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Q: I have this problem because I have hair on my upper lip just a little bit kind of and what should I do about it?? I tried bleaching it should I try waxing it but I am afraid it would hert please help me (age 13 1/2) thanks!

Wax will hurt too much and might cause an irritation, it would be obvious you used wax. Wax is for arms and legs, not upper lip. I think you should use tweasers, its not like youve got a mustach, its just a couple of hairs.

Q: I like this guy and he likes me.. Well we have ALOT in common and I admit im pretty popular.. so anyway, He's not the hottest/most popular person ever. I like him and I swear im not conceited!! But its like I feel like if I go out with him then I will ruin my rep.. I dont really care but my friends are like "OMG HES SO HOT!! I LIKE HIM NOW." Im not like that.. I go for personality.. but what do I do?? Do I go out with him of save my reputation?

hehe, reputation? If the people you hang out with are your true friends, they wouldnt care who you go out with. You're lucky, you now can distinguish your true friends from just popular kids who hang out with each other to keep their reputation clean. I say go for it if you really like him, if you're popular, hes gonna be popular too.

Q: does anyone know and good, depressing, sad songs? not that im sad or anything, but i love listening to them, like sad songs by evanescence. does anyone know any other good ones?

you mean slow beated songs, my favorite song is:
Here without you- by 3 doors down
And
I want to spend my lifetime loving you- Marc Anthony Duet with some lady :p

Q: just warning you, this may get long!

last night me and my boyfriend of nearly 3 years were in my room and sleeping. not fooling around, literally sleeping. then my dad comes in and freaks out bitching like we had sex or something.

the situation is that i'm the only girl in the family and they treat me like crap. i do the dishes almost every night, take care of my sick grandma, do the laundry, clean the house, and do well in school yet they still look down upon me like i can't be trusted. i am a very responsible girl and i have had enough of them snooping through my room and checking up on me.

the only possible reason why i think they could be acting like this is that we don't communicate very well with each other, let alone get along. maybe bitching is their way of talking to me? even so, that doesn't explain the overprotectiveness!

my question is what can i do to make them trust me? i feel like i've done everything, all ending in failure.

i used to really HATE them for what they put me through, but when they made an effort to BE NICE things got better. our relationship has improved over the past two of months, but after what happened last night, my grudge against them has returned.

please help, i don't know what else i can do. it seems like nothing is ever good enough for them...

-frustrated

Well, since you're the only girl in the family, they're really worried about you, specially your father. He's always worried about his "little girl", but you have to make him understand you're not a little girl anymore, youre a lady. Of course they will be over protective and stuff, but you should be proud to be the reponsible one. And some parents dont even care about their kids.
Talk to your brothers and force them to do the dishes. Or you can make a new rule in the family, each washes what he/she used. We do that in our family, and we leave our brother's dish unwashed. Anyway, I think you're having a 'trust' problem with you parents, so confront them, if they say something you dont like, say "why dont you trust me!" with a frustrated tone, to let them know that its upsetting you.

Q: ok..
my boyfriend is like failing our grade and he cares but he just doesnt think he can do any better he always tells me he dont know how to study like his mind drifts and he said if he fails then he wants to just move to a differnt school...which would kill me!! because we wouldnt see eachother at all..so can anybody give me advice on what to do and help him pass some subjects (enough to pass)! please help! ill rate high!

I think you need to help him boost his confidence. No body is stupid, everyone can study, but each one of us has got his own method. It seems that your boyfriend still hasnt figured out how he can really concentrate. Be the perfect gf and help him with that.
He has to start beeing optimistic, go to his place (or vise versa) and help him study if he doesnt mind.

Q: Heres whats going on...see theres this guy I really like and we go to school together and we have known eachother for over 3 months now and we went out on dates and everything like that and when we went on our first date afterwards he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes and then the next day he told me it was a mistake and that he came on to me to fast and well we hung out some more and everything and we hang out everyday at school because we have to classes out of 4 together and he gets mad whenever someone asks him if me and him are dateing because we kinda act like we are like by flirting and everything and well on our second date we held hands and then the next day he told me once again that he thought it was a mistake and that he was just trying to make me happy by holding my hand and like one minute he says that he likes me more then a friend and then the next minute he says he only likes me for a friend "For Now" I mean I dont know what I should do...because he is playing all of these childish games with me and if anyone could help me out with this it would help me out so much...If any guys out there who reads this knows whats going on with this dude and why hes doing me like this please help me out...Because I dont know if I should stick around or move on and find someone else...thanks to anyone who answers this for me...sorry its so long!!
Signed:Sad, Hurt, And Confused

it seems like this guy doesnt even know what he wants, every time he makes a move, he says its a mistake, just ask him what he wants. Does he want to stay friends or does he want you to become gf/bf but later and not so fast?

