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I'm not very booksmart, and I'm definately not street smart. However, if there's one thing I am, it's PEOPLE SMART. That's why I'm good with this whole advice thing. You can ask me ANYTHING and I'm always glad to help. There's almost no question I can't handle, so ask away. Make sure you RATE and leave FEEDBACK, so I can improve my advice.infinate x's and o's,
cindy
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My mom won't let me get a dog we had 3 dogs before 1 died of parvo.. 1 ran away(it came off of its leash) and 1 we gave away
I would never feed my dog i was like 8 or 9 then but I really would take care of this dog I want it so bad how could I get my mom to let me have a dog don't tell me it'll make me responible cause i already tried it
Don't tell your mom, show your mom that you can handle the responsibility. Clean your room, do some extra chores without being asked, stuff like that. I know this might sound lame, but try buying a plant and take care of it (watering it ect.) or buying a goldfish. When your mom sees how responsible you are, maybe she'll cave and let you get a dog. Hope this helps and good luck.
-cindy
what is the best way to tell someone that you do not want to be thier girlfriend anymore, but that you still would like to communicate with them, remain friends, ect? it's just that our relationship has never really been more than "just friends," except that we've been calling ourselves a couple... as in he doesn't pay for me, touch me unless he has to, ect. And I would like to have to opportunity to see other people if it comes up. So my question is how do I go about telling him this without him being upset or thinking that just because I don't want to be his "girlfriend" that I never want to communicate with him again? 16/f, if it helps. :) fives for everyone :)
Just be honest with him. After all, honesty is the best policy. Say you don't want to lead him on by saying you like him, and he deserves a girl that will be more than "just friends" with him. Make sure you tell him you want to be friends with him still, just make sure you're not like, "We can still be friends and all." Leave the decision up to him. Hope this helps and good luck.
-cindy
i love to sing and i have a really nice voice. but i cant get over my fear of singing. i want to be in my Spring Musicals and definatley Sing for my 8th grade year at the talent show. i joined chior so that can help and it has. i had a solo to do but it wasnt infront of alot of people. im afraid if i will freeze up infront of tons of people. any ideas on how i can make sure im over it and how to get over it just in case im not. i also sing with my instructor but its easy not singing infront of a little bit of people. so if you have any tips please tell me. i want to do this and not freeze up.
Here are some things you can do:
1) Take deep breaths before you go on stage. Try to get your heart rate down to a normal pace.
2) Imagine everyone in their underwear (or something else you would find funny).
3) Convince yourself that it is no big deal.
4) Even if you're not confident, pretend like you are. Stages are the perfect places for acting.
Hope this helps and don't worry, the audience will love you.
-cindy
For the past 2 years ive been afrade of being locked in small areas for a long amount of time
when i go into elivators my heart beats extremly fast and i get realy worried that im going to get stuck
my parents always say "its just your mind messing with you" but its really annoying and my friends think im weird
Ahhhhh!
This happens all the time to a lot of people. Try and stay away from small spaces, or try and face your fear, and you may realize it's not so bad. If you really and truly think your claustrophobic, see a doctor. They can do something about it. Hope this helps.
-cindy
So, I gave my boyfriend a handjob and after I did it he had to "adjust himself." He didn't cum, but I am worried about precum. He fingered me after that and ahh I am all paranoid that I could be pregnant. What are the chances that I am?
Thanks.
It's practically impossible, so don't worry. Sperm dies when it hits the air, so I think you have nothing to worry about. Hope this helps.
-cindy
I didn't know which catagory to put this in so I just placed it here...I'm 14/f and i feel everyday like i'm making everyone's life miserable. Everyone says I'm a crybaby and too dramatic and that no one wants to hang around with someone like me. I feel useless and I'm wondering if I should just quit...leave...whatever way you wanna put it. I just dont want to bug anyone anymore...that's my question. Should I quit?...plz and thnx
Don't quit. Whatever you do. I know you feel like your making other people's lives miserable, but if you weren't there anymore, I'm positive people wouldn't be thankful. You seem to know what your doing wrong, so try and change the things that bother people. Don't change yourself, just tweek some things. Try being a little less dramatic. As for being a crybaby, you can't help how emotional you are, but if you're crying because you don't get what you want, go off and cry in your room, that way people won't get annoyed with your crying. (btw I'm not saying you are a crybaby or dramatic, I'm just going by what you said.) Hope this helps and feel better.
