My name is Jillian and if you've got a question, I'll answer it the best I can.
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I used to run a lot, almost everyday- sometimes even twice a day when I had time. Now, I'm taking harder classes in school and I have a very busy schedule with band and lacrosse. I still think it's important for me to run consistently because that's how I stay in shape for lacrosse. How can I manage my time better so that I can still run everyday without it cutting into my time for sleep? Any tips would be appreciated. (link)
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You just have to fill your days up and sleep well at night. Maybe you could only run on the weekends, or maybe you could wake up eh maybe 30 minutes earlier and run before you start your daily routine (that'll really get you going for the day, too)
I suppose you just need to look at your time and see where you can fit it in.
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so for about a year or so i've had somewhat of a sweating problem
its not disgusting
i just can't wear tight tee shirts
or long sleeves
without getting small sweatmarks
im 15/f
my mom said it was a "phase"
but im tired of having to monitor what i wear
any help? (link)
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Oh there is this product that my cousin uses and she swears by it.
It's called "certain dri"
http://i.ivillage.com/BS/products_shopping/antipers/BS_CertainDri_366.jpg
I hope it works for you too!
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i was best friends with this girl for two years then this summer i started like kissing guys and experimenting with new things. and shes telling people i changed and how she doesnt want to be my firend. she wont come to me and talk about it and i already asked her if shes pissed at me and she says no and was nice to me in school but i still feel like were not the same as we use to be. i dont know hwat to do because i am still me and she as my firned should not judge me and if she has a problem she should talk to me!
am i wrong?
what do id o (link)
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Well I don't think you are doing anything wrong and if she's your true friend this change wouldn't bother her. If you guys have beebn friends for a long time then I'm guessing she is scared that you are changing into a whole new person and perhaps she doesn't want you to. That, of course, doesn't change the fact that you are changing and you just need to honestly sit down with her and talk to her about this change you are going through. If she's really your friend she'll understand, but give her some time to adjust.
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Im a fourteen female and I have this iffy chronic fatigue thing, so Im homebound and dont get to see much of my friends let alone this AMAZING boy. This is going to be lengthy. Apologies! But friends dont matter much at the moment because my closest are moving away, including said boy, though not until summer ends. Ive liked him on and off for months, starting before new years. Last week we got into this conversation. I explained I was thinking about getting a hair cut, but nothing drastic,
and so he he was all 'kayjayyy[jay is for jerk] but ehh dont cut it youre cute enough already[smile]'
and i exclaimed that it wouldnt matter what i did with it because its not like hed see me anyway because of my absence
and he had to be all 'whateverr' so when i asked wht was wrong he just said 'ehh nvm you dont care' and when i ensured him i DID in fact care a lot he finally said 'well i like you...your hair the way it is' and when i asked him what he meant he just said 'thats it. i like it the way it is'
And being the cheesy kid I am I changed subjects with a knockknock joke. And after a bit the talk went back to awkward for me. After asking him what was on HIS mind, he told me to tell HIM [practically] absolutely everything Ive thought about, details, details, and all. Dont skip anything.
-lalaaalala noo im avoiding conversation
-tell me everything
So I said 'im thinking about well how much i like you, your hair the way it is [smile]' I tried to say I was just copying him but eventually we both got into how we were into each other. And he posted this bulletin titled luv ya, you know who you are with TWO smilies and I already missed him
so last night would be the first night we talked since then. We were on aim, he was folding laundry, searching on youtube, probably talking to a million other people with the scenekidsocialite he is. So he was the only friend online pretty much. But he didnt say a word.
And again being the cheesy kid I am I eventually went into a knock knock joke. 'knockknock' and of course he said 'whos there' and when i said 'von'...he didnt answer. So I commented on how "youre not very good at knock knock jokes" because we failed to ask soandsowho the last time but still got a got from the punchline. And he went into caps lock 'ughh FINE VON WHO' and I was nervous already so I said 'ughhhh no one now GEEES later' and i was thinking of saying
'im sorry im annoying and youre so disappointing PEACE' AGAIN being the cheesypoetyetadorablyquaintandchildishperson HE says I always am.
But he signed off first, without saying goodbye
SO AGAIN SOOO SORRRRYYY FOR IT BEING SO LONG BUT IF YOU CANT TELL I LIKE TO WRITE "DDD
so thanks for reading, and any feedback is SOO appreciated; [ie] advice, support, the exact definition of bipolar, socialite, any words you mighta liked, your favorite music
haha. but hes moving but i cant help it. i wasnt sure if he thought we were a couple or not, and he had his details hidden, and we hadnt talked in days,
and weve got all summer to chill out.
and naturally, i was curious "/
but what now (link)
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i dont want to be that annoying overly-positive person in this situation but maybe he was just having a really bad day. maybe hes dealing with something really stressful, besides his laundry.
or maybe hes kinda eh with you because you havent talked to him since that awkward conversation and he basically told you he liked you and he might of assumed you would suggest going out and since you didnt, if im correct, then he's mad at you.
either one works.
