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Q: How do I let a guy know I want to kiss him? What kind of signs should I give him? And how do I approach this whole thing? Please give me any other advice or suggestions because im going for my first kiss soon!

Well if you go out with him then one of the ways to get him to kiss you is to look in his eyes dreamy-ly and make sure he is looking at you the same. Then you realy got him so you can say "kiss me " softly or you can make the move or wait for him to. But if you guys don't go then you proble want to get the hook up and if you need more advice on that feel more then free to ask me.......C.L.N good luck friend bye

Q: My sister is almost 16 and going through this stage where she thinks shes better than everyone, especially me. She's always pushing me around.. and everything she says to me is some sort of comment to bring me down. She mocks me and tells me to shut the f*** up and all this other inappropriate stuff for NO reason. I just ignore her, because its stupid to even bother arguing with someone as immature as her. But sometimes i get so mad, I just want to punch her in the face and put her in her place. I've talked to my parents and they know that she THINKS she's so hot. I cant ignore her any longer, im sick of her thinking she has the right to walk over me. (And my brothers and sisters.) How do I stand up? And dont tell me to sit down and talk to her. You dont understand - this girl will NOT listen that way.

All I can say is don't give her the attention she wants. When she say something realy un-called-for don't say anything back just ack like you didn't hear her ack like you don't care then she will see it don't bother you. Next when she call you take long time to come or tell here to hold don't come as soon cuz then she will feel like she got you like that. When she walks in the house or any room ack like you didn't see her she's not even there. So basicly don't give her what see wants make it clear she just like the others no different k and good luck friend any other ?s jus ask me.......C.L.N bye

Q: ok i havent gotten my first period yet, but i had a spot where my vagina touches (srry :P) that was brown, like almost poop colored. it was pretty small though. like a little smaller than a dime, or a dime sized. i got it like two days ago but havent had it since. i had a little more than usual discharge 2 or 3 days before it happened i also in the past 2 days after i got it had pretty light discharge, almost none when i have been getting it for a while. what is this? do u have any idea what could be happening? PLZZZ HELP! :) ASAP! as many answers as possible wld be soooo helpful!!! :) THanks!! :)))

No iits not your pieriod it could be something els tough so just keep a look out on how othen that happens k

Q: The first time I had "sex", he didn't get it all the way, he just got in the head. Does this count as popping my cherry, or am I still considered a virgin?

You are not a virgin but when you pop your cherry you have to bleed so if not then no he didn't but yeah you are not a virgin so yeah .

Q: ok, so i watched a tv commercial for a yeast infection thing and i think it got me kinda paranoid. but i am 13 by the way and i used a coat hanger (once)as a dildo for like only a minute and just found out i can get an infection but how do i know if i do??? then when i stck my finger in there it kinda hurts a little bit, not sure if it's "burning" but is that normal? i don't have any wierd discharge or really bad smelling vagina, but it was a little itchy for like a couple minutes but it would probably have to itch more than a couple minutes for an infection.
i just want to know if it is normal to have some pain when i stick my finger in me??? and if it sounds like i have an infection or if im just paranoid???

Ok sweety I don't think you have an infection at all it realy sould hurt because your sticking a hanger in there I'm still trying to figure out how realy how did you do that. But anywho make sure you clean the hanger before and after use. Not trying to give ideas but most people I know use the handle of a brush or something cuz its more like a dildo and I'm sure that the hanger is the reason for the pain so try something els and make sure you clean it. Any other questions feel free to ask me.....C.L.N.....bye friend.

Q: 17/f

I don't know why this happens to me. but me and this guy like each other. we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend yet but we definitely have potential. anyways, we hang out a few times. and we have fun a lot. A few times, we will even kiss and make out. Out of like the 20 times we hung out, we've gotten pretty frisky like 4 times. Here's my problem, when we do go pretty far.. I always get this sick feeling in my stomach. Like I have to throw up. You know how right before you throw up, you get that sour feeling in your mouth? and like a bunch of saliva in your mouth? That's how i feel when we make out a bunch and get really into it. I don't know why this happens?

