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people always come to me for advice and tell me that i'm a good shrink haha (:
i found this site when i had troubles with this guy about 3 years ago and really need advice. i started to like this site a lot so i just became a user :]
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i was not the best student but i want to go abroad for a year do really well then transfer.

what are easy colleges in england or france that i can apply to?


you could try richmond college in london.
it's quite easy & you dont have to be a really good student. they like to give anyone a chance.

http://www.lrc-ac.co.uk/

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So i have a crush...he never looks into my eyes. when he looks at me. my heart feels weird. and he looks away as soon as possible and i do too. Before, he used to hate me since i like him. but now, he's getting kinder. I was like so obsessed with him. Over obsessed..i used to dream him and stare at his face and name for hours :) but..i want him to like me..and not hate me..what should i do? impressing him does not work.

why dont you just try talking to him more :]
find out things he likes & talk about them.
just try and become friends.
once you are, things can go further.
but if he does not like you, you should try & accept it. you cant really get someone to like you if they dont UNLESS they dont really know you yet. & to me it seems like he doesnt really know you that much, so as I said, start a convo & dont just stare at him haha :]
but if he'll only like you as a friend try & move on otherwhise you'll just get hurt, trust me on this.
another thing i find really weird is that he hated you because you like him?!.
to be honest, that shows he's not really worth it & that you shouldnt get your hopes up. I dont really understand how you can hate someone just because they fancy you. I fancy one of my friends [who doesnt fancy me back] & he knows it but he would never hate me for it :S
so just think about that, is he really worth it?
i hope i helped a little :] good luck!

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15/f
so there is this guy kody who has a girlfriend but he seems to flirt with me ALOT! and i really like him and i dont know what to do i mean im kind of friends with his girlfriend so i dont want to be mean and like flirt back - but i kind of do anyway, and it seems like he's always finding ways to talk to me and were in a class together and i always catch him looking at me and laughing at my jokes and stuff.
but idk what to do or if he is just actually being friendly any advice?
thanks :)

hii(: i know exactly what you mean. i liked this guy who still liked his ex which he told me. but still, he kept flirting with me which made me think that maybe i have a chance after all.
when i told him that i fancy him he once again told me that he still likes his ex. :/
and now im heartbroken :S
so to be honest, i think that he was just being friendly. cause 'my' guy also used to walk me to class & talked to me whenever he could, he even stroked my hair etc.
i just dont want you to get your hopes up, because in the end it could really hurt. so i'd wait until he's single.
i dont think that him & his gf will last forever if he actually DOES have feelings for you.
if you really wanna know you could just ask him, because then you know for sure (:
it's what I did & im glad i did it cause now i know where i stand.
but as i said, dont get your hopes up.
I hope i helped a little.
good luck!

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15 and still haven't developed boobs?
(as in completely flatchested, not small)
i know its completely repulsive and im so worried,i feel so self conscious and hate my body because of it
im 107 lbs, almost 5'4, have my period and all other signs of puberty (including hips and an otherwise curvy figure), and my mom started developing in junior high
ive also heard that you develop boobs a year or two before your period,and i've already had mine and they're still not here
i've asked this question a lot on here and no answers seem to be from people in the same position as me
thats why im so completely obsessive and worried over this is because there seems to be no one out there like me
is anyone else like me?/has anyone else been like me in the past and eventually got them?

dont worry. when i was 14/15 i didnt have big boobs either. dont worry too much, they'll eventually start developing. you can try seeing a doctor if youre worried smth is wrong with you (:

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what are some most commonly words used in bittian that are slangish words? also, what does it mean to say BADMAN to someone?

when someone thinks that someone is attractive they say 'she/he is fit'
or instead of saying i like someone they say 'i fancy someone'
and when they find something cool or awesome they say things like 'that's sick, bonkers, or safee'
haha thats all i know.
i have a few british friends and they talk like that, so its not guessed x].
hope i helped alittle.

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How do you get over your first love?...It's so hard for me and I just wanna shut him out and never talk to him again. this is unrequited love. We werent in a relationship. He is a friend of mine and I think next month I will tell him that I can't be his friend anymore....I'm so scared....my hart hut more everyday and I can't stop thinking about him....ugh..help me please..

(I even thought if i could like another guy that I would get over him, but I can't even seem to like anyone or look at anyone else..my heart just seems to be stuck on him...I hate him becuz I'm in love with him)

hey(: i know how you feel, it was really hard for me to get over my first love too. but that was 4 years ago. trust me, in time you will get over it, even if it doesnt seem like it right now. but you can try & distract yourself like hanging out with friends, going to the movies, read a scary book or something (:
trust me it'll get better. what helped me is everytime i thought about him i just tried to think about something else. like i didnt give in to the thought haha (:
so whenever he pops into your mind, think about smth else really quickly like homework(if youre still in school) or work, 'to do' things even if theyre not fun. do stuff like cleaning your room & listen to loud music while you do it (not sad love songs) singing also really helped me cause you can let all that frustration out. things that also help is talking about your feelings, with your mum or your friends. dont keep your feelings bottled up inside (;
i hope i helped a little. good luck!