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i sweat way too much. its like, dripping of my face/neck/tips of my hair. its really gross. So how can i sweat less? Shaving my head is not an option. i'll be inside with a t-shirt and capris on and i'll still be sweating. and summer is here so i really need help. i mostly sweat on the back of my neck but everywhere else is bad too. my sweating is horrible. please help me. lol (link)
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well for arm pits they have this deoderant in the store called "certain dri" or something. it definitely helps you to not sweat but i dont know how safe it is because i think what it does is block the sweat glands which im not really sure is a safe solution.
some people are born with over-active sweat glands,i bet if you saw a doctor they could really be helpful because this is pretty common.
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13/f.
Okay so, I'm know I'm probably 'too young' to even think about being in love, but whatever.
I have this best guy friend- Andrew. And I have like, the biggest freakin' crush on him. He does use me for money, because I think he knows he has me wrapped around his finger. Now, all my friends tell me he likes me back like; "Omg he so likes you," or "You can tell by the way he acts," or something.
What he does is:
-Always looks me in the eyes when talking to me or just when we're close.
-Ditches his friends to come and talk to me for a minute.
-He'll always smile at me out of the blue.
-When I call him a fagot [purposely or otherwise(:] he gets the "WHAT!?" face [ sorta like :O!?] and gets all emotional.
-Teases me like making faces.
I'm just wondering if he does like me back.
I'd figure it out myself, but
I'm too stupid to :P
Kthnx (link)
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its hard to tell if he likes you without physically seeing his actions...but i dunno if you guys are best friends that might just be him really like being around you. which could be that he likes you or that he just loves being friends with you.
maybe try to get one of your friends to casually bring the subject up and she can tell you how he reacts. like who cares how he actually answers because 13 yr old boys are pretty immature. tell her to notice the face expressions or if he starts acting kindof awkward like blushing and fiddling with his fingers.
you might want to just go for it but since hes also your best friend you're treading on thin ice because you dont want things between you guys to become awkward.
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My mother was recently diagnosed with Schizophrenia, yet she is in denial. If you scream at her to get help, her face remains completely unchanged and emotionless.
She thinks everyone is out to get her, and against her; trying to take me and my brother away from her,which has already been done.
In March of last year, my little brother John was taken by his father from my mother. She hasn't seen him since. But he did it for John's own safety because at the time, my mother was somewhat abusing me, and she went to jail for it for four months.
She blames my father, Johns father, and her own mother for everything that;s happening to her, and nothing we say will convince her to get help. She doesn't think she needs help, and absolutely refuses to get it.
On June 4th of this year my grandmother is going to stop paying for my mother hotel room [since the state of Georgia won't allow her to be around me alone] and is going to stop helping all in one.
Then we're going to Virgina for about 5 days; so my mother won't come to us asking for more help.
Thinking about doing that to my own mother, whom I love to death, breaks my heart.
I really need help on how to make her understand that she needs help...or I'll never have my old mother back ): (link)
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i dont think there's much you can really do. she needs to figure it out for herself, although with schizophrenia it would be harder for that to happen.
but really, i think you need to just be there for her. if you arent allowed to live with her anymore then write her letters and call her. oh wait. if she doesnt have a place to stay that would be very difficult...perhaps your grandmother cutting your mother off when she has schizophrenia isnt the best solution.
all you can do is hope something will happen. honest to god, i dont think you have much control over what your grandmother does.
just make sure your mother knows that you love her and act normal around her, and not like there is anything wrong. make sure she sees that you arent against her and you just like being with her. other than that, shes just going to have to figure things out for herself, sad as that may seem.
good luck-you're in one tough pickle.
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I like songs like these:
Maria Mena - Sorry
Maria Mena - I Miss Your Love
Corinne Bailey Rae - Like A Star
=) Thanks for the help! (link)
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lifesize by a fine frenzy
almost lover by a fine frenzy
breathe by faith hill
1234 by feist
hollywood's not america by ferras
the riddle by five for fighting
holding out for a hero by frou frou
hero takes a fall by the bangles
a wish by gregory and the hawk
4 in the morning by gwen stefani
let her cry by hootie and the blowfish
weight of the world by chantal kreviazuk
it's just a little crush by jennifer paige
foolish games by jewel
that should be good.
