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Okay,
So I'm babysitting for the first time on Saturday, one is eight years old and another is about 3.
Okay, so what do you do-do you just sit there like what someone did to me when I was little? Or do you play, or have fun or what?
Seriosuly any advice welcome :))

Take some board games that all of you can play and don't bring small items due to there being a 3 year old. Play a board game, watch television, as long as there happy they will want you to come beck all the time.
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Okay this question may sound awkward but I lost my virginity 3 days ago and I just started bleeding. This is also my time of month could this be my menstrual cycle starting or from my "cherry" being popped? Or is it even a possibility of it being both? What I'm hearing is that you start a little spotting right after your first time but I didn't. Any advice would really be appreciated. Thank-you for you time:)

This is probably because of you losing your virginity. It also could be your menstrual cycle. Yes it is true that you do spot when it is your first time but its only for a few days like maybe 3-4 days. Like i said before it also could be your menstrual cycle and you may just have it light this time and maybe heavy the next.
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The last 3 days after i eat, i get really bad cramps.It is so bad i can hardly breath.I have missed work and don't know what to do.I went out on black friday and i'm wondering if i picked up a bug,any suggestions?

The best thing to do is to go to the doctors and see what they think. They can tell you want it is and get you treated as in give you something to take for the cramps and something to fight off what you do happen to have.
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Hi! I asked the question about the cellphone cover. angry bird. the black one. i planned to buy it online. but i cant find it online anywhere. its for my friend. his phone is a htc inspire by at&t.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=htc+phone+covers&x=0&y=0#/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=htc+inspire+phone+covers&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Ahtc+inspire+phone+covers.

I am really truly sorry that I could not find what you were looking for but the website does have phone covers for his phone. I really don't think they make a phone cover like angry birds for that phone. To me your best bet is to call at&t and ask them if they have 1 in stock

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I'm a shy, quiet girl, and I have so many friendship failures and people bully me.

Last, last, last year, my relatives made a plan to ignore me. And it's still happening right now even if I told them to stop.

Last, last year, I became best friends with this girl but then she started doing bad things to me, like stealing and those stuff.

Last year, I was this talkative girl who's shy. My friends were boys. But now my friends and I drifted apart. So I'm friendless.

This year, there's this girl who I was friends with a long time ago, and just last, last month she tried to be friends with me again. Our friendship worked for a while, and I became friends with her friends. But then now she became mean and talked about me behind my back even when I was right there and she knew I could hear her.

And then there's this another girl who used to ask me to come with her to places. But now she laughs at me when I do something wrong, or even something normal.

Now I sit alone during lunch and people make fun of me even when I do something heroic. I don't have friends and people look at me in a weird way. What am I going to do?

Don't go back and be friends with them unless YOU really want to. Well because they hurt you I know you probably don't want to be friends with them anymore. You have to remember well because I don't quite know if you in high school or in middle school but either or when you get out of school you will mostly not remember them. I don't really think that you will see them when you get out of school. Don't worry you are not alone with no friends. Ill tell you something. I'm 14 and in the 9th grade the years before I got bullied because of my weight and other stuff. Yes even my so called friend even laughed at me. I didn't let that stop me from being who I like to be best and that person that I know is ME. I went all through grade school will little of no friend and yes most of my friends were boys too. Now I go to a online school and I absolutely love it and the best part is that they treat you with kindness, love, and respect. If the bulling gets any worse talk it over with someone you trust or you can always ask someone here through our inbox.
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I hit my head on a fluorescent light bulb and it shattered everywhere. My head really hurts because I hit it really hard. There wasn't any mercury on the floor or anything but no I'm really scared that I might die of mercury poisoning! help!

2 to 1 your not gonna die but I do suggest going to your doctor and get it checked out just in case.
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My boyfriends parents like this other girl for him because his parents know her since she was little. And everytime i see him he tries to ignore me infront of his parents it feels like were complete strangers when we talk infront of his parent and his dad is always mean mugging me what should i do?

Its not your fault if the two of you are happy then don't worry about t. To me it seems like right now your thoughts are what if I loose him what do I do? There is only a couple of things you can do and that is just be yourself. know one likes to be with someone that is not being there self's. One more thing that you can do is try to get to know his parents better. If they get to know you better and you get to know them better than your relationship will be better than ever with them.
Wish you the best of luck
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Ok I don't know if I put this in the right category or not but here it is: I lost money because i have to many hiding place. Ok so is there any one we was lost money because they have to many hiding place? And if you did what did you do too find it again? I'm a teen but I need the money just the same. Not for hair or anything but some time my Mom need to get money so she can pay ALL of the bills. And I just don't like losing money. Who can blame me? Did you make a list or something and cheek it two times? No I know what time of yr it is and I'm NOT BEING FUNNY. I need that money. HELP!!! P.S. only say something if you know how to find it. Don't say something. Will I would cry. I mean you can say that if you want but say something helpful. Because don't think that I would not give you a 1! Thanks.

