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I'm that person that everyone calls or e-mails when they need advice. It doesn't matter the subject, they contact me. I don't give you the answer you want to hear and most of my advice is not your mother's advice, if you want your mom's advice--Go ask your mom or mother figure. If you ask a question you will always get an honest answer--note: I did not say the answer you want-- I said an honest answer. If you ask me something I have to research to answer, I will research it and provide you with the source if you ask.
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okay im 13 years old and i have a sister who is 16. she has this boyfrined who i dont really like and i think that hes a bad influenece on her. well today she went to NY with him and his dumb self influenced her to get a tongue ring. my sister is dumb for doing it, but shes not supposed to have one. i think the ring is getting infected. i want to tell my mom about it but idont want to be a snitch or cause too much drama. please can someone help me!!!
Tell your mom. If it is infected her getting to a Dr is more important than you being a snitch. When things calm down from the tongue incident talk to your sister, calmly, and explain why you don't like her boyfriend. All the reasons. It will be difficult but don't get upset and don't yell at her. Don't tell her she's stupid. Talk to her like you would want her to talk to you if the situations were reversed.
Talk to your mom about why you don't like her boyfriend. You may have seen a side to him that your mom hasn't and is unaware of and that may tell you if you and mom both see the same things.
I used to go with this guy and i really loved him until i found out he was cheating on me. I broke up with him and now he wants me back. I still sort of love him but barely. I wanna move on but if he is still holding on to me i dont know if i can. I think about him alot ever since he started calling me again. I just wanna move on with my life and hopefully never have to go through this again!!
NEVER GO BACK. There is a reason he is an ex, remember that every time you want to call him or answer his call. Chances are he is calling you because he needs an ego boost and knows that you will come running if he calls so prove him wrong. Even if you haven't gotten over him completely you can "fake it until you make it" meaning you tell him you are over him and have moved on and you keep telling yourself that until you believe it and he is nothing more than a part of your past. If he cheated on you once, he will likely do so again and becoming involved with him again will likely only lead to heartache.
so i dont know if i have it (yeast infection) because i dont have lumps down their i do use a dull razor blade that ill change today! and it itchs one day then stops and doesnt itch for a long long time and today when i used the restroom i did see white stuff but just today never ever before and i believe i think it smells
so yes or no
if i do then is their things i can use at home to make it go away or something i can do to make it stop and does this spread if you have sex?
if no home products then could you name some over the counter ones and not to expensive and for sure will they work? and how long will it take to go away?
did i get it from having unprotected sex, if yes does that mean my bf has or had it to? and hows it feel to a guy if he has it bc it itchs for girls i believe.
thx in advance to everyone eho asks im worried!!!
You don't have to have bumps for it to be a yeast infection. You can use the over the counter medication but if you had it while you were having sex, protected or not, chances are you shared it with your partner and he will have to have oral antibiotics to get rid of it. Men don't always show symptoms of having a yeast infection so he will need to tell the Dr that you had one and you had sex. If he doesn't get treated as well you will probably end up passing it back and forth. You will need to refrain from sex until you finish all of the medication. Try the 7 day ones because if it is bad the 1 and 3 day varieties do not always work.
having just graduated high school, i'm going through the process of writing thank-you notes to all those who sent cards, money, or gifts to me. my boyfriend's parents' note is giving me grief though! they got me a very cute snow globe with glitter and a frame inside, and it was engraved with "congratulations (my name)". it looks a little pricey, AND they wrote me a check for $25. they are very sweet to me and make me feel like i'm welcome in their home, but of course, there are times when i feel like they try to push us apart. either way, i need help as to what to write on their thank-you note!
Try something like this; "Dear ___&____, Thank you so much for the snow globe, it was one of my favorite gifts and the money will be put to good use as well. I appreciate the relationship we have and your thinking of me at this special time means a great deal to me. I'll see you soon. Thank you again." and sign your name.
okay so im 15....
and
pregnant! i just found out...
yes i know i am very young to be pregnant.
i will be 16 in 2 months.
so please dont write about how im too young and blah blah blah...i already know....dont need to hear it more. thank you.
anyways....today i was on the laptop and my dad was next to me and i was looking at abortion pictures and saying how horrible it was. and my dad was like so if you got pregnant you would keep it? and i said YES I COULD NEVER KILL A BABY! and then we had this whole argument on how its not a baby at a certain amount of weeks and whatever...so i showed him an article on how they get nerves at 4 weeks so they do feel it and he was like I DONT CARE ID DRAG YOU DOWN TO THE CLINC AND MAKE YOU GET ONE! i just kept saying you cant make me..
