.
But..I don't anymore. I do still like him, but I don't LOVE him.
And it doesn't seem to be working between us. We hardly ever talk and I feel like we don't really understand each other anymore.
And it feels like breaking up with him is the right thing to do, I want to be free, to be single.
But he claims he's still in love with me, and I don't want to hurt him.
See, before we started dating, we were very close friends. And I told myself that whatever happened, I would always stay friends with him. And he means a lot to me. But I feel like I've lost him; and it scares me. It's almost as if we've already split up, I feel awkward when I see him and we sort of give each other awkward looks. And I know now that I've blown it; whether we stay together or break up, we're never going to be close friends like we used to.
But I'm confused, because when we're alone together it's okay, I don't feel as awkward, although I still don't feel like it's working. But the awkwardness isn't there.
But although I feel as if I want to break up with him, at night or in the mornings, when I'm in bed, I often wish he was there with me, so I could lie in his arms. But I wonder if that's just because I want to lie in SOMEONE'S arms, not because I want to lie in HIS arms, if you know what I mean?
I just don't know.
And then there's this girl, who told him she's in love with him, and when I think of them together, it annoys me, and I think, No, he's mine!
But maybe that's because I find it hard to let go of things.
And when I read old (some recent) texts or comments from him, telling me how much he loves or misses me, or how I mean to him, I wish it was like that.
But I think the problem is, I want to be with him like how it USED to be, not now.
But something in me is telling me that it could go back to how it used to.
I'm not even sure if this is how I feel, but it might be.
And although I'd like to be single, I'm scared of being alone. Scared of not having anyone to lie with at night when we have sleepovers with our friends. Scared of not getting the odd, 'i love you' message.
I'm sorry if that didn't make sense much, I'm not surprised if it didn't, I'm so confused at the moment. I really don't know what's going on in my head at the moment.
But, what do you think?
Why do you think I'm feeling like this?
What do you think I should do?
I'd be so grateful for any help on this, because at the moment, my head is such a mess.
Thanks, xxx
most of the time when you develop feelings for your best friend, and you act on them in some way, it never goes back to being the same.
i think you should try and work on your relationship with him. if you were really ready to let him go, then you wouldn't be thinking about him before you go to bed. and you'd be okay with him being with another girl.
dont give up on him yet, work on it.
hope i helped !
Ok, well i am sorry in advance if this is long, or confusing, but my mind is really jumbled now, so stay with me. My girl friend and guy friend were over my house. I like the guy friend. Well at a party, as a joke, my friends were trying to give a different guy an erection (dont ask). Well i was trying to explain to my girl friend what we did. Well we had him sit and we straddled him and like grinded on him and like just did stupid stuff like that. Well, i was doing the stuff to my guy friend to explain. Well while i was doing it he got an erection. haha. well later, while my girl friend was playing the wii, he kept on holding my hips and putting his arm around me and whispering, "hey baby" in my ear. Well when i asked him about it the next day he was like idk and he pretended it never happened in school on monday. Was he giving me signs? should i tell him i like him? i want to but i feel like if i do, then it will be weird, because of the thing when i asked him about it. What should i do??? thanks
i think its strong signs from both of you.
i'd never demonstrate on my best guy friend ! hahah
i agree, i wouldn't tell him you like him. just show him.
well to start im 17/f and this is a problem with guys.
guy a: well to start i like someone and he likes me but the relationship isn't going anywhere. we barely talk and he's going through this depression which is hard to explain. i really like him for his personality though, when he's not depressed, but he's good looking too.
guy b: we dated on and off in middle school but nothing serious. (nothing is ever serious in middle school) he wasn't my first kiss so its not like we have that connection. i liked him over the summer again and was at his house a lot and i was about to tell him i did but then he told me he liked someone, so i never told him and got over him. now about 2 weeks ago i was at his house with a lot of people and at the end of the night everybody left and it was just me and him. we were wrestling and he ended up on top of me and he made some sexual joke and was pretending to make out with me or something. so then after that we were talking and i started to realize i liked him again. BUT once again him and this other girl like each other. she's clingy and he doesn't know if he wants to start a relationship with her.
i dont know what to do. i don't know who to focus on or who is worth liking. i've been single for so long (appx. 3years) and i absolutely hate it. its not that i feel i need a man to complete me, its just that being loved (by people other than friends and family) makes me so happy. just the thought of having a relationship where someone smiles every time they see you and give you a hug like theres no tomarrow and having someone to cuddle with you during romantic movies. i love it! help me please.
this has happened to me before and i couldn't decide either. so i chose to work on both of them. hang out with both of them, you can talk to both of them at the same time if you're texting or talking online. but if you really want to chose, i'd go with b. a seems to not know what he wants. and his depression could eventually affect you too.
hope i helped!
