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Q: ok..well..i feel really stupid and embarrassed to be asking for advice on this one, but i dont know how to tell my mom i want a bra. cause i wear sports bras...but umm..i need like a real one. haha. and me and my mom arent really open and we dont talk about things like this. and id feel so dumb telling her i wanted one, let aloe go shopping with her..er...

thanks :)

just tell your mom that you want one,
I mean if your growing and you need something that is why your mom is there, to help you.
just ask her.

Q: 15/f Ok, I never really hung out on the weekends with friends but now its getting worse. (This is long but please read. Thanks)

Ok, in 8th grade all this drama occured and I lost many friends. I actually read an online blog of someone who was "reporting" the drama and this girl left a comment saying "Oh, yea shes sooo annoying. Just tell the ___ to go away and never come around again" and this girl who acted like my bff was like "yea i know. i hate her. shes always following me around" &later in the yr this old friend of mine said "well you could always hit her when your mad" to the girl who started it and then smiled at me as she left.

then last yr it was a new school and the people i was hanging out with went to a different school and the people i have known forever dont talk to me. so i had to hang out with these girls who i honestly dont like and im pretty sure dont like me since the "leader" always is putting me down any chance she gets. she says im a "big dork, im short and its not because im short,& that i dont have any fun".

Also, i wore this shirt from hco and this girl was all like "ew why are you wearing that? losers dont wear that brand"

I feel so sad and sometimes I cry myself to sleep. I dont get why I dont have any friends. (Neither does my mom) Plus now I hate talking to people outside of class because once I heard these girls talking about this girl who hangs out with them during school and they were saying how no one likes her and how shes soo clingy and annoying. I felt that echo in my head when I went to a school function and I was suppose to be meeting up with a group and I only saw this girl who was part of it BUT she invited people from another school (her friends) and no one else was there. I felt soo...bad. I told my mom it was fine but it really wasnt. yes I had a good time but still.

So anyways, any tips on making friends or being more outgoing/confident. Please dont say "join clubs" because people join them with their friends and sometimes the other people dont like you.

15/f.

Okay, if those girls are really the only girls who you hang out with and they treat you like that, dont hang out with them. & btw, HCO isnt for loser, i wear it and i love it. so you can tell your friend to shove it :)

sorry. anyways, just be yourself. Also 8th grade is nothing but drama drama drama, but that is besides the point. Dont let those other girls get to you. My mom tells me to kill them with kindness. I know stupid right, but it works.

I did this last summer, I changed my look.
Change your hair or whatever drastically, but in a cute way, do your makeup like you never thought you would. Wear whatever you want :) that includes HCO.

If you could give me more details on your situation, I would LOVE to help you out more.

Q: 14/f

okay this is gonna be a REALLY long question and if you answer it i will absoultly love you for life and rate youu gooddd bc i need advice

kay soo ive wrote in about this kid before and this is what i hadd ok lasttt summer my best friend (lets call her A) was going out with this guy(lets call him M) and every time we would hang out it would be me my best friend her boyfriend and his best friend(lets call him P) , and then i started liking 'P' but i only told 'A' because i didnt really make a big thing of it bc he was a BIGG flirt , and then one night after we went to the movies 'M' told me that his friend liked me and me and him were pretty close and i REALLLYY trusted him , i would have trusted him with my life , and i talked to the guy i liked a few times and then like a week later he was at a different friends house and i was talking to him and then every once in a while like he'd say some like heyy babbbyy and stuff like that and thats not the kindof guy he was so i new it was his friend so i basically ignored it and then a few hours later , he went home and he imed 'A' and told her to tell me that he doesnt like me and hes not sure if he ever did. and now everytime we see each other its REALLY akward like we both just like look at each other for a second then look away and we have talked like twice since this whole situation, like 2 weeks later he imed me while i was away and i saw it but like i was soo pissed at how much he hurt me that i didnt respond.(it wasnt an im saying anything important it was just he was making funn of something i had on my a/m) and at halloween we talked a little but besides taht thats pretty much it but like im still like in love with the kid and i DONT want to be like he hurt me so much like i just want to move on, but like then again i dont bc i like him so much. so basically im in DESPRETE neeed for advicee bc i dont no what to do

okay so after everyone told me to move on. yeah well i tried REALLY hard. andd lately i have been thinking about him alott. because after he did try to talk to me but i ignored him bc i was so pissed at him for hurting me. and all that happend at the end of the summer and after we rarely saw each other bc we go to different schools. and im thinking about im'ing him and just telling him how i feel, but im not sure if i should bc i havent seen him in a couple month or even talked to him. so i dont want him to be like ew. so idk what should i doooooo.

and thank you for reading all thinkkk

Well if you really like him, then try and talk to him.
iM him and just be like " hey, we havent talked in a while whats up."
Then if he brings up why you never really talked to him, just tell him the truth.
Tell him that you really like him and you always have. & tell him that you ignored him because you didnt want to get hurt. I was in the EXACT situation, and after a while I talked to him and we talk so much. Maybe he will come to his senses.

Hope I helped.

Q: hey my name is Andrea and i would like to no some good games to play on the compter and that is not ~~~~not downloadable~~~~~ thanxs

addictinggames.com
killsometime.com
hallpass.com

they are realllly good.

Q: am i still a virgin, even though my cherry's poped because i fingered myself?

Man, you must have been goin at it.
But your still a virgin.

Q: I recently got pregnant from having sex with some guy I met at a bar one night. I know. It was wrong of me, and I feel terrible. I am debating whether or not I should get an abortion. I know that this guy won't ever even consider being a father, and I don't know if I can handle a baby on my own. I've heard so many stories of single mothers going crazy. I don't know what to do! I'm so torn up inside!
Does anyone have any advice they are willing to give to me to help me make the right decision.

