my name is vanessa williams
and i want anyone who has any problems, feel free to ask for advice, i am non judgemental, listen and give you good advice, not what you want to hear but the right advice
take care and God bless
Member Since: May 6, 2005
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Last Update: September 23, 2005
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i am 23 and 11 weeks pregnant , I work but have loadsa dept , my mum is giving me 3 weeks to get out of her house as she does not agree with the pregnancy . what am I going to do , the father is in no position to help me , i do not want to give up my work as I have been there for 5 years.
but I am going to have no where to live please help (link)
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first of all , there are options you can use
for instance you could take some leave from work as far as i have known if you have been with a business for that long they shold pay you, if there isnt any where you can stay the last resort is a hostel
i hink you're mum will come around, just give her time, i know youdon't have time
just believe in God and and anything can be possible
Good luck
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my friends keep making fun of me,but i know there are just joking but it makes me feel bad, can anyone help (link)
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hello there,
i am one person that don't make fun of poeple regardless who they are, tell them why are they making a joke out of you and see what they say , if they are true friends they ould stop or maybe they are insecure or jealous of you
take care
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Hey everyone, this question is for people who are really educated in like the body & medical stuff...
Well this morning I woke up around 4 AM and i couldn't go back to sleep because my chest was hurting.. like it was right under my boob - so i went to my moms room & told her what was happening and what it felt like and stuff.. but the hole thing is it only hurt when i breathed in ---- too hard. so i'm not sure what it is or what to do.. my mom was going to take me to the doctors today but i said lets wait and see how it is tommorow.. my dad thinks that it may be like i was coughing (im kind of sick) and that my lung is brusied or something because i was coughing so hard.. or when i was dancing i pulled a muscle.. i told him that i have never had that happen before & he was like it's ok.. it takes time to go away & stuff. well it is my first time happening other than when you get that pain in your lung that like hurts when you breath and you feel like you need to put your hand in the bottom of your lung& pull up to make it go away..& in a while it does. this isnt what im talking about though... pleasee give me some advice as to what it could be..
Dont be like "OMG YOUR GOING TO DIE GO TO THE HOSPITAL" .. i just want someone that knows a little about this to answer =)
Oh yeah, and i will definitley rate♥ (link)
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if you are having chest problems could be heart ache,or something you ate, i don't think its any thing to dangerous
the advise is that only a doctor can diagnose what is going internally in your body it also could be related to some pain
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well i was how do i tell my mom that i am ready to have sex? i'm 15 and a female. (link)
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hi there,
she is in for a shock, no mother would want to find that their kids want to be sexual active, there isnt any nice oway of saying it, if you have to say it, do it in a nice way, make sure she's calm, try not to say i want to have sex, say something nice about your partner that you're both ready, but the question is what if you get pregnant would he be there for you till the very end ?
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i think i have a yeast infection. i dont want to tell my mom because its embarrassing what should i do
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hi there ,
first of all Yeast infection is caused by fungus when an overgrowth of the yeast contained in our bodies grows out of control. There are several different types that can be found in harmless amounts in the mouth, vagina, bowels, and on the skin. If an overgrowth of this fungus (called Candida) develops in the the body, most often it causes itching and burning in and around the vagina and on the outer parts of the female genitals, called the vulva.
there are different causes of yeast infection, from my experience for it to be proper diagnosed first time a doctor has to be known, or if you are sure of that its yeast their are certain cream or even tablets that can be taken which include
cannsten cream , diflucan tablet --> works within two hours
To help prevent yeast infections you should wear loose, natural-fiber clothing and underwear with a cotton
try not to wear tight leather trousers
hope this was helpful
good luck
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hey everyone,
I was fiddling with a piece of my hair and i noticed nearly every individual strand is split! You just have a single piece of hair and its double at the ends, sometimes its quite far up and i touched one of the half-strands and it just fell off where it split. I straighten my hair everyday but i use a heat protection serum and i dont know if this has helped it split or not. I havent been to the hairdressers for a while but now im planning to and im going to get quite a bit off but the problem is some of the short, new hairs at the top are split too and i dont want my hair to be cut really short. I also want layers but not right at the top.