What I say is go to all of those hiding places and check there. If you cannot find it I know that it wil come to you one day.
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One time I lost $100 and found it 3 years later. I found it because it dawned on me were it was at but hopefully what your trying to find will come soon. It is nice that you want to help your mom wit the bills.

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ok i have a boyfriend and i really like him and i like this other guy to i know thats weird but its true. my boyfriend dosent do much with me and we barely talk but the other guy i like we talk all the time and he likes me. im so confused what do i do>

How do you thing will make you happy. If you think you will have a better future with the other 1 and not your boyfriend then tell your boyfriend that its not working out and hope that you to can still be friends and who knows maybe he feels the same way. If all up to you. Just ask yourself "Who makes me happy"? See what your response is and then go from there.
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Hi!
I want to know who to be. I don't really have a personality myself, and I don't know what to do. It's really frustrating! Please help me! I need to find who I am. I try to be like people I like, but I can't. Help.
I need this please.

Don't base who YOU are on what and who other people are. Just be yourself. Trying to be who you are not does not show people who YOU really are and that's not good. Be who you want to be as long as it is not based on other people.
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Does anyone know where i can find a cell phone cover for the htc inspire. angry birds. the black one. i cant find it anywhere.please help.

It depends if you want to buy it online or in stores. If online if you have certain places please let me know and if there are stores around you and you want to buy it from a store let me know. All you have to do is put the question in my inbox and I will answer it as so0on as I can
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I got my cartilage pierced about two months ago. Basically I was kinda careless with it and never really cleaned it. The other day it was hurting me so I took out my earring and noticed a bump on the back of my ear. I popped it, and woke up the next day with my ear being slightly swollen and in pain. I'm thinking that my hands were dirty and infected the piercing. I also noticed that my lymph nodes were swollen under my ear later that night. I soaked my ear with ear cleaner for 5 minutes, applied neosporin, and took advil. Today I noticed that my lymph nodes are a little less swollen and my ear is less swollen and in less pain. Is there anything else I can do to help it heal? Also, I've seen a lot of scary pictures of people with piercing infections. Will my ear swell up hugely only if I take out the earring? And do I need to see a doctor?

You should clean it right away and at least 3 times a day. If you take and leave the earring out it will close up. Yes it does hurt for 3 months well at least mine did. I'm 14 and got it pierced last year. All I have to say is don't sleep on it well for the first 3-4 months. I know it will be hard but that is just what you have to do. After 3-3.5 months or cleaning with the earring cleaner and ear solution you will not have to use it anymore and if it does happen to get infected later on down the load then that's when you use it.
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Ummm hi sorry to ask you this question but ummm... it's gonna sound stupid but, ... my boyfriend always says that i'm beautiful and the most prettiest girl he has ever seen but i really am not well he says that am and i think im not but everybody says im pretty thin and ect. But it really bothers me becuz i really do not think that i am pretty skinny i think im fat ugly and stupid!

I don't know what to tell my boyfriend a.k.a Ben!

thnx for helping to everyone. All of you guy's advice has helped me out alot!!!

You are just being self confident. You boyfriend loves you alot and says that because that is what he sees in you. Don't doubt yourself. I don't know you but you really have to believe in yourself. Don't worry what other people say about you as long as you think the same way. If your boyfriend says you beautiful then believe it because he is there for you and whats whats best for you. When people say something bad to you or even about you don't take what they are saying in the wrong way. Just don't think about it. You just have to believe in YOURSELF and that's all that counts.
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Will all guys do that to me ? Please I need to nkow for future references!

can you please refer to what your question is because there are alot of people asking the same question so in my inbox please tell me what you are referring to.
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Well I went over to my boyfriends house who is 2 years older than me. I am 13 and hen is 15. I went over there and we were up in his room we were just talking and then he told me he loved me of course I told him I love you to. Well then he said if you really love me then you will do something for. I asked him what. Then he said will you suck on my dick? I told him okay but I warn you I have never done it before. Well while I was doing it he started grabbing my boobs and fingering me well I went along with it because he has done this stuff before and well I hadn't. Well afterward we just kissed and stuff. but please tell me was this wrong?

That was so wrong and you should have never done that with him. You are only 13 . To me it seems like he kinda forced you because he said "If you love me" so therefor he like kinda forced you. To me no 1 deserves that kinda person and I think you deserve better than him.
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Okay well I had a best friend up until 4th grade her name was Hannah but then this girl moved here and her name was Katelynne she ended up being my best friend. Well ever since then Hannah has always thought that Katelynne stole me from her. But I was messaging my best guy friend Makhi and he told Hannah after we were done that I called her a whore and so that started a lot of things. Well Anna, Hannah's best friend, started getting all mean and crap with me so she started stuff. So after a few days of all this stuff was starting Anna started calling me and threatening me so my dad ended up talking to those girls and thought he figured it out but they were still beeing bitches to me so I just gave up. Well then all of my friends wrote this note and it said that they didn't want to be my friends anymore because I have to much drama but all of them even Katelynne signed it. Well two days after aFter they wrote that note they all came up to me and appalogized. I don't know if I should believe them so did Hannah.