I need help losing weight at a good, healthy pace.
Recently, I was diagnosed with PCOS and I read that losing weight could help with the negative symptoms (i.e. diabetes, acne, infertility).
I have don't have any motivation besides that since the whole thing depresses me.
Can anyone think of a good workout plan for me please? I really need this.
what works really well is weight watcher's points plan.
its so easy if you stick to it. basically, each food item is a certain number of points [it explains all of this is their packet] and you get a certain amouint of points a day depending on your weight. you can weigh in whenever you want and they keep track of all of it for you through a computer. its easy and you can still eat whatever you want. [they stress using smaller portions while still enjoying what you're eating]
another idea is if you dont want to change the way you're eating [which you're gonna have to if you want good results] is just do little things. dont have the clicker next to you when you watch tv. get up and change it. do 10 sit ups and pushups a day and increase the amount a few each week. dont drive, walk if its in a reasonable distance.
hope i helped!
My ex boyfriend and I have known each other for over 6 years. Recently we've crossed paths again and became really good friends. He calls me like 6 times a day and we talk about absolutely nothing, but yet the conversation is anything but boring. Well, as you probably guessed I am starting to have feelings for him again. He always makes me laugh, and he compliments me alot. I just don't want to take a chance and ruin our friendship if there are no romantic feelings intended. He called me his "bestfriend" and even though its a great title, it wasn't really the one I was looking for. Does he like me? What should I do? I don't wanna mess things up.
i think he does like you. i dont talk to my best guy friend [let alone any of my ex's] six times a day !
i would try to bring it to the next level. but if you're apprehensive about it, wait a little while. and if you really dont want to, you could always get another best friend to ask him something but discretely.
hope i helped!
there is this boy and he is one of my bestfriends and i was the only one he used to talk to last year and now there is this girl who thinks she is perfect who came along and shes annoying and now he never talks to me anymore because her. help!
maybe he has a crush on her and is just working on getting her to like him. i know what you mean. when my best guy friend gets a girlfriend, he slows down talking to me but he still talks. make an effort to talk to him, and if he doesn't talk back to you then maybe hes really not a good friend. =/
I want to be captaine of the basketball team at my school
So the thing is, I'm not very good, because I just started like 3 weeks ago, but I have picked up pretty fast.
But the thing isss that there are other people on the team that are much more skilled then me. And I kinda want to be a captain for the team (JV, by the way...)
So how could I become a captain? What kind of stuff can I say/do?
For example, when I turn in my medical forms, I'm going to turn them in a folder. Also, I'm going to say that I've found the team a manager. And, then I'm gonna ask what are spirit days are going to be. And then, lastely I'm going to ask about the sweatshirt designs.
What else could I Do?
THANKSS!
you can't just suggest ideas. you have to act on them. get close with your teammates too cause they're usually the ones who vote. show spirit. a lot of it !
I have a type of OCD called trichotillomania. It is very rare but I am absolutely positive I have it. My parents know that there was something wrong with me but didn't know it was an actual mental illness. It makes me pull out my eyelashes when I get stressed. And I go to a very competitive, highly stressful boarding school, which means I'm stressed ALL the time.
My trichotillomania (TTM) started in middle school and there was a point when I didn't have any eyelashes at all. Then, without any medical help, I trained myself to stop the urges to pull out my eyelashes. And they grew back.
But at the end of last year it came back! I have full eyelashes on my right eye, but half of my left eye has none! I cover it up with eyeliner and not many people notice because I have pretty heavy side bangs, but it still drives me crazy. I would be so much more confident if I was just normal.
The only person I've talked to who has TTM is away at college now and I barely talk to her.
What can I do to stop myself from picking? Its mainly when I'm doing my homework at night.