What i want to know is 1.what has caused my split ends? 2. do i have to go short or is there another way? 3. if you leave your hair to grow (like the new hairs) will the split ends rise up the hair strand?
thankyou for your time
Rachel (link)
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not taking proper care of your hair, trimming you hair, shampooing and proper conditioner and hair lotion, cream or oil usual cure it
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I have these dark purplish circles under my eyes. And my eyelids are almost always red...Majority of the time I get 8 hours of sleep and I am 13 years old. Is there anything I can do to get rid of these hideous circles? (link)
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there are different natural remedy to use some people use cold ice , eye cream
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this may be weird but i was just wondering if you could bleach hair on your body with regular laundry bleach. please help and ill rate (link)
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that wouldnt be a good idea, because for body hair they have body bleach for that , normal bleach are stronger and can be irratant to the skin
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hello im a 13 year old girl and my boyfriend is 15 and a half well ill be 14 soon but any ways.. he wants to have kids i want to but i still think im too young if i wasnt in school then i think im for it b ut i dont know i need some advice. (link)
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hi there
well it sounds that he loves you, or just want sex either way you should have 100% communication with him to know hi long term prospects in case anything happens in the future
because you are in school, are you going to be married to him, is he going to be faithful think about this things before making a commitment to him
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I am not really fat, I weigh like 118 and I am 5'4" but for some reason all this fat hangs around my stomach area. I have tryed exercising often and it doesn't work. Plus I never get into the swing of it. Does anybody have a good ideas on how to keep my exercising schedule and maybe some good work outs that will help me tone my stomach? Thanks a lot! (link)
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hello there,
well i know some people personally who have the same problem, try some sit up, some poeple go on fruit diets, stoping carb but from my reasearch there is a new pill that reduces the size of the fat in the tummy Danish detox plan, biofirm from what i've heard it works but you should consult a doctor before taking medications
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i told one of my friends who i like and i told her to keep it a secret and she told a whole bunch of people and i got mad at her and she wants me to forgive her but im starting to hate her cause shes kinda stuck up but i dont want to hurt her feelings what should i do (link)
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fisrt of all, you seem like a nice person and if she was a true friend and she knew what could happen she wouldnt have done it, it is a very hurtful feeling to find out of a friend betrayal she has to understand what she has done to you, you have to have a serious talk with her so if you decide to tell her one of your secret she dosent betray you
good luck
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I want to wax my bikini line, but im not sure what kind to use. I tried Nad's once but it didnt work and it hurt like hell, really really bad. I tried plucking lol but that didnt work too well and it still hurt bad. I want to wax cuz shaving, cream removal, and all that other junk doesnt work for me. So im asking for some suggestions for bikini waxing its from like CVS or Wallgreens, you know general stores and such. Also, my skin is really sensitive and i dont want it to look really bad because im going to a hotel and were swimming, so want it to be close and stuff. Thanks to anyone who has any ideas!!!
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bikini waxes hurt for the first few tries, from my expeience i use th ebrazilian wax because it goes to the root and keep it hairless for up to 6 weeks, remember yo uhave to apply lotion after waxing because of the redness
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i am suppost to go to this party tonight with a couple of my friends. this guy i know wants me to go so i can hear his band play. But most of the people there ((except for like 6 people)) i dont really know very well, and dont really like to much. I kinda want to go but wat if the think "why is she here?" so should i go? and the guy is gunna ask me out there, and i kinda wanna say yes, and i kinda wanna say no.. wat should i say? Ill Rate! (link)
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i think you should go and shoudnt care what other people think of you even though most people do care,
go and support you friend and that guy
at the end of the day is you that matters not the people who don't like you
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I've been researching modeling, and I was wondering what TFP (Time for Prints) means, or what it is... Can you help me? (link)
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Time For Prints (TFP) is a way that a photographer can use a model free of charge (or these days often for a minimal charge to dissuade time wasters) to test out new equipment, try out new ways of taking photographs, test new lighting equipment, experiment with new types of film or simply build up a portfolio of stock shots that he or she can use when selling their services. The deal is that you provide your services for free (or for that nominal charge) and, in return, you get copies of the photographs.
