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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.
I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.
People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.
Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.
I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college
advice
whats the difference?!
also, tips for either PLEASEE!
I think it's a matter of opinion. French is just a style of kissing. I consider making out to be like a really long kiss. There are lots of different ways of doing both, it just depends on what you and your partner like best.
If you want both to be enjoyable, it's all about physical contact. And not necessarily naughty contact, but things like hugging, touching their neck, running ringers through their hair, etc. make it much more enjoyable.
Everyone has their own styles for doing such things. Just remember that practice makes perfect.
so i have this friend, and i like him, and we talk so much.
But ya know he is popular and alot of girls like him! I get a little mad and annoyed when he talks to them, like when they call him and stuff. And i do tell him . One time this girl who was like in love with him , and now is again always called him. BUT SHE IS SO FAKE! and he liked her but never admitted it to me..
It bugs me alot how they do this! But i dont want to be controlling.
Im not sure if im jelous or what, but whats going on here?
xoxo Jessicaa[F, 14]
Jealousy is possible, or it could be that you are just overprotective of your friend.
As long as you are open about it and you communicate with him, there shouldn't be anything wrong with letting things like other girls slide so he can make his own mistakes. It's important for you to let him know that you care, but still give him space to make decisions.
Even if he does make a bad choice at some point, at least he has a good friend like you to fall back on.
i feel rejected... and i dont know whats wrong with me...i tried dressing up more dressing down looking this or that acting this way or another... i tried virtually everything conceivable to attract a guy.... i've tried just being myself and still to no adieu..... i know many of you will suggest to give it time... but believe me i've tried for so long and it is not like my shift are drastic and sudden or short spanned...
i am ashamed of asking people to rate me sincerely on my looks ( because that essentially will make me look like a maniac) i am not overweight but even if i were i don't understand how that would stop someone from liking me... i've seen people who are attracted to those on the "healthy" side of the scale and have had prosperous stable relationships with their loved ones .... is it my personality? i do not know... i'm really confused... i have a diverse wide number of friends from all walks of life and i'm very social and liked.... what is wrong with me?
it is really wearing me down.. i am 20 and never had a boyfriend or any form of relationship beyond friendship with a guy for that matter.....
please help.....
I don't know if this came to mind or not, but have you considered online dating? Before, I used to think it was silly and would never work, but one of my good friends met a guy through an online dating site. Three months later they're still together and have never been happier. If you tried online dating, it could change your entire perspective about dating. The web site can match you with the people you share interests with.
If you are feeling that low about yourself, I think it might be a good way to boost your confidence. Even if you only make a profile and you don't date anyone, you'll get messages from guys that are interested and that might be enough to boost your confidence tenfold.
Maybe instead of waiting for guys to come to you, you should go to them. Take a risk. Put yourself out there. Work on getting happy with yourself and you'll get the confidence to seek any guy you choose.
14/M
I hang out with this girl alot. We go to the mall with other people very often, and we also go to movies. I like her, and I want to ask her out, but I have absolutely no clue when/how. I think she likes me but I'm not totally sure. I'm also quite positive she'd say yes, but thats not my main concern; its actually asking the question.
Any advice?
Bake her a cupcake and put a piece of paper inside saying "Will you be my girlfriend?"
Write her a poem saying everything you like about her and ask her to be your girlfriend at the end of it.
Make her a CD with some cool songs on it, and for the last track, make a recording of yourself saying how amazing you think she is and that you want her to be your girlfriend.
You could go all out, or keep it simple. Like take her out to dinner and ask her then. You know her better than the rest of us do. What would she like?
Whichever scenario you use, make sure it is in private so people won't tease her about it or anything (not saying that they would, but stuff like that is personal).
alright so i fingered a girl a while back and it was my first time ever doing it haven't done it since and when i was down there i like couldn't get in her? it felt like i was going abou half an inch in and then i hit like a bone or something and i tried going a bit lower but same thing, it was dark and i couldn't see anything so any ideas?
