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Hey!I'm Kendall, i go by Kenda, and I'm 15 years old. I love to hang out with my friends, party, go shopping, read, & write. School isnt really challenging to me, so I really don't try all that much & still get all a's. I like to do alot of wild & crazy things because, hey, you only live once so why not try it? I don't spend too much time with my family, so I'm not quite good at answering 'how do i apologise to my parents?' questions, but I can help you with family problems. Ask me anything x3333

Im a sophomore this year at NCHS so i've delt with tons of problems over the past few years. I love to give advice to anyone and i hope i do a good job at it too. You dont have to put your name on the message if you dont want. Ask me anything, so dont be shy or nervous! :D I respond pretty fast to questions!

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ok well my friend has become the laziest person in the world since her step sister came down. she never wants to do anytinhg and when she says she will do sumthing she always makes an excuse to get out of it. If her step sister doestn want to do sumthing then she doesnt either and it is so annoying and she has become a very different person and i dont like it. what should i do?

Maybe she just wants to spend time with her stepsister..*maybe* but if not then you should tell her that's she's changed alot becuz of this and you want to hang out with her. If she doesn't change after u talk to her then maybe she's just bein inconsiderate..Get her stepsister to talk to her too if ya can. hope that helped ~*~kendall~*~

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my boyfriend jake is a really great guy and i love him and everything but then sometime i think we would be better as friends but i dont know why i feel this way. I dont know if i should stay with him or just be friends. Either way i think i will be happy, but if we break up i know Jake wont! Yet then if we arent going out i feel like i dont know im incomplete. im just confused. What should i do?

Well if you think that you would be better as friends then maybe you should be. It'll make you happy. Just try n convince him that you two would make better friends and if he doesnt understand..hes not worth your time. Don't worry about the imcompleteness cuz there's always time and one day that someone will come! hope that helped! ~*kendall~*

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- - Ok, i asked out my best friend mike, cuz i really liked him. He said no, and now i just found out he is going out with my friend Alisa... what do i do? Cuz i'm really hurt..

ANd I have a friendship question too.. My best friend Caitlin said she'd call when she got back from this girl Ashley's house, and she hasn't called.. and it isn't like her to lie or break a promise or anything to me... i can't get ahold of her either. What should i do

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- Rachie

I think you should just wait around for Mike and Alisa to break up (no affense to your friend!) When/If they do break up you two could always hook up! But for now i think you should just be a good friend to him till they breakup. If she never breaks a promise then maybe something came up when she got home like an emergency or something that got in the way of calling you. Or maybe she was just a little too busy with house work or something. But im sure she'll call soon if she promised to. Im not quite sure if this Ashley girl is breaking up ur friendship or not. She coulg be, but only you would know..depending on if your friend calls you soon or not. Hope any of that helps!*!kendall!*

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hey, im in love with this girl and she says she loves me back but for some reason i just cant believe her and i really want to and i want to ask her out but i cant because i have a fear of being rejected
what should i do?
~slightly confused~

If you love this girl, and she says she really does love you, then shes probably telling the truth! Most girls dont say that they love a guy untill they actually fall in love with them. Chances are she probably is in love with you. I think you should ask her out,because i mean if you don't you would be missing out and would always have "Why didnt i ask her out?" going through your mind. If you do ask her out, and she says No, at least you asked her out to see if you would ever have a chance with her! Alot of guys are scared of being rejected! But im thinking that this girl really does love you and that she would say yes to your question! Hope this helped! ~*~kendall~*~

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i have wet and wild fantacies about this guy and he is so sexy and i dont know how to tell him without saying i want to get in your pants. If i told him would i sound like a ho? or even a stalker? i just dont knwo wut to do!

Well im thinking that you're a teenager if you're having these dreams/fantasies about this guy. It's soo natural to have these thoughts about a guy! Most teenage girls have fantasies about the guy they like. Well the way to tell him that you like him..or even if you want to have sex with him (if thats what you aiming for) then you should just tell him that you want to take this a bit further and see what he says. If he doesnt want to or gets nervous, then skip the subject for a while untill you feel like your confident about it and he is too. No you wouldnt sound like a ho if you told him! If you want to tell him about your fantasies then you should! Most guys get aroused by hearing about girl's fantasies between them. So go for it! lol Hope this helped!~*~kendall~*~

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i think im really fat and i dont feel comfortable when im around guys because im think im fat and so i act shy which makes things boring and ive tried losing weight but like i cant stay on a diet because i dont like it. I dont like going to the pool because i dont like wearing a bathing suit. my friends tell me im not fat but there friends they are like suppose to say stuff like that. what can i do?

Okay well if you think you're fat and your friends are disagreeing with you, then chances are you dont see what they see..you're seeing something different. If you really are overweight and have been told you are, then there are thinks can help you lose weight! Yes i know diets can be hard because my uncle use to be on one and he never could stay on it. But he lost a few pounds by excersizing. Things like curlups,crunches, weight lifting work. But i think that mainly running work help you burn fat. Running for about an hour a day or more is a really good way to get in shape! I know it seems like alot,but sometimes running laps isnt that hard either! Im not an absolute expert on loseing weight, but if you go and see a Doctor, they can suggest a ton of ways to lose weight! But i suggest that if you eat snacks like in between meals, then just cut down on those for a bit, because those may be what's causing it! But when you're around guys, you have to have confidence! Hun if you're around guys, and they enjoy being around you..chances are you're not fat. you just have low-self confidence! But i hope any of this helped!~*~kendall~*~

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whats it like to be a girl?

