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Hi, I'm just really out in life to have some fun, trying to keep homework, my life, my friends, my pets and school under control. I wouldn't call me the average teenager because I am quite different with my personal circumstances. But I can honestly say I wouldn't have it any other way (well maybe some changes). I have learnt good and bad things the hard way and watched friends get hurt- I haven't been through it all but I'm working on it. Help you? I'm not sure but lets see how well this advice column goes. Ask Shaylee :)

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All my friends do all this oral sex crap with all the guys... im waiting till im married to do all that stuff. I think they are total sluts for doing it with just a radom guy they know, when they dont even have feelings for them at all, just friendly ones. I really think its gross i mean were only in 8th grade and were 14... i mean makeing out and that is ok but yeah ... am i wrong?

I don't think you should judge your friends to much. Yes you are right in your beliefs but so are they. You can't force what you believe on them not to mention it will hurt their feelings as well. Hi mate- YOU'RE A SLUT, isn't the nicest way to treat your friends.
I think its kind of bad to lose your virginity to a random stranger, someone you are not close to but hey- since when has that been a new idea in our society. It happens all the time.
Slut is a very powerful word, means they sleep around a hell of a lot. Its very offensive and not a term to be used lightly.
They are your friends for better or worse, that means no judging so don't. You can tell them how you feel and that what they are doing probabley isn't right, but you can't pass judgement on someone.

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im so paranoid and self consicous about me and my boyfriend. i kno he loves me and we are verrry close to eachother and weve been together for a while but even if he says something like ill call you at 7 and he calls at 8...i get sooo upset for that hour i wait..ill be like oh hes late he doesnt love me or watever i dont know i always do this...whats wrong with me? i KNOW he loves me but i get soo hurt and think bad things if he doesnt call when he said he would or something!! its so weird...help

Well it seems that you just love him but have a few problems with trusting him- that he will be loyal to you and such. Everyone feels it but its an imaginary most of the time. Like here- he loves you and yet you don't fully believe it.

Why? Have some more self confidence. He loves you for you and won't cheat on you. Relax a little bit as well it will be better from then on. Think of all the times that you have been late to something. That he doesn't love you is one of the reasons, BUT so is running late, forgetting, odd chores, the whole world has fallen down and its in his way to getting to the phone.

It is normal to feel this way- called being human but you can't let it take over your life, relax a little trust that your boyfriend will call you back.

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yah i really dont know what to do anymore i swear my boyfriend is going nuts on me. just because i dont tell him what is wrong. i mean i cant tell him my feelings he has to go all pyscho on me. i dont like it i dont know what to do. plz help me.

Okay firstly- he should respect you and not go nuts but thats hard sometimes.

When you don't tell him something he will think firstly why? Why won't you tell him, I mean he is your boyfriend and pretty close to you so why won't you tell him. So he has two conclusions- as most guys do *sigh

A) you are hiding something from him- which hurts him and makes him wonder

or

B) you don't trust him- which hurts him as well

So basically when he goes nuts it does make sense in a weird way don't it. Firstly if you aren't going to tell him- tell him why and ease his mind.

You should also ask yourself why you aren't telling him, why don't you trust him. Trust is a very important part in the relationship and if you don't trust him enough to tell him your feelings then the relationship could be headed for rocky ground

good luck

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hey um.....i tried to use a tampon b4 and it hurt....BAD. I need help am i doing it right??? HELP!!

I used to have this same problem when I started

When you have inserted the tampon- you aren't supposed to feel it at all. Did it hurt when you pulled it out- like was it hard to pull out. This is because the level of absorbancy was to high. Switch to a lower one. Otherwise it will keep on hurting. This is because the tampons are designed to slip out when they are full. If they are not full well they don't want to come out and when you force them- it hurts.

Firstly look at the tampon when you pull it out- if it has any white spots on it you have a way to high absorbancy. Switch to a lower one- it will stop hurting

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