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15/m i don't know if i'm gay or not, but i'm sort of leaning towards being gay... i don't know what to do with myself.. i don't know if i should find someone and get things straight, or if i should wait for someone to show up... what should i do? (link)
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imagine yourself when you're older. can you see yourself with a pretty wife? or with a handsome partner? think about which one truly sounds more appealing.
sometimes i think maybe i could be gay (im female) because i look at celebrities or women on the street and notice things about them and yeah etc. but then i try imagining myself with a partner instead of a husband and i cant. i realize i wouldnt like it and that im way more attracted to the opposite sex.
so i guess you just have to really think hard about it. dont just go by "well that guy is really hot" go by who you would best see yourself with.
maybe even experiment. if you kiss a few girls it might tell you what way you're swaying to.
from like 13-15 is when almost everyone questions their sexuality. its not abnormal to be a little attracted to the same sex.
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heres a guy who is singing it but i have no idea who is the real singer here it is::::
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lfSQ0dm69J4 (link)
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...i googled it and the lyrics and its saying its by him and i limewired it too and its him too.
either he wrote it and everything or maybe it was some like unknown song from someone not widely known and now this guy is known for singing it?
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This might be long...
My 12 year old brother hangs out with this 16 year old named Tyler. Well apparently tyler thinks im the hottest thing since microwave popcorn, which i am perfectly fine with haha :)
But they live in indiana and i live in kentucky. I visit my dad there every 6 weeks. Tyler has a gf and was recently being picked on until he beat him up and then his 18 year old brother beat up the kid and got put into a detention center. Now dont say stay away from him he is a player because that is not neccisarily true.
question one:
people think that he is a bad person because of the bullying thing and that he is a player? what do you think??
I know it would be hard to continue a relationship with him being the long distance, but i want to have fun this summer. And i know there is the possibility i could get attatched. But i dont care, im willing to take that risk.
question two:
would you??
how could i flirt with him and stuff?? I want to show him im interested without actually saying "i like you idiot." or something like that :D so can you help me??
Sorry for the longness once again!! (link)
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i dont see why he would be a player. unless the fight was about him cheating on his gf but you said bullying so yeah i dont think he's a player.
the relationship would be fun..but it might hold you down. since you wouldn't be able to see him a lot and i dont know i think it would bum you out for summer since you would already be dating somone that is miles away instead of finding a new "summer love" or whatever.
i dont think i would because, personally, if i had a bf i only see every 6 weeks i would miss him and feel depressed in the time that i should be having fun. summer gives you a lot of free time and more free time gives you too much time to think.
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This might be a silly question, but I just want your opinions.
When is the age that you should (well, not 'should'... you know what I mean) start dating. Like really be looking for a long-term relationships and even potentially a future husband? I've never really dated seriously before, and I would just like to know what a good age/stage in life would be to start looking for a potential husband.
I'm 17 and a half, and I would to get married at 21-22. (I'll be done with college when I'm 21, and I want to have a kid before 24... LOL I know I'm weird).
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i think in college is when really you should really be serious with relationships and on the lookout for a future husband.
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Do you know songs that tells story like Sk8ter boy by Avril Lavigne. Give me the names of the song and the Artist or Band who sang it. Songs between year 2000 to present. (link)
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haha i have a perfect one:
"same girl" by R. kelly ft. usher
another one is "if only" by fiction plane (thats a song from the movie Holes)
anddd:
-"hollywood's not america" by Ferras
-"the riddle" by five for fighting
-"no such thing" and "say" by john mayer
-"where'd you go" by fort minor
-"all at once" by the fray
-"4 in the morning" by gwen stefani
-"breathe again" by jimmy robbins (this one is probably the closest to songs that tell a story besides the same girl song.)
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So I found out that my boyfriend of 2 months lied to me about smokeing weed. he swore he would never lie again but obviously i dont belive him considering he lied the first time. Now that hes lied, I always think that hes lieing to me about EVERYTHING..I dont want to break up with him but I dont want to be with him if I think hes lieing..I know this is confusing but how can I just find out the truth when I think hes lieing? Should I just trust him until I catch him in the act? PLEASE HELP! (link)
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you know, its tricky. you dont want to be gullible and trust everything, but you dont want to be untrusting either. you have to find a medium.
not trusting someone or lying to someone are both things that end relationships fast. its hard to trust someone who's lied to you about something as big as smoking weed, but maybe he lied to you about it because he's kindof ashamed of it and he just doesn't want you to know because he cares about you and really wants to be with you.
