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Okay,
I started dating my boyfriend almost 3 months ago, We've had sex only 6 times. I have a high sex drive and too me 6 times in 3 months is not good. I spoke to my boyfriend about how it bothers me that we lack sexual contact. He told me that he doesn't like sex and that he's not like other guys who like to have sex almost every night. Also, No matter how much I tease him it doesn't seem to work... He told me that he wants to try male enchantments or viagra but he's only 23 years old. :( Is there anything I could do? or Does anyone know what or why he might be saying this or feeling this way? (link)
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I actually think that its really sweet of him to not be a lil play boy. I wouldn't be too worried medically wise, but it sounds a bit like he is embarressed or thinks he isnt good enough. You should really boost his ego all the time. Tell him he is smart or funny. Just simple compliments, like he is adorable or you love him or what have you. Then, kiss him. Seriously, you can't just pressure the whole sex thing, when done right, the situation should just happen. So sit on a couch, watch a movie, and kiss his neck, his chest, his hair, his face. Make him feel like you love him. This could lead to sex, it may not, but whatever happens, be patient. You will be glad you did when he is ready :)
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I know that everyone who reads this will just say "Drop him!!" i have heard it from all my friends but i just want another opinion. Ok i have known this guy for about 3 or 4 months now, we have hung out and seen each other about once a week and we talk almost every other day. Though he is not my prince charming and i dont have the greatst connection with the kid i like him and idk y. well here is the kicker, we have sex and yet we are not like b/f and g/f i have talked to him multiple times about going out but he just says i dont want a relationship and that he just doesnt like me in that way..... idk what to do. I want to be with him but he refuses to want to be with me.... should i just drop him? (link)
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OK hun. First of all, this situation must suck, and I'm sorry about that :(
My fear is that, going into this sexual relationship, you werent on the same level. To you, he means a lot, but to him, you are a booty call. That is really where the misunderstanding was. Now about a bf/gf relationship? He told you he didn't like you in "that" way...the dreaded words.
You mentioned that he wasnt your prince charming....so lets analyze that super quick. You know you don't love him for who he really is. You wish you could have this amazing guy, but you have only found lame-man. There are better guys out there for you, I guarentee it :)
So what to do: Instead of flat out asking him to be in a relationship, have fun. not sex. fun. Go out to a movie with a group of friends, have a party do whatever. And girl, you should FLIRT YOUR HEART OUT. If this boy means as much to you as I think he does, dropping him isnt really an option. You have already broken the physical barrier, but try emotional. Build up his ego. Make him feel powerful. Then maybe at the end of the night, instead of sex, kiss him really softly and leave it at that. So, in a way it sounds like its "hard to get" but really, you might just need to back off.
Don't let your boy-toy use you like he has been. When the time is right, go ahead and tell him how you feel. "Its been really great getting to know you" blah blah "and i think it was time we took our relationship to the next level".
If the answer is no, don't ask him again, and don't flirt, kiss, have sex w/ him ever ever ever until he wants to grow up and make a commitment.
If the answer is yes, I would still go light on the sex. You might not know the intentions yet, so sit down and have a chat about your new relationship as bf/gf.
I hope i helped! I would love to hear updates!
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Thanks so much for the update!
So he told you that he didn't have time to hang out with you? That is kinda rude, because already to me, you sound like a wonderful girl :)
What did you say to him afterward? Are you guys still talking at all?
This next question might be a little personal, so you dont have to answer it: How often did you two have sex? Because, through your question it sounds pretty often. And its not like that takes like only 5 seconds or something, so I don't think time is the real issue here. He could be nervous to actually develop a relationship with someone. Or, he could just be a jerk.
In either case, I don't think you should leave him stranded. Where as you may not be able to change him, you could be able to open him up. Start out with a small party, invite friends that will talk to you and have fun, but be sure he gets the invite too. Your friends will be there to keep you happy if he makes you mad, and they can also make sure you two don't venture off together ^_^ Plan the party or get-together far enough in advance that he could get work off (2-4 weeks in advance is good) so he doesn't have an excuse. If he still says he can't make it, keep trying again and again, just inviting him to activities you may do with your friends. However, if he does show up (let's hope) than treat him as you do your other friends, but remember, flirting is so allowed!
