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Q: I am a virgin but I have given and recieved oral sex but when guys go to finger me i freak out, why do i do this and is it gonna hurt that bad?

You probably "freak out" just because you are no used to it. i don't think that is anything to worry about right now. Just make sure you know what you are doing before you go HI-HO and get fingered. To the next question: In the beginning it probably will hurt because you aren't used to anything going in there yet but as time goes by your vagina won't be so tight and it should be more enjoyable for you and less painful. Hope I helped!

Q: Is a girl considered a "virgin" is she has had oral or anal sex but not intercorse?

Nope, you have to have penis to vagina interaction in order to become de-virginized. Also, your cherry needs to pop. :)

Q: I've been watching porn on TV for the past couple of nights. Not the whole thing but just segments. Im 16/f by the way. I've never had sex, or even kissed. Im feeling pretty ashamed by it. Does anyone else watch it? Is it a common thing for teens?

I would say yes, that it is a common thing for teens. Whether it's on tv or on the computer it's just curiosity. Don't feel weird you are just probably curious. Hope I helped :D

Q: For verizon wireless, i have free after 9:00 pm. but when does that end. at 12:00 am? or in the morning? or what? thanks.

It ends at 6 am so you have plenty of time to chat up friends, family, boyfriends anything ya want. =)

Q: what jobs can a 15 year old get in Illinois?

Publix! That's all I know of. Probably Marketplaces. Just look around! :)

Q: hi, i am 14 and haven't started my period is this a problem and i want to start it all my friends have except me

I got my first period when I was 14, dont worry about it, it will happen when it happens. Honestly your lucky! I wish I got my period later, it's not all it's cracked up to be. lol, anyway don't worry about it, if you don't get it by age 16 then you need to go to a doctor to get it checked out, but I am sure everything is hunky dori.

Q: is someone a good kisser if they have a strong tounge? [im a girl]

Not always, it usually depends on technique and cleanliness(Because no one wants a sloppy kiss). Although I am sure that a strong tongue doesn't hurt! :) Good luck!

Q: 14/f
when your "cherry pops" do you bleed?& if you do r you supposed to bleed?

Thanx in advance

Yes and yes! :)

Q: Okay so on Friday I gave head to a guy for the first time and I didn't really know him (I know it wasn't thebe st idea but please don't judge) so I don't know who he's been with. Then on Saturday, I started to get a bad sore throat which I still have today. Is it just a coincidence that I'm sick or did my throat just geg mildly irritated from giving oral, or something else?

I think that your throat just wasn't used to it and I am sure it will go away in the days to come. Just if you do it again don't force anything to far down, because that can cause injury. I think your throat just wasn't used to that happening, I'm am sure everything is fine. If you continue though to get pain in your throat then i suggest you go see a doctor. But that's only if worst comes to worst! :) Good Luck!.

Q: girls when your making out what are you supposed to do with your hands?
put them around the guys neck i need help im going to makeout tommorow at a party with a really cute guy.

Well, I usually put my hands around his neck or touch his face with my hands or on his shoulders or around his hips. THE POSSIBILITIES ARE ENDLESS!

Q: i'm 15/f and a virgin. before i had a boyfriend i just used to shave off all of the hairs on my vagina, but now that i think im ready to have sex i dont know how to cut it anymore. should i just leave it all off, or should i try to do one of those styles you see porn models with?? can someone please direct me to a site...thanXx in advance!! =]

Well you can always shave it all off or do something called a landing strip, which is like a line of trimmed hair in the middle of your...... ya know. lol. Oh also! You can do heart shapes and circles and all that fun stuff. Just experiment! Hope I helped.

Q: hi i'm 14 want my breasts to grow im a size 34A oh and for all the guys is that big? how do i make them bigger without padded or water bras or implants thanks (haven't started my period)

Oh wow if you haven't started your period then chances are you just need some time to grow. When I was 14 I was a size 34A and I'm 16 now and I am a 36B and I am still young so I might have some more to for growing too! I hit puberty a little bit late also. So don't worry about it, you will grow and develop. You just need time.

Q: What are good [romantic/comedy] books to read over the summer?