This is a very good idea when you want to build a portfolio for yourself - especially when you are starting out. It is also a good way to get experience in front of the camera and to practice your poses. There are a few things you need to be aware of (or careful of):
Firstly, it is a good idea to agree with the photographer exactly what you will get out of it. Some photographers who do TFP will give you a copy of all of the photographs taken (either as prints or prints from slides), some will only give you a selection and some expect not to give you any at all! So be clear what the basis of the deal is before you start so that you will not be disappointed! Check how many prints you will get and what type and size they will be. If you want extra copies it is likely that the photographer will want to charge you for them. Check what those charges would be.
Secondly, make sure you know what the score is with respect to copyright. You may get copies of the photographs but the copyright in those photographs, because they were obtained through TFP, may remain with the photographer. This will restrict you in what you can do with them. For example, you may find that you cannot use them on the Internet if you have your own web site without permission from the photographer and he may want to charge you for this! Alternatively, you may find that your agency cannot use them on their web site either. So you need to understand what rights you have and what rights the photographer will want. It is best if this is documented to prevent any future misunderstandings. (If you become a supermodel you do not want to find that an early photographer of yours owns the copyright in your photographs and can then use them how he wants to without your permission being required!).
Thirdly, you should only agree to a TFP session with a reputable and professional photographer. Regrettably there are a few "photographers" out there that use TFP as a free way to get models for their own personal needs - especially those that want to take glamour photographs. They often call themselves "semi-professional". If the photographer starts asking you to do things you do not want to or to take your clothes off or start to touch you in a way you do not like (generally under the pretence of showing what pose they want) then you are perfectly within your rights to stop the session immediately! You should also make it known that this photographer is not a legitimate TFP source (you can use message boards like ours to do that). Unfortunately, TFP is just as rife with rip-offs as any other sector of the modeling business.
Finally, make sure that you are dealing with a professional photographer if you want to get quality prints from the session. Very often, a photographer that is new to the business will use TFP as a way of practicing. That's OK for him but may not be OK for you! The resulting prints may not be worth having. This one is always difficult as the real professional photographers are usually too booked up to have space or time for TFP work.
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well one of my friend is all hate-struct. how do i get her to start being nicer
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hi there ,
first of all you can't change someone only God can change them, you can tell her what's she's doing wrong.
it might have something to do with her past, family but being there for her is a plus
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OK, well, my BEST friend has a boy friend and I am absolutley in LOVE w/ this boy. PLUS, my bf, doesn't at all treat him good at all. She doesn't talk to him, whenever he looks or goes to hug her she is just like "GO AWAY" or "DON'T LOOK AT ME"
But, we flirt a lot, and she doesn't care, but I don't want to ruin their relationship if he starts to like me. TO TOP IT OFF: my OTHER best friend just admited to me that she has liked him for a long time. And I know he likes me, even a little bit
WHAT CAN I DO TO GET THE GUY, BUT KEEP THE FRIENDS?!
*STRESED AND CONFUSED*
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first of all, are you in love with him because of his look, think about it if he didnt look the way he looked would you still like him?
your relationship isnt worth ruining over her boyfriend, men come and go and you have to know your true friends that you can count on when the going gets though, that may be your bestfriend.
what is love , what do you love about him
you can't get the guy without someone getting hurt
good luck and i hope you make the right choice
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i am a 15 year old female and,there are these prople that say that my boyfriend
is cheating on me but, i know that he is not because he talks about me all the time . He tells every one that he loves me. and he gets mad when other boys look at me . so please help me i am going crazy .
Love always barby......
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hi there,
first of all poeple saying that your boyfriend could be cheating could just be hearsay, you know trying to break you and your boyfriend up which isnt the right thing to do. even if he talks to you all the time the question you need to be asking yourself is is he with you all the time? have you got proof?
well i think everyone deserves a second chance get the proof first then you can decide if your love is strong to last
good luck
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well i had these two friends and they are trying to make me and my really good friend to fight. what should I do? (link)
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hi there
well i think your friend might be jealous of your relationship people tend to make themselve look good and making other people look bad it isnt the right thing to do
i think you should question their friendship, because if they are truly good friends they would accept each other for the way they are and work at their diferences i think you should, have proof and then confront them
good luck
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