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Q: this might be silly
but what do you do when your on third base with your boyfriend?

please help. thank you

1st kissing
2nd feeling
3rd fingering
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Q: I don't know what is wrong with me. I've been getting really nervous when certain people talk to me. When this happens, I start shaking and come very close to crying. A few nights ago I started laughing, crying, and screaming at the same time. I have an idea of why, but I can't seem to pinpoint an exact, rock-solid reason. Also, I sometimes find objects in my hands that I don't remember picking up or even seeing. I've been told by cloes friends of conversations that I can't remember happening, and e-mails I don't remember sending. Does anybody know what could be wrong?

i dont think you have bipolar disorder . i think you have either MPD or dissociative disorder. but "I've been getting really nervous when certain people talk to me." sounds like anxiety too so you should go to a doctor about this you could be losing your memory and the doctor can help this action stop hope i helped and good luck ♥

Q: okay, seriously.. i must be an insomniac. it's 5:27 am and i cant sleep, i cleaned my whole room, bathroom and kicthen to give me something to do, and im hyper as ever still, for the past 2 months i have not been able to sleep, and when i do sleep i sleep to much, what is rong with me? am i going insane???

this is normal for teenagers and is commen in adults too. this could be linked to depression or anything like that you should go to the doctors to see if they can get you some medicene to help you get to sleep i have insomnia && they gave me pills for it but the problem is i go to bed around 10-11 so i take the pills at that time so it takes like three hours for them to work so be aware of that ♥

Q: im looking for places that i can look for cheap bathing suits, ones that are $20 or less but still cute. if the place has a website i can look on thats even better. any ideas?

pac sun , walmart , target , or like aeropostale ♥

Q: Walking down a very busy street today, I saw a gentleman talking to himself and pausing to hear an answer. He was talking to himself but I truly believe, that he believed, there was someone there. Who can say that there wasn't? Could he be talking to the dead or to someone else that lives on a different plain then we do? Maybe, he is the "normal one" and we aren't because we can't see what he is seeing? Has anyone else ever thought of this theory before or am I not "normal"?

ok first thing just to throw it out there he might have had an earpiece likr telephone type thing but i have the same thoughts he could be talking to someone that we dont have the brain power to see he might be normal and the world is not -- but dont think your not normal because of this its something that he was doing its not like you were walking around talking to yourself ♥

Q: Does anyone know any stores that sell billabong clothing/hats? thanks

pacsun or like tjmax &hearts

Q: well i stumbled across this one girls profile on advicenators. i am very much like her. i also have a screen name and i would like to know if adding her as a friend would be alright?

yeaah and if you feel like their some kind of creep just don't give them your sn or anything best of luck ♥

Q: This is NOT a joke. I seriously think my house is haunted. Tonight I saw something (a black figure out of the corner of my eye) walk past my room. The reason why I dont think it was "just my eyes playing a trick on me" is because I felt a prescence, like there was someone there. When I looked down the hall, there was no one there. I asked my Dad who was watching TV in another room if it was him and he said, "No." And my Mom was sleeping in her room and no one else was home. Please help! This has happened 3 or 4 times and I cant sleep at night! What should I do?? Has this happened to anyone else? How did you feel less scared? :(

this happens to me i would recommend walking in the light at nite if your scared also use a nite light && if there is a place thats dark just run through it really quick and constantly remind yourself that there not there or they arent going to hurt you ♥

Q: Whats the best brand of stuff to use for acne to go away?? I have clearisil. It works somewhat.. See Ive never really been a person who gets acne alot..but one every while i get like 2. But i was justwondering what works the best incase i do develop acne. THANKKS!

why dont you try proactive.. they advertise it all the time on tv and online -- apparently all the stars use it and it works really well the only way to buy it is to order it online or by phone ♥

Q: When you post a bulletin in Myspace, some people have certain words bolded, underlined, and in italics. How do they make it like that? Is there a certain code or something? Thanks.

is bold [ take out the spaces ]
 is italics
< s > < /s > is strike out
 is underline
 [ without spaces ] is a space
is to center your text

if you dont take the spaces out it wont work ♥

Q: could you be pregnant and still have your period? or is that rare

yeaah its possible but its pretty rare ♥

Q: Ok, does anyone know the name of that song in the Car commercialfor I think Yaris and the have a bunny symbol. The commercial starts with a black car and a white car driving around like they're flirting and then all of a sudden there are like a bagillion black and white cars they came about like rabbits breeding ya know? Well, if you know the song please help me out.