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ok so me and my boyfriend had sex like 2 weeks ago i dont come on my period yet till da begginig of month.but as me and my bofriend was doing it da second time im not sure if he came in me(he said he didnt) because all of it was on his stomach but we pulled out kinda late.well yesterday i took a pregnancy test and it came back negative. it seems like i get a feeling of something moving around in my stomach can someone tell me what dat means? (link)
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take a few different brands of pregnancy tests.
it could just be since you think you might be pregnant, your mind is paranoid and is making you think a normal feeling might actually be something related to a pregnancy when its not.
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I need an honest viewpoint on this.
Lets say you're a 16 year old girl and you broke up with your 16 year old boyfriend (which is my case). You broke up with him because he's been giving you really obvious hints that he didn't wanna be together anymore. He even said so one time. After a week of breaking up, he sends you a text saying something like: "You're contagious because I cried for no reason last night"
and all of a sudden, you start seeing your ex boyfriend depressed. (he never was before...in fact, he was happy). He tries to flirt with you more... He doesn't eat at lunch...he feels really sad and crappy. He doesnt flirt with girls like he usually did to try and make you jealous. He just sits in your table at lunch and sulks.
If this was your case, do you think he's depressed over the break up?
Thank you (link)
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you know what, i think he likes to have you under his control. i have a friend like that who i've liked for a while and he knows it. whenever i realize hes an asshole and i dont talk to him as much, he starts telling me he cries and he starts like complimenting me and saying im great.
but when i hang out with him and like him and everything, he treats me like crap.
so to sum it up, some guys like control over a gurl's feelings just because it boosts them up. this could be your case.
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hey! so I'm 15f. Well, I have friends, but not like, best friends. If it was 3 of us hanging out, I'm pretty much like the third wheel. And I try to put myself in the conversations, but somehow I just can't stay in them. And my friends, most of the time, put me down. Not in a bad way, like making fun of me, but their not trying to hurt my feelings, their just joking around. But sometimes it gets to me. And during the summer, I barely hang out with any of my friends, but they all hang out with each other. Sure, a friend and I might go shopping like, twice, if even that, and I just feel like I don't have a good relashonship with friends. I feel like I have to try to hard to even talk to them. And I'm not considering changing friends at all because I've already tried that and it didn't work out too well. Most of the time, my friends are awesome, but theres just those times where they don't even notice me. Like, if there was a song to describe me it would probably be... "All She Wrote" by Ross Copperman. Listen too it. And sometimes, I don't even mind being alone. I'm an only child. And I've learned to help myself a lot. But I still want to just to be able to do things with my friends over the summer. I only have 3 days of school left, and want this summer to be one of my best. I can pretty much do things only on the weekend. I have ideas what to do already, like bowling, movies, shopping, and stuff. I just need advice of how get friends to do things with me. I don't want to loose my relashonships with them when we go to school next year. Thanks so much!! (link)
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that happens a lot with me, too.
people like to be with people who they have fun with, inside jokes, gives them genuine compliments, someone that they just enjoy being around. make sure you connect enough with your friends but dont try too hard because thats annoying. the more fun times they have with you, the more they'll want to hang out with you.
maybe they feel like they get a vibe from you that you like to be alone, you never know.
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This is gonna sound gross but, i have a problem when im at school i go to the bathroom twice a day but, i always end up smelling like urine or period blood and i dont have a period cuz i ont have any eggs and i always wipe really good and i change my underwear everyday and i dont wear underwear to bed so, whats should i do and could something be wrong.
p.s. i am a virgin (link)
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make sure you are cleaning your parts when you take a shower. with soap and everything. i never thought it was THAT necassary to actually scrub down there but it really is and it makes it itchy and smelly if you dont clean well enough.
and if you are cleaning well enough, then definitelly see a gyno.
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Okay so I am at the age of 17. I will be 18 in December of this year. When I went into my check up my doctor didn’t' really to a physical and check everything aka my breasts, baby maker, that kind of stuff,
Question a)
What is the normal age for your first physical?
Question b)
What kind of stuff do they check on and/or for?
Question C)
Should I be worrying that I haven't gotten a physical yet?
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oh wow i got my first physical in 7th grade. you're supposed to get them annually but not many people do. you DEFINITELY should have had a physical by now.
just make an appt and ask for one and they'll give you one.
this might mean you dont have a great doctor...
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I get it before, during and after. I'm wondering if this is supposed to be normal? It's really bothering me. I've never experienced much of PMS before I got onto the pill. I've been on the pill for over a year and out of nowhere for the past few months I go through 3 weeks of hell. (link)
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im sure the pill might have something to do with it because that doesnt sound too normal. periods should be more like one week i cant imagine it being 3 weeks. thats like the majority of your life.
maybe try getting off the pill for a while and see if things change. if they do you could try using a different pill.
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