I hope you have fun, and don't get too stressed out, because some guys *newsflash* can be shallow. Remember to always be safe, bring friends when you hang out with him, because you never know what he really has on his mind. Okay hun, I hope the update helped, and maybe so my comment doesnt get longer and longer you can email me with updates okay?
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I used to have a really nice golden brown hair color. Even before that, as a child, I had blondish hair. For this summer, I wanted to lighten my hair back to a blonder color, but only for this summer. I made the mistake of following a friend's advice to use sun-in and my beautiful brown hair has been replaced with an orange-tinted light brown. I am really depressed that this change is permanent-- it really doesn't look good at all!
Is there any way to undo the sun-in without causing any further damage? I have never died my hair or gotten highlights and I really don't want to have to do that to undo the sun-in. Help!!!
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Unfortunatly there is not much you can do to reverse the sun-in. The most you can do w/o using other products would be to grow it out and cut it. I would however reccomend dyeing it back to the color that you want. Whether it is your childhood color or your recent hair color. I am so sorry and I wish there was more I could do to help!
~ARIANNEKP
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Fourteen years old; Four foot, eleven; about ninety eight pounds. Fat?
I'd lost my appetite while at this college thing, because I got really depressed, and I just got it back, so I'm feeling fat, because I could hardly eat before, but no I'm pigging out.
I'm tempted to go on a major work out spree tonight, so I'd like to know. Haha. (link)
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You don't sound fat at all! As a teenager (especially girls) we go through stages where are bodies tend to store more fat so we can grow. Sometimes we might look at ourselves and be like...woah i should work out more!
Make sure that you do maintain as much as a normal eating and excersising habit as possible. Try to eat more fruits and veggtables because they fill you up more. Don't overdue it on the exercising either because you can only handle so much.
If you are ever feeling self concious, remember to stand up straight because it can hide any tummy that you think you might have.
Good luck sweetie and don't get discouraged!
~ariannekp
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Hi!
So is there a weightwatchers program for men? I mean guys need help too when it comes to losing weight.
It seems like men are completely left out of everything to do with diets, dieting and weight loss. Why is that?
THANKS! (link)
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Yea! My mother does weight watchers and she just showed me the new plan for both men and women. The weight watcher's program is very successsful (my mom lost 112 pounds so far in a little more then a year). You can find out more about it by going to www.weightwatchers.com
happy dieting ~Ariannekp
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Do black head strips realyl work? Do they damage your skin? Are they really expensive?
are pore strips the exact same thing?
if you use pore strips can they get rid of black heads too? (link)
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Yes black head strips do really work as long as you follow the directions. You can't use them more then every 4 or 5 days or they will expose skin that isn't ready yet (as in rip off to much skin). These strips are usually 3-8 dollars at any grocery or drug store. Pore strips are the exact same thing, just a nicer way to say the name.
~ariannekp
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Ok. I really need help. How do you get mutual friends on facebook? I tried editing the details and confirming and I already have 116 friends, with no mutual friends. How do you get them I'm talking serious here!!! This is insane. Everyone has it. :( (link)
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To get a mutual friend in face book, you or your friend has to confirm the request. So the way it works is you send the request. They get the request and they pick how they know you. You get that info back and you have to say its correct before you can be mutual friends. I hope this helped
~ariannekp
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you know for a heart you just type in ♥
but whats the code for big letters? (link)
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Well I personally do not know but I searched your question and I repeatedly got the following result.
RewriteEngine on
RewriteMap lower2upper int:toupper
RewriteRule ^/(.*)$ /${lower2upper:$1}
Im assuming you add this to a comment like myspace or zanga. Once again I am really sorry if this doesn't work!