-cindy
I'm 13, and basically, I have pretty bad breats. It's genetic. Small and pointy, and barely 32A. (I suspect it's probably going to stay that way too, because I started developing 5 years ago and my whole family looks like me) Do you think I'd look ridiculous if I wore a bikini to the pool next week? If so, what would look ok?
You would look fine. Everybody is built differently, not everyone is a DD. If you still feel self concious, just buy a more padded bikini top. Problem solved. Hope this helps and have a great summer.
-cindy
me and my friend was texting each other and then she was telling me her sad story about what happended between her and her crush.and i got really emotional and i told her"that makes me cry" and she started saying"y ur crying it didnt happended to u?" is that bad that i cried?
NO!! It's definately NOT bad that you cried. It shows you care about your friend and how she feels. Last time I checked, caring was a good thing. Hope this helps.
-cindy
I will try to make this as simple as possible. Im a 42 yo male, however I do not feel like it nor do I look like it or act like it. Most all my friends are 20-25, I can hang with them and act just as crazy( with out being ingnorant) but I can also be the adult when I have to be. My question: Is it wrong for me to enjoy the company of the younger crowd, meaning, I am attracted to a 20yo female, Im not like some sexual preditor chasing/hunting down the teen hotties, Im just more attracted to them.Part of me feels totaly wrong for having these feelings.Give it to me strait and tell me how terrible I am. Sincerly mndfrk
If you can have a good time with your 20 year old friends, go for it. There is nothing wrong with having fun. Just make sure you can be responsible when needed. As for the finding younger women attractive, there's no problem in it if they are of legal age. Men are always finding younger women attractive, you're not alone. Hope this helps.
-cindy
alright so heres the deal. me and this guy used to go out. we went out like 6 times, and one time was almost for a year. He's always the one dumping ME, but somehow we end up back together again. Six months ago,he broke up with me so were not currently going out, but i still really like him, and i think he likes me again, too.Maybe he changed, but Im not sure if i should just keep giving him chances? but i really like him. Do you think its a good idea if we go out? Or should i just get over him? THANKS ALOT.
Try and get over him. If he keeps on dumping you, he's not worth it. Believe me, I'm all for second chances, but this guy seems to want more than just a second chance. If you are really still into him, I guess you can go for him. Just make sure his intentions are real and he truly cares about you. If it were me though, I wouldn't want to be getting hurt again and again, so I would probably try and forget about him. If you need help on getting over him, you know where to find me. Hope this helps.
-cindy
i recently went on a school trip and we stayed in a hotel. the last day we were there, the left side of my bottom started hurting really bad. it was really sore, but there wasnt a rash or bruise or anything. When i got home i noticed some small bumps on my bottom that are really sore to touch and hurt really bad. I sat on the edge of the bathtub in the hotel when i shaved my legs and i was thinking that could be where i picked up these bumps. there is no chance they are an std unless i might have picked up herpes or something on the bathtub because i've never had sex. can you catch herpes off a bathtub? what else could it be?
I'm not a doctor, so I can't exactly tell you what it is, but I would get it checked out by a doctor if it doesn't go down in the next couple of days. You could have picked up some sort of fungus, afterall you can never trust hotel showers, bathtubs, ect. Hope this helps.
