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Theres this guy that asked me out today he is REALLY HOT but I dont even know him. I am in 13 and he is 12, I want to say yes but I don't know him. And then theres people saying that hes a player but a really good friend of mine said that he wouldnt cheat on me. What do you think I should say?

well i went out with someone who i didnt know very well and we ended up dating for a month and a half but dont just go out with someone cause you think that theyre hot.. you have to like them for their personality too so i would maybe go out with him and see if i start to like him a bit more and if you dont them break up with him
-katie

ok i recently posted this..

ok..me and my boyfriend were doing perfectly fine and then today he was like.. i cant be with you i'm sorry..i still love my ex more than anything...and when i read that.. i just broke down in tears..we both fell in love with each other..deeply..and he did that to me..and i still love him no matter what..and i cant convince him to come back to me..what should i do or tell him that might make him come back to me..i tried telling him how i felt about him..and i dunno what to tell him now..he's the first person i've felt this way about since i was with my ex boyfriend for 3 years..PLEASE HELP MEE PLEASEEE!! :'( i've been bawling the past 5 hours!!!

and the other day he imed me and was like..baby i'm sorry i made the biggest mistake breaking up with you, will you please forgive me..i really love him..so much..i just dont know what to do..should i go back to him or not???

thanks!

well if you still love him of course you should go back to him... just be careful because ive done this... and my old bf broke up with me again so just be careful.. hope everything works out
-katie

Ohh god its so annoying. I dont see what i am doing wrong! I want to use tampons. They are so much betterrr! but i once used super ones and they leaked straight away but only the tiniest bit was used and then i got regular ones and they still leaked yet they used up with in about 6 hours which is how they are supposed to work ! So i am pretty sure ive got the right ones but i cant see how on earth i am putting it in wrong ! its the most annoying thing ever ! please help! xx

you just have to practice with them.. if you are going to use a tampon i would recomend using them for the lightest part of your period and either use a tampon and a pad for the heavier part or just a pad cause it could leak. so if it feels like its in right(if you dont feel it) and it still leaks just practice getting it in perfectly...and i would recomend regular or super if your period is really heavy

hope i helped
-katie

hey. well there's this girl, we'll call her ...lauren. well in eigth grade we got into a fight. [yes, a fist fight] well, the thing is that she didnt even know me when she wanted to fight me. (she was the one who wanted to fight me, she punched first and so i hit back) and she won. but, she like.. sat on me and i couldnt get up and she talks about how stupid that is to do that to someone because its unfair all the time. anyway, sorry for rambling. but, she hates me. Honestly, i don't know why. I'm not one of those girls who does things and someone would actually have a ligit. reason for it. she just...hates me. i mean, in class i dont talk. and out of school we have NEVER talked, not even for a second. well, besides the fight.. but that wasnt for very long. lol. she's always soo nice to me- but behind my back she talks about me. anyway. i dont want this to escalate into a fight again because i have to focus on my studies. [like, seriously] I hope someone can give me advice on what to do whenever she does try and talk about me. do i just ignore it? do i stand up for myself? and how would i be able to do that without getting into a fight with her. if you met her, you'd know what i meant. shes the type of person who gets mad at EVERYTHING. please help & thankyou in advance.

i would ignore her...after awhile when she sees that ou have no reaction to this she will probably get bored and move to the next victim

um me and my boyfriend both want to make out.. it's both of our first time and do you have any good places where we should do it? and if u say movie theater can u put a good movie???

i would do it in a movie theatre and i would go and see a scary movie like disterbia(sp?) so that then you have a reason to like cuddle up to him..

-katie

Hey! I was wondering, would you all rather get an ipod nano or a coach tote for you 15th bday? thanks!

i personally would go for the ipod

I cut myself (for personal reasons) but i do it below the wrist. And I try to hide it. But I can't. It's not cold here, so wearing long-sleeves doesn't make sense. When people see it, they get really freaked out. What are some reasons, that make sense, which I can tell people, so they won't think I'm cutting myself?

ok well i agree with the 2 people below me..you shouldnt cut yourself and you should get help but i personally have never cut myself so if this is a bad suggestion then im sorry... why not try like those big bracelet bangle type things..i dont know if that would work but yea
hope i helped

