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I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months, going on 10 very soon. We have been having tons of fights lately, most of them are over little things, but there was a pretty major one today. He got in trouble last night, and he THINKS his parents may not accept me, He is Indian, and I am Italian..a pretty big culture difference, and his parents think he should not marry out of his culture that is based on family, ect. I have been extremely confused on how to go about this. I don't know if I should just move on, but I don't think I could if I tried..or just try to work it out. I mean, we have our wedding planned, on where we want it to be, and everything. Even the other day we were looking at baby names together..he is honestly the most amazing guy ever. Do you guys think I should just keep hanging on and see what happens..or leave him for something I may not ever find...? And also, what do you think I could say to him to really let him know he is a very special person? Thanks a bunch...
Ohhh man... I bet its hard having major cultural differences! The first thing I noticed was you are only 15 and VERY VERY young!!! You definitly dont need to start planning your whole future now, not unless you plan to get married now. Just have some fun with your boyfriend, be in love and crazyy! And if in 5 years, yall are still in love then thats when you should talk to his parents about the cultural differences... DEFINITLY NOT NOW!! One more thing, dont break up with him because his parents dont accept you, be very considerate towards them and make them grow to love you!! Good luck hun with your boyfriend!!
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hey, im a 16 year old male. My girlfriend wants to have sex but im not too confident wit the size of my penis. Its not as big as every1 else says thiers are and mine isnt too close to thiers:\ can u just give me some advise
I bet you anything that your girlfriend wont mind the size of your penis! Thats not all that important to girls except the slutty kinds. Be confident with your body and your package and have a little faith in your girlfriend that she wont say anything to your guy friends about the size. Good luck!!
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my friend amber is really making me mad! all she does is yell at me and says i lie to her what do i do??
signed,
im sick of it!
Dear I'm Sick of It,
The BEST way to make things better with Amber is talk to her and say that true friends dont lie to one another and definitly dont yell at each other because that can end the friendship. If you think yall are better not being friends and should only talk every once in a while, tell her and be truly honest. Honesty is the best policy!! Good luck hun!
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okay i'm 14 and i have a girlfriend. I think i'm in love with her:-D. She's so awesome. What could i get for her or do for her to show her that i love her? i wanna do something original but not to weird lol. thanks lol.
You could do the usual buying flowers and jewlery or you could do something really unique like decorating her room with rose petals and balloons that say I LOVE YOU. The best way to show her you love her is do cutesy things like call just to say I love you and was thinking about you or buying her a nice card telling her how much you care about her. One more idea, go to Build-A-Bear and buy a really cute animal she loves and inside put a recording that says I love you so much or anything creative like that!! Good luck with your girlfriend!!
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My friend is bi and sez she loves me. I love her too but I don't think my mom would except our relationship cause she's being homophobic. But i'm afraid to tell her that we can't can't be together because she cuts herself. I'm afraid of what she might do... HELP ME I'LL RATE YOU IF YOU DO!!! PLEASE!!!!
I agree with DorkyJay... you REALLY need to talk to her about being a cutter because she'll really appreciate your concern. You need to tell someone and get her help! Next about your mom and your relationship with this girl, sit her down and tell her your feelings and that she needs to accept her daughter for who she is! Good luck hun!!
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hey katy .. theres this guy i rele like but idk what he'll say if i tell him how i feel soo all we do is talk like friends talk .. :-/ idk if i should tell him how i feel or not .. we're REALLY good friends and i don't want to hurt our relationship :-/ help me please!!
The best thing to do is tell him how you feel, you cant keep something as special as love kept up inside cause it can make you go insane! Everytime you see him and talk to him, it will get bigger and bigger and worse to let go! If you think it might ruin the relationship, maybe ask him if he sees you as more than just a friend or *this is kind of lame* but have a friend ask if he likes you. It actually works! Good luck hun!!
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What should i do to get MOnEY faSTt!! i need it by Aug 8th to go to the beach with my bestest friend =) .. Thanks.. o yea i cant baby sit lol*
A few summers ago, my best friend and I sold lemonade, ice tea, cookies, and water right next to a golf course so whenever thirsty golfers drove by, they always stopped! We made almost a 100 bucks a day! Thats a great way to make money! Also, clean out your rooms and have a garage sale! I suggest nothing on Ebay because it costs money to put it up then to send it to whoever purchases it! Thats spending money more than making it! Good Luck!!
