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iam 25 years old female from italy engaged, i have little sister 20years old, we fight alot,what teases me most is that she copies me in everything i do,she is jealous .she is engaged and she always talk about her fiance as if comparing between my fiance and her's. ,she always try to show me that he is better and that what blow things up, i also feel that she talks about me to her fiance how bad i treat her, in fact i treat her normal, but in every fight she tells him about, and make things bigger , and that makes him hate me and when i meet him he looks at me in a strange way, but deep inside me i want to tell him that she is my sister before you come and you won't love her more than me whatever happens between me and her,
also when she and her fiance are together and iam sitting with them they do things to let me get jealous but iam not, but they think that they are making me jealous, they do things (lovers) and look at my reaction,
i really dont know how to solve this, i get angry alot,need ur advice (link)
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Ciao,
Your little sister is trying to copy you because she wants to be like you. That's not a lot of comfort to you now.
Maybe you need to spend time apart. I was the "baby of the family", I always needed to make myself more than what I was to try to compete with my older sister.
You need to take a deep breath, and know that what you have with your fiancee is just between you two, not her.
Enjoy your romance, and leave her to enjoy hers.
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So i had a xanga that was like my personal online journal.
i wasnt connected to anyone i knew through blogrings or comments. this site was strictly for me, and so i thought it would stay that way. I wrote my deepest thoughts on there, but then yesterday, this girl from my school that is really stuck up commented it and it said "whats up?' but i NEVER TALK TO HER. i didnt even think she knew me. So im thinking she read my blogs about who i like and stuff, and just commented to basicly tell me she saw them.... what should i do? she will probably tell the whole school.
ps.
i have already deleted the account (link)
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Chalk it up to experience.
I am the network administrator where I work. I monitor all the emails and internet usage where I work. It amazes me that people think that their email, internet usage and blogs are private. The internet is PUBLIC. Once you publish something to your blog, it's out there for everyone to see. Emails can be intercepted. Your browser history can be retrieved and reviewed. By anyone who has the right program.
OK, so you put something on your blog that maybe you shouldn't have. There's nothing you can do about it once other people have read it. Move on. People WILL eventually forget about it, and it will blow over, Keep your private thoughts PRIVATE, and don't write anything in an email or blog that you wouldn't want your mother to read.
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I am f/16. Well, everywhere I go and have to interact with people, it always feels like the girls are being really bitchy to me but the guys are always so sweet and helpful. Why is that? Its the same at work, at school, or just going out anywhere. It is so weird so I want to know what you think. Thanks a bunch. (link)
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Again, I point out the fact that you use the words "always" and 'everywhere" and "anywhere". You may not like my answer, but you must consider that people who use these terms frequently are too self-involved. Your reply that "I don't know how they act when I'm not there' makes no sense at all: You question deals with how people are reacting to you. OK--Perhaps I went too far when I used the word "slut", but in my life experience, boys respond ALWAYS to girls to flirt or "come on" to them. Be careful is my advice; you can get boys to do what you want, but they will always expect something in return.
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13/f.My friend can't hear herself sing.She gets bad grades and she's quite DUMB to say one thing.She has no like particular good "talent" except maybe art which she is good at but not really good..She's also kinda ugly,short, and very overweight.She really wants to be popular,skinny,pretty and all but she is lazy and in my opinion,doesn't try very hard.She likes music,and wanted to be a singer(found out a month ago and convinced her or at least I hope I convinced her)that it isn't the thing for her.I recommended a guitarist(not really) and an artist,but i don't think it'll happen.She is always teased by boys and other girls and she is always saying "I hate (whoever whoever that gossips about her) or I hate myself or I wanna die."Her personality doesn't stand out either because she is very self-conscious,sensitive,shy,quiet,unconfident,and just plain WEAK.Also,I can tell she is very jealous of me,which I HATE.She makes me mad when she acts so mean when I complain about boys chasing me,and random guys on the internet saying I'm pretty and all.I'm quite the opposite of her:friendly,cheerful,popular,slim,tall,pretty,smart,and such(well I guess sometimes I brag to her).I don't think it really matters and I try to point out the things that she is better at,which is her drawing and her tame character trait.Otherwise,she's a really good friend.She laughs easily and doesn't get mad too quick.She's patient,forgiving,and loyal.I really like her and I don't think I'm HALF as obedient as her.Can anyone give me advice on convincing her that looks and reputation aren't all?? (link)
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With friends like you, who needs enemies?
You cannot possibly convince her that looks and reputation don't mean much, since it obviously means so much to you. Just the fact that you look at yourself as slim, tall, pretty and smart and you say she is ugly, short and very overweight--come on. what's on the outside is the only thing that matters to you.
And who are you to tell her she can't sing? A real friend would encourage her.
Do this girl a favor, stop pretending to be her friend, so she can go out and get some real friends.
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recently my fiance told me he has feelings for another girl. but see..we have a long distance relastionship which is hard on us. we have been together for a year and we have only met once. but back to the issue. he said he likes her but loves me and would never cheat on me i beleive him and trust him completly. but they way he talks about her. it just hurts me so much. and before all of this we broke up for a week. and he went out with my bestfriend. which absoloutly killed me. of course. i took him back because i love him more then anything. but im afraid to talk to him about it and tell him how i feel about him liking her because im afraid he will get mad or something. im so confused and hurt i just dont know. i need help. please help me. (link)
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You're engaged to a man you've only met once? Honey, wake up. You haven't been together for a year, you've been together for one date. If he's so inconsiderate that he's talking to you about other women, then call it off, now. You say you love him more than anything--I say you haven't gotten out enough. Find someone who lives in your area, and has interests similar to yours. Get some backbone!! If you're too "afraid" to talk to this guy about your feelings, then you have no business even THINKING about marrying him.
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