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Q: ok i don't get it.. i've searched everywhere but nowhere does it give me a proper answer..why the heck did britney spears shave all her hair off!!!?? is it to sell her hair & get a million dollars? or is she crazy? what???????
--britney spears fan

it's her personal preference, is all we know. Maybe she was drunk, or maybe she's having a sabatical. Either way, we don't know, it was her choice. i don't think it was to sell on the internet, though.

Q: i just started watching the show "scrubs" when i was on vacation in florida.. but i dont know what channel it is on where i live (long island, NY)

so if anyone lives here and knows what channel its on, it would be appreciated.. thanks.

The re-runs play on comedy central at seven on weekdays.

And the new episodes are NBC on Thursdays at eight or nine. (:

Q: can you watch movies on your ipod nano?

no you can't, you'd need an ipod Video.

Q: My friend Monique has a lot of clothes (which are beatiful). She lives with her mom. And her mom does compliment her a lot (just not every day) on how beatiful Moniques clothes are. This morning Monique was wearing a lime green sweater and her mom told that she loved the sweater. Monique started to wonder why her mother didnt tell her that the sweater she wore yesterday was beautiful. So she asked her mother; why didnt you say my sweater yesterday was beautiful. Her mother said; Monique stop being insecure. It is like if you said to me gee mom you look good today, I wouldnt think you did not think I looked good yesterday; MY QUESTION: DO YOU THINK MONIQUE IS OVERREACTING.

yes monique, you are over reacting.

or whatever your real name is.

Q: you know those little sayings that are in people's aim profiles that are all pretty colored and with different fonts and stuff? does anyone know where to find those like a website or something?

please dont tell me google, i have already tried

thanks in advance =]

www.but-autumn-came.org

go to the 'visitors' section, and under aim profiles there's basically over one hundred to browse through.

Q: well i didnt know what category to put this question under, so i just chose the one i thought most people would look at. anyway, on ebay it asks for my credit card number....and i didnt know what number they wanted. so how long is the credit card number that they want?

well, the number for a Visa, or Mastercard, or whatever debit card you have.

it should be this length: 0000 0000 0000 0000

Q: today is tuesday and we have a school dance on friday its a sweethearts dance and the guy i was supose to go with i have been going with him since october and from what i heard he moved...
to houston...
without telling me....
should i call him ...?
i mean ...
help please i have to go he's all i think about and now he gone im acting as if he's dead and all he did is move what should i do?.?.?.
:-( :-( ;-(

so ...

in what, the one day he you two don't talk, he packs up his stuff, moves away with his family, without you hearing a word of it prior?

i doubt it. either way, call him. because you should now where he is. he probably hasn't moved. depending on where you heard this rumor, try to see how believable the people are, because i don't believe it.

*Well, you hyperactive 12 year old, you never specified that. you said people 'said' it. i said i didn't believe it, i never once said you were wrong.

Q: like i use dafont.com & when i download the font, how can i use it? please send a site or DETAILED information. thanks :]

1. save them to your desktopo for easy access.
2.right click on he file > extract all
3. Hit next
4. Browse > my computer > local disk :C > Windows > Fonts > Hit 'ok'
5. Hit next
6. it should be saved once your done with the wizard.

(:
that's all you need, no more details.

Q: that song is about death, right?

haha sorry i have difficult a time reading inbetween the lines.

what's funny is that as i read this question, i was listening to that exact song.

i think the line, 'hello there, thte angel from my nightmare' indicates that she's dead. but otherwise it seems as if whoever they're talking about just up and left, rather than died. i'm not really sure, the song indicates multiple times that she's alive, and about calling her, but it would seem as if it's moreso about death.

i have no clue, but that's my take on it.

Q: ok i have a camera and i take pictures of my boobs/ me naked and i like strip in front of it in my bathroom, i dont like show any1 or anything but i still do it and i look at "stuff" on the internet that i no i shouldnt and i want to stop but i can't so i guess my ? is - do u know any ways to stop doing that,is it wrong to do that ?

it's not abnormal. definitely not.

i guess i more or less went through a portion of time where i did something similar. i photocopied my boobs. i got pretty embarrased, so i shredded the picture. and stayed away from the photo copier until i didn't want to do it anymore.

looking at porn on the internet has also bcome pretty normal, but if you're pretty young you really shouldn't be looking, and it's good that you understand that.

as for stopping both of those things - seperate yourself from the computer for a while, or if you need the computer for other things, block certain websites from your computer, and have someone other than you set the entrance password. the first senario is more normal, and you don't have to stop, because you're basically just exploring your body, but if you feel embarrased about it you should discontinue it, because it's upsetting you.

to do that, you should take up something else, not involving your camera. reading, or even resort to watching some TV. anything really to get your mind, and hands, off that camera.

none of it's really wrong, but based on how unsure you are of it, it's wrong for you. So keep that in your head, and take everything else you described -- out.