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there are some friends i have that are boys and usually they say hi to me but sometimes they just completely ignore me. they know im there and they look at me but dont even say hi.
why would they do that?
and also this one specificly used to always smile at me but once me and his best friends stopped having a thing he acted like we werent even friends.
now dont get me wrong these guys are my best friends i barely talk to them. they are just one of those people you say hi to be nice and you talk to them if they are around barely. "small talk"

hii, i really dont think they have anything against you or anything. but theyre guys, they dont take these situation as serious as girls do. im sure they dont even know that theyre hurting you by ignoring you. i had the same problem with this guy friend. like he always ignored me when i walked by them but when he talked to me he was talking to me like i was a supergood friend. like he didnt even notice he was ignoring me when he walked by me me you know? but he didnt have anything against me, when i told him how i felt he was really shocked and didnt know he came across like that. some guys are just weird and clumsy haha (: and some guys also want girls to talk to THEM. i know its weird lOl. like so what i think you should do is say hi and see how it goes. dont wait for them to say hi to you, you make the move! what have you got to lose, and again, i really dont think that they dont like you. and as someone else said, maybe its also because of your ex and his friends are just supporting him. why dont you try being friends with your ex and maybe things will lighten up.
good luck (: xx

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hey i am at my dads house and i have no friends and nothing to do so what can i do?sincerly,alwaysbored4ever

try watching a movie, listen to music, go to miniclip or youtube maybe? if youre a girl try out some new hairstyles or experiment with make up. its what i like to do, lOl. try talking to your dad? but yeaah i know how you feel, i probably wouldnt be excited about that either haha. hm besides that you could try writing songs, go outside and take pictures or try finding some new music on youtube or myspace or something, lOl. you could also read but i bet you think thats boring :/ if the weathers good, you could go outside and go for a walk. maybe go swimming or to the gym?
i hope i helped you a little (:

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Okay heres the thing I know that this is gonna sound wierd but I keep smelling the smell of death it can be off my clothes or if I am walking in the street or my house at random points and I am the only one that can smell it, Does anyone know what can be causing this??
All help is appreciated on this as I feel that I am going insane!!
lxxxx

lOl i dont think its that serious. sometimes people go through this. but what does 'death' smell like to you? like maybe its not death, maybe its just the scent of your washingmashine or something. i bet everyone things death smells differently as well. like i'd think it smells the way old people smell like. dont ask me why haha.
but honestly, i dont think its serious, cause death doesnt have a smell besides the smell that a dead body gets but thats not death, its bacteria. if it bothers you too much, try wearing perfume (:

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what is oral s e x mmean

it's basically when you touch your partners private areas with your mouth. like sucking a guys penis, also called a blowjob. and licking a girls vagina.
some people prefer it, some dont, its your choice (:

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if you get fingered, are you still considered a virgin?

yeah you are. you only lose your virginity when the guy puts his penis inside you, i'm 100% sure (:

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so.. i'll keep this hort. im gonna die soon hopefully... any tips? im gonna use any and every method possible.... so yeah. just need linis to previous successful cases... any particular drugs? even prescription.... thats basically it really. if im really unlucky ill still be here till the end of this year. which is about six months, if i get what i need, then ill be outta you hair! thanks in advance.

err like i have this issue too i feel suicidal every day but still have a little bit of hope. my parents dont care, i pretty much have no life lOl. but im just saying that maybe you shouldnt kill yourself yet? cause i bet youre still young and it'd be a shame cause you can still make something out of yourself even if it doesnt seem like it at the moment and look down on all the people that made you feel bad and realise that THEY 'suck' and not you. i think noones gonna give you advice on how to kill yourself on here though so if you really wanna know check the internet or something? and i think overdosing on something like sleeping pills is the most painless way but idk. i feel really bad telling you this though. anyways good luck on whatever you wanna do, its your desision, noone elses but im just telling you that you should still think about it because its not gonna solve anything, youre just running from the problem, and why let the things that bring you down win? like youre better than that. if you dont think so than thats ok i guess. i think i know how you feel im just not at the point where i actually wanna go through with it. anyways, i hope you make the right choice,whatever choice YOU think is right (:

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could be real easy to answer this one but define it for me :P

I think i have an idea of how you know. is it when you catch them looking at you and they look away instantly? or if you catch them and they look for a a second or so then look away with the same blank expression you caught them with to try and hide it a bit.

am i right? kus theres been a few incidence's like that around college in the past couple of weeks and i think iv only just figured out what went on.

it really depends on the girl.
like when i check out a guy I look at him until he looks at me back and then look for another 2 seconds and then smile and look at the ground so he'll know i like him . i dont really look away with a blank expression unless i'm really nervous and too afraid to smile. but maybe shes just shy and doesnt want you to know she fancies you because she's not sure if you fancy her back.
when i feel really confident i just smile straight on without looking away shyly lOl.
but yeaah i do think that the way you discribed it that she was checking you out. especially if it's been going on for a while. you could just try smiling at her and see what happens. (:

