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Q: Im a girl.
Okay question one: whats and orgasam and how do you know if you have one?(can guys get them?)

question two: Whats a good way to masturbate? && i wanna get a orgasm while doing it. When i fugre myself it doesnt feel as good as like if i use a back massager on it.

answer quickly please. this sounds gross but im in the mood.

i dont know the medical definition of orgasm, but its like...a sexual release. its when youre engaging in a sexual activity long enough and you reach your peak. everyone has orgasms, including guys haha. exept they ejacualte semen when they cum (another word for orgasm) most girls masturbate by rubbing their clit, or using a vibrator/dildo. to make your self have an orgasm, just do what feels the best...and keep doing it. it might take awhile to get the hang of it, but once you do, itll be so easy.

Q: sooo how do i get my eye makeup like this?

http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll119/iscream4bananas/scenehair107.jpg

detailed and some good products to use would be fantastic

i do mine that way :) first off, if youre planning on wearing foundation, put on all your mascara first. a great mascara is maybelline's "great lash" (its the pink tube with the green top) and give yourself 2-3 coats on on the top, and 1-2 on the bottom. wipe away any on your skin and under your eyes with a Q-tip. then line your upper lash line with black eyeliner (try wet 'n' wild) do the same for the bottom lash line - but sparingly. smudge the bottom eyeliner so it doesnt look so harsh. then pencil in your inner bottom lash line. sweep on a dark eyeshadow (M.A.C. works great.) but dont apply it too far up, you want to look like you know what your doing. then, if you want, add a LITTLE bit of eyeshadow over top of the eyeliner on your OUTER bottom lash line. you never want to go too heavy. and ta-da, your finished. again, if your planning on wearing mascara, put that on first, and foundation and powder second, and the eyeliner and shadow last. hope this helps you :) 17/f

Q: Wasn't to sure what folder to put this in, so I hope this is the right one!!

Since I was about 14 I've wanted to have a baby so much, and to make it worse 8 of My close friends have recently had babies (It isn't one of them "well If My friends have one I want one" moments) none of which where planned.

However Me and my Boyfriend both want a child, sooner rather than later we have spoke about where we would live, about income and how we would support our child.

In all honesty I know I'm ready to be a Mum.

I am currently going into My last year at collage where I am studying 4 academic subjects and planning to go to university in the future.

I know people will say wait till I am older and have more to offer My child but I want someone to give Me honest oppinons and let Me know about maybe any experiences they have had.

The Last part of My problem is if I was to ave a child, I know My family would not be best please, they would support Me, but I know that I would have let them down!!

Whenever I see somebody else with a beautiful baby girl or boy, I can just imagine myself in that position giving a baby un conditional love and anything which they need.

Please give Me your honest advice as I would very much appreciate it.

!Thanks!

Female - 17 -

im the same way. im 17 and grew up all around my baby cousins, and now i want nothing more than to have a child with my boyfriend of 2 years. he and i have also discussed finance and living situations. however, last spring i got pregnant, and had a miscaridge. which just broke me bc i had what id always wanted, and it just...went away. but it made me realize how much responsibility and effort it would take. so things actually worked for the better. just trust me, if you wait till youre at least 22, youll be so happy you did. it will just make having a baby more wonderful, bc you had to wait longer. just wait a few years hun, youll be glad you did in the long run :) really. 17/f

Q: Hey, I had my first sexual encounter last week. And some weird things have been happening, and I'm a little afraid. We had protected sex, but I haven't been feeling well for the past couple of days. I think it might be the flu, but I'm not positive that it is.. What are early signs of pregnancy, just in case? I don't really know what they are, but I would like to be on the lookout for symptoms.

well early pregnancy symptoms mean the first 6 weeks of pregnancy. so if you had sex a few days ago, or a week, you wouldnt be showing any signs yet, really. and if you used a condom, you should be ok. but im pretty sure i know whats wrong. if this was your first time having sex, many girls experience fatigue, hunger, and just genrally not feeling very well for the next few days. this could last up to a week or two. i had this problem, and after about a week i felt fine again. but if this persists for more than two weeks, then go to the doctor. 17/f

Q: i asked a question like this before but i dont think i worded it correctly.

when i masturbate i dont actually finger myself, i just rub my clit. i dont really find fingering myself pleasurable at all.