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i really really like this boy, he tells me he likes me too, and we just broke up but i still have feelings for him! i mean, he tells his friends i never have a chance with him again, i wanna confront him about him lieing but i dont want him mad at me cause i want to get him to like me!
--what should i say to him and what should i do to get him to like me!?--
Last week that was my LIFE STORY! hAhA!! I say you confront him and tell him "I heard you told people you dont want to get back together but I love you OR really like you and I want you back!" If he doesnt want to get back together, I say move on! Hes definitly NOT worth it! He's just a jerk that doesnt know how to treat a princess! Good luck with your man!!
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dear advicenators,
i like this boy and he doesnt like me...i want to go out with him but i dotn know what to say....what should i say to him?
love,
sammie
The best advice I can give to you about a question like this, is be completely yourself! Don't try to be like girls he hangs out with because you know that isnt you... Before my current boyfriend of almost 9 months, I liked lots and lots of guys and they never seemed to like me back so I changed who I was to get noticed. It just wasnt me and my friends all told me that I wasnt myself and I totally was obsessed with boys that didnt like me back.. its just not worth it! Good luck with this boy hun!!
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what turns on guys? x0x lol thankkkz .. i need the advice =p
So many guys are different! You really need to ask him what he enjoys you doing to him. For example, my boyfriend said when I kiss his neck and while we are making out I press up against him. When I stroke his chest or arms and chew on his ears too! It sounds cheesy but it shows you really care and to my boyfriend, its romantic! Try anything creative! Good luck hun!!
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i just won tickets to go and see the "special sneak preview" of "I, robot"... are the tickets for a PREVIEW? or for the movie itself? please answer this soon soon soon! (i rate people)
Special sneak previews are when they show the movie just ONCE before the date its supposed to come out into theaters. It shows the WHOLE movie, not just pieces of it! Congrats!! Have fun at the movie!!
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I have this one friend who is always flirting with my friends boyfriends, and even mine. We get mad at her all the time, and she tries to make us forgive her by giving us presents and stuff. We're sick of her! Whenever we get in fights with her she gets her mom involved too. It's starting to get on everyones nerves. Also, she always thinks we're talking about her behind her back, but we're not! HELP! ASAP!-Bethany
Hey Bethany! I think EVERYONE has a friend like this and for me it was one of my BEST FRIENDS! I had just gotten a new boyfriend and after a month of being together, she started to like him and invite him to places, she was so sneaky like that. It was innocent places too, like church or she would invite herself to a party he was at while I was out of town! I got so mad at my boyfriend (of 8 months now) and my old best friend but we sat down and had a heart-to-heart talk and really worked things out. A few weeks later, we stopped being friends but I think the time we did spend together was alot of fun and now we can move on with our lives! Good luck hun!!
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my boyfriends b day is coming up hes 15 what should i get him? he has the 'punk' look, umm likes quads and stuff i just dunno what to get him...
Hey! For my boyfriends birthday, I'm making him a collage of our pictures, movie/concert/rodeo tickets, and other cute little things to put on there. I also got him one of his ultimate favorite movies on DVD and I burned him a CD with songs he really loves, even if he already has the CD who cares? He'll only listen to yours! Since hes "punk" lol I'm not sure this idea quite suits him, but you could also go to Build-A-Bear and make him a bear and record your voice into him so when you squeeze the bear he says Happy Birthday! I love you! Or whatever you want it to say! Good luck hun!!
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Has anyone tried this new little shaver? Does it work? Is it just annoying?
I bought something very similar to the Bikini Touch thing and NO it doesnt work. It irritates the skin pretty bad. Good luck though! I would try and use wax...
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Hii. i was reading what uve been writeing to everyone and u seem like u have helped soo many people so i had a question i have been really confused. i have been dateing this guy for about a year now. he is my 1st bf. we have been in and out of fights and we break up with each other and usually hook back up the next day but this time we broke up and it has been about a week. he tells me he loves me and he misses me everyday and other time of the days hes all pissed and he doesnt say shit. what should i do? my friend say he relly loves me and wants to work things out and he wants to ask me out again what should i do should i just get over him or keep loving him? hehas taken a big part of my life. i know confuseing but i dunno what to do anymore.
