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Q: i met this guy at adventureland (he was REALLY hott!!) in des moines and i got his # but i dont want to call it cuz im afraid that its the wrong number! but then again the area code and the first 3 numbers were from the area that we were located in...what should i do? call him or not?
-confuzzled!

I say call him. If it's the wrong number (which is not very likely) you can just say "oops wrong number,sorry." No harm there. But why would the guy give you a wrong number? So call him, it's worth a try. Something you could say is, if he answers tell him like "I met you at Adventureland and you gave me you're number..." And something else if he doesn't answer is "Hi um I'm a friend of your sons can I talk to him?"

Q: Okay im like 12 and i have this boyfriend that we'll call danny, i wanna kiss him so bad but i don't wanna make the move. I want him to. What should i do? I really love him!
-wanna kiss
p.s.
i rate real good!

When I was twelve I wanted to kiss my boyfriend too, I guess it depends on how far he wants to go at this point. Maybe you could drop hints to him, but it all depends on how intimate you are right now (holding hands, his arm around your shoulders, ect). But in my expeirience 12 was too young to kiss, but everyones different. Something that might drop a hint to you is if he wants to take you to a chick flick because that's when my boyfriend kissed me. I hope this helped.

Q: okay well here it goes ... well i went to the fair w/ a few friends -n- we were in line for the zipper -n- some girl behind us, she looked about 17-18, started talking to us and well she asked me if i played softball and i said i did and then she asked me my name and i told her...and then she goes well do you know who i am and i said no and she held out her hand for me to shake it and said "well i'm your sister, crystal" and it kinda scared me cus i haven't seen her in 8 yrs., she gave me her number but i don't know if i should call her b/c i'm scared to get to know her b.c we are half sisters and she knows my dad and i don't...so wut do i do????? PLZ HELP!!

I think you should call her. She must want to get to know you if she gave you her number. I say call her.

Q: How do I rate someone after they have answered a question of mine??

You go to 'Your Questions' and click on whatever question in your inbox and under every answer there is a 'rate me' section so just read the answer and click on a number to rate the question.

Q: can a boy be a virgin

Yeah a boy is a virgin until he has sex.

Q: I met this guy, he is soo sweet and hot and he treats me like a princess and we JUST met! I saw a picture of him and assumed he was about 16 or 17 and when we talked on the phone, he completely sounded like it too! Well, he asked me how old I was and said 15 and he said oh man I'm younger than you, I'm 14! :-/ Oh geez.. is it bad to be with someone a year younger than you especially when youre a girl?! HeLp!

No, nothing is wrong with being with someone that is younger than you. If you two like eachother and get along ect. than age really doesn't matter.

Q: im 13 yrs old almost 14 iv been strugglinh with eating disorders the past 2 years, ive been eating now regularyly and gaining the weight i lost back. its really hard knowing i used to be so thin, anyone have any advice? and im 5'1 or 5'2...for those two heights whats a healthy weight for them? thanks

A healthy weight for those hieghts are 105 to about 120.

Q: Okay...

So my sister had dated this guy for 7 months and they broke up, so they were still friends for the 5 months since their break up, but then we noticed our other friend's (who is a girl) screename on this chain letter. So we dug a little deeper and it turns out that this "friend" of ours (who knew about my sister's and his relationship) is trying to get him to out with her. So my sister called the boy and asked him if he liked our friend... and he does, and to make things worse they're going out now...
My sister is really depressed because she realy hated the idea of this girl dating her ex... and i don't really know what to say to make her feel better...

Well, right now she won't feel better, but you saying stuff to make her feel better will really help her out and just stick with her she will get through it. Dich ich de liesban.

Q: okay im an 12 year old male and im pretty popular in my school and im goin out with this really hot gurl one day we were walkin home from school together and she went in with me to my house my mom wasnt there so she went up to my room i just had the urge to do it with her and she felt the same way we decided we werent quite ready yet so we just made out and she showed me her boobs that was the best time of my life know im young but i cant fight the urge.

wat do i do i really want to do it with her

Just don't do it, fight it. If you do do it you'll really regret it afterwards my friend has sex when she was thirteen and never stopped regretting it. Wait until you're older.