Stuff like that is all about trial and error, as twisted as that sounds.
The important thing is to talk to the girl and ask if it feels alright. She'll let you know where to go.
I just can't study or get anything into my head when there's music on. I listen to music a lot but not when I'm studying. My sister always cranks the music up and it drives me nuts because she says it helps her study. but sometimes she gets low marks so I kind of doubt it.
Does music help you study?
If I put music on while I'm studying, it's only for background noise and not for actual listening. Sometimes I'll put the TV on low and I'll switch it to the news or something so I won't be more interested in it than my studies.
I can't stand studying in dead silence. It's too easy for my mind to wander. :)
But if you can focus perfectly fine in the silence, then that's wonderful. If your sister's music bothers you so much, ask her if she wouldn't mind using headphones so you can get your work done.
how many different positions are there??
I honestly don't think there is any specific number. Depending on how flexible you and your partner are, there could be countless.
Go ahead and google it. There are good sights with many different ideas.
My husband (29)(well ok boyfriend) and I (27) 10 years and 2 kids. Are the best of friends, I think thats why this is hard. He works hard for our family 40 hours a week(drywall), but when it comes to things around the house he just gets real lazy in my eyes. Im a stay at home mom he comes home to a clean house food on the table, but when he does not do it I tend to get mad and dont want to hurt his feelings! So i guess my guestion is how to tell him to do it without all the badness behind it?
I'm sure he's just exhausted from working so much. Next time you ask him to help you with something, instead of saying, "I need you to go take out the trash," say "Honey, when you are finished resting for a bit, would you mind taking the trash out for me?"
That way, he won't feel pressured to get everything done right that minute and hopefully he'll get around to it later. If he forgets about it or completely ignores you, pull him aside one night and calmly explain how you've been feeling. Let him know you appreciate that he is working so hard to pay the bills, but you would really appreciate it if he helped around the house a little bit more.
Communication is always key. Remember to give him a few compliments along with the criticism. I'm sure he loves you enough to listen to your feelings and try to help you out more.
:)
My sister in law wants me to keep her little girl while she has a girls day out. I love keeping her she is a sweetheart. I agreed to keep her when she works sometimes. The thing is I don't even get to go out to eat hardly alone with my hubby for our anniversary, let alone any other occasion.
My mother in law always has us to pick our kids up like an hour after we drop them off. My sister in law wont watch my kids at all. Am I wrong for telling her i can't?
Thanks for the advice
Of course you aren't wrong! Just politely let her know that you won't be available that day and maybe offer her the number of a good babysitter you know.
It's sweet that you don't mind helping her out once in a while, but don't interrupt your personal time with your own family so you can take care of hers.
I'm sure she will understand.
Hello my name is samantha Hancock,
I am a Grade 12 student at Bowmanville High School.
I have been assigned an essay about the career you are pursuing after high school and we have to give an interview to someone. Since I don't know a Veterinary Technician I have to e-mail someone and ask them some questions.
So if you could possibly answer these or get someone to answer these it would hep me out largely!
Thank you in advance, Samantha
1What first interested you in this career?
2. What college did you attend?>
3. What was the most interesting thing you learned?
4. What is the best thing about your job?
5 What is the worst thing about your job?
6. How was finding a job after finishing school?
7. What is your favorite animal to work with?
8. What is the funniest thing that has happened to you while working?
9. Do you specialize in any certain animal?
10.Do you have any advice for someone looking into this career?
Your best bet would be to call your local vet and ask if any of their technicians would be willing to help you out with a five minute interview. Even offer to exchange an email address with one of the vet techs so it would be more convenient for them. As long as they know it's for a school project, I'm sure there is a vet office in your area that would be willing to help.
i have an appt for may 1st to see the gyno. the reason is birth control. when i go will i have to go back to get bc or will i get it when i go for my first appt?
After your appointment, the doctor will give you a slip to get the precription filled at the pharmacy of your choice. Of course, if your doctor's office has a pharmcy within it, you can pick it up there once it's filled.
