I'm a cool chico, and I try to help others to love themselves. It's a rough world out there, but grawr, I can handle it.
Since this comes up so often, let's make this very clear: You can not pick and choose where you want to lose fat. Exercising your abs will make your abs strong - but losing tummy fat is dependent on your body fat percentage and genetics.
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ok the thought of a guys thing going into your thing kinda gets me freaked out cause it sounds like it hurts and is painful i mean really.. so what does it really feel like.. does it hurt? (link)
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It's just a penis and a Vagina. It's how we all got here. Some girls express discomfort upon learning how to have sex. Some don't.
Ultimately, sex is meant to feel GOOD. Keep that in mind, it will eventually. If it doesn't, either you need to practice more to get the motions right, or you're with the wrong person.
Unknown things will suddenly become not-a-big-deal once we unwrap the mystery around them and experience them firsthand. You'll be just fine.
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hi my friend shes always soooooooooo obsessed with the hair on her stomach and back. What am I supposed to tell her. IT gets me really crazy.
Is there anything she could do to get rid of it. Do a lot of brunettes have a lot of hair on their stomach or back. Whenever she asks me these questions I kinda blank and say beats me.
But please tell me so she can shut up about it.
Oh sorry shes 13 a dark brown brunette close to black. Shes worried guys won't like her because of it because shes never seen any girl with hair on their stomach or back etc. etc. etc. Help me make her feel better. BOYS she needs your advice as well. Oh see also wants to know if brunettes and blonds have a lot of hair on their stomach or back? Thanks (link)
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Everybody has body hair. Everywhere. All over our bodies. It's only society yet again that says "females don't have body hair". Not true. Girls have hair all over their bodies in the same places guys do. Hell some even have a wee bit of facial hair.
Of COURSE she hasn't seen other girls with what she perceives as a horrid flaw. Most girls aren't too secure about themselves.
Tell her everybody likes a happy trail. No, seriously.
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Hey, Im 14 years old and found a bump on my vagina. It looked somewhat like a pimple. There's only one. Could this be herpes or what? Should I just forget about it? I'm a virgin. Any help thank you. (link)
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Nah. STDs can only be transferred through sexual activity. It may BE a pimple or related unpleasantry.
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k this summer i was slightly anorexic and now i keep getting really moody when i have to eat fattening food
also i get hungry at ten in the morning, 4 in the afternoon, and ten at night, even though i have to eat every mori=ning at 6:30, 11:50 for lunch, and 7 ish for dinner.
how can i fix this? i dont really eat that much at meals and then snack or go hungry between.
please any help at all? (link)
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There is no magical time that we're "supposed" to eat. Do what I did. Eat something small for breakfast, regardless of the fact that you're not hungry first thing in the morning. That should keep you until lunch.
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ok, i'm turning 16 soon, and my parents said that i could get whatever car i wanted as long as it was under $40,000 and met the following criteria: it had to be Japanese/European(they don't like American cars), it had to be reliable, and it had to be safe. i was wondering if i could get some suggestions on what to ask for (link)
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http://www.toyota.com/camrysolara/index.html?s_van=GM_TN_CAMRYSOLARA_INDEX
But, that's my tastes speaking.
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well i'm pretty sure that i have a yeast infection, my vagina feels irritated and swolen. i am not sexually active, so i know it isn't an std. if anyone has had a yeast infectoion before can you tell me what kind of medicine or treatments you had? i'm really worried i will have to use some gross cream or something. thank you so much if you can help me! (link)
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Eat yogurt like it's going out of style.
Supposedly it has a ph similar to that of the Vagina in its healthy state. No. It's the bacteria in yogurt. YES. It has bacteria that's similar to that of the "good bacteria" that exists naturally in the Vagina.
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I have been involved with a guy for over 2 years. We have a near perfect relationship. He is my best friend and the person I know God sent to me to spend the rest of my life with. My boyfriend says he feels the same way. We recently graduated from college and were lucky enough to have found jobs in the same city. We have been living together for over eight months and especially the last three months, we couldn't be happier. I now find myself constantly thinking about marriage and looking at dresses and engagement rings. Is that normal?
He says that he is ready to marry me but he doesn't want to spend the money it cost to buy me an engagement ring. The ring that I have chosen cost $3000 and he claims that is too much to spend on a ring. I told him that I don't care how much he pays for a ring as long as he puts a lot of thought in the ring he chooses. Lately, he constantly reminds me of the $3000 ring and makes me feel as if it is my fault that engagement rings are so expensive. What should I do or say to him to convince him that I just want a nice ring? Also, what can I do to convince him that this is not a time to be a cheap-skate and that a decent ring will cost over $1000? (link)
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Consider it a sign of fiscal responsibility. Also consider it a sign that he doesn't feel he needs to woo you with fabulous prizes. He wants you to like him for him, not for some rock.
I'm not saying he shouldn't get you a ring. But when these things came up in conversation before with exes, I couldn't help but wonder why I (as a male) didn't get to have a ring. Just a thought.
You'll find a compromise somewhere in between. Do research on "fake" rocks. Same exact properties as "real" diamonds, except made in a lab. Of course, that bothers some people. ...But not me.
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hey is it wrong that someone who is 14 and wearspads? is it better to wear a tampon? because sometimes i wish i wore a tampon because my pad gets in the way and i always would think that it lecked through. and if it is how do you use a tampon? ill rate 5's....so please help. (link)
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It's just a feminine hygiene product. No product makes you more "mature".
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Is it true that if your period is abnormal .. like it is a period that you never expect it to come and it skips a few months .. that you won't be able to have a baby when you get olderI'm 15 and I started my period at March (9 months ago) And I haven't had it since July (5 months ago) And I know there isnt anything wrong with me because my friend is the same way and her doctor said there is nothing wrong with her. And I read articles about your period not getting regular until a year after. But my question is .. Does this mean I won't be able to have kids? Because I want them and I don't want that to happen! (link)
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For some girls, it takes a while for their periods to level off.