Good Luck ~ariannkp
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If I do 200 or more crunches a day, how long will i take to see results?!
thanks :) (link)
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Wow what a great goal! I would say you would definatly begin to see a result within two weeks. This result if you are a guy would probably give you the beginings of a six pack (a little definition in the middle and on the sides). If you are a girl the most you could get from this is most likely a skinny waist and a little bit of a six pack. These would be the resultws if you are already in fairly good condition, just without a six pack.
If you enjoy doing crunches, try changing them up a little. Try laying you legs bent to one side (so your hip is almost pointing to the ceiling) but remain crunching up and down to work the obliques. I would start by doing 50 and 50 on your obliques and as long as you are comfortable with continuing, add the 200 regular crunches.
Remember that even if you exersise a lot, only working one part of your body may actually be bad in the long run. You could suffer from ab cramps if you dont do something to strengthen your back as well. Adding some 30 sec leg lifts and probably 30-50 crunches will not only benifit your abs, but your entire body as well.
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what font is this? & size..
http://www.iconator.com/icon.php?IconID=288630
im just starting to make icons and i like that font.
does anyone have any other icon making tips or ideas? or programs... (link)
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The font looks a lot like Microsft Word's "Amiga Forever" in all caps except slightly skinnier.
Another simialar font is "Vrinda" in all caps. If you were to use this font you would sacrifice a little bit of the typewriter/computer text look. On the other hand using a cleaner font would make your overall icon look more orginized and easier to read.
As far as making an actuall icon goes, "Microsoft Digital Image Suite 2006 Editor" works wonderfully! You can make images that don't change or if you want some sort of graphic you can use the flipbook tool. This tool allows you to create moving pictures by slightly changing the graphic every few seconds. I would highly recomend this product but I would also warn you it is a tad expensive. ($60-100) You can find some cheat knock offs online for for almost a half of the price, but you would most likely lose some of the quality. If you have any further questions please contact me!
~Ariannekp
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13/F. I'm an introvert, pretending to be social. I definitely have walls around myself, not allowing myself to make real human connections. I talk to people with my friends, but I feel blank, I can't just say what is on my mind, I have to say 'safe' things, almost to protect myself.
My goal this summer is to come back to school with self confidence and self-esteem. To always be myself. But, a lot of the books I've been finding just make ya sit at home all day reading the thing. I want to become more social, and I want to go out into the world and learn for myself how to get out there!
Are there any books anyone here is familiar with that have activities in them for confidence/self-esteem? I guess I've seen it called activity-oriented. Such as tasks to go out in the public and complete, to get out of my comfort zone.
Do you have any activity type things I could go do in the public to prove myself that I can be social? I would love help thinking of these... perhaps in order from easy to hard.
Thank you so much for any suggestions.
P.S. I have a two week summer course starting July 3rd and I'd like to really have the best time and make friends! (link)
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Remember that whatever you want your personality to be you can achieve it. So when looking for activities to do where you can meet people, think of things that your school or church may already put on to help people like yourself. These could be dances or parties. Go with a group of friends that you are comfortable being outgoing with. If you begin to attend large activites such as the summer course you described, you begin to feel more comfortable with meeting people. You might also want to begin looking for a job where you have to talk to people. Since you are only 13, I would look into doing babysitting or dog-walking.
When you first meet people try to look your best. Make eye contact, reach out you hand for a hand shake. The hand should shake twice (i.e. go up about 2-3 times) and then let go. While this goes on say "Hi (or hello if addressing older people) my name is ______ nice to meet you." Often times they will say their own name in which case you want to repeat.
This may sound really dorky, but hey I met my bf this way. Have a great time meeting new friends!
love -Ariannekp
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okayy i am asking 2 questions so please hang in with me. first off i have a boy problem, i really like this guy but he told me he likes me more then he should becuz he likes this other girl whos been around him forever. and yeahh it really bugs me how he will kiss me and be all over me but do it to every other girl as well.
so is there anyway i can win him over the other girls or do anything cuz he is single and i noe he wants something. and then is there a qutoe saying like "you need to choose. the girl or the game playing with every girls heart"or something like that. thankss mucho (link)
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Okay this boy is completely and utterly repulsive to me. The fact that he is willing to share special actions which should all be devoted to you amoungst other people is wrong. I can say this because I have been there. It doesn't feel good to have someone constantly show affection to you and do the same to other girls. But if thinking about this doesn't make this guy a huge turn-off im ready to help you out.