-Andrew(the best)

"Birds and Bees" by Patrick and Eugene.

and i think its for volkswagon rabbit ♥

Q: yesterday my friend told me i was a freak because i have holes in my pants i kinda weird and my hair is green. she told me she hated me because i was deferent. and she said she didn't want to be my riend anymore. she used to be like me but then she started hanging out with this preppy boob that turned her into a complete snob. it hurt me really bad because i like the way i look and i don't want to change the way i look for her. should i change or should i stay the way i am? please help me!
thanks

dont change for her or anyone else ever its not worth it honestly if someone is asking you to change for them its not worth there friendship they should like your personality and its not supposed to be based on your looks ditch her.. or if you want revenge why dont you find someone like you and tell her to change ♥

Q: Can your period make you light headed or dizzy?

yes and its common too . just remember to drink fluids and take it easy for the week or so ♥

Q: I am 13, and all my friends shave their legs except me and one other peron. I always tell my mom to wash my sweat pants. She is like "If your wearing thooses just because you don't shave your legs than well go to the store and get you a razor!" And of course I say "What, No Mom!" because I don't like talking to her about that kind of stuff.(shaving, periods, dating, boys, whatever)
I want to shave because every one always looks at me wierd when they can see my legs and I have never worn a skirt shorter that my ankles since I was a little kid. I REALLY want to shave my legs, but I just don't how to tell my mom or what to say to her. What should I do?

well i'd say your lucky if your mom is asking you if you want to shave so next time she offers just be like yeaah mom that would be great [ not those words ] i personally have been shaving my legs since i was in fourth grade and im thirteen but just be literal && ask have fun ♥

Q: ok so .. my hair is like long and all but i want it longer.. espiecally before school starts which is in sept. and i was wondering if anyone knew any ways to make hair grow faster .. i know straighning doesnt help and all. but like i dont want anything that i'd have to take a pill but if theres aything that can help please let me know and ill rate

drink milk orange juice and eat fruits.. vegies that should work and also if you massage the shampoo and conditioner in your head it like makes it grow and if all fails try extentions ♥

Q: Here is my story:

I am trying to throw away all unnecessary things I own.
I have a lot of junk and it could be put to use by someone else.
By eliminating, I plan on having a very spacious room and I want to have such little stuff that it will be possible to move easily.

By throwing away practically my whole room, this problem will be solved.
Here are my only dilemas:

Should I keep the TV in my room?
I keep it there so that when people come over, we can watch movies in bed.
The problem is, I dont watch that much TV, and it takes up a lot of space along with the DVD player.

My other problem is that I have a box full of stuffed animals in my closet. I dont know what to do with them.

i had that problem with the stuffed animals ;; my mom went in my room and through out all but three .. try to get rid of most except at most five and you can donate or sell them ♥

Q: so, i have dark brown eyes, i was wondering what color eyeliner would look good with them? thanks

brown . blue . or black but with any of those just dont put to much on to think ♥

Q: Does anyone know where I can get a good sized messenger bag for going back to school? I want one that looks good, but it can't be too pricey. (I'm 15/f)

i got mine at hot topic and decorated it with cute pins and patches there about $20 ♥

Q: OKay ignore the question be4....... i found the 1 i needed and THANK YOU so much..... is there like a website i can go to to find all these lil codes?!?!?!?!

yes go to http://www.coloryourprofyle.com/phade/alt.html
and if you want different fonts... webdings wingdings -- go down to the bottom and it says
!!!!!!!!! COMPLETE WINGDING CHART!!!!
!!!!!!!!! COMPLETE WEBDING CHART!!!!♥

bio

My name is Jessica ; i have brown hair, but i died it reddish ; I love my friends: ; my best friend is hailey mattson, idk what i would do without her. ; i love pink & green & black ; I love Hanging out with friends & Shopping ; i make mistakes. ; i have regrets. ; i hate being alone. ; i can't go a day without spilling something on myself. ; i hate school. ; i never call anyone back. ; i don't like being wrong. ; im a huge procrastinator. ; i act a lot smarter than i actually am. ; i hate being ignored. ; i cry. ; im shy. ; i can't start a conversation with anyone. ; i have enemies. ; i can't sing, but i try anyways ; i'm horribly uncoordinated. ; i laugh way too loud. ; i can't look anyone in the eye. ; many things just seem to get to me. ; i get annoyed easily. ; i'm not even close to perfect. ; i cut. ; i dont know how to deal with problems. ; i have low self esteem. ; i've been in two mental hospitals. ; i love the movies not like everyone else , augusta gone , && odd girl out. ; i'm such a sucker for lifetime movies ; i like the religion wicca.