Thanks so much to you all.

Do not get an abortion, its like oyour murdering a little kid.

Q: So I want my boobs to get bigger but I'm really small and I've read that one way to make them bigger is weight gain but I've tried to gain weigth and it doesn't work at all. My dads side of the family are late bloomers, and are tiny but I'm still afraid that I will be very very small chested when I'm older even though my mom isn't. I'm 15 too and haven't started my period I mean I have pubic hair and I discharge but haven't started it's a little embarrasing!

okay,
im 15/f also.
i just started my period not too long ago.
but maybe a year or 6 months ago you could have "spotted" like a drop of blood, you just didnt know it.dont be embarressed because you havent started your period. be happy, cause your lucky :) there really isnt a certain age that you get your period.

and about your breasts, im also small and ive always wanted big breasts, im in a small 34b.

& most likely when you start your period, your breasts will get biggger.

Q: whats a really good shampoo && conditioner 4 hair??(btw im blonde if it helps)

well, sunsilk has great products for blondes. I use sunsilk and i love it. uhh they also have pantene also, for blondes.

Q: do u guys think that the flyer is the most important one & everyone only likes the flyer? or do you think people like the bases and other people too? is it that cool to be a flyer? like if youre not a flyer, are you pretty much a nobody on the squad?

thnks.

Being the flyer is great!!!
When you go up in the air people watch you
they dont watch the bases.

But if you are a base.
Make people look at you.
Being the Flyer is great because you can like do all sorts of things in the air.

That makes people look you.
If you are a base, that doesnt mean that you are a nobody.

Q: Whats the difference between the Army and the Army Reserve?

Army: your actually in the army
Army Reserve: You are reserved for the army because your still in training, basically.

Q: i didnt get my period since december 22.. in 2006.

but i just got it on friday! wtf? i started my period around last year.. can you tell me whats going on?

Okay, its called spotting.
I did this too, but it was like year.

It is normal, dont worry.

Q: I was wondering, do douches really work?

do they stop the smell?
if so how long does it last?
is a douche like a mop that kind of goes up in side of you?

Dont douche!
I learned this in health :))
haha.

The douche kills cells that you need
down there.

Q: I was outside earlier today and got two mosquito bites on my forehead! They are HUGE! Does anyone know anything that could help them dissappear? Home remedies..anything? THANKS!

Whatever you do, dont scratch them
try to use cover up for school tommorow.

or whatever you have planned tommorow.

and if someone askes you about it.
just be like its a fking mositio(sp) bite

!!

uhh, first try putting a warm rag over them and let it sit there.
hope this helps.

Q: Ok so i am in 8th grade and i would like to be more outgoing, i flirt with the boys and everything but i'm still kind of shy in class.. What are some things that i can do to get rid of my shyness and actually take risks and be outgoing for once in my life?

I am very outgoing in class. But im a freshmen, that doesnt change anything.

anyways, first make sure your teacher is " the cool one" and doesnt think your a bad ass or anything. 2nd, make sure you know what your talking about. :)

in class, be like, " but i thought it could go like this" and make the teacher explain it to you, then be like ,, " ohhh"

if you have to give an oral presentation, or a report, project, ect. exxagerate a little bit.
make the whole class look at you, use your hands a lot. act ditzy but not preppy.

Ditzy- hhahah!, i knew that.
Preppy- OMG!

for example in my algebra class, i had to give a quote of pythagoras. and it was something with big huge words. after i said it, i was like i dont know what that means, but it sounds smart.

then the whole class started laughing.

I hope this helped.

Q: if someone says to you hey shawty what it do, then what should you say back not to look stupid or anything.

ahhaha!
i was in this situation.
what it do, kinda means, whats up?

just be like
chilllen, what you doin'?

ahah!, hope this helps

Q: What are some good ways to be cool in high school?? I was just wondering about this question for some time. I mean what does the word cool mean? And how do people identify it when they see it exactly? Its just been on my mind for some time. Does it mean acting bored and dont care what people say or think?

First of all, you should always be yourself.
No matter what, dont start doing things you wouldnt do with one clique, if you think one clique is cool, then try to be like them. but not changing your personality. Wear bright colors, making people notice you.
(not to bright)

-kelsey

Q: How do i get rid of pimples? Diet solutions?
Websites would be helpful. Any creams or products i could buy in Sydney, AUSTRALIA?
Any information on getting rid of pimples will HELP!!!! Thanks Heaps! :D

well do you drink alot of soda's?
coke, dr.pepper, sprite, ect.

thats probably one reason why you are breaking out, dont drink as many soda's.

as for creams, or face washs, get neutrogena.
they are the best doesnt matter what kind of wash, any neutrogena will work. also if you wear makeup, you can try there makeup brand, they have everything, its kinda expensize but its worth it, hope this helps.

yes it is for men and women,
try the stress free acne system,
it works reall good.

Q: omg my period wont stop im getting so mad like i got it last week on wed. and now its WED.!!! wtf im so mad i want it to go away like is it normal and if you can stop it HOW! im like stressing you would think that would make it stop!

Some girls' period go for nine days
give it about 2 more days.

bio

Hey, I'm Kelsey and i'm cooool !
Well, I'm a Junior and I love it.
My life is all about my friends and family.
I really want to be famous one day.
I like to play video games, not alot of girls do.
I seriously say a lot of pointless stories, for no apparent reason, its kinda funny.
I love music loud.
I like to talk about love life, because I can relate to what is going on.
& Im not one of those advice people who just give you a yes or no answer, im up to any questions and ill give you true answers.