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Q: ok well my boyfriend wants to have like alot of sex you know and I'm not ready for that yet but once he pushed me when I said no and he yelled at me and just left I don't know why but I'm scared to say no to him and I'm doing sumthing with him tonight I need serious help

Well, this is a tight situation, and I'm sad that you have to go through this. If he only wants to have sex, then he might be using you. If you do say no to him and if he does anything you don't like, tell an Adult. If he only wants sex from you, then who would want a boyfriend like that!? Hope I helped, and I hope that things work out in your favor. -Ce

Q: Okay, the thing is, I'm confused. I know this is going to sound stupid, but I need to ask. People are always asking about tips on kissing and making out. I've never done either of those things, but what gets me muddled is the whole 'it comes naturally' thing. I mean, is it really based on instinct, or should i be worried about my first time doing all those things? (I'm having a hard time getting my point across here, work with me). People ask things like 'where should i put my hands' and 'what kind of kiss' and 'how do you french'. Are those things that you really need advice about, or do they really all come naturally and people only fret because they haven't done them? Is it better to have people tell you how-to's so it'll go better, or is it all going to come together anyway? I hope you don't find me too silly for asking, I'm just(like I stated before) confused! Thank you to all who choose to answer

This is a COMMON problem, so don't feel foolish! It's alright, belive me! If people ask you, then that means that they have some type of trust in you! Getting back to the topic, there's a website I've been too that makes you sound like you know what you're doing! it's 'VirtualKiss.com' that site is a good resource.. Good luck, and I hope you aren't confused.. oh, and I hope I helped you out! -Ce

Q: ok well yeaterday at about like 2a.m. I went driving in town with my cuzine and her older bro (he's only 17) he drove us around and well he was smoking pot in the car so I got totally nervous and I didn't know what to do so I just staid in the car worring my butt off and when I got home at around 10 my dad smelt the pot and asked me if I smoked but I didn't pin it on my cuz did I do the right thing? I rate high:D

Good job about not being a snitch.. Think of a good cover up story.. but make sure you make up a believable cover-up.. believe me.. *reminisses* If you don't lie, then tell him the truth: You were around people who were smoking weed, and you weren't! Say that you wouldn't smoke weed (in this situation anyway)and you made the decision not to, and he should be proud that you made a good decision! Hope I helped you, good luck with your dad! -Ce

Q: OK...im a female and im 14 I really like this guy but im with his best friend and now i dunno what to do because im startin to like his friend alot, he kissed me the other night and im not gonna tell my boyfriend because i dont want him mad at the guy i wanna be with..but my boyfriend loves me but im startin to love the other guy, but the guy i wanna be with has a past for CHEATIN and my boyfriend doesnt...WHAT DO I DO?Because no matter where i am im always thinkin bout the other guy, instead of my boyfriend?

First of all, if you really like your boyfriend's friend (more than your boyfriend) then you should def go for it! If the friend has a history of cheating.. by what you said, you do too! (Even if you said he kissed you first.. you did accept it, right?) You should tell your current boyfriend about your crush since he'll find out anyways if you date him.. Hope I helped you! Leave me a message if you need any more help.. -Ce

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HELLOOOO! I go by the name CE and I love to give advice. I give almost everyone I know advice and it seems to go well.. be comfortable about asking me any question at all. Don't let my age thow you off, I know what I'm talking about. It seems like most of the time, I have a reasonable answer, and sometimes they are reeaally looong. I like to talk! Sometimes, I think it's all I ever do!