Any suggestions??? Something to do with my hands? Some way to get me to stop?? I'm desperate. I've tried sooo hard. Its a mental illness so I can't just tell myself to stop. And I can't seek medical help, I go to a boarding school.
i also have OCD. and you can stop it on your own. when you're stresed, get up and do something else for a couple of minutes. something i woud do would be like, get up and do five jumping jacks. sounds dumb, i know, but its helped a lot !
Okay, so first off...I'm a REALLY bad phone person.
I'm 16/f and a junior in highschool. (hes 18 and we dont go to school together...he doesnt go to school)
After about 5 months of little random hook-ups sometimes and "i like you's" then "i don't like you anymore's" (haha), i think things are starting to go SOMEWHERE with this guy.
but anyways....i get so nervous with phone and communication and stuff....and ill be thinking of a guy all day the next day after we hang out and i ujst get so nervous to make phone calls and stuff and i always just dont do it cause im nervous and then they feel like im not interested or i dont care and stuff...i really mess it up for myself
well i just hung out with this guy last night and things were actually going REALLY good for the first time in 5 months...like things were different...its a long story...but things were just really different and look9ing REALLY optomistic adn good...
and for the first time he was talking about actually taking me out to the movies caus ei said i hadnt seen a good one in forever and he siad...let me know when u find a good one and ill take you to the movie (because oyu see...i hang out with him a lot because his best friend alex is my really good friend and is dating my best friend kelsey so we always just chill at my house or sumthin and he coems up to bring alex up and stuff so we all just chill)
we never really went "out" anywhere...mostly just chilled at someones house...
so anyways...to make a long story short....i dont know what to do becuase i want to show him i care and i think about him a lot but i get so nervous with phone conversations and i suck at texting cause i never know what to say through a text conversation...
and we do have aim and im always on but im always away cause i just talk to whoever whenever i want adn ig et nervous to talk to him so i dont really ever
....i want to communicate and talk and have conversations with him somehow and show him i care and think about him and wanna talk to him....like last night after he left my house...i layed in bed and thought...it would be so cute if i just called him now and said...hi im going to sleep now but i just wanted to call to say goodnight adn sweet dreamsssss....
like i think of cute stuff like that and want to do it so bad but i just cant...i get so nervous...
but i def. need to show him i care and i think about him and im interested in him...i feel that my nervousness with talking to him makes him feel like im not itnerested because he just thinks i dont wanna talk to him and stuff...
hes the type of guy where he wants the girl he likes to show interest so he knows that she likes him back and stuff and he does his share of calling sometimes and hell say like, "k bye...feel free to call me whenever"...hell add that in and i want to so bad but i never do cause im too nervous
i dont expect him to do the calls or texts first anymore because i need to first now, too to show him that i care about him and im itnerested...
yet i dont want to bombard him either
how can i communicate with him enough to show him i care about him and im itnerested in him and stuff and really make him realize that i do like him and how normal "crushes" talk to eachother when they really like eachother and stuff
i need like a little "schedule" so to say...like...text him when im in school and say _______ or text him and school and talk about______ then call him at night and then oine day text while im in school and just talk on aim at night...then the next couple days dont text as much but just come home and have a good aim convo and one night a good phone call...
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO
if guys could answer this and tell me what they would like a girl to do to show interest and care but not too much but jsut enough that would be great
girls, too....you know that beginning stage with a guy where its like...you both like eachother and hang out and hook up a little and stuff and youre seeing eachother but not officially dating yet....what do you girls do with a guy then to communicate and stuff...how does it all work?
just for your information: we hung out last night along with kelsey and alex but we sorta spread apart and we just chill alone in my room or whatever...so things were going great and i texted him a little today but i never know what to say when im texting so i was just like hey whats up! and he just said nuthin and said hwat he was doing...and then i just said i was doin stuff all morning for my mom and then asked what he was doing today and then just asked if he was having band practice and then he said...i dont know i want to...and i asked about his two shows coming up and stuff and then i was just like im really craving taco bell but i need to have lasagna tonight cause people are coming over =[ (were all really random and silly all the time haha) and he was like...aww im sorry haha...and i said...its ok ill get thru it...and he wa slike ull get through what...and i was like...my craving for tacos hha...over your head...and he never said ne thing after that but anyways...that was all weve talked since last night so i dont know...he always mentioned for me to call him all the time or will jsut say...you never call me! and stuff...and its true...i never do...not cause i dont want to...cause im so nervous...i dont know what to do!