The doctor will allow you to have refills for 6 months or so. After that 6 months, you'll have to call the doctor and ask for more refills. You shouldn't have to actually see the doctor unless you've been having problems.
After that second 6 months is up, it will be time for another gyno appointment and thus more refills.
Birth control is an easy prescription to fill. It takes like two seconds for the pharmacist to get ready for you.
ok, so 16/f
I moved before i started high school (so i started high school in a new place) and moved again and went to a new high school junior year.
My GPA went down to a 3.2 from a 3.5 because of us moving and selling the house during final week. I'm in junior year currently and not in any AP/IB classes. (moving makes it really hard to get into high classes). Next year i will be taking 3 IB classes and doing an Internship.
Do you think if I get a good ACT and SAT score i that get into a good college. (UNiversity of Washington for example). What did you do when getting into college. Any helpful hints?
Thanks a bunch
Of course grades and a good ACT and SAT score are important, but there are other things colleges look for in applicants as well.
They like their applicants to be involved in the community. You know, like volunteering and whatnot. Your internship will look GREAT on your application, but try to do some volunteer work for free. Ask your teachers for any opportunites in the area.
It's also good to be regularly involved in things going on at school. Leadership skills from a club or something look awesome to people who read your applications.
Basically, the college you apply to will think "Sure, this kid has awesome grades, but so do our other applicants. What makes her so special?" And that's how you need to stand out. Don't make it seem like your ENTIRE LIFE is all about homework and high classes. Get invovled and they will be very impressed.
:)
Best of luck to you! Please keep me posted!
the song what hurts the most by rascal flats, im not usre i really understand it. i know that the boyfriend died, and thats why shes so sad, and the dad didnt like the boyfriend, but why a few times in the music video shes throwing up in her bathroom? is it because shes pregnant or because shes crying so much? and how come her mom is crying in the video too?
thanks for all your help!
I really think she's getting sick because she so upset. I think her mom was crying because of the shape her daughter was in.
But you have a point there; it could be taken two ways. The mom could have been crying because she was pregnant after all. I guess there's no way to know for 100% sure.
I have always wanted a pet ferret. I am so close to buying one but I need some background on the animal before I make such a big purchase. I know close to nothing about pet ferrets. Please tell me anything and everything you know about taking care of a pet ferret. How often do they need shots? What if they bite? How often should they have a bath? Plus all the other things I do NOT know about this animal. Please help me! Thank you!
http://exoticpets.about.com/od/ferretcare/Pet_Ferret_Care_and_Health_Information.htm
That's a really good web site. It should provide you all you need to know.
Keep in mind that ferrets are very high maintenance. Biting will very likely be a problem, but the best thing for you to do is to make sure your hands don't smell like food when you hold it. I have been bitten by an adult ferret and it really doesn't hurt.
Keep in mind that ferrets smell kind of bad. But that is part of the natural oils in their skin. Bathing it often usually doesn't help, as the skin is constantly secreting oil.
Nevertheless, ferrets can be fun and affectionate animals and I'm sure you will be a great owner as long as you read through that web site I gave you. :)
So I got the "Bon Voyage" expansion pack for the Sims 2. I'm trying to build my own hotel so my sim can own it as a business. Well I put in the correct podium, designed the separate suites, and used the correct hotel door, but for some reason...
1) I cannot assign an employee to the podium
2) Instead of renting the rooms, the customers just go in them and watch TV or whatever.
Are there instructions anywhere online as to how to build (and own) a proper hotel?
Someone asked this EXACT SAME question a couple days ago. Here is the link.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=536600
My girlfriend and i are moving into a apartment together in Augest and i'm overly worried about having enough money. Whats a good amount to have saved up to move out on ones own?
Thanks
It's not so much the exact amount of money, but that both of you have decent jobs that will bring in the money. You need to make sure you have a reliable amount of cash coming in each month or else things will be very tight.
There are other costs to think about too, such as groceries.
