about

I'm a 19 yr old mainly agnostic ex philosophy student with rather strong views about a lot of things. I'm very liberal, love the diversity I live in in London and hate that America hasn't separated church from state.
I'm engaged to the love of my life, but agree it is a little bizarre to get engaged at 18.
I'm confident, quite literally crazy, caring and crippled. My manual wheelchair is called Sebastian and he gets scared when he goes too fast, my electric is called Jermaine (after the Flight of the Conchords character) and he really does not like ice.
I can read Braille and I know basic sign language because I believe everyone should be given equal chances. I dislike it that money doesn't have Braille on it.
I'll do my best to help out with your situations, I've been in and seen many a family conflict, I've had my fair share or love life crises, I've had about every illness known to man (could tell you a lot of amusing stories about psychiatric wards) and I'm "The Queen of Hair Dye" so hopefully I'll have some idea about advice. If it looks like I don't give lots of advice, it's because I only advise on things I know about. I also detest poor spelling and grammar so although having dyslexia makes me a bit hypocritical about this.

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The other day I was surfing the net for diet patches, when I came across these hoodia diet patches. I'm so desperate to loose weight that I bought myself a month's supply, which brings 30 patches, on impulse. I didn't even bother to check if they actually worked, or the health risks, or even how old you're supposed to be to use them. I'm 15\f, and I just need to know that they won't kill me or make me fatter, or anything of the sort. Thnx for any imputs.

Is it the pink patch diet? Cos ive heard good reports, my mate had some and she lost weight, not huge amounts but some.
They should be fine, hoodia has been proven to aid weight loss, but just check with your doctor if you are on any medications.
Good luck

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Im 14 years old, im 5'9, and i weigh 167 at the most. usually around 163-165 my weight goes up and down.

but i was wondering if that was an unhealthy weight? like overweight?

thank you :D
-kenzie

Your BMI is 24.7
and should be between 18.5-24.9
So you're a normal weight, but dont put any weight on or you may become overweight.
Hope that helps

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14/f

Okay I recently noticed that I've developed stretch marks on my thighs. I've read that they develope because of weight gain, but I exercise all the time, I'm a runner you see? I'm 5'5 and 115 pounds, so what I'm asking is...will they go away as I get older, and when exactly?

They don't always appear because of weight gain. Almost all girls have some stretch marks and they usually appear when they grow, particularly in puberty.

They won't dissapear as you get older but they may fade. Try moisturising to reduce their scarring, or using something like bio-oil.
At the end of the day though, everyone has them and dont worry about it :)

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Ok, I know obviously, not to go to a nail salon to get my pretty parts waxed. So would I take myself to like a hair salon? And if I want EVERYTHING waxed off, that's a brazilian wax, right?

I'm a little confused on what to tell them, as to what service I want.

You need to go to a beauty parlour.
If you want everything waxed off thats a hollywood not a brazillian. Brazillian is a thin strip left on.

If you want everything waxed off, ask for a hollywood wax.

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I am sixteen years old, 5’6, and I weight 186 lbs. I know I am over weight and am trying to change that. What are some beneficial exercises I can do? I would like to lose thirty pounds total and I have little time. I know I need to change my eating habits to and am currently trying to eat only 1500 calories a day. Any tips or suggestions would be great:)

Try to go swimming as often as possible, its the best excersise you can do as it works all muscles, and even if you are just playing in the water, you still use more energy than on land.

Try to eat three or four SMALL meals a day, this will speed up your metabolism, also before eating the meal, try to eat one or two raw veggies or pieces of fruit. If you have issues getting hungry while on a diet, try taking a fibre supliment before you eat, this will fill you up a bit more and its good for you.

On the whole though, loosing weight fast can be bad for you, so if you find you're loosing more than say 4lb a week, I would eat a little more!

Hope it all goes well!

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Okay,

I take Lithium and Depoke. (Lithium being an anti-depressant) I often go on and off my medication. I was off my medication for a few months and I just recently started taking them again but the night I took my medication I was fine. However the following morning I woke up in a pool of sweat, dizzy, my heart was racing and I threw up five times. I started to take my medication on a low dose too. Does anyone know why I might have exsperienced these symptoms and why I was so sick?

I would imagine that you just have a virus or something and that is what caused you to be ill and you should be fine again soon as starting medications that you have already been on shouldnt cause this, especially if you're giving your body time to get used to it by using a low dose.

However, if it continues like this for more than a week say, i would go to the doctor because it could be your body reacting against the tablets and you should get different ones.

