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Q: Im 16 if anyone is wondering. Okay, so the last day of my period was saturday night, and my boyfriend and i had sex WITHOUT A CONDOM that day and the day after when i was just getting off of my cycle, but however he did cum inside me BOTH OF THOSE TIMES, and im NOT using birth control. stupid i know, i feel dumb as hell. but i know its really easy to get pregnant when your ovulating but im not to farmiliar with all that, so I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! im going to take a pregnacy test if i dont get my period atleast a week after its missed.
but another thing, its getting kind of itchy down there and i started bleading again this morning!! what should i do!?
The chances of you being pregnant are very slim. Ovulation typically starts mid-way in the cycle, and you are least likely to get pregnant just before or just after your period. However, I would advise you to use some form of birth control, e.g. condoms in future.

You didnt mention what day you started feeling irritation. If it was just after your period it is probably just excess blood coming out from your cycle after sex. However, I strongly advise you to see a doctor about this irritation. It may be curable by a simple vaginal cream, but a doctor will give you a prescription just in case you have an infection. Don't be scared! Act soon, but remember not to worry... these cases are quite common.

Q: what website can i see full eposides of gossip girl on?
try www.sidereel.com
or, www.greatstufftv.com

hope to have helped!=]

Q: what do i do if i wanna be with my boyfriend and girlfriend but my girlfriend want me all to her self and soo does he but i love them both and im stuck in between them both??What or who should i do??i love them both//.
Try to figure out who you love more and are ultimately better off with. If that doesn't work, I suggest coin toss. Its a really freaky way of finding out the truth about your feelings. If you like the result or are okay with it, then thats your answer. If you kind of wish you were doing a game of best out of three with the coin, then the other one is your answer.
Hope to have been of help! (=

Q: Ello! I was wondering if any has used crest white strips and they actually worked for them, because I'm thinking of getting them, but only if they work. Thanks!
Yes they do work, and it has been proven they lighten up your teeth by 3 shades.

they work! =)

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Q: Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost two weeks, I know that's not long but we havn't even kissed yet and we're both shy.
We've madeout before but that was at a party when we were drunk and it was before we were going out.
And it's really weird cause it's almost like we're not going out cause we hardly act like it.
And I've loved him for so long now and I don't want to give up just because we're both shy, but nothing seems to be happening.
I don't know what to do.
Hey =)
I suggest trying something new with this guy. Dont give up, if theres something there it wont take long before something happens. You can try something together you havent done yet, go to the movies, take a walk in the park and talk. Make sure he knows how you feel about him.. so make plenty of eye contact and talk a lot. Do little gestures like holding his hand and cuddling up.. that way you'll make sure he feels the same way. DONT BE SHY!

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Q: I have to do a school project on a controversial/ethical subject and I wanted to choose something other than the death penalty or abortion. I have chosen to do underage drinking. As part of research for the project we have been asked to gather different points of view about the topic and I decided Advicenators would be an ideal place to get some of these opinions/experiences.

If you could take a few minutes to answer these questions/give any additional infomation then it would be very much appreciated.

Did you drink when you were underage? (I know that the legal age varies in different countries, so just go with whatever the legal age is where you are). If so, how often? Where and how did you obtain the alcohol? I'm focussing a large section of the paper on the use of fake ID/asking older friends etc to buy alcohol for you, so if you have any experiences with that, then please let me know in as much detail as possible.

Thank you.
Yes I did drink underage
About twice/three times a week, whenever I went out at night
I obtained it from nightclubs since they allowed anyone able to get in unrestricted access to alcohol
I never needed a fake ID, as they dont check it in shops.

Hope to have been useful! =)

Q: hey. i heard this song a couple of times on the radio but i have no clue what it is! here are some of the lyrics... "it's too late to apologize it's too late" and "got me 10 feet off the ground" or somethin like that. it's a guy singing if that helps. oh yeah.. pleaseee don't tell me to search it on google or any search engines cause guess what! i already tried it!! lol, jk. but ne ways, thanks!
The song is 'Apologize' by Timbaland.