Q: ok well i have been going out with my boyfriend 4 almost 6 months and i think he is the one. but sometimes i am like no he cant be the one and i just think and think about it and other times i am like i know he is the one. i love him 2 death and i know that will never change. but do think this relationship will last ?????? and is it right 2 think that your boyfriend is the one at a young age????? he is 14 turning 15 and i am 13 turnin 14
-confused

well, its natural to have doubts, that means you really love him. But its very rare to marry a guy youve been dating since junior high. But best of luck, it is possible! Ever watched "Boy meets world"? hes been friends with her since they were kids, started dating at 12-13 then got married! Just dont run off and get married now ;)

Q: my best friend just called me 2 minutes ago. I was over her house earlier but her Dad said I couldnt stay for dinner which is weird because i do alot. Im practically part of their family. But anyways, my friend calls me and goes, "My mom has breast cancer." Then she had to go but she promise she`d call me back. PLEASE help! Anyone. I need something to say to her - Im crying because her mom is like so close to me and my family. I have never been through this and i dont know how to comfort her. ♥

Well, the right thing to do is offer her your shoulder to cry on if she feels like crying. You cant say anything, because it might be the wrong thing to say. Medicine is developing every day, so im sure that theres a cure for her mother. You cant say that to her because shell start thinking "what if they cant cure her?"
So just be there by her side, thats what real friends do. If you really wanna say something, chose your words carefully.

Q: Hi,
I'm going on holiday to Europe with my friend in the next holiday. We are gonna go out a lot of places but the thing is I have really heavy periods. There is a chance I will be on my period for this holiday and they are so heavy that I can't walk around or anything without having to rush to the toilet. I know I should see the doctor, I have an appointment for when we get back. But what excuses can I give my friend as to why I can't go out for the couple of days my period is this heavy? Could I pretend I was ill? I DON'T want to tell her I am having heavy periods 'cause it's just gross OK. So don't answer with that.

thats one tough situation, I know its very hard for a lot of girls to talk about "it", so I understand. Anyway, make up an excuse, do not say you're ill, because it would be obvious that you're not. You can either tell her youre really busy, or you're too tired to go to Europe and youd go with her some other time.
If you really really wanna go to Europe, take pills. I dont know what theyre called, but married women use them on honeymoons. But they can really screw up your system.

Q: The boy "C" I have been talking about is starting to talk to me again. Well not actually talking but I'll hit him and he'll hit me back and he'll sit next to me. Anyways a whole lot of people is telling me that they like him and they have way more better chances of going with him than me.But you see I really really like him. We havent actually had a serious conversation because of all those girls that always all up on him and if there not around then his little clique is around. I really need to know what to do around like 1:30 today it will help me a lot!

Sorry, just registered. But I'll tell you what to do anyways: Are these girls psychic? How do they know if they have better chances than you? theres only one person who knows who has a better chance, and thats C. When the girls arent around, try to ask him about them and see what he thinks. You'll find out what he thinks of each one of them. Maybe he likes you back, or hes just beeing friendly. Just talk to him more often, flirt to show him you're interested, and wait...

Q: This boy we call Pogo thinks I like him but I dont at least not anymore. At first he was all I thought about but now since I got a really good look at him he is ugly. I mean he has yellow teeth and he cant walk straight he smells funny and look so gay.I dont even want to be his friend anymore because he is so annoying. So what should I do?

Hmmm... its looks like you're concentrating about the negative things in this Pogo.What about the positive things? But if he thinks you like him, and you dont, try to tell him you wanna stay friends, or give him hints that you dont see him that way.

Q: ok theres this boy i really like and i have a feeling he likes me to but he also seems as shy as me even though he seems to hide it bettr than me. But to the point. Ok i really like him and i want to say something to him even if its just "hi" but the thing is when i do see him my mom and my friends mom is there and they always watch us so its really embaressing and then i ignore him when i dont want to!! plz help!!!

P.S. i see him ocasionally but im homeskooled so it's sorta a different story...

I think you should ignore the grownups and go say "hi" to him anyway! Its just an innocent "hi". If you keep ignoring him, he'll think you dont even know he exists or you're not interested in him. Try to go say "hi" to him, strike a conversation, give him your phone number, or your email adress to chat later (msn, AIM...).
Its always an innocent "hi" that breaks the ice, so go for it! if your mom asks questions, say "just some guy"or "just a friend of mine"
But do not say to the guy you like him, because you're not sure, he should make the 1st move.

Q: hey everyone
well today is report card day. I'm home from school because of it (today school is 1/2 day) What happens is our parents go to school to pick up our report cardds. Right now i'm a nervous wreck! It's because i still have to wait a few hours befor getting my grades. I'm really stressed. Is there anything i can do to relieve the stress untill later??
please help (and no answers like "do drugs") thanks!

Well, I think that you should find something to distract you. Personally, I think you're lucky that your parents go collect it. In my school, the school gives it to us and we have to give it to our parents ourselves! Anyway, I suggest reading, cooking, baking, cleaning, drawing, internet, videogames, anything that can distract you! Anything to stop you from thinking about it.

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