I know that you probably do not deserve this well what they did to you. It was mean, wrong, and untruthful. If they really were your friends they would confront you and try to fix the problem and NOT write it on a piece of paper. I know you will say well why did you just say that well after I tell you this but maybe they wrote it on a piece of paper because there are afraid that if they confront you, you would get upset, of get really mad. I think you should give them 1 more chance and if they give you all that crap then they really did not mean what they said well the apologies so therefor you should not believe them.
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i had this friend ever since freshman year. let's call her A. anyway. A and I are seniors but over the summer and this year our friendship has been fading into almost nothing. It was uncomfortable for me to be around her for some reason. She wanted me to go to Emporia with her so we could be roomates but i didn't really want to roomate with her. i told A I got into Emporia, but she hadn't heard anything from them yet (this is a good college for education, something we both wanted to do) and her reaction was exactly like this "WHAT! UGH!! WTF. i applied way before you did." I thought she'd be happy for me but I guess not. So recently I found out A had been talking to one of our mutual friends, emily, about me. She had told emily how i had gotten into Emporia before I did and how I had gotten into all these colleges and that I was indecisive about where I wanted to go and it made her mad about how indecisive i was. I had asked the Emily what she said and she confirmed that she talked about my indecisiveness about college, but then I came to find out A had told another Emily in our class the same thing. So that was at least two people she was complaining to me about. I'm a little offended that she talked about me behind my back. what should i do about A?

If she is a true friend she would NOT talk about you behind your back and would confront you about the problem. IF she was really worried about your friendship she would talk to you about it. I would sit her down and say something like if you have to tell me something please say it to my face and NOT behind my back...... See what she says and if she is like totally blank and has like nothing to say then she really is not a true friend. I think you should go at least 1-2 weeks without being around each other and if you think your life is better then say hey we are not like we use to be and I don't know what happened. I mean you can still be friends but try to work the situation out. To me it seems like she will go back to her normal self when she gets over the whole college thing but is might take 2 days 2 weeks 2 months and or 2 years I really have no idea.......... I wish i could tell you more but with all of the information that I said hope it helped.
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I recently made a suicide attempt but failed coz the rope snapped off.now i am in a dilemma whether to kill myself or go on with life.i dont feel confident of having a successful future nor do i have the guts to attempt suicide again.i am confused.

I know that people go through those moments but that is never the answer. If you want help there are hot lines you can call and get the help that you need. I am only saying that because I care about everyone safety and hate to see and or hear that someone is hurt or in danger. If you ever need I am here to help. Just send who ever it is a message through there inbox and they WILL help you. That is never the answer and I believe that everyone has a right to like even if they don't think the same way.
Im here if you ever need to talk to someone.
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost four months now, and he wants to keep us a secret from his friends and family. I am 14, he is 18 - please no comments about age, we don't mind the age difference at all - and we live far apart. We text all the time, but barley get to see eachother. He doesn't want to tell any of his friends or family - and won't say we are dating on faceboook. He always says he is going to marry me someday and acts mostly like he means it. I don't know what to do anymore, but I love him with all of my heart.

If your parents every found out they can file a police report on him because he is dating a underage minor which he could get arrested for. I am only helping you because that's what I like to do and because I don't like to hear or see any one get hurt. I really do with the best for the two of you but hope you also make the right decision.
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OK well my rite hand is my dominant hand you know meaning I use it for like everything.... if I write like only a paragraph my wrist hurts and I twist it and it POPS!!! So does my thumb. I havent broken anything or sprang or even harmed that hand at all. Im double jointed in my arms but I dont know if that has anything to do with it,also I can pop my rite arm too. Also all I have to do is twist my rite foot and it pops to know im only 13! so I knowe its not casuse im old or something and I know my parents wont take me to the doctors they think its a waste.....so what im trying to ask is what is wrong with pretty mych my whole rite arm, wrist, thumb, and even my foot???? As you noticed its all my rite side the stronger half..... P.S. the foot recently started happening my wrist for 3 years my thumb 2 years and my arm recently also.................
HELP ITS CREEPING ME OUT AND CAUSES PROBLEMS WHEN I WRITE AND I WRITE ALOT.??!?!??!?!?!?!!??!?!
-Angie age 13!

What I say is if your parents will not take you to the doctors try to see the school nurse and have her recommend you to go to the doctors. If she can not do that just have her check everything out because she is trained to know alot of things so if and when you see her and she does not think it is anything try to convince your parents to take you to the doctors and if they don't try to rest it like put ice on those spots and then if it does not heal with in 3-5 days then tell your parents you have to go.
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