Its like whenever it happens, I have to tell him to stop and I get a drink of water and try to calm myself down, but it doesn't really go away. I don't think it's because i'm nervous.. because I'm never nervous around guys. especially him. I always feel myself around him. Help!

How are you guys kissing like is it realy messy mabe its just that and I'm sure its nothing wrong just try to not be so sloppy when you kiss him and mabe that will help your problem good luck with that.

Q: I am in desperate need of advice. I am a 17 year old girl and I'll be 18 in May. I really like this boy but he is 14 years old and will only be 15 in October. My mom just found out and she told me that it's up to me, but it'll be against the law when i turn 18, i could go to jail if something goes wrong and someone in his family wants to start trouble. Honestly, yes, the age gets to me sometimes, but he acts so much older even with his friends, but he is 14 and my brother is 12, it's weird when i think about it, but when im with him, its amazing, and he is so sweet to me and shares what he feels unlike other guys. I also wonder does he think im amazing, and sweet, and everything he says about me just because im older them him, is he infatuated by the age difference or does he really like me for me? I need to know what you think... is it worth it or should i go for this other guy who is older than me, but the thing is i can see the 14 year old a lot but i cant see the 20year much.HELP!

Ok well I don't want to say go with him cuz I realy don't want you to go to jail and then you can wait till he is older but then realy who want to wait that long right. So I would say your best beat will be with the 20year old. But if you realy like the 15yr then just dont kiss him and you know sex is a no no be very careful and you sould think about what you should do cuz you want to be on the safe side too and I know even though I'm grown my family will trip too so good luck and do what's best for YOU no one els and if you need more advice on anything I'm here bye friend.

Q: I've had a major crush on my pastor. I met with him for advice spirtual he was advising me but also flirting with me via eye contact!!! He also walked me to the car when it was done! I've been thinking about him ever since!!! I want to tell him how I feel but yet I'm scared!!! I need some advice

Wait wait wait!!! How old are you and how old is he and most pastors are married so I don't know that's realy crazy and mabe you should just I realy don't know sorry hope things work out for you....realy bye friend

Q: Can someone give me a link to the music video I Kissed a Girl? Who sings this song? Lyrics would be helpful also.

The girl who sings the song " I kissed a girl " name is Katy Perry.
Don't know any links but some of the lyrics go like this.
"I kised a girl and I liked it the taste of her cherry chapstick , I kised a girl just to try it hope my boyfriend don't mind it it felt so wrong it felt so right don't mean I'm in love tonight I kissed a girl and I liked it,
I liked it"..............( man love that song lol hope I helped
C.L.N

Q: so,, im 16 and i have had sex with 8 guys.. does that mean im a hoe?? or that i love sex too much? also. what is the best way to have sex that will feel the greatest?? make me orgasm faster??

Slooooow dooown sweety its nothing good about that at all. At your age I can tell you all those guys don't give a crap about you so think you are so young you should have your head in school. Realy you should stop no smiles about this. Pluse I'm coming at you as a friend and ..... that's soo bad you lay with guys and have sex me I started when I was 19 come on you can do better. Hope this opend your eyes and if not.......... ...... condoms dont want to be on that show 16 and pregant. bye .....kid
C.L.N
THAT'S NOT COOL AT ALL

Q: i know this is an awkward question, but why do women spray milk if they're breastfeeding if ANY child cries?

UUM is the question your trying to ask why milk come out womens breast and how. If so then its not like the milk is already there its just that the baby produce it and that's the only way milk can get there but sorry if I didn't realy get your question you can write it over is you like and I'm sure I can answer it bye.

Q: is it weird that i have masturbated? i havent started my period at all yet and i was wondering if it had anything to do with masturbating!??!?!??! HELP PLZZZ!!!!!! Can masturbation keep you from starting? ASAP help!!

