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This guy took a picture of my friends and I and everyone looked really good but I looked REALLY bad and everything I looked just really greasy and just crazy and I felt really ugly when looking at the picture.

And he's part of the yearbook commitee and I have a feeling that he's oging to put it up but he refuses to cut me out.

Is there anything i could do? i'm going to like cry!

I know that looks aren't everything but this is highschool, it's SOMETHING and when all these different people that I don't know buys the yearbook and sees me in the picture and never saw me before, that's going to be the first impression of me to them. (link)
well, i am on the newspaper staff, and its pretty much the same as yearbook. i know where you coming from, but sometimes people need to meet dead lines and stuff.
thats why he probably doesnt want to do a retake.
if he puts that picture in there, and people comment on it, just laugh it off.
play it cool, the bigger deal you make it, the more attention people are gonna pay to it.
and also...
you might think you look bad, but in reality, you dont! i know that happens to me alot.
when i think i look horrible, but everyone else is likee NOOO you dont!
so alot of it might be self concious!


There's this boy that i really like and want to get to know better. He gave me his IM and we were talking today for the first time but we didnt have much to talk about. i know this is kinda a stupid question but i want us to get close and become really good friends. i know that comes with time but what can we do to become better friends. my question in case u didnt catch it is wha should we talk about? i've heard of games where you take turns asking questions with each other but would he think thats stupid? Thanks so much and i will rate all ur helpful advice!!!!!!!! :D (link)
I would probably start out talking about the day.
and then when the convo dies down ask him if hes going to a certain event [like school football game, church, play etc]
if he says no or if theres none, then just talk to him as you would in person.
over aim is usually alot harder then talking to him in person, because thers no emotion in what you guys are saying, and its usually kind of weird!
i personally like to talk about
thing THEY like to do.
like football or whatever.
but if your not that football type, tell him,
dont lie to him and tell him that your all about football.
catch my drift?


What are some things i can find around the house to masturbate with besides the ends of a toothbrush and combs? (link)
if you turn your shower head to the
massage setting its pretty good.
i do that every night.


ppl say its awesome but idk how to do it?
like how do u masterbate??? (link)
its sex without the other person.


So me and my friend made like a dildo or whatever, and we put a condom over it and used lube. As we were penetrating the dildo in our vagina, it would like STOP going in... it was like a wall htat was stoping the dildo from going in.. and when u would hit the wall, it was like really bad cramps. What is this wall??
its like 3-4 inchs in me....

THANKS (link)
i think its your vagina wall.
impressive on making the dildo!

what did you make it out of?


how long does it take to read an orgasm when stimulationi your clit with the massage setting on the shower head ?

how do i know im about to get one ?

should i finger myself at the same time ? (link)
well when i do that, it can take 20 seconds or 20 minutes. it depends on the person. I think about a guy being on top of me. and i think of his hand being the shower head. Then try different positions. like laying down, squating. you can finger yourself if you want. but i dont. i just put the showerhead on my clit and make circular motions wiht it.

When your getting one, you will feel really horny.
Then usually you have to grasp something really tightly. and it will feel like you cant take it anymore. but just keep it there. it feels liek heaven.


ok well i'm gonna have sex w/ this guy, but i'm a little worried that his penis might be too thick for me to take. is this a stupid fear? will my vagina be able to stretch to accomodate it? ...and will it hurt a lot? (link)
this is normal.
alot of chicks have this fear.
yes your vagina will be able to stretch!
its can get a baby out for crying out loud! lol.
but it will probably hurt.
but if you have a good boyfriend, he will
make you as comfortable as possible.


My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex sometime soon.. within the month. We are both 16 + virgins and we are going out to buy condoms together. I'm also on birth control, have been for nearly 5 months and I'm excited for sex.

Is that strange of me? I'm actually looking forward to it and I feel really comfortable about it too. Most of my friends didn't feel like this before their first time.. so i feel out of place.
:/ (link)
No this is not strange of you!
its your time, feel however you want.
dont just follow the crowd!
I would be excited too!


when i masturbate i think of my guy friend (my only guy friend) but i dont like him i dont think he is cute or whatever he is like a brother to me. i like my best friend who is a girl. but why do i think of my guy friend more than i think of her? i do think of doing it to her but i think of my guy friend having sex with me. i dont get it. (link)
Wait Wait Wait.
so are you a chick?
so are you bi?
Well its not bad to think of you
guy friend while masturbating.
I do it all the time, and it turns me on.
[and im a chick]. but i dont like. i like a
different guy, but i cant picture us doing it together.
get it?


i dont know if this is wierd or not. when i masturbate i sit on one spot in my room every time. and what happens on that spot, stays on that spot. am i wierd?

thanx (link)
no your not weird!
its your time to be intamite.
you do whatever the heck you want!


hey im kaitlin im 13 and i like this kid who is a year younger than me is that weird?

also.. one of his friends imed me the other day and hes like EW EW YOU LIKE ERIC ( the kid i liked ) and he goes on and says EW HES A YEAR YOUNGER THAN YOU!! and i was like i dont like him (which i do) and i was like getting mad and he was like im just kidding. but i m still kinda mad about that.

and also, i REALLY wanna let eric kno i like him without actually telling him. so do u know if there is anyway that i can like lead him on? i dont really want to make it that obviouse tho.

i am also scared people will think its weird for me liking someone younger than me.
help? =] (link)
dont worry.
look at most of the couples around you.
your parents for instance. One is probably a couple years older than the other. RIght?
its not weird. It just seems like that because you are in grade school. I like a guy thats a senior and im a sophomore. Thats 2 years older than me! And he likes me back. He likes a WAY younger chick. And hes not embarrassed!