i need help cause i know for a fact things would work out so great and be so much better if this communication was better!
im ruining happiness with him for myself...
and i need help with gfetting over my whole phone conversation fear...i always just fear silences and i fear that what i say is boring or theres gonna be nothing else to talk about...i just dont wannabe boring...ugh HELP!
i have the same problems too sometimes. i'm not good at talking on the phone so i like to text. plus, when you text, it gives you time to think about stuff to talk about or break the conversation off quicker. there aren't awkward silences on texts eitherr.
hope i helped !
My homecoming is coming up in a few weeks and I want to get my dress before everyone else starts getting theres so I have a good selection.
I'm about 5"4 or 5"5, 100 lbs, (so I am pretty skinny I guess), and I'm 14. Blue is my best color so I'm typically looking for a dress that color and will fit me. Also, I dont want it like much past the my knees, and not too crazy or anything. I dont really want dresses from DEB or JCPenny beause wayyy too many people get their dresses there at least here and I dont want to have the same dress as anyone.
I'm not too big on ordering anything online because I don't want to have to go through the trouble of ordering it and getting it and especially if it didn't fit or look good or something.
LONG STORY SHORT =
Can you help me look at some dresses for homecoming? What I look like and am looking for is in the 2nd paragraph. Thanks =)
i'd try cache. they can get priceyy. i got my dress there last year and i loved it !
also, what about lord and taylor.
i dont know what stores are around you so i'm trying to name popular ones.
hope i helped !
Im so sick of the way my period is argh!I started in about april & they were quite regular now there all over the place and i can have them twice a month, usually every 2and half/three weeks and its soo annoying, there soo unregular.The 1st day I am on the are VERY VERY heavy and like my pad (hate tampons) is quite an absorbant one but its just like COVERED in blood and its just so horrible!And I have never ever had a cramp before i mean what is the deal with that?What can i do to just make them slightly lighter or something? Im 15, started in a april,heavy flow, petite ish,flat cheseted, no cramps, unregualar what can i do because it really weighs me down?Its too much
i'm the same age as you and i dont get cramps either. consider yourself luckyyy. hahah. for the heavy thing, i know some people even them out with birth control pills. its not right for everyone so ask your doctor. ahaha that sounded like one of those commercials. anywaysssss, everyone feels bigger when they have their period because you retain waterr. i know i feel HUGEE.
hope i helped !
okay.. so this guy that i used to hang out with a lot... (like a month and a half ago) used to like me... but then he told me he didnt like me.. but now i just want to try to be friends with him.. and i gave it time.. and so tonight i was with my friend and i called him.. and i talked to him like normally and he said he was free sometime this week and so we are supposed to hang out sometime soon.. but im just scared that he wont remember or he wont want to or something like that.. but i just want to see how it goes.. so yeahh. i dont know what to do about it. but my friend also talked to him and he was being really goofy(hes like that a lot) and he was like "u and katie should come over and we can jump on my trampline and play ping pong!" and my friend was like "haha okay...." kind of weird i know.. but it wouldn't be horrible.. i just don't know if he'll remember it.. cause then i texted him and i was like u me and gabby next week ur house.. kayy? and he texted back alright! so i dont know. what do you think??
i think he does remember. and he will. maybe the day before you could say something like, "can't wait for tomorroww !". hahah i dont know how you usually talk so you can switch that up. that way you're confirming your plans and letting him know you're excited.
hope i helped !
I'm 15/f.
I have no friends.
I had a tight group of friends last year, but for some reason they started to distance themselves from me & all became really close just the three of them, & I don't have anyone else that I hang out with.
I talk to a lot of people at school, but no one would just randomly ask me to hang out--most of them assume I'm still friends with the same people I was last year.
I've never had a boyfriend, or a guy show any interest in me.
I hate my body & the way I look.
Ever since school started, I have been crying myself to sleep every night. Especially because it's hard to see my old friends acting like nothing's wrong, saying hello to me but nothing else.
My mom and dad keep telling me to try to make friends, or tell my old friends that I'd like to hang out with them again, but it's too hard. Not to mention embarassing.
