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Q: I know it's a weird question. But I have a summer assignment that asked me that. But my family hasn't really impact my life. I need some ideas. How have your guys' family impacted your lives?

-Do you try to act diff. from them because you dont like the way they are?

-Do you try to act the same because the did alot of good?

-Did they put you under alot of stress and make you do stupid stuff?

-Did they encourage you when you to do well, so now your doing peachy?

-Did they neglect you so now your independent?

Just some questions you could
ask yourself.

Hope I Helped
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Q: what do u guys think is prettier being tan or pale?

Depends on the
hair color. I Think
tans better for most people

Q: Hi everyone. I am currently reading the Perfect Storm, but I don't really understand the book. I know its setting but I don't get it on a depper and more analytical way. Can anyone offer advice on this book...a way to better understand it? There aren't any notes about the book on cliffnotes or sparknotes or gradesaver or pinkmoney and I REALLY don't want to pay bookrags and browsing I'm not finding enough information. Please help me....this book is complicated.

Thank you,
Spoolie21

Maybe watching the
movie would help.
idk havent read the book
but seen the movie.

you can see if they
have it at this website.

watch-movies.net

Q: does anybody know a website that you can use to burn music on for free and you dont have to use money

like everybody said
limewire is the best.

But there are viruses. I know cuz
my old labtop crashed from the viruses. Just be careful with it.

Q: So everytime i get a boyfriend that i do really like, my feelings change all of a sudden. and i dont want anything to do with them. and i dont know why. i mean i really do like them, but i find ways to avoid them sometimes. its so weird. or i get worried that there too obsessive.[sp] and i dont know its so weird.
can anybody tell me why? or anything about this.
thank you!

Ugh, I hate this problem.

The getting the guy
and then after a week
not wanting to talk to them.

In my case i think it
has to do with them not being a challenge
anymore.

or

That i like to do my own thing. I dont like
anybody telling me who i can talk to, asking me
where im at or who im with.

This may be why you feel this
way but you have to sit back and think
about it. When you do that im sure you can figure
out why.

Q: I know this is stupid but im just 13 and have no experience...but i was wondering how do you make-out?

I had the same
question until i did it.

but theres no right way to do it.
theres just what the guy/girl thinks is
a turn on.

Start off with a peck on the lips.
Then tilt your head, open your mouth
and stick your tounge in your partners mouth.
Then just rub his/her tounge against yours or you
can circle yalls tounge. Play with there hair if you wanna or you can gently hold there face.

But Trust we when you get there You'll know what to do.

More info here:
http://www.wikihow.com/French-Kiss

Q: Okay, dont ask why but I need the dirtiest song you have ever heard of.
Name and Singer both would be helpfull

Thanks

Wow, um

Get you Wet- Plies
F**k the pain away - Peaches
Two Guys for every girl - Peaches
look back at it - trina
pull my hair -ying yang twins
whisper song - ying yang twins
Do you wanna f**k? - BYZ
my neck - Khia
slob on my knob- Three 6 mafia

Q: there's a commercial on TV for the store target. what song is in the commercial?

If you talking
about the one with
the girls dancing then
its

Calabria-Enur ft. Natasha

Q: you know what it sounds like to have a ringing in your ears? where does that come from? what causes it?

I read about it in
health a couple of days ago.
Its called Tinnitus. Caused by
hearing loud sounds for a long period of time.

You can go here to learn more.

http://www.medicinenet.com/tinnitus/article.htm

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Q: does anyone know any websites where i can get completely free ringtones? i've been looking forever and cannot find any

PhoneZoo.com

Q: does anybody know what the thing called embeded that is next to a youtube video is for ive been tryin to find out but i cant find anything

Its to put the video
on a website or webpage.

Thats all.

Q: I cant decide which color I like better, so, could someone help me?

They're all me, by the way..

BLONDISH..
1)

http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii68/xocrystalox99/125.jpg

2)
http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii68/xocrystalox99/SANY-1.jpg

DARKER BROWN...
3)
http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii68/xocrystalox99/Untitled5.jpg

4)
http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii68/xocrystalox99/crystalandjenn12.jpg

on the left^

If you guys dont like those colors and would like to suggest a different color, that'd be good too! I'm trying to figure out what hair style i want before I head back to school, so thank you!

I like the last one the best.

Q: I might get my eyebrows waxed soon so i would like to know if it hurts badly because i have sensitive skin?

It Didnt hurt me and ive been doing it since i was 11. I would just wash the heck out of your face when you get home cuz some people break out.

Q: okay so i'm 16 and i have never been on a date or even kissed a guy for that matter. it makes me kinda sad because there are freshman who have already had like 3 boyfriends in one year. and i know i shouldn't compare myself to them but it makes me feel like there more mature when i know that there not.
anyways! is this weird that i haven't done anything and i'm already 16?

Everyone starts at a diffrent age.
Plus sometimes boys go 4 the easy girls.
So no theres nothing wierd about that.

