Hello my names Lili. I am 20. I am college student. I honestly love people. I am a communications major. I am the go to girl for advice among my friends. You need help ask me and I will do my best to give you advice. We all need advice every once in a while. My goal is that the advice I give you will help you with whatever problem you have. I cant guarantee a perfect answer. But I can guarantee that I will try to help you.
Gender: Female
Location: California
Age: 20
Member Since: June 12, 2010
Answers: 65
Last Update: September 16, 2012
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I am 17 year old boy. I have been through my naive days and honestly have a completely different, more real mind set. I actually believe I'm in love with this girl. I don't ever use that word either, 'love' that is. I never thought a person can have this sort of perplexing feeling. She's not the average/typical girl, if ya know what I mean. I won't bore you any further because I can go on and on. I don't know how she feels about me. I don't know how to confront her about it either. (link)
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First ask her to hang out. Ask her to a movie and some pizza afterwards. You know, get to know this girl a bit more. I dont know how long you known this girl.. so I dont know how comfortable you guys are around each other. But maybe after getting to know this girl after some time(like say after hanging out a few times) tell her how you feel. Now dont go using the love word. That's way too soon. Tell her that, you like her alot. Tell her that you have really strong feelings for her and that you want to try things out and see where things go. And see what she responds to that. ANd if she likes- then great- ask her to be your gf. And if she dosent feel the same... then you know how she feels.
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i think im bipolar or something, my mom is in complete denial of it but i need help. what do i do now, is there a pill or something to fix me? please. haha (link)
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Well first, you need to see a professional. And second of all, what do you mean by, your thinking your bipolar? Do you expereince extreme changes in mood? Do you get happy one day and go through days and days of depression?
Well the best thing you can do is to go see a psychologist. They will have to diagnose you. And it is very complex mental health issue. I know some people who have it. Chances are you would be in medication for a long period of time. But treatment varies from person to person.... So best of luck. :)
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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. We have had sex for 6 months now with protection (condoms AND birth control pills). We're both 20 years old so we're out of high school and we live together in his mom's basement right now.
I really want to have a baby and start a family with him. I want us to get married and have a nice little life, you know? Well, I heard that it's better to have kids when you're young and able to do things with them so I think 20 sounds reasonable.
I haven't talked to my boyfriend about having children. When we starting doing it together he said all kids scare the hell out of him so he wanted to make sure we were extra safe by always using 2 forms of birth control (hence the pill & condom). I didn't say anything about it because I do want children.
I feel like my body is screaming at me now to do it. I want to tell him to not put a condom on next time and I want to stop taking my pills. I want to have a baby so bad.
How do I tell him without freaking him out? I wouldn't do something stupid like "accidently forget" my pill or something so I NEED to tell him. I need him to say he wants to have kids with me because I love him but I'm afraid he's going to hate me. What do I do? How can I tell him I want a baby? (link)
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Okay, I re read the question. There is no easy way to tell him what you want. My advice to you is this: Tell him what you want. Pour your heart out to him. Tell him what it means to you to have a baby. Give him a few days to process it. And if still isnt willing, then you have a few options. A: accept it. or B: start re thinking about the relationship with this guy. You guys want different things. Or C: Try to convince him that kids are not that bad. Maybe you guys can together offer to babysit a friends kid. Maybe it will be a pleasureable experience and he might change his mind. Good luck :)
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Okay so i like my best friend alot but she has this best friend with benefits/ boyfriend only because them two were force to break up. Well i liked her since i have know her but she still have feeling for him. Being her best friend i feel like im always there for her more than he is, im always with her and i do just about anything for her. We are constantly texting and talking and it kills me that we are not going out cause i would like to. Its even to the point where people thing that we are dating but we are not. So ive told her all of my fellings that i have for her and she was like well i like you but i still have feelings for the other guy and then she starting saying that she felt so bad cause i was feeling down and stuff and that it was her fault that i am depressed. Well idk what to do or think and im constantly thing about her and it kills me so i need people advice on what i should do. (link)
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Hmm... This is a very tough situation that your in. Well it's good that you actually tell her how you feel. But she needs to know how she feels about you and that guy. She needs to be clear on her feelings and not to string you along for the ride. That's not fair to you. If that's the guy she wants to be with- then be supportive of her. She's your best friend. It's not worth loosing your best friend. And if she makes it clear that she returns those feelings for you as well, then great- it's a win- win situation. Good luck.. hope this helps.
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My ex and I are VERY close.We hangout all the time ,sometimes alone and sometimes with a group. We had an alone hangout the other day and got into a deep talk. We had both had drinkin that night so we were pretty much freely speaking the truth.He ofcourse started making moves on me and kissing me and all that and while he was doing all that i told him it was wrong because I still see him as more than a friend and he said he still sees me a little more than a friend but less than a girlfriend (whatever that means) He told me that he literally can't describe how he feels towards me and that he cares about me so much and that he sees me as his little sister and that he will protect me no matter what and that he wants me to be happy,and he wishes he could feel the same way about me as he did when we dated . Yet,i dont know how he could see me as his little sister yet want to hookup with me all the time. He told me that we won't hookup anymore because he doesn't want to give me mixed signals but all he does is tell me how im such an amazing girl and he trusts me and all this stuff and i just don't see how he can't see me as more than a friend! I'm always there for him but maybe if we spend a significant amount of time without eachother ,he will realize he really does have feelings towards me..but im not sure.What should i do?! Im crazy about him (link)
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Sweetie, this guy is using you. He dosen't feel the same for you. He said so himself. He just wants you as a hook up. He's making excuses trying not to look like a jackass. This guy does not care about you. He only cares for himself. And you deserve better. There are going to be guys out there that are going to treat you and love you,the way you deserve to be treated. Time apart is a good idea. Spend time with your friends. Go out and have fun. Do a movie night, sleep overs, or whatever. Just dont think about this guy. Then after spending a good amount time apart, you can go and make a decison. It will be much smarter. You cant make a guy who dosen't share the same feelings you have for him magically appear. You deserve better. So good luck.
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