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Q: my exboyfriend and I have been broken up for a little less than 2 months. We see each other every weekend at work. At first it was really awkward, but lately things have been getting better... almost to the way they were when we were dating. In fact, last weekend he told me that he comes to work to see me. We spent a few hours working just with each other and he seemed to be finding excuses to come talk to me. He told me that his grandmother, mother, and sister are all annoyed with him for breaking up with me. Then, when we were goofing around, he wrestled with me playfully, and then pulled me into a hug and whispered in my ear "do you still miss me? Do you?" I didn't answer because I didn't want to seem pathetic, but the truth is I do. I don't understand him, are his actions proof that he misses me and wants to be with me? Or is he just playing head games? Any advice is appreciated, this whole situation is driving me crazy.

Sorry it took me so long to get back to ya, hon. But, it sounds to me like he may still like you. Almost like, he realized things out there weren't so great & he is not finding what he had with you. He had his fun & now (hopefully) he is ready to get serious. But, that doesn't mean you should jump back into it so soon. Also, is he calling you or trying to get with you any other time other than work? If not, you may just be his work "buddy" & he doesn't want things to be uncomfortable between you two. Just lag back for a little while & wait for more signs to see if he is being sincere. Believe me, when something happens, you'll know! I hope I helped at least a little. Best wishes.

Q: i like this guy....(duuhh) ok uhh and we were pretty good friends but we had this fight(he told me he loved me and i acted kinda weird /mean) and he never talked to me since than! then i called him and appologized but he only was like:uhu yeah blablabla ok and i do like him and everytime i see him he lookes at me today he even smiled once but i thought that was just because he was laughing at a joke...and at the bus today he looked at me in a sad kinda way....and i wanna be friends again but im just scared that when i talk to him again he'll be like all weird again
so what should i say? and how should i act when he's weird?? does he still like me cause he also never talkes to me?? and well he usually ignores me and uhh everytime (not everytime but pretty often) i look at him i looks away and this is really sad cause i love him more than anything!! oh and u cant say i'm getting on his nervs cause i never talk to him or something but everytime i'm in this room or hallway he's going somewhere else and i dont know ...but i think its because of me and i didnt do anything??? yeah so please help!!!
please help
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Basically what happened was, when you acted funny with him after he said he loved you, that was a big blow to his ego.If you really like him & want to get with him, you could try emailing him or writing a letter that says something like, "I hope you don't feel bad about the way I reacted when you told me how you felt. I was kinda surprized & (happy) that you said that. I had no idea you liked me!" Maybe you can take it from there & profess your feelings for him. Then, of course, casually start flirting wiht him & things like that. Just be really nice to him & you just might be back in his good graces before schools out. Good Luck to you!

Q: If i ran on the tredmill 20 minutes everyday how much weight would I loose? I wanna loose like 15-20 lbs before the summer, so by like june. Do you think its possable. What else can i do to help?

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Well, actually it is possable for you to lose the weight. Running on the treadmill for 20 mins a day is a great start! Also, watch your portion control, cut out eating at night and drink loads of water. as much as you can stand in a day, drink it. I know, it sounds annoying. When I first started, I thought how can anyone be that thirsty all the time? But, not only does it help with weight loss, it does wonders for your skin & hair. So, just keep the faith & keep moving & the weight will fall off in no time.

Q: I'm a little late on the whole Ipod extravanganza..

haha i actually didn't want one in the beginning but now after a year i finally want one the thing is im wondering if i should buy a video one right now.

because i want to but im scared that as sooooon as i buy it BAM there will be a whole new better ipod on sale..

so please just give me some advice..

thanks ill rate high for good answers

Well, my brother has one. They are very nice. But, I have a cheaper MP3 player that works just as well, (except you can't download as many songs). I know they have more features too. Your other advice was right, they will come up with something newer & better in no time. The day I bought this computer, it became obsolete. LOL. So, I would say if you don't really NEED it right now or just want to have something for music, go ahead and either just buy a little MP3 player for now or just wait a little while to see if they are coming out with anything else. Hope I helped!

Q: Okay so I used to cut myself, but I've gotten somewhat better now. I have gym tomorrow and the uniform is a t-shirt. I don't want anyone to see the scars/scabs on my arms and make a big deal. Can anyone tell me how to cover my arms in gym, without being really obvious? Please don't tell me to get help for cutting myself, I am in the process of doing so. Thanks so much, I'll rate high.

I used to do the same thing. It will get better...trust me. But for now, either use foundation cover up, (Dream Matte Mousse, by Maybeline). This stuff is awesome! I use it faithfully for my face when I wear makeup, or, (I don't know exactly how bad your scratches are or what they look like), but, you could always tell people you were playing with a cat or something. Believe me, anyone with a cat will know how much damage they can cause if you are really getting into wrestling with them. Well, I hope I helped. Good Luck to you.

Q: hi first of all my question is really in it's own way a hard one,first of all i just moved in with my boyfriend, but whenever i say i love you he will just smile and say thank you or just not say anything at all the reason why i moved in was because he needed help with rent and bills because he just lost his job he always says how pretty other girls are but rarely says i am pretty sometimes he will just play video games all day and ignor me,one day he had me go out at 2'30 in the morining to get ciggrettes (i live in new york city)by myself i somtimes feel that he is only using me for rent money.one day he actually said to me why can't i be as pretty as her(lindsay lohan).guys help what should i do

I am sorry to say, he is totally using you! If you love someone unconditionally, you never say things that will hurt their feelings and you think highly of them...(not wishing they looked like someone else). Please get away from him ASAP! Dont gove him the satisfaction of making one more rent payment. Let him grow up and learn how to act like a real man.

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I am married and have 3 beautiful daughters. Their ages are 2, 6 & 11. I am not in any way saying I am an expert on life, but, I have been through a lot of different things, from...mental health issues, alcoholism to having a husband in Iraq. So, feel free to ask me anything you need help with & I will try to answer it the best I can.