Q: 14/f
ive cut for like a year and for the 3rd time im trying to quit i just need someone to talk to about it and i dont mean a shrienk or anyone like that.im not trying to seek attention from this just help. i know how much my life can change if i keep cutting and how important it is to stop but i dont want to hear that.
if your a VERY trustworthy person that i could keep talking to and wouldnt annoy you then HELP ME PLEEZ!

14/f
I stopped cutting myself last summer.
I thought about how im only hurting myself
for the things the people did to hurt me. After that i decided that i was going to do things different. Instead of going to my room and finding a sharp object, I would put on my shoes and go run. It helped me think about other stuff and sometimes made me think about how it was so stupid to hurt myself over nothing. I also think
you should try to throw everything you use to cut away. That would help a lot.

Hope I Helped

Q: 17/f

So tonight I had a guy over, we`ve only hung out once before. We were watching a movie alone in my room but it was hard to follow so we pretty much ended up having a pillowfight. Innocent, I know.

This is because I don`t want a boyfriend right now, so I didn`t give him opportunity to try something else. If I want to do flirty things like that (plus joking around," accidental" physical contact), is it still possible to keep my intentions clear? I`m hoping I won`t have to directly tell him that I`m not wanting a relationship. I already had the opportunity to say I don`t really date but he seemed confused.

Is it okay to do this, or should I stop flirting? If I am completely upfront I`d still like to have some innocent fun while getting to know him. Just as I was writing this he texted me. He only left my house 30 minutes ago. He definitely likes me.

Thanks so much for letting me know my options or possibly how you would handle this situation!

Nothings wrong with having fun a flirting
but I wouldn't lead him on to much
because he could get his heart broken.

Give him hints that
you like being single but still wanna flirt.
Try saying something like " i love being single you can flirt with people". Well something like that.

Hope I Helped
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Q: my little sister is 9 years old, and she still wears a pullup (like a diaper for toddlers) every night to bed. My mom doesn't understand how crazy this is. It's a waste of money, it's terrible for the environment, and it makes no sense! sure, she wets the pullup, but that's only because she isn't being trained not too! She is way too old, but my mom doesn't seem to care, and is too lazy to make her stop, because she doesn't want to be washing the sheets whenever she wets the bed. What should I do? Am I making it a bigger deal than it is? I would understand if she had a real bladder problem or something, but she doesn't, it's just that no one in my family wants to make an effort to stop this! What should I do?

Try a Bed Wetting Alarm.

Plz dont be to hard on her though
because when i was about 7 i had that
problem. Nobody believed me when i told
them that i did know i had to go. They
said i was lieing, but i wasnt.

Q: what are some of adam sandlers songs?/

preferably famous one

-The Chanukah (Hanukkah)song.
-Secrets

You can find alot
more on Youtube.

Q: Hey, could you guys please recommend songs that sort of say "I love you but you don't know it" or something like that. It'd really help. Thanks :)

xoxo,
K

Alicia Keys - You dont know my name.
The Escots - I love you but you dont know me -ha
Erik Faber - I love you(but you dont know)

I think this might work.

Q: First off, I do not see myself as fat. Nor do I think I am skinny. I consider myself absolutely average, with a little more fat then I'd like. Around normal people I feel great. But lately I have been exercising regularly at my gym that I have a membership to and eating less and healthier to shed those extra pounds, and since I started I've realized how many people in this world are the lucky ones..that can pig out soo much and never work out and just be so in shape. The more I think about it, the more it pisses me off. All of my friends but 1 are these "lucky" ones. I feel totally fine with myself (though still wanting to get skinnier for sure) until I get around those people and feel horrible! I want to lose weight for myself not for them, dont get me wrong but it honestly kills me to see those people! I was not born with stick genes and I will never be a stick. It's just NOT FAIR! I even use a calorie/exercise counter every single day. I admit I could eat a little healthier, but I should be allowed to eat a cookie or some chips or go out to eat once in awhile without worrying about it, like all those sticks! So beyond what I am doing now, I know there is not much more I can do to be tiny..but I guess I just need any advice you can give me. I am not even that big and I feel huge!!! I don't know what I am asking really, but any stories or opinions on how to deal or whatever is sooo appreciated! Sorry it's so long thanks =] And I am 16.

I feel the same way. What i was told is that you should eat about 6 small meals a day to get your metabolism up. They also said something about
your body getting used to certain number of calories to burn a day so if one day you eat over that and dont burn enough then your going to start gaining weight.Doesnt really make sense to me but i hope it helped you.

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bio

Im 15 but age is just a number.
Ive been through alot in the past years,
and learned from alot from my mistakes. I think
its best if i only give advice to questions that I
have personaly been through, so I can really help
and make a difference. So thats why I dont answer many questions. I may look mean, but im really not. Its just tha Eyeliner. ha :] love to talk and laugh so if ya wanna do those things then hit me up. :)

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