I hope this helps and I hope you feel better soon!

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do guys get grossed out if we don't shave down there? guys please answer this question!!!!

I'm not a guy but i know the answer. All the guys ive been with prefer some if not all the hair down their. My fiancee actually gets annoyed at me if i shave some of it off. Just make sure its tidy (trim it and maybe use a hair removal cream round the edges) and im sure whoever sees it will have no objections

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I was diagnosed with mono a little more than a month ago. It lasted about 4 weeks and then I felt completely fine, even though I know i still had it. I stayed pretty unactive because I know you're supposed to stay rested as long as possible. Recently, I've been running and going to pom pom practice at school. There is also a guy I'm with who said he did have it a long while ago... but i didn't think it'd matter to kiss him since we've both already had it. Now I'm going through a mono relapse. What is most likely the cause?

The most likely cause is tiredness, or you may have caught a virus of another kind from somewhere so your immune system is working at getting rid of that and not fighting mono. Don't worry about it though, relapses are MUCH shorter usually than the first episode. Hope you get better soon, and stay resting for at least a week after it goes. Mono is a bitch, i had it for 6 months!!

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I keep getting muscle cramps in my lower calf.
It happens at night, like recently, it's been every night :\
I wake up due to killing calf muscle cramps, like they almost make me cry.
What could be causing this? :\

Thanks!

It could be lack of salt but if you eat any processed foods its unlikely to be that.
Could be just general growing, try going to your doctor.
I know thats not terribly helpful but here comes the good part, I have a very good cramp remedy: Quinine.
Its in tonic water, so drink a glass or two of that (depending on how bad the cramps are) before you go to bed and it should soothe if not stop the cramps.
Hope it gets better!!

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Okay, Im 16/f and here is some background info.

So my dad has had cancer since 2001 and he keeps getting rediognosed. and this realli makes me upset, i can barely handle it anymore. Im constantly crying and ive been having suicidal thoughts(i dont think i will ever accually do it, i just think about how much easier it would be for my parents to get my dad better if i wasnt here)

Well a few days ago (aka the worst day ever) we had to call 9121 because my dad was so sick and the ambulence had to rush him to the hospital...

Im pretty sure im depressed, i cant talk to any of my friends because i know they try but they can never help me the best thy can do it "im so sorry im here for you" and i commend them so much for dealing with me though

Im just always sad and nothing makes me happy, ive been crying so much more lately, sleeping massive amounts, and not eating. I dont knwo what to do? How can i get myself to be happy and not so depressed.. i try to stay positive. i pray alot, but nothing helps me at all. it seems ive tryed everything.... should i seek professional help?=[

thanks so much

Its completely understandable for you to feel like this but let me tell you for sure that it is going to make it harder for your father to recover if he has to deal with the grief of loosing you too.

I would suggest you try to talk to a councellor, and people who are going through the same thing as you, with a parent or close relative with cancer. Macmillan cancer charity could help you with both of these, and give you something to help support you. And don't feel ashamed that you need help with it, because its a huge thing to go through, when I was very ill it didn't just upset me, my whole family found it hard to deal with but through talking to each other and talking to councellors etc we've got through it.

I hope you feel better soon, and I sencerely hope your father gets better soon.
All my best wishes
xx

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i have some dark hairs all over my stomach and lower back. not extremely noticeable, but wearing a bikini can make it somewhat easy to see..especially in the light. it really bothers me and makes me self conscience. what should i do to get rid of it/lighten it? any kits to buy? somethinggg?! i dont wanna spend a lot of money..im just not sure if shaving or waxing is the way to go since it will grow back faster and thicker. thanks a bunch!

its a complete myth that shaving or waxing will make it grow back thicker, shaving will however make it grow back more prickly. I would suggest rather than shaving or waxing though, just bleaching the hair because then it wont be noticible and sometimes when you shave it can leave the dark hair showing from underneath the skin, and you should leave waxing stomachs to professionals because the skin is a lot more delecate than legs
I'm sure you'll look great whatever you do though! Take care!
xx

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well i used to cut and my parents dont know but i did stop. anyway i might have to go to the doctors and i have scars on my hips and i'm worried that the doctors will ask me about it and stuff. what do i do?? plus i dont want them telling my parents because it is my business not theirs. i dont have any open cuts or anything like i said i stopped but i have scars. and there is no good explanation on why i have scars on my hips lol. thanks so much :)

Even if he does ask you about it, he can't tell your parents because of doctor patient confidentiality. If you don't have any open sores they can't say you're in danger which is the only reason they could break the doctor patient confidentiality so I think you're ok
:) take care xx

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This is probably an extremely weird question, but I find an obsession with my boobs. I just love how they look! They arn't that big but not that small either, like a 34B. but I have a new picture of me in my bikini on my myspace and I can't stop looking at it! Is this normal?