Apologize lyrics by Timbaland.
"One Republic"

I'm holding on your rope,
Got me ten feet off the ground
I'm hearin what you say but I just can't make a sound
You tell me that you need me
Then you go and cut me down, but wait
You tell me that you're sorry
Didn't think I'd turn around, and say...

It's too late to apologize, it's too late
I said it's too late to apologize, it's too late

I'd take another chance, take a fall
Take a shot for you
[ Apologize lyrics found on http://www.completealbumlyrics.com ]
And I need you like a heart needs a beat
But it's nothin new - yeah yeah
I loved you with a fire red-
Now it's turning blue, and you say...
"Sorry" like the angel heaven let me think was you
But I'm afraid...

It's too late to apologize, it's too late
I said it's too late to apologize, it's too late

It's too late to apologize, it's too late
I said it's too late to apologize, it's too late
It's too late to apologize, yeah
I said it's too late to apologize, yeah-
I'm holdin on your rope, got me ten feet off the ground...

Q: i was wondering if you have supa high tolerance for drinking alcohol, does it take like hours for it to get you drunk ?
because that's what supposedly happened to this kid i went to darien lake with.
yeah, i just wanted to know if it's possible.
!
well, im quite young and i have high tolerance. when i drink, it doesnt usually take hours for me to get drunk... i just dont get drunk. the thing i noticed is that it takes a few minutes to feel the effect after you stop drinking.

Q: Sorry if it's a stupid question.Ok,school barly started this week and I keep staring at my last year crush all the time.Sometimes he'll catch me looking at him or at least I think he see's me.Anyway would he get very suspious if I keeep doing that?
Erm, yes, I think so. Why dont you just tell him 'sorry, ive been staring at you lately because you remind me of someone i used to know.' then see how things go from there =)

Q: "main_bg file size is too large. Actual is 137656, maximum allowed is 40000, please rectify and upload again"

this is what comes up on my page & i dont understand what they're trying to say becasue the image size is 760x40 on the navigational background.
what am i suppose to go on if i use paint.net to resize the image or w/e they hell they want?
please reply back!!!!!!
thanks :]
137656 is the size of the file lol. it means the file has too much memory. are you sure its saved as GIF? if it is, then you just need to make it more simple. that used to happen to me when i saved it in .JPEG format. dont save it in .jpeg but use .gif.

write back if you need something else! =]

Q: i know you guys have heard this a million times but i dont feel like looking for the answer so once again what is the code to delete your top friends list from your profile.

thanks
Paste this into your about me section:

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Q: okay does anyone know the name to the song
i cant figuer it out at all if you know it by
the video it this guy dancing in the street with his boombox and there is sayings that come up saying he waits for his loved one everyyear.

oh gosh im going insane someone help (:
thank youu
Do you know any lyrics in the song? If there are, do you know at least a few? It will help me to answer.

Q: ok theres like a portugese word that means messed up, its like shaquad or something. how do you spell it, and how do you pronounce it? helpppp. thank you
I think the word you mean is 'estragado'

'esculachar' is 'to mess up'.

I would go here and listen to the pronunciation http://pt.wikipedia.org/wiki/Especial:Search?search=estragado&go=Ir

Hope to have helped!
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Q: 16/F

There's this guy who I met at my summer camp years ago. We've grown really close over the last two summers. He's not going to come back to the camp, though. I want to call him, but I don't know what to say. He gave me his number as he was leaving, and he doesn't have mine, so I have to be the one to call.
What should I say?
Say whatever you feel. I mean, I would start with a simple hi, how are you doing? you can say the truth, that you miss his company and tell him what has been happening with your life lately. i like using the 'just thought id ring to see how you're doing' phrase, but you can use any you like lol.

once he starts telling you how his life has been going, you should be able to know what to do and say from there. youll be able to tell if he misses you too, and if he would like to see you, and just where you stand with each other.

be confident! if you really like him i suggest you make the first move, youve got nothing to lose. you can ask him for a [platonic] date, just as friends, and see where it goes from there.

my main advice is: RING HIM. things will fall into place from there. he wouldnt have given you his number if he didnt want you to.