Q: okay my girlfriend and i were very close she was beautiful and funny and just an all around good girrl i love her so much 2 monthes ago she was killed some 1 came to her house murdered her and robbed her i feel really bad because the night that happened we got into a huge fight i cant stop blaming myself for wat happened i keep beatin my self up physically and mentally about this wat do i do i cant move on and its screwin uo my life

Okay, this is going to sound like bad advice but it really helps. Go to a psychiatrist, a good one. They will listen to you and help you and by law they can't tell anyone what you say. Also you can talk to your parents about it. But try going to a psychiatrist it will help. Also nothjing you could have would have prevented it, it was predesinted so even though it happened know that it wasn't your fault and you couldn't have stopped it.

Q: im here by myself right now and im soo bored, does anyone have any good sites or something that i could do besides talk online, watch tv or listen to music .. like a good comp game or something.. ps. its too late to go outside & i can't go anywhere or have anyone come here

PLEASE HELP!

-bored out of my mind

If you like to RP (roleplay) then go to this site www.avidgamers.com and go the right top of the screen that says Comunity Directory and when in there flip to the category of Roleplay or whatever and type in what you want like a topic or idea and it will pull up things that have to do with it i.e. type in Buffy the Vampire Slayer and buffy rp sites will come up.

Q: sometimes me and my mom are so close and later she makes me feel like she hates me and makes me feel guilty. what should i do? i am scared to talk to her.

Tell her that she makes you feel bad and scared to talk to her. It will probably help if she knows how she makes you feel.

Q: ok, so um... yeah i asked questions and like, noone has answered. why? and people can answer rude to me like, rude, so any ways... whoever answeres my ? first gets a 5
l8r

What questions did you ask, and yeah sometimes people are wierd.

Q: Lately my boyfriend jus seems to b making me depressed and stuff and i dunno what 2 do becuase i love him and stuff. but lately his attitde just makes me sumtimes jus b all depressed... becuase he kinda blows me off an seying like sure... right.... or w.e and i hate those words and it jus seems sumtymes like hes jus dosent care .. but then other times i kan tell he does... but alot of times i get depressed becuase of his like mood changes nd stuff.. what do i do?

Tell him how you feel. And if he continues to treat you like that and make you feel bad tell him it's over because if he doesn't repesct your feelings it doesn't seem like he is a good person.

Q: Hey ok ive ben hilighting my hair for about a year and i jus wanna dye it but my mom wont lemme do u have any ideas that will make my hair blopnder or any way i can get my mom to dye my hair ? thanx!!

Just bleach your hair larger portions or bleach portions of hair closer together. Hope it helps.

Q: my boyfriend is leaving for a year and a half. Should i wait for him or see other people? PS im 15 1/2
holding back

If you are seroius then maye you shouldn't. But if you guys are pretty loose in your relationship then maybe. Talk to him about where your realtionship stands and then make your desition.

Q: Hey! I have had my boyfriend for almost a year and I truly love him. He recently told me that we need to take it to the next step in our relationshop, and I am very scared of HOLDING HANDS! I've heard nasty things about holding hands, bacteria and even STD's! Everyone holds hands, is there a special protection they use?
Thank you!

I never heard of anyone catching STD's from holding hands, bacteria maybe but I don't think it's very possible. There is really no danger in holding hands.

Q: Everytime I shave down there or my bikini line I get these red dots a few hours afterwards...I've tried
- Shaving cream
- Shaving the way the hair grows
- Putting lotion on

Is there anything else I can do??

You can try that veet removal cream that doesn't require shaving, that might help you.

Q: if im 13, gunna be 14 in 4 months, and i still haven't gotten my period, is that abnormal or sumthin, all of my friends have already started, and sum people i kno who are younger then me have started, my mom started when she was 11, my sister started when she was going into 7th grade, and im entering 9th, and still haven't started,is there sumthin wrong wit me??

No there is nothing wrong. Some people get it very early and some people get a little later than other people. You sound about the right age to get it, like my friend didn't get it until she was fourteen. So don't think it's abnormal, your biological clock is right on track and you will get your period when you are supposed to.

Q: I talked to my x today...its only been a week since we broke up. He said "sometimes I have the urge to call you and tell you I want you back, but I don't"...it hurts. I miss him so much, and I can't get my mind off of him. I know we're not meant to be together b/c we are two totally different people and want 2 different things...but I really love him, and I want to stay friends it just hurts so much when I talk to him...what do i do?

Just take your time, don't rush into being like best friends until you've had time to adjust to you guys having a different relationship now. And when it gets easier then you two can start being friends.