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Q: 16 f

So I just found out my best friend is bisexual . Ok bigg deal right? So why doesn't everyone else at my school see it the way I do? Today in school I sat with her during studies and heard people wispering all sorts of stuff and I overheared one person in perticular say "omg maybe that's her girlfriend" it just pisses me off how people are so sterolistic these days and judge one another for the stupidest stuff I hate drama I hate stress I try to avoid it everyday and now because of that once stupid person everyone is beginning to get the idea that I too am a bisexual and I certainly am not (not that there's anything wrong with being bisexual I'm just saying I wouldn't fitt under that category) and the last thing I want to do is avoid her or stop talking to her because I'm not that kind of person . How do I stop everyone from thinking this way without going to that last suggestion? Or how do I avoid all of this?

okay, first of all i really do not mean to sound like bitchy so just take that into consideration.

if you where really her friend you wouldnt care what people said, like you obviously care way to much about what people think of you, so what if people think stuff about you, you know its not true and thats all that matters, if you stop being friends with her it just shows that you are not a good friend and i do not see why anyone would be friends with you if your going to ditch best friend because of stupid rumors that arent even true, if you do get mad and stuff people will just talk more i mean i dont know i just think it is very ignorant of you if you do that, and then people will just talk more.

and if you really care all that much what people think of you be like honestly you people are immature to think that just because we are close friends means that we are lovers you are stupid. (not you the people) and be like i am not gay or bi, and i really dont care if you believe me but i know its the truth and if you people are really gunna waste time talking and making up rumors have fun cause your just immature.

sorry if that was bitchy, but its the truth.

Q: Does anyone know when the new episode is. I don't have cable anymore. But I'm going to watch it online. Thanks In Advance!!

it's on january 18th, i just saw the promo.

Q: the lyrics are like ..

"so take off your shoes, come in the room. and baby, we'll try not to argue. turn out the lights, turn on the radio. how can we fight when i'm too busy loving you?"

and that's all I know.
If you could help me I'd really appreciate it :)

http://www.lyricsmagnet.com/song/FOREVER+THE+SICKEST+KIDS/SHE'S+A+LADY_lyrics_ygysrc.html

not sure if thats it but some of the words matches, well all of them did but there where more words added in, hope thats the song your looking for!

Q: I loved that movie, and if you've seen it, you'll know what I'm talking about.
Well, When Jim carrey is reading the book, and the book describes the bit where the detective met the woman..Fabiella or something?
He's at a crime scene at night, and then she's walking... What's that song called that's playing.
During the bit when he sees her, and then they're having sex and there's a pause where it show's like the pictures captured of them doing it.

I hope you know which part I mean :P
I'm desperate to get the song, but I donno what's it called or who's it by.
I can't find it anywhere :(

well if your thinking of the part i think you are, i think the song is tear you apart, by she wants revenge.

not sure but try it.

Q: Im 17/f.

The other morning I woke up and my mum was like "omg look at your face! Your skin is all yellow!" I couldn't tell when I looked in the mirror but. After a day it is gone but I have noticed that when I look to the side the corners of my eyes are yellowish on the white part of my eye. And a little bit when I pull my lower lid down. My skin is no longer yellow but my eyes have been like this for about 2 days or so now.

What could this be??

well usually yellow skin indicates something wrong with the liver, so you should probably go to the doctors as soon as possible.

http://www.wrongdiagnosis.com/symptoms/yellow_eyes/causes.htm

so yeah, my recomendation would be to go to the doctors.

Q: will a yeast infection go away on its own

yes, my friend had one and it went away on its own.

but sometimes it can lead to kidney problems, but that is pretty rare.

drink cranberry juice.
it helps.

Q: i want to get my tongue pierced but see im terrible with pain. . . i got my second holes done in my ears and i wanted to like pass out so is it anything like that. . . im terrible with pain so that is my biggest fear. . and if i dont like the tongue ring thing and i take it out will i always have a hole in my tongue?

Thank YOu ......

well it matters from person to person.

many of my friends have gotten it done, and they say it did not hurt when it got pierced, but it hurt more afterwards.

They that biting your tongue hurts more.

hope this helps ya.

=)

Q: has anyone dyed their hair with kool-aid before? did it work? if you have any suggestions with how not to screw up on the process please tell me. thank you.

p.s. i currently sport black hair. so i may need to bleach it? i dunno.

i havent ever tried it, but my friend did, she has light brown hair, and you could not see any difference, and she said all it did was make her hair feel gross.

maybe its just her.

