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Q: Lets assume you are seventeen, and youve been going out with your boyfriend for a while, who has been your best friend for 4 years. And you know you are ready and its the right thing to lose your virginity to him. You are completely prepared and use protection (both condom and birth control.) Do you think although you're ready, seventeen is still too young to have sex?

okay your first time should be with someone you REALLY care about. Im not one to say marrige befor sex, but you must ask yourself do you love him?
to answer you question is seventeen to young for sex? i think no; but you BOTH must be comfortable with the idea, and truley like each other.

Q: 14/f.
i really like this guy alot hes a year older than me He's probuly eveything i could ask for honestly
Hes's extreamly nice and everything that goes along with it. When were toghther we have such a good time. And idk he wants me to meet his parents because i guess they have been bugging him but i think i maybe a little young to start meeting parents and stuff.
I have with other guys but its a little weird
him wanting me to meet his parents. So i'm gunna sum this up why would he want me to meet his mom and dad and when i do meet them what would impress them?

okay meeting a guys parents isn't that big of a thing as it is lead to believe, dont go saying to yourself "how will i impress them"; be yourself! because if your trying to be someone your not HE will notice and so will they.
Think of it as if your going to your girlfriends house.. im guessing you've meet there parents. Its a natural thing , so dont be nervous or scared.

Q: hi
i need help
wheneva i go out with guyz i end up not liking them as much as when we arent going out and i dont kno wat to do cuz i always think i want a boyfrend but then once i get them i stop likin them what should i do ?

okay.
the reason you are feeling this way is probably because you feel asthough you got them easy.
you need someone who will "challenge" you.
Dont give yourself out to easy, let the guy chase you for a while before anything happens.
try dating different type of guys, and not sticking to the same sterotype more than twice.This will help you explore different challenges and will keep you interested in the guy longer.
good luck

Q: There's a guy in my lunch period and everyday I walk by him he looks at me and lately I've worked up the courage to look him in the eyes as I walk by as well. It's really quite sweet, we hold each other's gaze until I'm behind him at my table. I'm the one to usually break the gaze. I'm really diggin him, he's cute and he skateboards, he used to smoke weed but he quit for lacrosse and because he didn't like who he was when he was high. Anyways, I feel like his looking at me is his first step to try and like.. tell me something. I want to talk to him but I don't want to just sit at his lunch table and he like "HEY!" haha so what do I do? Do you think I should even try to talk to him? What do you think him looking at me all the time means and him not breaking the gaze first.. ever? Thanks!

okay you say you dont want to make the first move, this is okay. drop other hints of your interest by adding a smile or wink as you walk past. if he continues to glaze at you gradually start say a soft "hey" as you walk past then continue to your table.

Q: There is a boy. Like 90% of these questions start. He is in my gym class. He's adorably cute but unadorably shy haha. Anyway, like I said, I have gym with him but we are in different squads so basically, I never see him. So, my friend has been talking to him about me and she's been telling me the things he says. Some of the things that come to my mind right now are "I will most definitely be on facebook to talk to her" "I think she's funny, she's to shy to talk to me" or my friend told him today to talk to me when I come down the steps before gym (everyone chills outside the locker rooms before we change) I walked down the stairs, she called his name and he didn't come over but he said he would. So, she was in the gym with him while I was down for my music lesson and she said "why didn't you say anything to her? you said you would." and he said "I don't know" and she said "well, are you nervous?" and he said "..yea kinda" but he knows I like him so it would be so easy for him to talk to me because he knows I won't be a snob to him. So, why is he acting like this? Is he not diggin me? I thought from the things he was saying that he was kinda into me, am I wrong? Thanks.

there is an even chance that he like you and doesn't. Best advice is to become friends with him, start off simple .. say hey to him and his mates when you pass them ect.
if he likes you let it come gradually,he needs time to get over his nerves.
good luck
Gabiie