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Q: Um I haven't been excercising at home due to the overload of work at school and it's a new semester; gym was brutally devastating and it's only been the second day. From when it was over til now when i woke up, my left toes, my stomache, and my whole left arm hurts when I move in any way that could activate it, which is basically just moving. And I turn a lot when I sleep so I know I'm not hungry or something because when I turned, my stomache hurt so bad I was going to cry! And I can't raise my left arm into the air, it only goes as far as elbows and up when I try to lift my arms.

What do you think is the problem and do you know any way that I could fix it?
You're sore. That's the problem.
And that sucks because there's no instant relief =[.
If I were you, I'd take some advil or whatever pain reliever you're used to, and try resting with a hot/cold patch. They can be found at any pharmacy.
I'm a dancer, so when I got a week or two without dancing, and then I start dancing again, I get very sore. And that's how I cure it!

Good luck!
& Feel better =]

Q: i heard this song that i like a lot..but i dont know its name...can someone tell me the name of the song so that i can download it...it goes like "we are sending, a message to the world"....another song i like is a song by olivia...part of the song goes like "as i walk by quiet streams, the caress of the wind blowing over me, brings a chill to my skin"...pls i will appreciated it you told the name of any of this songs
1st one is David Cassidy - Message To The World I think.
2nd one is It's on Again by Olivia

Q: i want to give my boyfriend a sexy strip dance but I don't wanna look stupid you know? anybody have any pointers? thanks
There is a response on this site that I really think will help you!
http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_to_give_a_lap_dance

This site offers some specific moves for you:
http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_150/169_dating_girl.html
Good luck!

Q: ok im gonna have a baby soon and i really want to name if its a boy 'sean' or a girl 'brooke' but i have no idea wat their middle names gonna be can anyone give me some suggestions.
If I have a daughter .. her name will be Brooke-Lynn.
Other Middle names for Brooke:
Olivia
Ann
Elizabeth
Sophia
Victoria
Chanel
Gabrielle
Marie
Emily
Naomi
Reese

Middle names for Sean:
Lucas
Michael
Gabriel
Matthew
Patrick
Russell

Good luck and Congratulations!

Q: ok well when my boyfriend tried to do this pretty much all he did was do what he would do with his finger when figuring me and i guess it tasted HORRIBLE and i even washed and scrubbed down there and what not and it didnt feel good isnt he supposed to like lick the rest down there? cuz ya what he did didnt feel good and idk if i will let him do it again because it tasted that bad. so ya is he doing it wrong if so what is he supposed to do?
I just answered a question that benefitted from information of this site: http://www.sexdictionary.info/intercourse_guypain.html
It has a section about what you're asking about.
I really hope it helps!
Good luck!

Q: what are those things called that you put in your shoes and it makes you look taller
The previous answer is correct. Insoles will help. But as I said the the person who asked the question below you, you will not grow 5 inches over night. Here is a link that I believe will help you. It includes ways to improve your posture and apparel to make you appear taller!
Good luck!

Q: what makes you taller
im 15/f i i wanna get taller
does vitamins help
does zinc or iron make me get taller
just tell me what helps make me taller
I researched your question and I came across this site: http://www.growtaller.com/growtaller.html
There's no way to grow 5 inches in height over night. But that site has a lot of ways to appear taller.
Good luck!!

Q: how do you move when you have sex?
This site seems to have what you are looking for.
http://www.sexdictionary.info/intercourse_move.html
Good luck!

Q: my boyfriend and i make out and sumtimes when we do this on a couch or w/e i move my hips on him and he like moves on me too and we are really close and like on each other and he says its like having sex with your clothes on. is that what it is and any other info about it. im just wondering about it so anything is helpful even things to do that will turn him on more please! :)
Well, yes technically that is having sex with your clothes on. One of the most important things to keep your man satisfied is to let him know that he is doing a good job. The whole slight heavy breathing and the occasion moan will get him really.. in the mood!
Good luck!

Q: For a class I am opening up a pretend business and i can't decide whether i want a dance studio or a day care. Which would be more one.. I want your opinion... because i am torn (not what you think is best for me)
My dream is to open my own dance studio. I think you should make that your pretend business! As the previous person said, it is not as expensive. All you'd be paying for is the leasing of the building, the electrcity, the mirrors, the stereo, the furnature, and other necessities. Then, you have to figure the prices of the dance classes. But to do well on the project, you need to display some sort of profit. So make sure that you make the income from the tuition of the students is higher than the expenses of the studio!
Good luck and let me know how things work out!

Q: I've been going out with my boyfriend for only about a week and a half but valentines day is coming up and i know that he really likes me and supposedly he's going all out for me [so my friends tell me] so i want to do something for him too. I've never had a boyfriend for valentines day so i have no idea what to do for him...help please! any suggestions will be greatly appreciated! thanks in advance
- Scrapbook of pictures of you two.
- Make him dinner and watch a movie.
- A chip to put on his wallet and keys that he can use to locate them when they are missing
- Go to dinner and a movie
- If he is into sports, buy tickets so a game
- Make a cake together =]
good luck!!

Q: okay,so i had sex for the first time about a couple weeks ago?

ive only done it once,and he used a condom,and im almost positive it didnt break or leak.


i usually get my period on the 30th or 1st.

its the 4th now and i still havent started

but ive been really stressed about it and all


like all month

so i could still get it

or idk

my period can be irregular but it hasnt been for a while

like i used to get it on the 10th

but i still havent has my january period

which like i said i get on the 31


or the 1 of the next month (like febuary 1st in this case)
I don't know much about pregnancy. But I do know a bit about the menstral cycle. The more you stress about getting/not getting your period, the later it will come. I once stressed about getting my period so much, that it skipped for 2-3 months. If you truely think that you are pregnant, take a pregnancy test or go see your doctor.
Good luck! and please let me know how things go!