Q: what are some good song about being in love, but we're far apart? i love this guy, i live in ohio & he lives in D.C. and i can't find any songs besides "hey there delilah." so if you know any, hook a sista uppp. (:

love song.

by the cure, 311, or anberlin. 3 different versions.

here without you.

by three days grace.

those are two that are pretty good.
hope they are what you want.

=)

Q: Does it really help?

cutting releases endorphins, and endorpins relieve pain, so technically it does make you feel better for a short time.

it is not a good idea though, it can become somewhat addicting. and can be a hard habbit to break.

as for does it help, it does not really help, as time goes on it would get worse, and cuts would get deeper and more dangerous and then when you want to stop it can be very difficult. trust me on this.

not a good idea, try something else like running or get a punching bag and just use that to get anger out.

hope this helps you.

Q: I'm in 12th grade and am applying to colleges. But I feel like I ruined my chances at getting into my top 3 choices: Brown, UCBerkley, NYU.
So in 10th grade I had a GPA of 4.0
In 11th grade I had a 4.4.
And so far I have a 4.4 in 12th grade.
HOWEVER, in 9th grade I only got a 3.5 GPA.
Did I ruin my chances of getting into those schools?

I recieved a 2150 on my SAT, a 30 on my ACT, I scored perfect on my US History subject test and perfect on my French/with listening SAT subject test.

Please tell me, did I ruin my chances with my 9th grade GPA????

i would not think so, because alot of the time colleges will look at freshman year and say it was an adjusment year, the most important year is junior year, which you did very good on. and a 3.5 gpa is not that bad, its not like in 9th grade you got all d's and f's.

i am not sure, but i would say that you still have a very good chance of getting into those schools, espically if you have voulnteer work and other school activities and stuff.

good luck!
=)

Q: how do you indirectly measure an object? like a tall flagpole?

well i did this lab in my physics class.

http://s12.photobucket.com/albums/a244/xxXkLaOoo/?action=view¤t=img005.jpg

^ thats a link to the picture of the lab paper we recieved.

you would use sine, cosine, and tangent, depending on which measurements you have.

im not sure if this will help much, but i hope it does.

sine would be opposite over hypotenuse
cosine would be opposite over adjacent
tangent would be opposite over hypotenuse

let me know if this makes no sense, i can try to explain it differently.

Q: Ok i spent 5 weeks looking for premade DIV layouts that fit my likes, but i havent found a match so i was wondering if anyone can make div layouts could tey please make one for me? I want a cute vintage picture in the background or pretty the great escape lyrics in the background and the color theme should be like oranges pinks reds and blues. mitd be kind of abstract, cute, and scene
thanks and sorry im soo picky lol
oh yeah and this is for myspace

ask http://www.myspace.com/ashbo, she is the creator of whateverlife.com i think she takes requests.

Q: Ok, so i have a phobia, or many I guess, that is related to anything medical... Like, doctors, deseases, even pregnat ladies make me uncomfortable.
And it's really hard because if you notice, everything nowadays has medical stuff. Like on TV, there are so many hospital/doctor shows, like House and ER... And the commercials, like the anti-smoking commercials where they show details the inside of someones lungs or something, im not sure.. i can't watch it or i'll have a panic attack.
When I was younger, I thought it was just a phase and that i'd get over this when i'm older, but now i'm 19 and it's gotten so much worse... I'm even scared of dentist now and therapist.... I don't even know why!!!
But I can't take pills, I'm too paranoid for that.
I can't have sex because i'm terrified of the thought of getting pregnant..
So what happens when I encounter all this stuff is that I have panic attacks and pass out!
And I want help, BUUUT I have too much anxiety to get any help also.
I'm getting older and this anxiety is holding me back on a lot of things...

So my question is, does anyone know what this/these phoia's are called??

Also, how can this be cured? I know therapy, or something, but what are the steps that you go through??

Thanks, so much.