To lead him on, try getting really flirty.
call him. but dont call him all the time.
to the point where it get obnoxious! yeah.
dont do that! lol.
but tell him you like someone. or tell his friend
that you like someone.
but dont say who. this will drive him CRAZY!


okay so. I'm a girl and I have a guy friend. and everytime we talk on msn, he starts off the conversation with "whats up" and I say "nothing" and then the conversation ends there. when he asks whats up...what is he waiting for me to answer him with?! lollll (link)
well when he says "whats up" that
just means he wants an exuse to talk to you.
so when you reply dont just say nothing.
what are you really doing? you could say something like, "just checking my myspace. what about you?" and then he would answer. then from there start a convo. like "what are you doing today?" or ask him for advice on something.
he just wants to start the convo with you. you just have to play along!


Ugh... well I have a really weird problem that won't go away.

I am SO afraid of Satan. I mean like seriously afraid of him. It's to the point where I can't sleep 'cause I'm worried he's going to come through the door and kill me.

This happens every night. It takes me hours until I can fall asleep because I start imagining in my mind that Satan is going to do something really bad. Then I have these dreams where I'm possessed.

It's seriously the scariest thing ever. I mean, because I believe that it's all completely real. I know that it's not likely that anything like that would happen, but there's still that small chance that it could...

Ever since I saw The Excorcism of Emily Rose, I have been SCARED. TO. DEATH. And that was a really long time ago when I saw that movie. But I mean that movie is true, and it really happens to people.

PLEASE help me. I need to know how to get rid of this fear of mine.

(link)
well if your a christian
you should have your
faith in Jesus Christ.
therefore, you shouldnt be
all worried about satan because you know
that Christ will protect you.


how do you make cheeks look thinner?

and how do you make eyes pop and look bigger?

any makeup advice to make my face prettier??

thx!! (link)
for the eyes...
use bright colors.
it depends on your skin tone.
but use bright fun colors.
im assuming your around high school
age, and thats what most people do.
and use liner!

For the cheeks.
when you do your blush, make
a kissing face and suck your
cheeks inward.
then apply where your cheek bones are.


I've been kind of antisocial for a while and part of me is fine with it but the other part really wants it to stop.It's like sometimes I really want to talk to people and be around them and other times that's the last thing that I want.I'm afraid of looking stupid,afraid of people not liking me,thinking that if I go out with people I'm missing a chance to do something else,I think that when people want to hang out they're just saying that because they feel sorry for me...a whole bunch of things.

In the rare case that i AM in a voluntary social situation(forced ones are just a mess that i won't even get into),I really want to mingle and have fun but I just don't know what to do...can't think of things to say,don't know how to act,I just feel like everyone around me doesn't want to have anything to do with me or they're more interested in their other friends.

Could someone please tell me what I can do to just be a normal teenager instead of wasting all of my time alone? (link)
be your self.
if you have REAL friends,
you wont care about sounding stupid.
I think some of it is your self esteem.
Dont over think what your going to say.
That just makes things worse.
Just talk, usually when you dont plan your
words out, it comes out smoother and better.


wat is a good easy program to do photo work. ex. black and white pictures with some spots in color. my sister in law has a program where you make the picture black and white and the back picture be color and you "erase" the black and white part that you want color, and the color will show thorugh, understand?? ne'ways i want a good photoshop program please help me out! (link)
most people would say photoshop, but i know you dont want to spend that kind of money.
so if you google "serif photo editor" its exactly like photoshop, but its free!
also this program called picasa is free if you
google it!
you can easily brighten pictures or do that blace and white thing!


Okay so im asian.
and i have eyelids.
but randomly.....
it disappeared on one eye.
and now one eye looks smaller then the other?

what do i do?!?!?
i need to fix this eye before school starts!
thnxx! =] (link)
Hey.
Im asian too!
do you mean eyelids as in
the crease in your eye lid?
One way to make your eyes seem
bigger is to wear darker eye make up.
if your asian and dont have a crease [like me]
blacks and dark greens work real well. if you
wear light colors on your eye lid, it will make your eye look puffy.


So.. i have a pretty horrible singing voice
but i LOVE to sing!
i want to know.....
how do i work on my singing voice?
or is this problem not fixable!?

help me out! please
thanxxxxxx =]
(link)
okay.
so if you love to sing.
DONT STOP!
you can look into voice lessons.
or if you have a friend that can
sing well, you should sing with her.
practice singing with her!
she might be able to give you
tips on how to make your voice sound
better!




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