RING HIM! NOW!
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Q: does anyone know how to make a bebo skin without using or having photoshop? i need it step by step please if you know :]
Hi =]
Here are a few(I hope) simple steps to help you as you requested.

1. Go here http://www.getpaint.net/download.html and download paint.net, if you dont have it already. Its 100% free. You can use any other programs like Gimpshop etc, which are also free, but paint.net is extremely easy to use.

2. You should read the skin specifications here http://bebo.com/SkinSpecification.jsp if you havent already, to learn about the sizes for each section.

3. Once you have paint.net or another good imaging software, you need to get started on the 7 different graphics. If you already know what you want your skin to look like, all the better. Now, if you want to make lots of skins, I suggest you create simple, one color styles for all the graphics apart from the main background. This should save you tons of time from having to create all 7 graphics each time as opposed to just the main bg, but choose whats best for you lol =). So click file, new, and a window with sizes will appear. If you are going to start with nav. bg, set the pixel sizes to 760x40 and so on. Once you have chosen how you want the skin graphics, e.g. black, you can fill it with color and add any designs you wish, though again, i suggest to keep it simple so you can use these graphics for more skins. IMP: save each graphic with a .GIF extension when you're done, for best quality and smallest sizes. Paint.net is really good because it shows you a preview of how it will look if you save it in a specific format. I suggest you keep a folder for all your bebo skins and sections etc to make things easier. I keep all 6 graphics in one folder named like blackbebo or pinkbebo or hotpinkbebo etc. Then I keep another folder for all the main backgrounds.

4. Once youve done with the 6 graphics and are ready to start the main bg, just select the size like before (760x375) and get creative! You can do whatever you want on the main bg, but make sure it will match with the other graphics. If you want to make it as a background to the profile text, make sure its not too complicated design so it will be readable. If you want to put it on top of the profile, do whatever you want :)

5. Once youve saved all the graphics in .gif go on your profile, select change skins, roll your own, add a new skin. choose a name etc and click upload graphics. upload all 7 graphics accordingly and youre almost done. now click edit stylesheet. this is the part i find annoying. choose all the colours you want but be sure to match with the skin you have made. again, your best bet is to keep it simple. IMP: if you want your main bg to be ON TOP like this http://bebo.com/Profile.jsp?PreviewSkinId=4134841274, make sure you change the PADDING TOP to a large number. the measurement is in pixels, so if you want all your main bg to show, you would have to select something around 375, for that is the size of the main bg you saved =]. Otherwise, i like using 300, 250, but it doesnt really matter because you can just preview and change anything. then go to save and preview. change what you want until youre happy with your skin. then you can click 'use this skin' and select from the 3 options. your skin is ready!

6. you can keep making skins really fast if you always use the same 6 graphics. then you just create new main bg each time. for example, i dont put anything on my 6 graphics: http://bebo.com/Profile.jsp?PreviewSkinId=4186947461. also, an automatic link to your profile will be on the right of the nav bg so people can get to your page.

HOPE TO HAVE HELPED.
HAVE FUN
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Q: what does "ooer" mean in british
Usually its said by some guys who like some girls and shout it out!
But it can also be said by an audience when they're impressed by something.

Ooer!

:)

Q: When giving a blowjob, do most girls spit or swallow? And what are the pros and cons of both?
The decision as to whether or not to swallow is yours and yours alone. In the spirit of true intimacy, you ought to at least try it a time or two to see if you can get used to it, but at the end of the day, only you can decide what works for you. Make sure you communicate to your partner about the subject, though, so that he understands why you've made the decisions you have. If he cannot accept your decision on the matter, and/or tries to force you to swallow it, it might be a good idea to find another partner. If he cannot accept your decision, then this shows a lack of respect for you, and this is never a good thing.