Iatrophobia, Fear of Doctors, and Fear of Going to the Doctor

Anxiety — Anxiety and a state of apprehension, uncertainty, and fear resulting from the anticipation of a realistic or fantasized threatening event or situation, often impairing physical and psychological functioning

Ergasiophobia — work, functioning, or Surgeon's operating

Hemaphobia — blood

Hydrargyophobia — mercurial medicines

Lockiophobia — childbirth

Nosocomephobia — hospitals

Nosophobia — becoming ill

Opiophobia — Fear of medical doctors experience of prescribing needed pain medications for patients

Panthophobia — suffering or disease

Pathophobia — disease

Pharmacophobia — taking medicine or drugs

Tocophobia — pregnancy or childbirth

Tomophobia — surgery or surgical operations

so, there are some random phobia's that may describe what you said.

i got them from
http://www.changethatsrightnow.com/phobia_list_of_all_phobias.asp?SDID=6548:1944

and if you went to therapy im not so sure what they would do but right now im in a psychology class and we are learning about de-conditionalizing fears or phobia's. we are learning about a study where this boy had a fear of rabbits and every day they would move the rabbit a little bit closer to him, but they would give him an ice cream cone, so he would associate the good from eating the ice cream cone with the rabbit. and in the end he was able to pet the rabbit and all.

So, they may try somehting along those lines, im not sure how they would do it for your phobia's but something like that

if you want to read more about the study here is a link telling about the women who did the study, and it talks about it a little more. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mary_Cover_Jones

hope this helps!
no other answers so i thought i would give ya something.
good luck!

Q: where can i buy a dress like Geri (The girl in the middle) is wearing? like with a british flag on it. also other things.. like skirts, umbrellas, backpacks, boots, shirts, etc with the british flag or british symbols on it. because i'm british but im currently living in america and i wanna show my spirit! lol

http://pub.tv2.no/multimedia/TV2/archive/00129/spice_girls_129954a.jpg

PS: please bring me to the direct link.. hopefully not on ebay since my parents won't let me use that (I'm 13) and yeah.. THANKS!

http://www.yandy.com/Shopping/products/prod_770.asp

http://www.gothicplus.com/index.php?act=viewProd&productId=633

http://www.cafepress.com/buy/British+Flag?CMP=KNC-G-PP-IN1&ovchn=GGL&ovcpn=Places+-+International+1+Basic&ovcrn=sr2PP1go37012sb7922pi12ai2374+British+Flag+merchan&ovtac=PPC&SR=sr2PP1go37012sb7922pi12ai2374

hope this helps you out a bit!

=)

Q: jcpenny commercial? what song is that playing. The first few lines are "life inside the music box aint easy?" thanks in advance!!!

music box, by regina spektor.

Q: okay so i'm getting ceramic braces in like 3 weeks..and my mom was telling me theres a chance i will have to wear the headgear/neckgear thing...will i?? i know some people get to choose if they want to wear it at day or night..
but will i have to wear it in the day like during school?

usually now a days they only make you wear it at night.
you may not have to wear it depending on what your teeth look like, there are rubber bands that you may have to wear during the day or only at night, yet again it depends. but i mean when i had braces i was "supposed" to wear headgear, but i never did not even at night and i was supposed to wear rubber bands, but i never did, i just had to have to braces on longer.

hope this helps.
xoxo

Q: Who died in the drive by shooting in the series South of Nowhere? I can't figure it out/...I missed the series premiere, and I can't figure it out..thank you.

as the person below me said it was spencers brother, and his name was clay.
real name = danso gordon.

Q: I hadn't played it for like a week and now when I play the Broke family, like I made them all picture perfect and stuff, but they have like no wants! Only fears. beau has 0 wants, brandi has 3, Dustin has 1, and only Brandi's baby has wants.. HELP!

well there is a way to add want slots and re-set them, but you have to enable a cheat that may mess up the game, make it freeze or randomly quit. and it may not work. but its a good cheat anyways.
its.

boolprop testingcheatsenabled true

then shift click on a sim.
click spawn...
then click sim modder (may need to click more first)

a little baby will appear (a doll)

and then click on it and then it will say wants and fears (i think) and then click something that says add want slot.. there are also really other cool things you can do with that cheat.

but if that doesnt work, (or if you dont want to use the cheat)try moving the family out of that house than moving them back into another house, or the same one.

oh yeah, and plus remember if you do turn the cheat on make sure you turn it off

boolprop testingcheatsenabled false

its less likely to mess up the game if you turn the cheat off.

hope i help. =)

Q: Is there any possible way i can fix this problem with out any funds? I heared of peeing on your hands and i am going to try that but does anybody else have any ideas? Thanks for the help people!

i'm not so sure about peeing on your hands, but i have heard that i you get hand sanatizer and put it on, (like when your hands are sweaty) it will make them not.

not sure if it works, but i learend it in a class that tought about job interviews and that was about shaking people's hands.

hope this helps.