so my question is, when i have sex, will i be able to have an orgasm?

you should be able to. many women masturbate by rubbing the clit, not fingering themself. thats more of a foreplay thing for a guy to do. but penis's are (obviously) longer and thicker than a finger, and can better hit the g-spot, enabling you to have an orgasm from having sex. i hope this helps. 17/f

Q: well hi:) i'm 15 and female . for the last couple of days i've been having like disharge coming from . . . down there :$ like it hasn't smelled or anything . it's jus like if I lay down for a little while and then stand up it's like coming out and I have to like change underwear and stuff. it's sick . well my mom said that if I took an antibiotic (or whatever it's called) & it'll get rid of it if it's an infection . because everytime I have infections doctors give me antibiotics but I don't know if there are different kinds of antibiotics and idk if the kind she has will work . because I am ready for SEX haha . and at first I was insecure about my body & when I got secure with it enough to be ready for sex this freakin discharge shows up and I don't want a guy to be creeped out about that . so will antibiotics work ?

well vaginas usually have stuff coming out of them anyways. an increase might just mean your sexual hormones are at work! :) if it doesnt smell, and isnt greenish or too yellow-y, then you should be fine. if its normal discharge, it might be cloudy white, clearish, or a mixture of the two. if this is what your experiencing, you should be fine. maybe try putting in a tampon if your going to be with a guy, and excuse yourself to the bathroom to "freshen up." take it out, and ta-da! youre clean. hope this helps :) 17/f

Q: Any tips on swallowing cum?

I can't seem to do it, I gag almost every time and either cough it up or just avoid the situation altogether by asking my boyfriend to warn me before it happens, and I get off.

i usually gag, but i found if i pinch myself (not to cause any extreme pain, that would be weird haha) just hard enough to hurt so that it distracts me, i can swallow easily. and try maybe pushing your mouth down further. hope this helps. 17/f

Q: so tonight is prom and i may possibly end up giving me date a bj and ive never gave one before...what do i do? and should i tell him to tell me when hes gonna cum? and will i get precum in my mouth? is it really gross?

well i never notice any pre-cum, but they actual stuff..its really not that bad. just swallow (if your going to) fast, and maybe take a drink, if you dont think hed be offended. if he doesnt tell you when hes about to cum, you can tell by watching out for these: the penis will get harder and feel a little spasm-y, his breathing will increase, and hell most likely get switchy or squirmy. all of these are most probable. but if hes not too shy, he might say something like "dont stop" or put his hands in your hair to draw you closer. im not going to go into detail on how to actually go about GIVING the blowjob, simply for the sake of being too graphic. but i will tell you that if you google something along the lines of "how to give a blowjob" or "blowjob tips" they will provide you with extremly useful techniques and such :) hope i helped. 17/f

Q: im a fm 14 years old.
i do cheerleading and gymnastics for 10 hours a week every week all year

my left lower back is killing me. like some times i can barely walk it hurts so bad. like as i type its hurts like a sharpe painn.
my doctor said i was just over working it but since my check up its gotten alot worse.

can anyone tell me whats wrong?

i was a cheerleader and had the same problem. im pretty sure its nothing serious - i went to the "back doctor" and she prescribed parafon forte (i forget how to spell it) its a muscle relaxer. your probably just over-working your muscles and/or spine. it depends on your position. backs and flyers are more likely to have this happen. try to find a good chiropracter and make appointments once a week - itll help. hope i did :) 17/f

Q: hi, i'm a 19 yr. old female and i have a bit of a problem. i have these thick ankles that i'm self concious about. they're definitely not cankles because my ankles are still skinnier than my calves, but lets say my ankles are just a little thicker than most which i think is unusual. anyways, are there any exercises i could do to make them skinnier? my mom also has similiar ankles to mine but hers are a little more thicker if that helps with genetics or something. thank you for the advice in advance.

i have this problem too, exept im the only one in my family with it. upon consulting my aunt, a nurse, we found out the probable reason -- i walk on my toes. im not sure if this is the same thing youre expiriencing, but when you walk on your toes, you use the muscle in front of your legs, instead of your calfs. thus resulting in a large muscle mass near you ankle, which looks like cankles. its rather embarrassing. im not exactly how to get rid of them yet, as im still trying to figure that out. i hope this helped. 17/f