I messaged two of those friends on myspace saying basically, anytime you're free if you want to call me, I'm always available.
One said oh yeah, we will.
& the other didn't respond.
So now I think they probably talk about it & laugh at me.
& I know those aren't the friends you want to have but, they really were good friends & we had a good time.
I don't know how to get through three years of high school with no friends.
I've started cutting myself.
I think about killing myself a lot, but I can't do it because it would crush my parents.
That's the only thing keeping me going, is that my mom would blame herself or something & I couldn't do that to her.
I don't know what to do.
But I can't take this anymore.
first off, killing yourself is a permanent solution to a problem that wont last too long. never purposely hurt yourself either.
maybe you should invite your friends to hang out with youu. or ask them why you aren't as close. i know that sounds easy, but its really not. you could try inviting the other friends you have at school.
hope i helped ! let me know if you need anything else !
when i was 14 i went out with a guy who was 17. we lasted 4 months and i didn't really like him anymore so i broke up with him. that was two years ago but just lately i've been thinking of him and there's a lot of things that are reminding me of him. i don't want to get back together with him but i don't want to think about him. he has a girlfriend anyway. how can i get my mind off of him?
maybe you miss what you had. i agree with the person above me, off and on relationships rarely work. this has actually happened to me before. find something else to take your mind off of him. maybe another guy [thats how i did it. and i knew the new guy i chose nothing would happen so it worked out good !]
hope i helped !
Okay.... well here is my problem, summer fucked me up, ahem well i have completely forgotten how to write a 5 paragraph essay and my teacher this year isnt giving us the handout. so my paper is due by the end of the day like 2:25 pm [U.S. & Canada eastern] and i really really really would like to get this paper done now. since i only have what, twelve hours to do it.
thanksss :DD
the way my school does it is ...
first paragraph you state your thesis and what you'll be talking about in your three body paragraphs. the next three paragraphs are body paragraphs that each have a different subject. and your last paragraph is your ending where you sum everything up and restate your thesis.
hope i got this to you in timee !
me and my friend are trying to think of nicknames
like one of us could be mac and one could be cheese, but we dont wana use that, like what could work? like peanut butter & jelly
PEANUT to my BUTTER
STAR to my BURST
M to my M
POP to my TART
MILKY to my WAY
FRUIT to my LOOP
MILK to my DUDS
LUCKY to my CHARMS
ICE to my CREAM
its from a quote.
hope i helped :]
I have aim 6.0. In some peoples profiles, they have photos. One person i know has optimus prime and another has a flashing smiley face. How can i do this?
you can't put actual pictures in your profile. those are smilies. you can get them anywhere and make your own. i dont know how to make them tho. go on aol. they have 2496834683576 of them.
hope i helped :]
by the way, its not a code. so the img src thing wont work.
What is the offical age you can get your permit and than lisence in massachusettes. Theres been many talk of the age being higher but i dont know what is true and what is not. Can somebody tell me who defiantly knows what it is. Thanks!
im pretty sure it goes like this ..
15 and 9 months you take the class. it doesn't really matter, but thats what most people do.
16 you get your permit.
16 1/2 you get your lisence. you can only drive people that live with you and family around
17 you can drive whoever.
hope i helped :]
ps. i was gonna post this on here but then i asked my friend ! hahah
my best friend and i have been best friends since 6th or 7th grade. now we're going into 11th. last year a lot of drama started and she stood by me and defended me the whole time and i really appreciated it. over the summer we lost touch because i had to go to summer school so i didnt get to go to a lot of parties and hang out. now she's best friends with one of the girls who was against me in the drama. i might be over reacting but on myspace she moved me from her top spot to number 4. her new bff is first and she has two cousins before me. when i first saw it my heart sank. tonight i also found out that she had people over without me. i want to know how i can reconnect with her. something to do that can be just us. this girl is like a sister to me and i really really need her back. her parents absolutely hate her new bff because of something she said about their family a long time ago. what kind of friend insults a member of their bff's family!! my bff's mom absolutely loves me and treats me like her own kid.
please help me. i wont settle for second best when it comes to the girl that means the most to me.
invite your friend places or over your house. dont worry about myspace tops. they ruin friendships all the time ! i've seen it happen. its happened to me before too. if nothing happens, then she really isn't a good friend. and i know everyone says that, but its true !