Perfectly healthy to love your body if not "normal"
If you love your figure then be proud of it. Its not odd that you look at it all the time, society teaches us to be obsessed with our boobs and if you love them, whatever the size they are, thats great!

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Okay, I'm 14 years old, turning 15 soon.
& I'm a total kid at heart.
Each year Since I've been 11 I've had kid birthday cakes.
Such as last year I had bob the builder and it said im a big kid now.
My birthday is toward the end of july
and i know its soon, but i like to know things ahead of time.
i need a theme for my birthday cake this year.
and cute sayings would be greatly appreciated.
thanks in advance

The very hungry catapiller! I had a champagne shaped cake for my birthday yesterday but for my party im having a very hungry catapiller cake. Its well cool.

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i need help finding songs that talk about:

a guy that is in love with a girl but she doesnt know who he is
(i already know about just the girl by click 5- thats not a good song that im looking for)

and about a girl that is friends with a guy and is falling in love with him.

if you can find anything- that would be great!!!

I can only think of teenage dirtbag for the first one,
hope that helps!

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i know you can bleed while your pregnant in the first trimester but say you don't know your pregnant and you have a 3 day period...is your period still considered late? could you get a positive reading on your pregnancy test?


reason im asking-->>

im almost POSITIVE im pregnant.
i have nausea all the time....and other pregnant symptoms

but i got my "period" sunday may 25 and it ended today, wednesday may 28...i was originally supposed to get it tuesday may 27.

usually my periods last 5-7 days and on the 3rd day its VERY HEAVY ...not light or gone like it is now.

should i still take a pregnancy test?
my boyfriend bought some and he wants me to take it with him....i don't want to take it though and it say im not and then i feel stupid because i kept telling him all my nausea and headache episodes....

then when i really am he wont believe me because he will just say "remember what happened last time"
and i don't want to that to happen...what should i do? what if i am pregnant..should i get the bleeding checked out immediately or just get regular checkups as if it was a normal implantation bleeding?

I would take the test. My mother had periods all the way through her pregnancy with my twin brothers.

If it isn't positive however, go and see the doctor. Its always a good idea to go get checked if your periods have changed radically, but an even better idea if you are feeling ill.

I hope all goes well and you get the result you want from the pregnancy test. If you don't want to take it with your boyfriend, don't. You can buy one yourself.

Take care xx

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what should i say when a guy ask whats the farest ive gone with a guy

You should first correct their awful grammar and spelling. “Farest” is not a word.
Secondly, say to them “Why the hell should I tell you, it’s none of your business”. Unless you want it to be their business, in which case act all coy and tell them.

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My friends wear it good but when it's on me, it's a different story o_o I have light olive skin, dark brown eyes and dark eyebrows. I was told that browns, greens and purples would look good but it doesn't. The browns are so light and wearing green eyeshadow alone is too plain. I don't know.. it just looks messy and that I have smaller eyes. Help? =\
Any good inexpensive makeup brands?
I have revlon, nyx and isadora =o

If I wear bright eyeshadow (like green), is there a certain shade of blush or lipstick to go along with it? -lost-

I would say put a brown in the over your eyelid, and in the corners put green. This will make your eyes look bigger and its a nice style.

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I have dark brown hair and about 6weeks ago I decided to get blonde highlights.
I no longer like them and really want to go back to a dark brown all over. I don't want to have to go to the hairdressers. I have bought hair colour myself and dyed it in the past but not over highlights.
Does anyone have any advice on what I should do. The bleach isn't too blonde anymore, will it effect the colour I put on!? ie turn it pink or green where the bleach is?

It should be fine but you need to look for the correct sort of hair colourant.
Get a hair colour that is meant for covering grey hair and getting even colours. I had a bit of a disaster with bleach the first time i dyed my hair pink and needed to get rid of it and it worked well.
Nice and easy by clairol works well if you have that wherever you live.
Hope you like the result!

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is there anything i can do to get my boobs bigger

The pill makes your body think you are pregnant which increases boob size usually. When I got the implant i went up from a D to a G.
Other things: Massaging them, especially if you are under the age of 21. Boobs don't stop growing until about then.
If that doesn't work, try just getting a padded bra/water bra.

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