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i just got my hair cut a little past my shoulders and now im sorta regretting it. no one (except family) has really said anything nice about it or ANYTHING in that matter. i don't know if it looks bad? its not poofy or anything i just wanted to try something different. does short hair look bad on girls? im tan and normal height with wavy reddish brown hair.

maybe you can try having it like this

http://i.ehow.com/images/GlobalPhoto/Articles/4672470/90727-main_Full.jpg

i just found this picture and then remembered your question haha (:

if it really looks that bad though you can go to your hairdresser and ask her to give it a little edge or make it look better.

i personally dont like short hair on me, ive always been a long hair freak but the hottest guy i know LOVES short hair on girls haha so yeah :/

it really depends, on some girls it looks good and on others it doesnt. the same with guys.
i know this guy who looks absolutely hot with long hair but recently he cut it like really short and lost his hottness. this other guy also had long hair but looked waay better when he cut it short.

it really depends.
(:

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This is a bit of an awkward question for me, but what are you supposed to do when you walk through a hall full of men unabashedly goggling at you? I just look straight ahead and ignore them, but that just feels really stiff and awkward because I usually let my eyes wander everywhere, yet looking into the guys faces is even worse because they never look away. I just feel really self conscience when this happens even though I know I look good. It is literally 40 to 60 men, so I don't want to cause a scene by telling them to stop, and there is no way I can avoid them. I do not dress revealingly, but I do wear clothes that flatter me. I am 18 and this is happening in college. Oh and they never talk to me either, but they are definitely checking me out. How should I react to them? What would you do in my situation?

lool i have the same problem, but i mean theres nothing you can do really. just try being happy that guys fancy you, I usually take it as a compliment. i know it gets uncomfortable but like really, you cant do much about it except tell them you dont like it. but honestly, dont bother too much about it, other girls would be happy to get noticed like that (:

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14/f

Well I'm going to get my hair cut soon but I don't know if I should do anything different. My hair is almost down to my elbow kinda length. My hair is dark brown and I have tannish skin. I'm indian so I have thick hair. I have an ovalish face too. My hair is long layered too, plain straight. Oh and I have side bangs. So is there any ideas on what I should do?

Second, I was thinking of maybe getting highlights. But I don't know if any would be a good color for me. Since my hair is dark like almost black. So I wouldn't want anything to stand out too much. Like no blond. And another question, what are low lights? I've heard people talk about it but I don't know what it is. Thanks!

i think you should keep the length, maybe cut it like an inch. you can layer it a little more

http://www.cobellavideos.com/images/fusion/Programme-2.jpg

(look at the highlights too)

http://www.hairstylescut.com/images/hair-without-bangs.jpg

(or like that, you could use reddish/maroonish highlights ich you dont want your hair to look black)

http://www.hairstyles53.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/01/long-layered-hairstyles5.jpg

(or like that, look at the highlights also )

those are just some pictures i found. i dont know if you need highlights, i personally like thick black hair, but IF you should deffinetely go with hightlights that look good with your skintone. like as i said maroon, red, darkbrown, like the pictures show. :]

you can also just ask your hairdresser.

and besides, since you have an oval face , a lot of hairstyles should suit you (:
I hope i helped a little, but as i said, ask the hairdresser too because they might have nice suggestions x] xx


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My teacher rubbed her hand up my leg and I was wondering If that classified as rape or sexual harrasmwnt.We were alone cause I had detention and she sat beside me and did it.She is damn ugly and I told her to get her stinkin paws of a me.I tell my principle and see what'll happen next.

its not tape but sexual harrasment. tell your principle, and it'll hopefully be ok (:

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heeyy..
am a 16 year old female.. nd i already got too tired from life.. i wanna gt away from it.. its all that i want right now..
i just wanna know the best way to do it..
and please answer me as soon as possible.. cuz i wanna do it by next week max..
thnxx all xoxox

noone on here is gonna help you do that. I'm not gonna say anything else because everyone else have already said pretty much everything.

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ok so,
this is me.
http://i40.tinypic.com/21mdgrl.jpg
not edited, surprisingly.

i really wanna dye my hair something new.
i haven't dyed it in over a year,
and i'm getting really bored of it.

any suggestions on what would look good?
and if you can, could you edit part of my hair that color
so i can see how it would look.

thanks so much.(:

i think your haircolor is actually greatt :D
i wouldnt dye it blond ish because i dont think it'll suit you too well lol. but like the other person said, red would be a good choice. like dark red or maroon? lOl good luck. but you dont need to change really (:

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well i have freckles on my face and im kind of pale but my cheeks are like RED. i dont know why? it looks like a constant sunburn. HOW DO I GET RID OF THIS? & also i have these lines under my eye from loss of sleep & they're super ugly, how do you get rid of those to? PLEASE HELP

you could try founddation. buy it in a light color and apply it on your cheecks. they wont seem as red anymore and maybe it'll look more like you're wearing blush or smth. i actually think rosy cheeck and pale skin is pretty. i bet it doesnt look that bad!
but you can also apply the foundation under your eyes and it might make them dissappear.
or why dont you try sleeping in on the weekend?
and face masks also help!
good luck(: x

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