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Q: K i need music for a figure skating show like a in province show anyone have any good onnes they can be insperational with words or funny with words try to make it with no swears but anyting will help
rise up [original or acoustic]- blessthefall
chemistry of a car crash - shiny toy guns
people are strange - the doors
control - metro station
carry on - burn season
silent disaster - UVR
higinia - blessthefall
I'd suggest any of those, if you want something that isnt a song everyone has heard. None of them have any bad words, and the tempo varies from song to song. Theyre all great, though I may be biased, coz that's what I'm listening to at the mo.
hope that helped!

Q: hi, i am 14/f....
and one of my friend's is cutting herself badly, and idk what to do, cause i promise her that i wouldnt tell anyone
but i am really worried about her, cause she is doing it really bad, and me and my other friend really want to help like talk to her about it
cause i have done it before it doesnt help and i know that now, and when i was doing it my other friend help me though it so she knows how to help to. and if we tried to talk to her she changes the subject
what should i do?!?!?!
throughout my childhood, I had severe bouts of depression. [to put it simply]

cutting, as long as she isnt doing it to be 'cool', or whatever the latest crazy fad is, is NOT cureable through psychiatry.

once someone has made up their mind to do it, there isnt much that can stop them.

try telling her how you feel, and how you're scared for her. knowing you have friends at this point is very important.

talk to her as much as possible- but make sure you treat her as you did before you found out. checking in every once in a while is more beneficial than nothing.

Try to steer conversations toward positive events, if at all possible, but if she brings up the subject, then talk with her about it.

One thing that really worked for me was seeing those worse off- volunteer at a shelter, visit a childrens hospital.

& as always, feel free to talk to me any time, or have her talk to me. [my personal contact information can be provided]

I would also like to thank you. Its friends like you that can help to save lives.

Q: Alright, so I have the iphone, and everything is pretty self-explanitory. But now, everytime I try getting online, onto youtube, or anything that requires internet access (which is basically everything other than the phone itself) says it can't find the server/ it needs to be on a wi-fi network. How am I supposed to join one? I know how to get to the whole wi-fi setup thing (under settings) but I don't know how I am supposed to know a network to join. Sorry it's confusing, but I really need help with this one.

Thanks in advance
I have an iPhone, too & whenever that pops up,
I just click okay or cancel. (I can't remember which, exactly)
if you dont have wireless Internet connection at your house, then
you need to get it or there will be no line to connect to.
(unless you have close neighbors who aren't savv enough to put a lock & password on their wireless Internet. )
the iPhone WILL NOT connect to 'corded' Internet!
Often the range of this will go pretty far...I can travel a few miles without having to hack into someone elses Internet.
sorry if that didnt help...I hope it did, but if you have any other questions, feel free to ask. :]

Q: does anyone know any hockey trivia games? kinda like scence it.. or some sort of game used onthe computer or xbox 360? thanks so much!
Try soyouthinkyouknowhockey.com
Its a board game, but there are sample questions online.
hopefully you were looking for something interactive. [its 2+ players]
hope that helps or at least gives you a start.
:]

Q: what brand the best kind of coverup? i need a liquid and a powder...right now i have covergirl (the powder and the concealer stick) and its not working the absolute best...it doesnt really cover what i want to cover, and its almost empty anyway:P
if you could provide links to pictures that would be great then i would know what im looking for.
PS i have sensitive skin thats easily agitated.
http://www.origins.com/templates/products/mp.tmpl?CATEGORY_ID=CATEGORY5718

I have very fair, very very sensitive skin, and if I'm in need of a concealer, that's what I use. Its always better to go to one of their stores to try stuff out, so if there's one near you, I'd suggest going.

There's other foundations and concealer-like things there, though that's probably my favorite. Oh, and if any of their products aren't right, or they irritate your skin, you can take them back and they'll swap it for something else (some will even refund your money). They also will allow samples for many of the products, and will apply any of the make-up so that you can see what it looks like.

Its a little expensive, but definitely worth the cost. & its much cheaper than heavily commercial brands like MAC.