1.Talk to him about how it makes you feel. Let him know that what he is doing is not only hurtful, but confusing as well
2.Give him a chance. After you tell him how you feel about it say something like, "you know how that makes me feel, if you do it again I'm not quite sure this will work out"
3. Remember your body is your own property. Don't put yourself up to something you might not want to do because you want to prove he likes you more then these other sluts he's chasing around.
You really sound like a great girl. I know that pain you feel inside everytime even little things occur. You have a right to feel as though you need to be respected, and you need to make it clear that if he can't choose he will lose you.
Sorry, I tried to find the quote but I am not having any luck.
Good Luck -ariannekp
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ok i have a girlfriend and ive kissed her before and all that but i was just wondering what are some good tips to do with your hands or mouth while kissing, and like where to do it and all that to make it more enjoyable for her, thanks in advance (link)
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Well, when I have been kissed in the past, I liked it best when the guys hands were around my waist like pulling me closer to him. To the contrary, I felt weird when he put his hands anywhere above my shoulders (that would be feminine hand placement). Also lightly massage your hands on her back so she doesn't just feel like you are stiff or something.
Make sure when you use your mouth not to open to big. As odd as it sounds, this girl probably has a smaller mouth than you and you dont want to hurt her when you come at her with the jaws of death. As far as tongue goes, let if flow naturally. If she pulls away, FOLLOW HER! Do not cling on mouth to mouth for dear life.
Thats all I have for know. Have a great time making out /ariannekp
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My boyfriend & I have been dating for 4 months now & he's going off to college while I'm stuck here in high school. Would things change between him & I? Should I dump him because of the distance we'll be having? (He isn't moving to a different state/country, just not the same school) My parents are hardcore strict! & they never let me out and there's no way of convincing them to let me go out w/ people or my boyfriend (I'm not asking for advice to talk to my parents, they can't understand English anyway lol). So what should I do? Should I continue this relationship and love him for the next 2-3 years? Do you think a COLLEGE student would still love me by then? :) Please help. (link)
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It sounds like you really love this boy, and I think he loves you. There is no doubt in my mind that college might phase his love towards you. This could be for the better, as in he misses you and wants to be with you, or the worse as in there are more opertunities to meet new people.
I wouldn't break up with him just yet tho because once again you never know how the changes will affect you.
Lastly, you might not realize, but this guy you are dating is growing older, to an age where soon he will be looking to settle down. You are still in the wonderful years of highschool where you are given many opertunities to associate with other guys that you could end up dating. While the difference in age may not hinder the fact that you are dating, be aware that he is becoming a man.
You sound like a wonderful girl! Please do not get discouraged, just understand the difference that college might bring to your world. I wish you the best of all luck with your boyfriend
love always / ariannekp
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I have 2 bikinis but I don't feel totally comfortable wearing them, and I would like to find a tankini. The problem is that I can't find one that fits me in both the body and the chest. I'm a 34D, so I'm a small to average framed girl with a large chest and I'm trying to be pretty modest, I don't like to show a lot up top. I think halter is best for support so that is the style I would prefer. I have tried Target, Kohl's, Old Navy, and I can't find anything. I know Victoria's Secret would be able to provide a suit that would fit better but it would probably be too sexy and I'm not looking for that. Can anyone recommend anything to me? (link)
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Wow I can see wear you might be having problems. I recently bought a tankini at Macy's. They had a lot of styles in the womens section, but i did however end up getting one in the juniors section. All of the tops were very supportive, but then again i am a 32 B so what do I know...I really hope this helped because I know how frustrating shopping can be.
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