13 3/4/f

No it realy can't stop you from starting so your just fine. You proble just start in a cupple of days or weeks cause most people start around the ages 12-14 so don't worry I'm sure you would get it soon friend
If there is any other questions feel free to ask... .. .. ..bye

Q: There's a kid in my lunch period named Jake. Every time I walk in the caf, I have to walk by his table and he looks at me, it's a look that makes me melt. He's adorable and my heart skips a beat when he looks at me. Anyways, when he looks at me, it seems like forever until we look away and I'm usually the one to break the glance. He does it to me in the halls, his locker is near-ish mine and he does it if we walk by each other. Also, today he turned around and saw that I was throwing my tray away so he got up and threw his away too so we would run into each other in the aisle going to the garbage, I know, romantic right haha. He's adorably cute if I din't mention that already haha (: so, do you think he thinks I'm cute or what, like why does he keep looking at me? Thanks.

The reason he keep looking at you is because he proble find you cute and he looks at you a lot so that you can notice him which you do and he wants you to know he notices you to now I think you should try to talk to him and a way to start is to just smile at him when you see him looking and then start to wave then soon you would start talking. Good luck

Q: I just want to know what the "look" is? Is it like "oh my, she's perfect, I want her"? I don't know like my one friend tried to explain it by saying you know it's the look because the guy's eyes will get softer and his face will get calmer. I don't understand. So, please explain it and explain if I know when I'm getting the "look". Thanks!

Ok so the look realy can mean two things.
One is like if a girl is giving you the look then she just realy don't like you and two if a guy give you the look it could be like he want you do any thing to get you or think your "HoT" the way you can teel the two apart is the good look would best be known as "The Eye" and the one that's bad is "The Look" but its seems he is giving you the eye. I would say jump on that.good luck friend .

Q: There's this boy I'm starting to like but we have no classes together so my friend tells him to get on facebook so we can talk and she tells him all the stuff but he never holds true to what he says he's going to do. Like Friday he said "I will most definitely be on facebook" and he didn't go on. I know I'm thinking to hard, maybe he got caught up in something and could not go on. My friend says everytime she says my name he smiles though. However, he can't talk to me. Why is that? Do you think he likes me? Thanks.

Oooh yeah he likes you but proble he don't have a computer at home or something.
I think you should write him a note to have you guys meet up and give it to your friend to give to him and mabe like right after class you guys could meet up and talk
I know that can be hard but if he like you he well come and that will also give you that answer (do he like you) so good luck.

Q: why does wet sand sparkle at night when you step on it, write in the sand, kick it, etc.?

Well sand come from chiped off rocks of bolders and glass and if you ever cracked a rock its like supper sparkely and that must reflect of the moonlight right .hope I helped?

Q: Dose geting fingerd count 4 not being a virgin

Not realy cuz I don't think that's poping your cherry u knw.

Q: how long does it take for weed to leave your body, the last time i smoked was 3/5/10... i need to take a urine drug test to get a job, so i was wondering how long to wait to make sure its completely out... btw ive only smoked 2 other times in my life, once in october and once in november of last year...

Now this is a for sure answer no mabe or buts. If you drink a lot of tea then for sure it will be gone in a week.

Q: the guy im dating's kisses are pretty gross, he is alot bigger than me and he slobbers from my chin to over my nose its pretty bad.. i told him follow my lead, close ur mouth, just relax and all that kind of stuff but he doesnt seem to really get it. how can i teach him or show him how. i already give tips sweetly as we kiss, and i do hold through even though its very gross on my part and to be nice. its to the point i move away from a simple peck kiss pretty quick because i dont want him to start that.. but haha any advice??

Just tell him that he is slobbering all over your face and that it is killing the moment.
Then give him advice on how he can do it better. Hope I helped alittle.

Q: I don't want to go to school tomorrow, because, of personal reasons. So, I'm going to try & make my self throw up - any tips??

haha, don't even start with calling me stupid, because with the situation I'm in, I CAN'T go to school. Thanks a lot [♥]

One thing you can do other then throwing up is to rub under your nose untill it turns red and rub your eyes I heard that one always works. Sometimes you can even wake up late so they can think your sick if that is what your trying to do but yeah good luck friend.

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