Q: why did justin and britney break up?

because they're a hollywood couple who had a pretty screwed up go at a relationship. and tabloids didn't help much, either.

basically, no one on here knows either britney spears or justin timberlake personally, so we can all give you dumb answers, but no one knows.

Q: everybody in my school thinks i am emo or gothic.
so i dress black/red sorta different the others , look on the ground often , don't make eyecontact , mostly am sad (but that's just cause i hate the school and i'm lovesick lately) have naturaly black hair and naturaly white skin. yeah okay and i admit i hate myself , and hate my life blablabla
but does that make me emo?
cause i never thought about it that way

that doesn't mean your 'emo'.

it'd moreso classify you as goth.

but it's dumb either way.

Q: I have been looking for the perfect man for some time now. I am in 7th grade. I have been checking out some guys, but i am afraid they won't go for me, although there is one, but i don't know his name, he is cute, but not over-the-top cute. the big valentines dance is coming up. how do i get the boys to notice me?

that was one jumble of a question ...

but more or less, there's not much you can do. honestly, at the age of 12 or thirteen, guys generally look for a girl who's 'hot'. seeing as valentines day is in under two weeks, there isn't really a way to woo boys. now, two weeks also is some time, and someone may still ask you.

*don't rate me low because i'm being truthful and you don't want to hear it.

Q: are girls supposed to buy guy anything for valintines day?

you spelled valentines wrong. and generally, yes. just pretty basic stuff, though.

Q: okay i have no idea what song i just heard on the radio but i loved it! i have no idea how the lyrics go but i think i heard the guy say it was by anberline or something. can anyone help me?

it was most likely their (Anberlin) song 'Paper Thin Hymn' or 'The feel good drag' or maybe 'Godspeed'?.

if you have itunes, scam through the songs if they're familiar. otherwise, try using music websites to listen to clips to try and figure out.

Q: Well I want to make Icons for my Icon site, and I was just wondering a few things

1. I know its 100x100 pixels, but a lot of the pictures get distorted because that's not the right proportion. Do I just crop it until its a square then resize it? Or is there an easier way?

2. What are some cool tricks I can do with the pictures? I have adobe photoshop 7.0 and I know how to mess with Curves, but thats about it. I would like to change the coloring to look more, idk, iconish lol. I want them to be good, so please, any tips would be great.

3. where are some places I can find cute pictures of celebrities and such to turn into icons?

http://img341.imageshack.us/img341/7397/lov2iz9.png

http://p3.xanga.com/30/f1/30f115a50dd687d66c6fde13725ec9d829260218.png

http://img215.imageshack.us/img215/8233/icons03yc3.png

http://img201.imageshack.us/img201/6026/cuteeck3.png

^^I would like to create some like those.

Any help is appreciated, just please don't answer and say "Play around on photoshop, you'll learn". or something like that, because I DON'T know how. Thanks =)

i can't give you much advice except that to make icons with different effects, and colorings, you'd need to download brushes for whatever program you use. you can try PSPX but if you can't obtain that, try to find brushes in the abode format at a site like www.deviantart.com, or just google 'brushes for abode photoshop 7' and some sites should come up. and as to resizing, you'd need to take the 'crop' tool and just make a square, like you said, and then resize it so it doesn't get distorted. and that's pretty much all that you can do.

*EDIT

they're for making textures, or making your icon better looking. if you need help on using them, drop one in my box.

Q: In my opinion, I don't think I have a bad personality. I'm not stuck up, I don't cause any drama, I'm honest, I can keep secrets, and I'm nice unless someone gives me a reason not to be. I mean, I can be "mean" sometimes with guys except I'm kidding and they know it. I'm not shy, but I'm not incredibly outgoing -- I'm just normal there. Plus, all of my friends say I'm hilarious. Most of my friends, who are girls tell, me I'm pretty and I've had some of my guy friends tell me I'm "hot". I'm not stupid, but I'm not a genius. Since pretty much everyone but me cares about this at my school...people say I'm popular (I hate that word and I don't care about "popularity" just to make that clear). The thing is, I've never had a boyfriend -- NOT ONCE. I don't get it. Every single one of my friends has at least had ONE boyfriend sometime in their life, but me. No, I don't only want one cause "everyone" has one. In your opinion, does it sound like I'm doing something wrong? Why can't I get a boyfriend?

you can't obtain a boyfriend because what you described is average. you are everyone else.

you also aren't reaching out and trying to get a boyfriend. this isn't the fifty's, so if you wait around for a boy to make his move, you'll get nothing. don't wait.

also, by the way you said most of your friends were girls, i'm guessing that, all of your friends are girls.

unless you do something to make a guy become really into you, you won't dazzle them by sitting in a corner with all the other girls waiting to be asked.

**EDIT, i know what you meant, i was just saying you were lying.

Q: I just downloaded some fonts from dafont.com
and I didn't open them or anything I just saved them to my computer
how can I use them?
i dont have photoshop...