But consider what pregnancy involves. Egg plus sperm. If you ovulate, you're going to conceive. Then the zygote attaches to the uterine wall. You menstruate, therefore the thick lining IS being replaced now and then.
So relax. We all worry, "...Does it work?" Trust me, when biology actually works and you create life, you'll be amazed.
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Can you pee while having an erection? (link)
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No. It is physically impossible. There's a valve that switches to prevent us from urinating while being highly sexually aroused.
People that claim they can are fooling themselves and maybe damaging themselves. Oh sure, we've all had the situation where we've had an erection and had to pee. But at FIRST, you simply can't. You have to wait for it to go down a little. And then? A weak stream will come out.
*nods*
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I think i did soemthing wrong, well i know its wrong...i just need someone to tell me...what i should do after i just did something....i just drank a few sips of voldka...my dad is sleeping and everyone else was out at the bar...so i figured i'd try it....how should i feel now?
TooYoungToDrink (link)
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I shot won't do much. Two shots might. Me, if I'm drinking, I usually prime myself with three shots to get a buzz.
Don't worry about it. Far better than experimenting with peer pressure around.
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does anyone knhow why girls are so confusing? Also, does anyone know any good books or websites about girls. Not like physical features or sex or anything like that (link)
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But really, WHAT is confusing about them?
Most people make sense if you look at what their intentions are on an individual basis. Then again, some people are irrational as a defense mechanism.
Regardless, remember that girls say the same thing about boys.
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If your raped and the guy gets his **** into you and forcefully starts to F*** you but you push him off after he was at least 2 inches in...does that make you a non virgin? Does rape even count? Or what? IM SOO LOST (link)
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The reason rape is so horrible is that it is forceable sex. Forced penetration. For a virgin, it is the unconsented loss of virginity.
To put on a silver lining and claim some loophole for "technical virginity" and whathaveyou is to downplay the trauma that has occurred.
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when you wear an OB tampon...should you wear a pad too? can you feel if you leak when you have a tampon in? (link)
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If the tampon is secured properly, you shouldn't need a pad. The only reason it would "leak" is if the tampon absorbs as much of your flow as it can. In which case you should have already changed your tampon.
As for being able to "feel" it, I suppose a female would be more qualified to answer that. : D
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they say the proof of gods existance is within the bible, but the reason i should believe the bible is because god said it. in other words, i should believe god is real if he said these things. that is like believeing someone who says they are honest, because they told you so. what do you think (link)
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As you've noticed, that's circular reasoning.
Moreover, god didn't write the bible. Humans did. So worse than being circular, it's just some random people talking about some so-called events, without really being all that reliable.
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I'm pretty sure i'm a christian. But i sometimes doubt God and if he's there or not. Does this mean that, if i like... died tomorrow, i would go to hell. Am i not allowed to doubt God? It seems like the only people who are considered religious are the ones like "i'm sure he's real b/c i've read his word and i believed it" but... i'm a very doubtfull person and i can't just believe things like that. Does this mean i'm not going to Heaven? (link)
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The thing is, there are thousands of religions that aren't christianity. Who's to say the afterlife is what christianity prescribes it as?
Frankly, a deity that bases my life worth on whether I believe in him or not is not one worth believing in. Just be a good person and eat your vegetables, and you'll be just fine.
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What should I get my bf for Christmas? There is a Christmas Dance today and I am going with him. I am not sure what to get him. Does anybody have any cute ideas? I was going to give him a kiss (it would have been our first kiss) but he suprised me yesterday before school and kissed me. I want to get him something cute, that he could keep forever. Mabye something that I can make at home. Not a CD because that wouldn't be very special. Thanks =] (link)
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I'm a bit more sappy than the average male, but hear me out. Buy a small stuffed animal that you think is cute. Sleep with it for a week or two to get your scent on it. If you have a favorite perfume, complement it with that. Wrap it and give it to him.
I have two small stuffed animals within plain view of me right now which girls have given me. When I see them, I don't think of whatever bad happened between us. I just think of the circumstances in which I was given them. I remember good.
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does anybody have any tips for how to be patient with others?! i get so irritated really easily and i tend to take it out on others especially when I'm tired and I just have no energy...x (link)
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It's cliché, but take deep breaths. Don't look necessarily at what people are saying, but recognize why they're saying it. Then react in a calm and rational fashion.
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I can only reach orgasm (either from masterbating or oral sex) when my legs really straight, have lots of muscle tension, and are touching the floor. Ive tried to practice with them bent but I just can't get off that way.
It makes me sad to think I wont be able to have an orgasm during sex because i can't keep my legs straight and close enough together. My boyfriend thinks I'm weird. Is this normal? What could I do? Why am I like this? (link)
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This is probably just a habit you've gotten yourself into. I used to "coax" my orgasms by standing on my tippy-toes or otherwise tensing my legs much like you've described.
I don't know your frequency, but try giving your sex drive a rest for a few days, let it build up a little. Try masturbating when you're really in the mood. Tense your thighs a little, but try not to "cheat" and use them for sexual pleasure. There are girls that can orgasm from squeezing their thighs alone. Not really a bad thing, but anything that becomes a dependency is a bitch.
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This is for the guys. What technique do guys like when a girl grinds on them? (link)
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I'm not so sure there's much of a technique to it, grinding is pretty specific as of it. If anything, the closer she is to my body, the better. More than just groins rubbing against each other, I love when legs are intertwined, hands are roaming, and the kisses are plentiful.
Unless I'm mistaken about what you mean by grinding, as slang can advance fast.
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