Q: my winterball is coming up and i don't know what hairsytle to get my hair is long and good enough for anything what shall i do?
waves always look good, but if you overdo them, you can tend to look like you got a bad perm, or a clown with a bad hair day.

If your hair is straight, use a large curling iron on your hair when it is dry. Take a about a 1-2 inch piece of hair, and roll the curling iron almost to the roots of your hair, and hold it for three seconds. Repeat for the rest of your head, and spray in a light texturizing spray. Tousle your waves so the look almost casual- you dont want to look like you actually curled your hair. (too much like prom) If your hair looks flat on the top, then flip it upside-down and use a volumizing hairspray at the roots (on some hair, regular hairspray works, though this tends to be for curly hair). Curling irons work better with a little bit of oil in the hair, so if you can avoid washing your hair for a night, I'd suggest it. You should probably try this out before planning on doing it for your winter ball, just to see how it looks.

If you have any questions, or you dont have straight hair, dont hesitate to ask me. This ran a bit long, but I hope it helped.
:]
kristinaa

Q: hey whats the song called its by nickelback (i think lol) it goes like "ayo ayo ayo eh and we dance off into the night" i love that song but i cant figure out what it is..ive tried google but its not showing anything... thanx! :)
its actually chad kroeger, the singer from nickelback. :]

"Into the Night"- Santana Ft. Chad Kroeger

Q: my man has mental problems needs to get on his meds agian and he has been being a butthead. But only at work. Like he gets mad if i have to pee...which i do alot cuz i think i have overactive bladder. how can i tell him to ease up with out him getting defensive
i think you've already answered that: he needs to be on his meds.

my entire family has two sides, no in-between: there's the mentally crazed, and the completely straight-laced, so i'm no new thing at this medication stuff.

its most likely that he will get defensive, but it's something [it sounds like] he needs to do.

you can go for any approach: tough love, 'this is for your benefit', ect.

[i'm guessing] the worst part for him is accepting that he isnt completely normal when off of his meds. help him accept it, and both of your lives will get easier, trust. :]

good luck!

Q: does anyone know any SPECIFIC store where i can get a skull and crossbones tag for a car?? im trying to refrain from looking online if i can find one in a store but i cant think of any places that might have one. thanks!
i couldn't think of any places that i know of, either. :[

but if you end up deciding to get something online, i found a website where you might find something you like. :]

http://www.stickergiant.com/page/sg/PROD/symb/y1889

Q: Hi, I'm 19 years and I have been with my boyfriend for close to a year now. We love each other very much but we disagree on the idea of marriage. He thinks its just a security blanket for many people and being with one person forever and having kids (without the legal bond) could be just as fulfilling. But for me, it is a bond that causes two people to work hard for the relationship, it is respected and all kids want their parents to be married. Is it smart to sustain a relationship where 2 people disagree on something so important? I know were stil young but a few years down the line if someone doesn't change their mind, it would be that much harder to let go. I'm very confused about this. I don't want to be someone's girlfriend forever but I don't want to break up! Please help
It might be that he is trying to subtly tell you that he isn't ready for marriage, yet.

It doesn't seem like you want to marry him at this moment, so have you tried telling him both that and your views on the subject?

You should ask yourself, though. Would you be happy with him, with kids, if you never got married?

Part of relationships, love, and all that is learning to compromise.

Think of something he might agree to, like that in 5 or so years (i know it's quite a while, but you're planning on spending the rest of your life with him) if you're still happily together, you should try getting married. Maybe something like when you have kids.

I hope you can find something in there that'll help your situation- there's nothing wrong with having differences. :]

Q: i need help here badly ans i can't find a job for a 14 year old i dont know where to find a good one either i have my working papers but it says i can't complete it unless i have a pledge of employment which mean's if i dont have a place willing to give me a job i can't finish and hand in the papers to get my job =\ please help
if there are any restaurants near where you live, you could ask for employment there. [though it'd probably involve washing dishes]

i'm sure if you ask around local places [preferrably not chains- family or local owned places tend to be more friendly] you could find a place.

good luck. :]

Q: ok so tacky day at school is thursday! im lookin forward to it and for the most part already have my outfit planned. however i just need some input of REALLY good things i could do thatd make my outfit stand out from the rest. not just like mismatched shoes or something i need something GOOD and one of a kind. any ideas?
you could rat-up your hair. [this does take forever and a lot of pain to undo, though.]
just hold out a small piece of hair, and push part of it up using your other hand.
:]
i hope you get some good ideas.