-katie

my friend [let's call her bert] has, like, a serious problem. or so she says. i think its just because she has practically no self control and can't restrain herself. but, anyway, when she has a "good" book, she's ALWAYS reading. now, first thing you might think is: "well, good for her, most kids aren't reading ENOUGH." but when i say always i mean ALWAYS.
last week really pissed me off 'cause bert, i, and another friend [lets call her adam] were on a field trip and we stuck together the whole time. except instead of talking to us like friends should do bert read and read and read. and when we tried to tell her to restrain herself 'cause she was ignoring us, she said she didn't care [but she doesn't say that if she's not reading].
another thing, this might just be because i'm on my period, but bert is seriously pissing me off. she reads during school when she should be paying attention [even more so because her grades aren't great] and then who does she ask for help? me. who's actually doing my work 'cause i actually get it 'cause i was actually paying attention.
it wasn't like this before, it started this [school] year. & i don't know what to do.

maybe, you should give bert a taste of her own medicine i guess you could say...when she starts talking to you be like oh sorry im busy or be right back or something like that... maybe she will get the point ane respect you and you other friend more and realize that shes being rude. or... you could just say it right to her that u think shes rude about how she does that or even just find some new friends to hang with...when she finds out that she has no friend left maybe it will hit her that she should treat them right...hope i helped

-katie

Well I like this boy named Robert and it is hard for me to talk to him well all of the boy i like!!!! can anyone help me?

ok all you have to do is be like hey...after that its easy the conversations should start off with like hey whats up nothing much you type of thing and then just talk about what hes into does he play any sports? if so question him more about thaat boys are usually into sports an like to talk about them.. or if he doesnt play sports just be like so what do you do for fun etc... eventually you will just start flowin..and if not i bet you two werent ment to be if u cant even have a casual conversation ya know? hope i helped!

-katie

I have to write about this poem for english class, but i'm having trouble understanding what it is about. I think its about how you shouldn't hide yourself from others, but i'm not sure.

Loud Music
Stephen Dobyns

My stepdaughter and I circle round and round.
You see, I like the music loud, the speakers
throbbing, jam-packing the room with sound whether
Bach or rock and roll, the volume cranked up so
each bass notes is like a hand smacking the gut.
But my stepdaughter disagrees. She is four
and likes the music decorous, pitched below
her own voice-that tenuous projection of self.
With music blasting, she feels she disappears,
is lost within the blare, which in fact I like.
But at four what she wants is self-location
and uses her voice as a porpoise uses
its sonar: to find herself in all this space.
If she had a sort of box with a peephole
and looked inside, what she'd like to see would be
herself standing there in her red pants, jacket,
yellow plastic lunch box: a proper subject
for serious study. But me, if I raised
the same box to my eye, I would wish to find
the ocean on one of those days when wind
and thick cloud make the water gray and restless
as if some creature brooded underneath,
a rocky coast with a road along the shore
where someone like me was walking and has gone.
Loud music does this, it wipes out the ego,
leaving turbulent water and winding road,
a landscape stripped of people and language-
how clear the air becomes, how sharp the colors

thanks to anybody who can clear things up for me!

ok im just going to wing this...

i think what the poet is trying to say is that his stepdaughter and him are very different..he would prefer to be kinof lost in the crowd and like just a part of something bigger(if that makes sense) and his daughter is more of an individual she likes to keep quiet and have things simple. when it says with the music blasting she disapears it kindof gives me the sense that she likes to be noticed and not just part of the big picure....i hoped this helped alittle ...but this probably sucks

-katie

Me and my other two friends are pretty close. I've just started hanging out with one of them about a year ago. We go out places and have a good time. But the thing is that they ALWAYS exclude me. They have sleepovers without me and they are even going to disney world together and talk about it in front of me all the time! Very rarely do I ever get included in their plans. I don't want to sound needy/clingy and whine to them about how they never include me and I'm afraid they'll get mad if I say something. I'm so hurt and confused. Do I have a right to be angry? What should I do to fix this?!

if i were you i would just try to find some other cool people to hang out with so that you dont feel like the third wheel...im sure theres some old friends that you could maybe reconnect with...its not fair of them to treat you that way but dont let them get to you...once they see you with some other friends maybe you will get included in more of their plans..who knows but if i were u i would go hangout with some other people...theres alot of people so that shouldnt be hard

hope i helped alittle...
-katie

ok this is really embarasing me asking this but, how do you cure foot odar? the sweat in my tennis shoes has just built up and i cant do anything about it. im going to get new sneakers, will that help? and im starting to put powder on my feet and in my socks and shoes, is that going to help? any advice will help!!!!