Go experiment with your mom and find out. Or just become transsexual.

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i have a friend and her stepsister is staying with her for the summer. me and some of her other friends all love her stepsister because she is the same age and everything, but then while my friend is away at camp or something she wont let us hang out with her stepsister because she tells her mom that she doesnt like us doing thnigs without her. she was gone for a week while her stepsister was here and her stepsister had to go to her grandmas everyday instead of getting to hang out with us because she didnt want us to hang out wth her. she will be going to camp again and a few of us want to confront her about this but we dont know how to do it or what to do if she says we still cant

Okay, well no affense to your friend who is going to camp..but she's acting a little immature if she doesnt want you to hang out with her stepsister. You should beable to hang out with her even if your other friend doesnt want you to. I understand that your friend doesnt want you to do things without her, but you friend needs to understand that you'll be doing things without her with someone else all summer while shes away at camp. Just talk to her about this whole thing and tell her how you feel about her keeping you away from her stepsister. If she still doesnt want you to hang out with her stepsister, then i think you should talk to her mom or her stepdad about. I know talking to them seems all kidish, but if you really wanna hang out with her stepsister then you have to find out a way to get around your friend going to camp. So talking to her parents when shes not home is an idea. Or just figure out a way that she could somehow spend the summer at your house or something so that way she would beable to hang out with you..or atleast let her spend the night a few nights so that way she cant go to her grandmas for the summer. If you get more friends to talk to that one friend (going to camp) about her stepsister, then im sure she'll have to agree to let her stay. I hope that helped!~*~kendall~*~

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there is this guy and he is so hott and i wanna fuck him and i think he wants to have sex with me too. but i dont know ive never had sex before so im scared! will it hurt? and then i said i would let ALL his friends join am i a ho for saying that? i hope not! well i just need advice on what to do!

Well...that's great that you two wanna have sex, lol. Its perfectly fine to be scared, most virgins are before they have sex. Yeah it does hurt the first time. No you're not a ho for inviteing his friends! If inviting his friends brings pleasure to you..umm..then do it!lol hope any of that helped!lol

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ok ok there is this guy and i like him so so so much and i think i actually know he likes me to but he thinks i dont like him anymore and then most of my friends would get mad at me if i told him i liked him and went back out with him and then everyone would call me stupid and blah so like i cant tell him i like him or sumthing bad will happen with my friends so ahhh i dont know wut to do.

Well i think that you should tell this guy that you like him, i mean because if you hide your feelings too long you might become depressed, which happens alot when people do that. If you're friends really care about you then they will stand by your decision on what you make, and NOT tell you your dumb or get mad at you. I think if you tell him, it'll take stress off of your back and his as well. Because i mean he's probably waiting for you to tell him how you feel. Im sure if you dont tell him..he's gonna be heartbroken. Hope this helped!:)~*~kendall~*~

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ok i have a friend and hes pressuring me to have sex with him but i dont want to cause i like these other guys..and i dont want to do that at my age cause i dont want people to find out and call me a hoe..although everyone already does..what do i do?

Okay, well this guy who is pressuring you, is obviously just using you for sex. If he ever says he loves you..I really don't think he means it. You see if he TRULLY loved you, he wouldnt pressure you into this. The right thing to do is to keep refusing to give in. Dont let your mind give in because that would cause a huge mistake! If he keeps pressuring you into it, then i think you should tell an older sibling, a parent(more like a mom because they can relate to us!), or a close friend. They can talk to you about this whole thing and help you sort it out. If you get really worried that this guy is going to try to well..rape you, then quickly tell a parent before he actually trys to. I really do think that you shouldnt be around this guy anymore because he could get you alone and well yeah. And since you like another guy i think you should talk to him about this if you havnt already, and make sure he's got your back on everything and always will. And dont worry when your friends are around, they always have your back! Talking about this to someone will help you get alot of this stress off your back because they can help you in soo many ways and keep you safe when you need to be. I hope any of this helps!:) ~*~kendall~*~

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i like this guy but then i dont think he likes me and i dont know what to about it cause he says he likes me but whenever he is around other girls he just completly blows me off! what do i do?

I think you should talk to him about the whole blowing you off thing. If he TRULLY does like you,then he will understand and try his best to put you first around others! It might be hard to admit this to him..and he might find it hard to believe he's actually blowing you off,but later on he WILL notice it. Just make sure you talk to him about it so he notices, if you dont..he will continue to ignore you. If talking to him doesnt help..then i dont think he's really the guy for you. But talking usually helps! So good luck!

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ok i think im overweight and im 14..i dont know what to do..cause whenever i look at myself in the mirror i dont belive its me cause of my weight..idont like it and i dont no what to do!

If you think that you're trully overweight, you shouldn't be ashamed! Alot of people go through it, and there are soo many ways of loseing weight to gain your self-confidence back. Weight lifting works, crunches, sit-ups work. I would say that running for about an hour a day would lose about maybe 1-2 pounds a week. Also theres always things like cutting down on snacks and eating healthier. Tell me if it all works out for ya! Hope that helped!

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i like a girl and she likes me back but we just had a huge fight and now i dont think we can go out
what should i do?

Okay, well first is that you need to talk to her about it. Talk to her about how you feel and how she feels. Explain why you're mad at her and try to make her understand that you don't like whatever's happening right now in your guy's relationship. Ask her how she feels about you guys being together and if shes happy with you being with her. If she is then ASK HER OUT! If not, then give her time because i mean if she likes you..shes bound to come around soon enough!

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