"You suck" by Christopher Moore. oops my bad! Okay it's about this couple girlfriend and boyfriend, the girlfriend is a vampire and it starts off right after she bites her boyfriend. He see's she is a vampire and is freaked out a bit but then realizes that he is a vampire himself! Well the book is about him working his new found vampire skills alongside his girlfriend and there's also vampire villians and a teenage vampire-obsessed girl that helps the boyfriend and girlfriend in there path to love and happiness. !! WEE

Sorry i wrote Bite as the book but I meant to say You suck. lol that's the title

Q: what is the average number a person has sex a year ? is it bad to have it about 15 times in one year ?

I wouldn't say it's bad as long as it's safe.

Q: I get my feelings hurt when my mom gets mad at me. It really isn't my fault. I can't figure out how I can avoid this. Because it's like I am walking on egg shells.

Dont be bad :)

Q: how do you like erase your previous history? like on google, and yahoo, and ect. i don't know how and like everytime you type a letter the old stuff is on there. thankkss. [:

if you have Firefox you can go to Tools>Options>privacy>Clear Now>Clear Private Data now button :) Hope i helped

Q: I'm really questioning my mental health here...
13/f
Ok so...

There used to be this guy I was talking to about things & I liked him a lot. I actually fell in love with him. Anyway, I'm not still in love with him. But...everytime I said the wrong thing or felt guilty about what I said I would pray to God and ask him to tell him that I didn't mean what I said until I got to the obsessive point where I kind of felt like I was talking to him through my mind...like some weird physcho thing...
And there was this little voice like pretending to be him and talk to me back...maybe because I was lonely???
& Then i would keep doing it with other ppl until i got to this point...-
where i started to think really erotic thoughts and then the next person that came into my mind i felt like i was sending them those pictures of erotica after i blinked...
like emailing someone's mind????
i think i have a problem!!!!!
help!!

Wow you giving me goosebumps. Well there are to ways i can look at this. #1 you are a crazed physco who need help QUICK before you kill somebody with your mind powers (kidding of course... :|) OR #2 You are just going through a very lonely faze and you SERIOUSLY need someone to talk to. Your minding is actually making up people to socialize with. you need some real talking to. Maybe just counseling if you don't have a friend to talk to about everything. And try no to get too attached talk to a lot of people so you don't only have one person to focus everything on. WELL hope i helped! :)

Q: there is this boy i really like but i think i love him and his name is drew.. and i really like him. but the problem is that i have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend. and i told one of his best friends and he said he wouldnt tell drew that i liked him (and i trust him)! i think my boyfriends about to break up with me but what if he doesnt? but Drew (the boy i like) he has his girlfriend and we have gone out before and i still REALLY like him. and im thinkin about tell him how i feel but everytime i write the note im afraid to give it to him .. its always better said then done! so i really need help so please help me! please and thank you!

Girl! FIRST thing you need to do it break up with your boyfriend because there is NO way that you can be "in love" with someone else while having a boyfriend. After you are done breaking up with your bf. If you think it's necessary tell Drew how you feel and if he feels the same he will break up with his girl. And if not than life goes on. :) Hope i helped

Q: I know that it is almost impossible to get pregnant with having sex. However, I hooked up with a boy and he ejaculated on his hand and my sheets and we kept hooking up. Now I'm 8 days late on my period. But seriously....what are the chances of me being pregnant

I dont know what you mean by this "I know that it is almost impossible to get pregnant with having sex." Because, yes it is more than likely you can get pregnant with having sex unprotected. Uh duh! But on the rest of what you said if he only did it on the sheet's and on his hand and he didn't finger you with his hand afterwards i would say you are pretty much on the safe side. :)

Q: i have been going out with my boyfriend for about 4 months and all we have done is make out so far. i would like to go farther and im sure he does too. what is a good way to bring it up?

Try and bring it up in a conversation. Like, "So what do you want to do today. HOW ABOUT SEX". If you don't want to be SO straight forward just slip it in a conversation maybe talk about how a friend did it with her boyfriend in 4 months being together. Even if a friend might not have and then ask how he feels about having sex in that time period. And work your way through.