The key to learning to swallow efficiently is, as with anything else, practice. If you're new to giving head in general, or swallowing specifically, just keep practicing until you get the hang of it. Part of building the intimacy that comes with having a sexual relationship is the trust that builds between the two of you, and going through this kind of learning experience is an excellent manifestation of that process.

I would try this site to see where I got my advice from:

http://www.caitlainscorner.com/content/view/305/55/

Hope to help!

Q: okay, so my parents went out for about an hour so far 30 minutes. i then decided to wahs my hair, but i was too lazy to get into the shower to wash since i had to take my clothes off, etc. and i take at least 30 minutes or so. and then i used the sink. so then when i washed, i used shampoo,etc. when i was done,i thought my hair was fine, i thought i rinsed it right, but then later, i felt my hair ( before i dryed), it felt kinda slipepry. KINDA. so i thought it might have been my hands nowi dryed it. and my eye feels stingyy. it looks like as if i just finished crying. but is it okay if you have a bit conditioner on your hair? is there something wrong with my eye?!? thanks.
Its perfectly fine to have conditioner on your hair, since even if it is not a leave-in conditioner you should leave it in for a few mins before rinsing it out. The problem is, you dont want to leave conditioner too long or you can get scalp irritation and your scalp may become flaky. So I suggest a leave-in conditioner if you wish to leave it in long.
As for your eye, its very normal and probably just the result of getting some conditioner or shampoo in your hair. Rinse your eye out frequently with water and it will be back to normal within a couple hours.

Dont worry! =]

Q: When a guy fingers you does he go into the vagina (like the part you can't see) Or outside the vagina like the part you can see? And if he dose go into you, does it hurt?
It depends on the guy and the girl. Fingering can mean just stroking around your c-spot and occasionally passing over the hole, or it can mean inserting the finger into the actual hole. If you've never done it before, there's nothing to be worried about. It doesnt hurt most people, but some virgins may complain that it hurts a little when he goes down too deep. If this is the case, make sure they guy knows what you like and what you don't like and he'll respond.
But on the whole, you have nothing to worry about. Of course its very popular because more pleasure comes out of it than pain! =)

Hope to have helped!

Q: okay my hair is SOOO frizzy that after i shower it gets curly but POOOFFS UP. nothing works not any anti frizz stuff or the help dammage shampoo. I even tried olive oil and it didn't do a thing. I do straighten my ahir and that helps i guess but it also burns my hair and its annoying to do EVERY DAY. Any ideas? I like to keep my hair down.
Hey =)
First of all, I would change shampoo. There are great brands which arent for all of us, and can just make your hair go too soft and gain way to much volume. Try using an anti-volume shampoo like sunsilk. Also, dont use too much shampoo as it dries out the hair and just increases volume.
Use a leave-in conditioner instead of a wash-out anti frizz.
I would talk to a good hairdresser too. They should have a detailed background on these things and consultations can be free. If not, talk while getting a blow-dry =)

Hope to help! :)

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Grazia
I'm in my second year of junior college, I'm taking English, pure maths, philosophy A, sociology, french and biology intermediate. There's not much about me I can write here, but I'll probably still end up writing things anyway..basically i just really like nice, non-judgmental people who have a sense of humour.

Im really optimistic, inspired, ambitious, dreamy, crazy, and unpredictable. I try to be non-judgmental, Im v.v open minded, sometimes can be a bit stubborn though. I love being passionate about things and certain people, having really close loving relationships.. living life to the full. I despise authority, believe in nature, adore music, love animals, nonconformist in every sense, unorganised, love adventure. Having fun with friends, playing games like we used to, having long meaningful conversations, building relationships, being able to feel free, being myself... Listening to music when I travel, enjoying nature.. hope to do something I love in the future.. mainly study psychology, maybe journalism, I would really love to do voluntary work in different countries. I really love travelling and..well, I write... Dont know what else to say (=.. ermm hope you're doing swell

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