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I am very outgoing i love dancing and theatre, partying, laughing, but latley, i lost myself. I mean i dont know...i used to have so many frineds but they are all gone. I am in highschool, a freshman, and a girl. so it is important to make friends now. Everyone says that evryone goes through this. But i dont know one person who has only one friend, and that friend, has other friends but i am not friends with them. I used to be popular, no i feel so invisible. Because of this i only talk sometimes because i feel awkward even around kids i know. I feel like i have to impress them, becasue nothinf else is working. I just want to have frinds. I think part of my problem is that the kids i am somewhat friends with, i feel awkward just leaving them and sitting with ohter kids, but i wnat to have friends. What weirder is i get along with kids from class i met this year, i feel like we could be good friends. But they are not as popular as my other kind of friends so i feel like they will think i nam dorky. Last but not least guys do not look at me and i do not think i will ever have a boyfriend because i am to concerned with what others think of me, so i dont want them to ridicule who i date. I am having so much trouble...I NEED HELP!!!
Sincerly, Depressed

Well I just want to say that I had the SAME exact freshman year you're having. My friends ganged up on me and left me out in the cold. I had to hang with my guy friends and a lot of my old friends. I also had to try to find new friends. It's the toughest thing ever since I wasn't outgoing at all. In the end it made me WAYY more outgoing but anyways. What I did was I hung out with a lot of people who weren't as popular as I used to be just as you did and worked my way up. As I hung out with different groups my old friends realised I was happy without them and was doing fine. It almost kind of attracted them back! Also, by lowering your standards for friends you can realise what true friends are like and learn a lot of lessons. It's also really good to join new clubs or a new sport because you're kind of forced to meet new people but they can turn out to be great friends. With the guy thing it's really tough. I would have to say that you just need to be more outgoing with them like say hey and make a lot of guy friends. By doing this other guys look at you and think wow she must be a cool girl if all the guys hang out with her. Or wait till you find one you think u might really like and try to get closer to them. As far as the self confidence thing I think you need to really think of yourself better. Think about the things you think make you special and who you are and embrase it. One thing I do when I feel ugly or down about my looks is I try to look my best. I'll spend a night doing my hair and my make up really well and take pictures. Then I'll try to do it again for school so I can feel really confident around campus. Guys LOVE confidence and a girl whose outgoing.

I'm sure everything will fall into place because it did for me I went from popular to nothing to popular again. You just got to put some effort in. I'm sure you'll be fine in no time
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does anyone know where you can get nice sunglasses? for a 14/f. thanks.

Another good store would be Sunglass Hut if you want to spend a little bit extra.

I get most of mine from Nordstrom they have great pairs in the Brass Plum section for only about $20 or less & in another section they offer more pricey ones.

depending on your budget those are two good places

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I need some good date ideas that aren't totally expensive. I was thinking bowling and dinner, anything under 70 bucks a date - cause thats as much as I can afford right now..... I know, I'm cheap - but I'm getting a job soon, so that wont be too much of an issue soon enough.

Some good ones are:
-Movies
-Romantic dinner (out of the house or in)
-going to the mall to hang
-out for ice cream


Those are some things that girls enjoy that are very affordable

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Well i like this girl but i cant seem to get past the "friends" stage can i please get some advice preferably from a girl telling me what girls like.

Girls like when boys suttely flirt with them and drop hints that they could possibly like them more. One thing that gives me a little bit of a hint if a guy likes me or not is when he keeps eye contact with me a lot and smiles. Girls love when boys smile. We also love a good joke to make us laugh. I think laughter is a key. Just don't come on too strong because that's definitely something girls DON'T like. Just have fun with it.

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ok i kno christmas is tomorrow but im a major procrastinator. i have no money, and my dad wont let me borrow money because i already owe him money and i need a gift for my mom. any ideas of something i can make her using thigns from home? she doesnt wear jewelry tho.

Hmm my parents love when I frame a picture of me or of me and my siblings and give it to them. Maybe find an old frame to write on and decorate with things you can find around the house. It's really fun I've done it MANY times. My mom loves every single one

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How can you tell if a person you were dating for 10 months is not over you.. hes 15 years old

Well I'm 16 and last year (when i was 15) I was dating another 15 year old. After we broke up all my friends said he was still interested. Some signs i noticed that made me think he still was were:
-he would call me for super dumb and pointless reasons
-he would try to talk to me a lot and when i gave him the cold shoulder he got mad
-he would just try 2 keep in contact with me and talk to me
-he would always give me the same smile he did when we were dating

hope those helped!

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how do i put a picture in a caption? everytime i do it theres too many letters and it wont fit.

thanks.

The person who answered before me is completely right that is the code. To shorten the URL though to make it fit you need to upload your picture that you are going to use on tinypic.com it gives you a very small url that easily fits right into the caption.

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I think I'm going through a mid-life crisis. [That is, if I only expect to live `till thirty.] I'm a 15 year old female and it feels like I haven't completly found my place of belonging. I know I'm not the only one who's experiencing these emotions, but I'd rather rid myself of these feelings as soon as I can. I've acknowledged the problem as pushing the ones I wish to get close to away and I'm not sure why I do this. I've led a pretty sheltered life, so it doesn't lead to my past. I think it's because people tend to move on and I fear being replaced. I open up more so than others, but I just shy away from what I need most. How can I allow myself to accept the love of my surrondings?

I just turned 16 a couple weeks back. When I was 15 I had SO many days that I woke up and felt the same way. I felt lost and alone. I pushed away my boyfriend at times and all my friends. It seemed like all I wanted to do was sit in my room with sad songs blasting through the speakers. All you need to do is think of the good things that have happened to you. Also think of how lucky you are for having good things and how fortunate you are compared to some people. I had lots of therapy and was able to get past it. You need to find something that makes you happy. Slowly things will change but I can assure you it's just the age since lots of my 15 year old friends can agree with me and say they've definitely experienced it too! :)

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Im 13 and i just got a bf, his parents are really strict so he doesnt have an aim or anything! He didnt want me to tell people bout it, but i tld 4 people, and other people found out, i havent tlked to him since we got together, im not sure wat to do?PLZ HELP!

I think if he truly wanted you to be his girlfriend he would be proud and want to tell people. If he wants to keep it a secret then something seems kind of wrong. It's not really your fault I mean come on you're a teenage girl who has butterflies in her stomach and just got a bf i understand. I used to be the same way. Just watch out because I've been in the situation and the guy didn't want people to know because he was a player. You're just going to have to be pacient and wait for his reaction. Hang in there! Don't let it take over your life though

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Okay me and my friend Lupe and Julie have been fighting alot. We always forgive each other. Our other friends Aimee Jhoanna Cassandra and Vikram say we should just stop being friends. What should I do?

I think you should evaluate your friendship. Maybe think of the pros and cons. Also think of what they bring to the friendship and if their adding to your life or taking away from it. If you figure they're taking away from your happiness or just sucking the fun out of your life you should probably back away.

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