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My friend Alex told me he didn't like his girlfriend Katie anymore. I asked why and he said it was 'cause he hadn't seen her all summer. I was like "well that's okay, you guys'll get back together at school." The later he told me he just didn't have feelings for her anymore (still summer). I told him he hadn't seen her and to just wait 'till school before he broke up with her or anything like that. Then later he told me he took his other friend's advice and broke up with her. At first he said Katie took it well, but then later Alex told me she IMed him saying she was gonna kick his ass at school. Now he's pissed off at ME for, in his words "not telling me clearly enough what to do." BUT I told him not to break up with her! How do I make him realize it's his own fault and not mine without just... well... accusing him of it being his fault? I RATE VERY WELL!!!!

Just repeat that you told him NOT to break up with her. He's eventually gunna be like OH SHOOT she did tell me not to break up with her. He shouldn't even be mad at you anyway, because it was his choice to break up with her anyway. Whether someone else told him to do it or not - a part of him had to have wanted to break up with her. So tell him that. Be like "Alex, although someone told you to break up with her, you wouldn't have done it if somewhere in your heart you didnt feel it was the right thing to do. So dont be mad at anyone for any advice they gave you."

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I can't find the perfect boyfriend. I tried sticking to one boy but something messes it up. I just hate walking down the halls in school and see couples around me. I never tried putting myself out there,lol. Is there something wrong with me? I sometimes think I'd be lonley forever. I daydream of me in a steady,smooth relationship. But, I can't find the perfect boyfriend to share my feeling and secrets.
I need someone to help me out on this one!
Thanks

There is no PERFECT BOYFRIEND. There is only the perfect boyfriend for you. You will eventually find a boy you can call perfect. You have to give it time. Honestly, dont spend so much time worrying about it... when it's time, he'll come along when you least expect it!

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I liked this one guy, weston. i thought he was a total sweetie and he always made me feel good about myself. he said he liked me too, but then i was over with him and some friends and i hugged my friend goodbye and he called me a whore but according to his friends hes just mad and still totally likes me. the thing is, im not big on forgiving people after they've just called me a whore so, yea. i still like him a little. then, there's this other guy, chris and he is also totally sweet and cute and i absolutley heart him. he made me feel a little better about the whole weston situation and he says he's starting to like me. well, i liked him a lot a little while ago but i never thought he would ever like me. so i also like him a little bit. so basically, my question is should i forget about weston and become closer to chris and who knows what might follow, since he DID call me a whore. or should i just wait til weston gets over his issue with me hugging other guys? im the kinda girl that just hugs all of her friends, ya know? so should i change who i am for weston or stay how i am and go for chris?

Weston had no right to get mad over you hugging a friend. That's the type of person thats going to get mad at you down the line for hanging out with your friends, or your family. He just may end up being controlling - and I doubt you want that (I've been there. DONE THAT.)! You should never change YOU for a guy. Never. Not for anyone. So I think Chris is a better choice based on what you've said. He obviously cares for you .. based on HOW you are.

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15/f *Ohhkay, so i have this amazing guy..but we're just reallly good friends."with benifits" I love him and i know he loves me and we've been talking about "doing it" i know we are both ready, and we will def use protection. But my question is..do you think if we actaully do it..we wil end up going out? I mean,I would love to go out with him, and ive always wanted to.
So do you guys think if we do it that theres a possibility that he may like me more than a friend?!

Thanks so much guys/I'll rate HIGH!! ;)

-kristen

Its okay for you to want to have sex. Its okay for you to be in love. Its even okay for you to want to be with someone. When you lose your virginity make sure you are already with the person, and you love them. Dont EVER have sex because you think you'll get a relationship out of it. Because then its not really what you want, you just wanted a relationship - which is highly unlikely you'll get after you have sex.

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ok, well i really have liked this guy for 2 years, i think i love him. he knew, he hated me for it. lots of horrible stuff happened. now i'm going to a different school next year & i'm almost over him, which is good. i met a guy at this school who i really like [through the drama camp], & i really want him to know how i feel about him & how i can't stop thinking about him, but i don't want to tell him i like him, because he barely knows me. i don't want any of my friends to do it for me because i don't want to cause any tention between us. all the guys i've ever had feelings for have hated me in return & i don't want this to happen again. someone please give me some advice. i'll rate you for it if you want.

If you really feel so strongly about this boy then I think you need to tell him. If he's going to be upset with you over feelings that you cannot help - he was never worth those feelings in the first place. Maybe you could write him a letter to tell him, or on Instant Messenger tell him. But don't get your friends to do it, and make sure you're comfortable when you do it. Just because some guys were upset with you over your feelings does not mean that every guy will be. Life is all about chances, and in this situation it could turn out very, very good if you just take a chance. Good luck!

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