Thanks!!!

if you put baking powder in them the smell should get much better! hope i helped

-katie

I am 13 years old and ive had my period for just about a year now. I am fed up with using pads because they feel like diapers. My friends tell me tampons are very comfortable and you cant even notice them. Well I have tried putting them in. Umm It would get about halfway in and then whenever I push the thing u use to push the tampon in instead of pushing it in completely the plastic tube pushes backwards. I cant get it to work and it's really frustrating. I did it only one time before. Could someone please tell me what im doing wrong and how to get it to go in all the way?

Thank You so much

ive been using tampons for a few ears now and i like them alot more then pads may i recomend though that you use a pad for the first day or 2 of your period when its heavy in case it leaks...thats never fun im not sure of exactly how to explain it but these sites do....

http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/tampon.html

http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/azhealthtopics/ht/How_Insert_Tamp.htm

http://www.beinggirl.com/en_US/pages/goods_tampinsert.jsp

http://www.teengrowth.com/index.cfm?action=info_article&ID_article=1325

hope i helped!!
-katie

My friend always calls me a cunt.

How bad of a word is this?

it just means like vaina basically if he says it jokily i wouldnt be too offended but it depends on who the person is and how they r saying it..if its a kid who teases every1 i wouldnt think too much of it but if u hate this person then take affense haha hope i helped

why are some people making a big deal about tomorrow.... whats tomorrow?

its national pot smoking day

does someone want to explain to me what is 4/20 all about? thanks

its national pot smoking day!!!

ok this is not a joke.
i went on my dads computer to do research for a paper we have to write for my science class, and when i went to history he had all this stuff like " hotel sex, gaymen's club" and gross stuff like that and his yahoo email was logged in so i went to it and he had all these messages like "where do you live do you want me to f*ck you or you to f*ck me" and he answered w/ "i live ______ do u have lube and a condom?" (the ____ is where we live" and i like am really scared that he is gay!

and i take after him and i think i might be a lesbian! i really doNOT want 2 be one but i think i am kinda aliitle bit.

so what im asking is how do i no if hes gay or not and how do i make sure i dont become a lsbian?

thanx in advance i will rate high ANY advice.

if i were you i would just treat your dad how you are now.. until he mentions something about it....respect his privacy for now and just consider that he may not feel comfortable coming out right now... the part about you being a lesbian im sure everyone goes through a phase with that.. give it time it might wear off.. just give it time and see how you feel later on

Does anyone have links ... or , just quotes they can type that i could put in my info. like from songs or just websites. i recently got dumped and id liek ot make my boyfriend feel bad.

www.holliesquotes.com she has really really really good quotes check her out

sorry i know this was in the wrong category..
but whats on 4.20.? details please. thanks.

4/20 is national pot smoking day!! hahah

ok, so i'm 15/f and i'm gay, it's not too big a deal in my community, but i am still worried about coming out because there are some people who would kind of shun me and such. Anyways, there is this girl who is 17 and she's a lesbian, and i kind of like her, but that doesn't really matter because she has a girlfriend and i would never want to come between them. anyways, i kind of would like to just talk to her about it and stuff because i look up to her a lot, and the only person i can talk to is my best friend, who is cool with me being gay, but not too helpful since she's straight.

anyhow, this 17 year old girl thinks i'm straight probably and i want to start dropping hints, not just towards her, to everyone that i'm gay because i really dont want to just come out and say it.

what should i do? wear, act, say.......??? please help, I feel like if i just said i was gay I would lose some of my friends, and also because people would be like, so what we don't care, like it doesn't matter enough to just announce it, lol

ok if anyone-gay or straight, has any tips for dropping hints that would be awesome.

thanks in advance, if I don't like your advice i won't rate you bad i promise

ok im not gay so if my advice absolutely sucks im sorry but, i do understand how its probably difficult for you to just come out and say it so if you just want ppl to assume it kind of then heres some tips that i hope are useful
1. maybe hang out with more girls and drop hints with them and come out to them( girls are big gossipers and will get the word out haha)
2. act more feminine-carry a manbag or just something like that say 'omg' alot and 'like'
3. if you have a myspace takes pictures that have you acting like a girl or that have u holding the peace sign or something

...if any of these things affended anyone im really sorry...im just trying to tell him what most teenage kids dentify gay kids being like so SORRY!

hope i helped
-katie

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