Q: what song is this pleasee anwer me
"i wont suffer be broken
then the chorus is like
run away run away
out of time
thanks
"Attack" -30 seconds to mars

Q: 15/f if that helps.
ive been fingered before countless times and ive only had sex once but i have never bled.

is my cherry popped? or no?
thanks!
another alternate to that would be if you had already broken it before you had sex.
that can happen if you're wearing a tampon and doing physical activity. [though it isn't very common.]

Q: ok so i just a new computer..a macbook..and idk how to do that heart thinggie like the alt 3 on windows or w/e it is...can someone tell me plz?
the little heart?
you do & hearts ; without the spaces.

that should make it work, but for some reason, it doesnt seem to work on here.

Q: Is there ANY way I can lose a few pounds before friday or saturday?

I'm hanging with a old friend and I want to wear these jeans but they make my butt look big.
I plan on walking 1 hour in the afternooon, don't eat high calorie stuff and drink ALOT of water, (only)


do you think I'll lose a few pounds if I do this?
HELPPPPPPP!
okay.
the first few pounds?
they don't come from your butt.
walking is good, as long as you sweat for at least half of that.
in addition to staying away from high-calorie stuff, try to stay away from unhealthy foods, even if they don't have that many calories.
water is good, but lowfat or nonfat milk are a good alternative.
good luck, i hope this helped. :]

Q: how much are stamps nowadays? i have a bunch of stamps from my parents and they saw "USA first class" on them.. no cent value listed anywhere. im confused. are all stamps worth the same? how much does it cost to send a letter? or a packet (lots of paper attached together by staple)?
stamps are 39 cents nowadays.
i'm pretty sure the 'first class' ones are only worth 37 cents.
it depends on how far you send the letter, and how heavy it would be as to how much it would cost.

Q: This is something EVERYONE can answer.
Tell me all about the coolest party you've ever been to!
What was the theme? What did you do there?
Where was it? How was it decorated?
I want to have a party
but I have no idea where to start!
Please help me! thanks!
i ' ve been having halloween parties since 6 th grade , and those always turn out funn . c:
i think that [ if you ' re a teenager ] , the key elements are food , music , and people .

just make sure everyone gets along, and play music that everyone can enjoy.
idk . i hoped that helped . :]

Q: hey so my homecoming is in less than a week and i need a hairstyle!! ok i have long brown hair that reaches to like my breasts, its straight, and its parted to the side, and my bangs reach the end of my ears, and my hair's layered.

any ideas?? also pictures would be great too... thanks!!!
It really depends on what you're wearing.

I found a website, I hope it helps. :]

"http://www.hrpromhair.com/collections.htm"

Q: so me and my bf are gonna have sex soon... Im 16, and i dont wanna go on the pill becuase I dont want my mom knowing.. ANYWAYS. I was just wondering, we wanna be REALLY safe, so a condom FOR SURE and we dont wanna have sex when im like about to ovulate u know.. so whats the best time? and also. he wouldnt ejacualte in me... how safe are we?
"as long as he doesn't ejaculate in you, you're safe..."

All I can say is, there's no way to know for sure:

Fluid can leak out before ejaculation, so be sure to make sure you get the right size condom.
[Yes, i know this could come to quite an embarrassing situation.]

The only way to be REALLY safe is to just not do it. :]
[ugh, yeah. everything from 7th grade family life is actually true.]

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KristinaKinesthetic
i ' m usually pretty nice , and i love to meet new people . :]

both my parents are doctors , so i know quite a bit about that subject . c:

and i don ' t like using capital letters : i find them pointless , though i can type in full sentences , and love to see others try , as well .

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