I am The Crusader. I'm headstrong. I'm a debater. I'm in High School...but that doesn't make my advice suck. I'm nice...sometimes. I'm opinionated. I'm a feminist, and I'd love to change your mind on exactly what that means. I like you until I'm given a reason not to, and it's very easy to give me a reason not to. I love life.
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ok well,this is sorta a love life thing, but i dont know it has to do with singing. so i was alone after school in the gym and i was shooting hoops waiting for my boyfriend to pick me up and i didnt know my friend was behind me, so i started singing, and then i shot the ball and when it came back down and i got the rebound, i turned around and he was standing there, and i was like really embarrased, even though he said i was a terrific singer. the only person i can sing in front of is my boyfriend, who also says im a good singer. but i dont know, im really afraid to sing in front of people. (link)
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So, um, what's the problem?
Are you expected to sing in public now? It just seems like someone overheard you, and turns out you're a good singer.
Why are you afraid to sing in public?
If you don't have to sing and no one is forcing you to, it sounds like you're worrying about nothing really.
Relax. You're probably very talented. :-)
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Ok, this might be kind of long but here goes...I have been going out with my boyfriend for 9 months, and we are really getting on eachothers nerves, we fight over little things a lot and its getting old. He's always by my side and following me, hes really clingingy and hes just getting annoying. Don't get me wrong, he is the best boyfriend I have ever had--literally--and the longest relationship, but I just want to be friends right now. I don't want any boyfriend at all, but I have issues with breaking up with people. I don't like to hurt people's feelings I hate makeing people feel bad or cry, and I need some ideas as to how I could break up with him, but let him know I still love him, we still have a very big chance, I just need a break and want to be friends for awhile?
I rate high to answers that don't offend or piss me off.
Thanks for you help. (link)
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Well, I'll try not to offend you or piss you off. :-P
I can understand how you don't want to hurt his feelings; I feel the same way. I hate being viewed as a bad guy to the people I care about.
It really does seem like your boyfriend really likes you, which makes it harder. However, does he know what he's doing is annoying you? Maybe you might want to suggest he stop being so clingy for a while.
I'm wondering if you actually want to break up with him, because it sounds like you might just need space from this one guy. Maybe you can just say be completely honest with him. I've found it easiest to break up if you don't do it totally out of the blue and you give the person what they need after the relationship (ie: their space).
Maybe you could start a discussion with him about how you need your space right now and you don't feel like at this stage of your life you don't need a boyfriend. However, you still love and value your friendship with him, so would he consider just being friends for a few months?
Just try to compliment him while you break up with him. Say however, not but. It's a stupid grammar technique I picked up studying communication. It sounds a lot less hurtful you you say however instead of but. Don't ask me why.
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ok the guy I'm crazy about is also a good friend of mine. And for the last week I've noticed he's been hanging around with B and I thought he liked her a lot. And today I saw him writing a note that and he was asking her out. Then after school I talked to him and said, "So did u give it to her?" and he said "yeah, but it's because I'm being forced into it." and so I asked him what was going on, and he told me that B's friend W has been driving him crazy trying to get him to go out with B, and he's sick of it so he asked her out and really only wants to be friends with B. (which made me really happy by the way... ) so my question is, what should I do now??? (link)
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Why do you need to do anything? The only way you're involved with this situation is because you're crushin' on this one dude.
So why don't you just offer your advice and sympathy to B, but let the problem work itself out. Are you good friends with B? Because if you're not, I can only see damaging effects on your reputation by getting involved.
Honestly, the situation sends up a "Stay far, far away" flag in my head.
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You are the prettiest thing in the world, so how come we haven't gotten married yet? (link)
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Because I just can't commit to anyone who isn't Johnny Depp in drag. I'm really sorry.
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