It would be a very good idea to sit down with your girlfriend and try to add up your monthly costs compared to how much the two of you make at your jobs each month. Once you have an estimate of all that, you'll be able to decide how much you would like to have saved up to start with.
As always, the more you have saved up, the better. If I were moving out on my own, I would try and have a least a couple thousand dollars saved up so I would be secure for awhile if anything were to happen with my job.
okay, so i like this guy...and he likes me...trust me i know. okay so anyway, lately, ive been kind of boerd with life, you know like tierd of doing the same thing over and over and over and over again. but supposivly this guy is going to ask me out. i like him and all but i don't really want to go out with him. like i don't know why. but anyway, i just don't think that we would last long...or that hes my ticket to excitement. i have a lot of personal problems i think that i should deal with first. what do you think? am i making a mistake? he isn't that hot. if that helps...
please help!!
thanks in adcanceee!
If any part of you has doubts about dating this guy, then of course you shouldn't go out with him. If he does ask you out, just tell him everything you told us: a relationship isn't something you want to deal with while you still have personal issues.
It doesn't matter if you think it will be a mistake or not. If part of you doesn't want to do it, then you shouldn't As long as he's understanding, the two of you can still be friends.
If you're so bored with life, get out there and try new things. Join a new club. Introduce yourself to new people. Take up a new hobby. Along the way, you might meet a new guy that you're interested in. Someone that you'd actually be excited to go out with. THAT'S the guy you want to wait for.
Best wishes!
15f
i have this guyfriend and he's a year older than me and he wanted to hang out with me over spring break. he doesn't want to hang out at his house, and my house is REALLY REALLY REALLY boring. does someone have some ideas?
also -- i know we can hang somewhere else, but it's not like as fun in public places. we don't have anything going on but i've never hung out with him beforee and i'm worried he's gonna comeover and be like, "so... now what..." and i don't want to be in that position.
can someone help us think of something to do or ANYTHINGGG? my basement isn't finished and board games are dumb. i wouldn't know what movie to rent and i wouldn't want my parents walking into the kitchen / living room every five goddamn minutes if we did rent a movie.
i suppose i could limit it to like 2 hours or something so that if we get bored time will pass quickly, and if we're having a good time we could extend it.
i'm not that close with him, either.
PLEASE anybodyyy? something GENERIC that can be done in most american households... and i don't have a trampoline... and i'm not allowed to go to the yard....
What about some video games? Those are always fun and it won't be a big deal if your parents interrupt. You could always get food or make brownies or something. Everyone likes food, right? :)
If you guys are sitting around and it gets boring, why not call your friends and see if the two of you could go get with a group of people. Go bowling or to the movies and stuff.
Tell him it's cool that he wants to hang out, but let him know how boring your house is. Ask him if he has any ideas on what to do.
okay so on wendsday me and some friends were supposed to go to a trip. and the teacher gave us a slip and all of my teachers signed it and they think that i am going to this trip but then my other teacher told me and my friends that its full and we cant go. so all of my other teachers think that i am going to the trip so i wont be marked absent. but me and my friends were thinking about going to eachothers houses or the mall or something nothing is going to happen to me. but i feel bad im not your typical cutter. i really dont want to go to school though i dont know what to do. help me. what would you do?? i feel guilty coming back from school and my parents asking me how school went. but i really wanna go and take some risks after all you only live once!.
I wouldn't risk it and here's why: all your teachers know each other on some level. If word ever got around that you lied to your teachers and said you'd be at a field trip, you and your friends would be in HUGE trouble!
Trust me, it's not worth the risk.
so i just got back from vacation and i got too much sun. i ended up burning petty bad and its started to peel. i have ugly blotches were the skin has peeled, so some skin is darker then other skin. is there any way to help fix it??
Add some lotion. That will help cover up wear the skin is peeling.
Get some aloe vera gel to put over the burns and the splotches. It will help it heal A LOT faster and it will take away the pain.
Then of course there's always make-up. Try a loose powder.