REMEMBER....HE DOES NOT KNOW IM PREGNANT!
also when he found out my mom was pregnant with my little brother he yelled and screamed at her and dropped her off at the clinc..she sat there for HOURS crying...finally went in but they said she was too far along to get one...thank god.
so my dad is capable of having the heart to leave me at a clinc.
how do i tell him im pregnant without going through that? im keeping the baby, im still with the father and he is staying with me so i have help.
when i tell my dad should i immediately tell him abortion is out of the question?
can he really force me into an abortion? thats my right though isnt it? its not like since im under 18 he could make it get it by law right?
either way i need to tell him soon because i want this baby to be healthy so regular checkups to the OBGYN and getting put on healthy stuff is needed asap.
i live in florida if that helps?
thank you.
No, he can not force you to get an abortion. He may try to force you to have one with emotional threats and pressure but he can't force you to have one. Your Dr can't even tell him you're pregnant if you don't want him to tell.
It doesn't sound like the safest environment for you or the baby to be in at this time, is there somewhere you can go if he kicks you out? Where's your mom?
I was pregnant at 15 and had my daughter at 16. She is almost 17 now and we had hard times but we made it and she is a great kid. Young parents have it hard but if you make it a priority to do the best you can and then do better you will make it. Stay in school and go to college whether the father stays with you or not. Learn to be self sufficient for you and your child so that you don't fall into the traps a lot of young mothers do and become dependent on someone else to take care of the two of you.
As for dealing with your dad, you have a couple of options. You can do what I did and have the school counselor tell your parents. You can talk with your boyfriend's parents and gather their advice before you talk with your dad or you can just tell him yourself and wait for the reaction. Either way go to planned parenthood and get a check up until you can get to a regular OB/GYN.
15/f
My family is catholic, but i found out that my brother is "agnostic". This has happened recently, he is a seventh grader and only 13 years old. Will he grow out of this? He goes to church but he never says any of the prayers or anything. A lot of people think catholicism is too "strict" but our church isn't a normal catholic church; we have a youth choir that actually sings songs that aren't boring and we have youth groups and our priests are really nice and actually give good sermons. What can i do to help him? I don't want to shove it down his throat or anything...but what should i do? please help!
Most people have a "crisis of faith" at some point in their life. You can't make anyone believe if they don't or don't want to believe. You can talk with your parish priest and see if they have any advice but if he is like most people who are questioning their faith he may find this as interfering on your part and resent what you are doing. Have you discussed this with your parents? If they do not see a problem I would stay out of it, faith is a personal choice and people have to come to their choices, beliefs, etc. on their own and in their own time. If you try to push him he may turn away from the church for good. I recommend being supportive and let him find his own way in this one. Be available to answer his questions if he has any and maybe read some articles etc on agnostics and see where he is coming from.
13/f
what can i read for the summer thats somewhere from 200-500 pages long? i need some good quality interesting books that ill like
That depends on the genre(s) you prefer. The Heart Shaped Box by Jpe Hill is really good if you like suspense/horror. Susan Mallory is good if you like light hearted romance. Grab a bestseller list at the local bookstore and try a couple. If you don't want to spend a lot find a used bookstore in your area. You can also try www.paperbackswap.com You can also try the PenDragon series. Most teens like those.
so this guy at work doesnt tell me he likes me or anything but he does smile and look at me and im not sure if he likes me but id like toknow how i can find out im a cashier so is he and we sometimes see each other he likes to read books bc he always has a book with him but i was in a relationship w a guy for two yrs we broke up its been a couple books and now i dont think i know how to flirt or what to say to him please help me out im lost...thx in advance everyone
Just ask him to coffee or lunch. Sometimes it's hard, but you will never know if you don't take that first step. Talk to him. It doesn't matter the subject, just start a conversation. Ask him about the book he is reading. If you don't like to read tell him the truth but use the book as a way to talk to him.
Does film expire? More details...okay so I have film and it says that it expires on 3/2005 and since its 2008 does that mean if i take pictures with that film that the pictures wont come out because the film is expired? Please let me know I need the film for tomorrow...thank you!
That can't be answered until you have the film developed. Has it been in extreme temperature changes or left in a drawer somewhere? I have used expired film and never had a problem unless it was left in the glove box and gone through extreme temperature changes. I would use it for something that isn't a HUGE deal. Don't use it for something that is very important like a wedding, baptism or such event.
I got my tongue pierced on friday. That night I went to a free house party.
I did the exact opposite of what I was told.
I drank a lot, mostly vodka and Jack Daniels.
I ended up making out for about 2 hours with my boyfriend.
And then finally I gave him head.
He has a Prince Albert piercing.
This all irritated my piercing.
I feel really stupid.
And it feels like there's a whale in my mouth.
What can I do to make my tongue better.
Don't tell me to take it out :)
I know there's other options.
Frozen slushies, you can hold them on your tongue and let them melt. Rinse like you are supposed to from now on and don't do things on the "Don't do" list. Stick to a mostly liquid diet for the next couple of days. I used to get this a lot when I owned a tattoo and piercing shop. They don't give you the "don'ts" for the fun of it.