-cindy
ny friend is a little weird
she is kinda braggy about everything
like at school...she'll have a book and be like "oh your so jealous of my book" and shes kidding around but its still really annoying cuz she does it all the time
also she kinda gossips about my other friends and i tell her that i dont like talking about my friends, and she still tries to gossip about them
what should i do? i dont want to be mean
Sit her down and talk with her about it. She's your friend, therefore, she'll appreciate it (at least she should) telling her what's going on in your head. Put her in one of the people she is gossiping about shoes. Ask her how she would like it if she were constantly talked about. As for the bragging thing, tell her it gets a tad annoying, even if she is kidding. Don't be mean about it, just tell how you are feeling. Hope this helps.
-cindy
On one of my mySpace pictures, this guy wrote "Rawr! that's hot *tssss*" I don't get the "*tssss*" Is that supposed to be like a sexy cat noise, or does it mean "Rawr! That's hot---no"
I'm pretty sure, it's some sort of sizzling noise. It's a compliment, don't worry. Hope this helps.
-cindy
ok so does birth control make you gain weight or not?? does it make your boobs look bigger? what can i do to make my boobs bigger beside a breast implant? thanks ill rate high
Hate to break it to you, but you can't exactly make your boobs grow. People store fat in different places, some people are lucky in where they store it. You can always buy a padded or pushup bra. Hope this helps.
-cindy
Hey all my friends and famil tells me that iam a hypochondriac that means I say iam sick when iam really not and it makes all my friends and family hate me how can I stop being a hypochondriac?
My mom tells me the same thing. I guess the only thing you can do is not complain when you have a headache, or stomachache, and things like that. Just take an advil and get over it. If it's something serious, talk to your parents, but if it's not, just don't tell anyone. Hope this helps.
-cindy
me and my boyfriend fool around alot... I keep my pants on most the time and he stays in his boxers most the time... but say he's in his boxers he cums and my pants get all wet could I get pregnate...
It's practically impossible. As the people below me said, sperm die when they hit they air, so you have nothing to worry about. Hope this helps.
-cindy
so my 2 friends emma and tori are really close. they do everything together. and diss-include me and my other friend alot. they are having sleepovers every weekend and barly inviting me. its getting on my last nerve and if i say somthing to them, like how i feel i know they'll take it the wrong way and get mad at me. also, i put them together, i introduced them to eachother and now they completly seem to forgot about me. WHAT SHOULD I DO????????A
I definately hate when you put two people together and then they exclude you!! I know exactly how you're feeling. As much as you don't want to, try talking to them (or maybe just one of them). Explain how your feeling, don't accuse them, just say how you feel. They can't blame you for how you feel. They are your friends, so they should respect your feelings. If they don't do anything about the situation, give them some time to thereselves. They will eventually get sick of each other, or it just being the two of them. While your at it, you and your friend can always make new friends. Just be friendly and start hanging with some other people. I'm not saying ditch your old friends, but if they are ignoring you, don't not have fun while you're waiting for them to realize what they are doing. Hope this helps.
-cindy
well theres this guy i sorta like. but my friends really dont like him. and im embarrased to go out with him or what ever. i dunno what to do cus i cant stop likeing him!
If you like him, go out with him. You can't help who you like, explain that to your friends. It shouldn't matter what your friends think, either. It's not like they are going out with him, you are. You deserve to be happy. Hope this helps.
-cindy
I am 16 /F. Last week i visited my girl friend, she told me they are naturalists and celebrate all week ends as a naturalists and they wear nothing at home. So I went their to see and I was astonished to see all of them nude (Dad, mom, my friend, her 12 year old sis and 19 year old bro). Is this kind of thing allowed? Isnt it a kind of incest?
No, no, no. This isn't a kind of incest. Surprisingly enough, there are nudist communities, and everyone walks around nude, every day. They don't even keep it to themselves at their house, but they walk around their community. It's natural for them, because everyone is nude as well. Hope this helps.
-cindy
When you shave are you supposed to shave the upper part of your leg too? I never have because the hairs are so light you can notice...but are you supposed to?
You don't have to. It's up to you. I do, because of the summer (shorts and bathing suits). If it's not noticeable, what's the point? Hope this helps.
-cindy