Q: My boyfriend and i have been dating around 5 months. I've never bought a boyfriend a valentines present. What cani et him under 40$ that would be cute and show him i love him. Or what could i make?
Advice please and thanks

- Scrapbook of pictures of you two.
- Make him dinner and watch a movie.
- A chip to put on his wallet and keys that he can use to locate them when they are missing
If you're willing to spend a little more:
- Ipod
- Videogame Console
- Go take a little trip. Maybe like .. a few towns over. Just to get away and spend some time together.
good luck & let me know how things go!

Q: so im 18/female..thinkin about getting my belly button pierced but i had a few questions..

1. how much does it cost? the price includes the ring?

2. how much does it hurt?

3. how long does it take to heal, or atleast for the pain and soreness to go away?

4. what do you use to clean it and how long/often should it be cleaned?

thanks for the help. (=
1. This is directly from a website I saw while researching this question : "The piercing cost $35 and then the adorable pink double jeweled barbell cost another $35, bringing my total up to $75" I mean, it's not going to be exactly $75 in every case. But it'll probably be around that.
2. I've never gotten it personallly done, but I have quite a few friends who have. They've said that it isnt an unbearable pain but it isnt painless. It really varies from person to person
3.Navel: 4 months to 1 year (Rarely does it take a year though. Thats just like .. worst case senario)
4. This is from a site I found while researching this question:
Wash your hands first with soap and water before touching or cleaning the pierced area. (Don't let anyone else touch the pierced area until it is healed.)
Remove any crusty material from the site and from the jewelry with warm water.
Gently wash the area around the piercing with antibacterial soap (liquid soap works the best).
Gently rinse off all of the soap and crusty discharge.
Gently dry the area with a paper towel or plain white napkin. (Bacteria can stay in cloth towels.)
Do steps 1-5 twice a day until the skin heals. (Over-washing or over-scrubbing can irritate the area.)
Do NOT use antibacterial ointments because they don't allow air to get to the area and they trap bacteria.

Good luck!
let me know how things go!

Q: this is for my friend cause im the only one who has this.

m/12-year 7.
i want get a girlfriend but no girls seem to like me.i have brown eyes, brown hair, i am aussie, im pretty small- just under 5ft, etc.
I wanted to get some tips on how i could get a girl to like me so i could get a girlfriend.
any help would be appreciated.

thanks in advance.
http://hubpages.com/hub/How_to_get_a_Girlfriend
Good luck!

Q: well for one, im a dude. but anyway, theres this girl i've been dating for the past 3 years off and on. and for 3 years, shes basicly has pulled me around by my nose i guess you could say. shes hurt me more times than i can count, but for some reason i still love her. (by the way, im 16, and i know yall goin say i dont know what love is, well trust me, i got a pretty good idea)but the problem is im tired of gettin hurt, i really am, and she knows shes hurting me. how she hurting me you say? well, shes real moody, i mean more than normal moody, and she'll get real ticked off and break up with me, then go out with another dude and rub it in my face. and yes i still love her through it. then she'll say shes sorry we'll get back together, and some other stuff will happen to break us up. im just i dont know... tired of it, but the problem is i still LOVE HER!! so what yall think i should do?
On a less dramatic scale, I seem to have a pretty good grasp of the thoughts going through your girlfriend's head. Meaning: I'm in the same position as her, but I'm not as mean about it.

I'll tell you what she's thinking:
She doesn't know what she wants. She's only 16, and she really shouldn't have to. But frankly, neither should you. If I were you, and if you really love her, you need to help the both of you. You should call a break for a little while. You both need to explore your other options and to see what else is out there. You are 16, now is the time where you should be doing these things!

She is playing games with you to test you. She wants to see if you will stay with her through all the challenges she puts you through. But you need to have some self respect and to let her know that she is pushing you away and if she keeps up this terrible behaviour, you are going to leave her.

I pity any guy that has to go through what you are going through. And let me tell you, I know what it's like to have a broken heart. But you really need to start thinking about yourself. You need time by yourself to see what you really want.
Good luck and please let me know how things go!

Q: i have a great personality and a strong opinion on everything but im just not outgoing at all like i can have somethin to say and i just dont,i dont like show the real me with people i dont know enough...how can i show them all the real me so they all dont end up thinkin im fake?
I see one problem with the way you are thinking:
Why does it matter what everyone else thinks of you?
Just be happy. You live your life to please yourself, not them. You should feel free to act, dress, and just be as you want, whenever you want. Who cares what they say! They are just insecure!
good luck & let me know how everything works out!!

Q: so i suck at singing... is there any way i can learn how to sing good?
or do you just have to be born with it
Well, as you know, some people are just born with the ability to sing beautifully. I however, was not so lucky. I took lessons from a singing coach, and I'm a lot better. They teach you scales, how to breathe, and the push you to do better. It's really worth it!
good luck!
let me know how everything goes!

Q: does anyone remember the name of the tv show where a bunch of people lived in a house that was completly 60's themed, they had to do everything as if they were in the 60's and then "do the hustle" would randomly come on and no matter what they were doing they had to do the dance...
The 70's House.
An AMAZING show!!!

Q: are girls supposed to have hair on their pussy?
Or no? Whats better?
Here is a link that shows you different opinions of different people:
http://isitnormal.com/story/2646/

It's really a personal preference.
Good luck!

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