Q: ia sked him today if that was him really online last night and he told me yea and like smiled and then i walked away and looked back a nd he did the signal like come herelike with his hadn and then the teacher made him go in the roomand then me and my friend were going to go back into the roomand we were near the lockersand he walked out and looked and then walked away
theres this 1 boy who always stares at me & sometimes looks away he stares me in the eyes
and also only talks to me online .. today i first talked to him and i asked him if it was really him online last night he said yeah and like smiled /got all happy type..lol and then i looked back and he put his hand up like come here or something and i kept on walking idk who he ment it to i thought it was one of his friends or something but there was no1 infront of me.. then he was in the same class as me & i came from a different class and i was outside near the lockers he came out and looked and then went back in the room he also has a gf .. but she lives like an hour away from here. the other day (friday) he did that nod thing i asked him online what it meant he said it meant hey .. hes been with his gf since june 05 .. also at lunch time he stands up and looks over at my table he said when he nodded to me i turned my head i didnt realize that he nodded to me.he also seems to follow me around school . alot of kids are acting differnt to me so i dont know why.he talks to his bestfriend in the same class as me and talks about other girls to like get me jealous what could he be trying to do ? and he talks about cars and goes online w/ them and looks at cars and girls . my 2 bestfriends think that he likes me .and in gym class he got out .... he was folding his arms like he was mad & staring at me .. then my friend was trying to take pictures of me & i blocked her cellphone with my hand and yelled no he looked at me .. do you think he like sme?He also looks me in the eye.i think hes scared to takl to me because of the girlfriend even though she lives so far away.first of all i asked if his gf was online and he said nope and i said o that sucks and he said that shes a bitch sometimes and gets on my nerves then i said o why are u still iwth her and he said bc i love her and its only sometimes and i said o he said yup

i cnat raed yoreu typigngngnsdsererere.

TYPE PROPERLY BECAUSE I SURE AS HELL CAN'T READ IT.

Q: ugh this sounds so wrong, and im so embarrased to write this. here goes.

i'm 13, and for a long time i've been.. well.. touching myself, and I guess masterbating. ever since I was like 5 or 6. I have no idea how it started.. and I didnt know what I was doing then, but I felt like it was horrendously wrong. Even now I do. I'm pretty ashamed of it, and I wish I hadnt done this so young, and learned some other things from bad places on the internet. I dont do the other things, but I know they're there. I'd rather be blissfully unaware till I was an adult and could handle it. But apparently I already know, and I dont wanna know any more. anyway, with the masterbating thing, i'd get some sort of object.. like cushions (i'd put them in the washer after), once a barbie doll (yes. i know. but im not a lesbo, I was like 8.), and like teddybears and stuff. It feels good, and sometimes I get horny and feel like doing it. All the time say it will be the last time, but its never the last time. I end up doing it again. So far, nobody has caught me or even known about it for all these years... I've been keeping it a secret. It even feels weird to post it here.. I've never told anyone about this, because I've been afraid... I mean.. how would they react? they'll think I'm some dirty little girl.. which is not how I act, though sometimes I may think a perverted thought.. because well.. I've heard it from other people online and IRL so I knew what they meant. I just dont know what to do.. I dont wanna like confess it to the world.. and im not even sure confessing it during church (which I hardly go to, because of my family's busy schedule.. but I wish I did. and im a christian.). its kinda scary.. because i doubt other kids do it, or even know what it is at my age (except for alot of boys) so at times i feel kinda... like.... wacko, and not normal. i know nobody is normal, but.. seriously nobody else really does this.. unless they keep it a secret, but I kinda doubt it. also, i forgot to say, that i got my period like right after my 10th birthday. I had it like a couple months before we had the talk about "periods and puberty" and stuff.. so I had no idea what I'd done, when I went to the bathroom and found blood in my pants. I thought that I either burst my bladdar, or it was because of me like.. humping stuff. then I had a problem with having really long periods lasting like more than week, so I went to the doctor, and the doctor and my mom asked if I'd put anything up "down there" or anything.. and I'm like "no", but I felt kinda pressured, like at any moment my cover would be blown. its so crazy.. i could go on about that.. but this is getting long already. sorry if i like disgusted you or anything, but like thanks alot for your help with your reply.

also, how do you know if your cherry has popped? could it happen from like.. doing what I've been doing? I hope not! I wanna be a virgin till I'm married..

since you're thirteen, chances are you're not the only one. it's not necissarily a bad thing, and i can understand not wanting to tell your Mom. You don't have to tell anyone in your life right now, unless you go to gyno again, and the doctor asks. There's really no big deal in doing it, but if you feel really strongly, and embarrased about it, i'd try and stop. Because obvioulsy you're not okay with this. Sticking barbie's up there hardly qualifies as having sex; your cherry probably has popped, but that doesn't mean your not a virgin.

i don't have much advice to give, but i would try my best to stop, because it's a really horrible emotional thing to go through. You don't HAVE TO tell anyone either, but it may make you feel better.