HeY! Wow! You sound just like me and my boyfriend. All boys are jerks and they just dont know how to treat us and respond to our feelings. I think you need to get out of the relationship for good because he is just gunna keep on hurting your heart. I know thats cheesy but if you keep getting back together with this guy, soon he'll be able to walk all over you and use you because you'll think youre "in love" and you would do anything for him! Youre gunna keep getting hurt and trust me he isnt worth it. If you need to talk, send me a message to my inbox! Good luck!
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ok i love my b/f of 5 months with ALL OF MY HEART!!! i cant stand the thought of him not with me. lately i have had this dream. it goes like this: one night when i get off the fone with him we say we love each other, good night, sweet dreams, etc. and during the fone call he was acting different. then in the morning i got to school and i go up to say hi and just start talking to him and i try to hold his hand and he pulls away from me. the only thing he said to me was "hi" and then i ask "whats wrong baby?" and he just like ignores me and walks off. then the rest of the day i try to make contact with him but he wont do anything but ignore me and walk off!
what does this mean? does this mean i am afraid of him not being my b/f the next day or what?
PLEASE HELP ME! I AM DESPERATE! its been going on for like a week!
HeY! Nothing is wrong with you, I promise! If everything is great between you and your boyfriend and you dont notice ANY change than those dreams shouldnt have any effect on you and your lover. Something maybe bothering your conscious though, and thats why you are having these dreams.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a while and every once in a while, I have dreams about falling in love with other guys!!! Its crazy and I know right now they mean nothing!
If you are REALLY worried these dreams mean something, then look them up in a dream dicitonary! I found this to be the best site..dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/ (type in www. then add the rest)
Good luck hun!!
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Hey, ive been told im "hott"or"sexy" and i just dont feel that way. . .i mean other paeople may think so but im 14 and i have long blonde hair, dark green eyes i fill a large B cup have okay hips and my butt is a lil big. . .i personally think im too skinny im about 5' 6" and i only weigh 115 lbs. i dont kno if thats a bad thing. . .but i was wondering if i could have some advice about how i could make myself look better make-up, or maybe even gain weight? i dun know but if you wanna, can you halp me plz. . . .?
-Candi
HeY! You sound like a very beautiful girl! I say the best thing to do about your weight, is eat as healthy as you can and stay away from the fatty, snack foods we all love. That way if you gain weight you know its healthy weight, not just junk food. The best way to know if you should gain weight, is ask your doctor. They know best.
Now, if you want to look better with make-up and your clothing, chose something that fits your personality. I am very preppy and outgoing, so I LOVE stuff like American Eagle and Hollister. And the make-up I chose, usually is really natural and soft colors. I think the most beautiful girls are the ones with thick, shiny hair and barely any make-up. To minimize the make-up you use, use foundation that matches your skin tone just right or even a shade darker if you are in-between. For your eyes, curl your lashes and wear mascara to open your eyes. For cheeks, put a rosy or peachy colors on your apples. And then gloss on your lips. Maybe for a date you can wear eyeliner and bronzer.
Chose clothes, make-up, and hairstyles YOU like to boost your confidence! Only you can chose how confident you really are! Good luck hun!!
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im 16 and my penis is quite small and im worried what my gf will think should i worry about it?
What is the average size?
Well you know all penis' come in different sizes so there isnt an "average" size for one. If you are afraid its TOO small, maybe you should try seeing a doctor? I'm pretty sure you girlfriend will be okay with it, thats not all us girls care about.
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Where would i go swimming?? I dont live in apartments and I dont have a pool
Most neighborhoods have lots of public pools!! Cinco Ranch (my neighborhood) has about 7 different pools and a beach club! Also if your neighborhood has a club house/country club, they could have a pool there! You probably have some friends with pools too! When I'm with my girlfriends I love to walk to guys houses and hang out!! Be creative! Good luck!
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I always wanna hang out with people. But when we come over to my house I dont know what to do. Do you have any suggestions for ideas of stuff to do. We always end up really bored!! I have cable but thats not a very fun thing to do when you have ppl over. any ideas would help!!! thnx
If you are hanging out with boys and girls, play games such as Truth or Dare Jenga or Taboo! Or go swimming and dance to music. If its just a bunch of girls, makeovers, gossip, reading magazines and watching sappy movies is always fun!! Good luck!!
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