When browsing through this surprisingly interesting site, a rather sad fact was brought to my attention: I could not find one comment, question, or otherwise significantly sized statement written by a user in which any of the basic rules of grammar and word placement were properly utilized. I was suddenly compelled, in a lightening-like flash to become the only bitter and or cynical advisor who had a justifiable reason to be cocky and detached. And then, in an instant, I tripped over a radioactive bucket of waste that may have been a friend of mine and became ‘Angst Ridden Teen Who is Conveniently Masked by The Internet’! Now equipped with super bitchifying glowing lasso action!
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Hi, Okay so when I went to my friends house, we had to stay with her parents( she lives with her grand ma) any way, when I went over there I had alot of fun but I had my heart pounding when I saw my Xbf ..... His parents wants me and him to get back to gether.. they emarresed him and Had him blushing. when my friend asked him back out for me , he said he didn't know. But he alresd has a gurl friend. PLZ help me, I really don't know what to do or say..... I frezze!!!! what should I do???
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a confussed gurl!!!!!!! (link)
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"when my friend asked him back out for me"
This, in its very essence, unhealthy! Not only were you and your friend rushing him, his parents had joined in. If he wants to go out with you, he will do it the conventional way, and ask you. If not, that is his loss, but your throwing yourself at him (through someone Else even!) will never cause him to want to be with you, and might even chase him away. It may not be obvious to you, in your current situation, however to the world actions like this show a lack of self respect, lowering yourself enough to turn dating a person into a game.
If you want to be with him, tell him how you feel, but don't, in any situation, send a friend to give an impersonal message to him in which you make the first gesture of doing something about the feelings you haven't yet discussed with him. As a solution to this situation, I would apologize for being so impersonal and embarrassing, and then proceed to tell him how you really meant it, honestly, calmly, without anyone else involved. However, you must realize that if you pursue this you risk hurting others, like his current girlfriend.
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I'm 18 and I'm 5'3'' I weigh 132ish. I'm not really overweight or anything. But My tummy is just flabby. For 8 months due to sports I did 200 crunches and ran a mile, also did leg things on the wall. None of that is toning my stomache. I don't know if I'm doin something wrong or if any1 els has had this problem before. Maybe Im just weird. If ya kno anything else I can do to tone the tummy let me kno! (link)
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To begin, the abdominal area is one of the hardest places to tone. It takes quite some time for the body to use fatty tissue there, because it is the most important area for said tissue to be (several life-permitting organs are protected by it, you see)
Even still, getting rid of flab here is undoubtedly something that can be done. The problem for many is that they simply do not understand they functions of the body, and its weight loss process. For instance, inhaling as deeply as possible and exhaling as much as your body allows will speed up your metabolism, causing your body to burn fat more quickly. Or, your workouts my not be long enough; after 30 minutes of working out at the same pace, 50 percent of the fuel used is taken from your body's stored fat. I would try exorcising for 45 minutes to an hour, breathing properly, and drinking around 3/4 to 1 gallon of water daily. These things sound simple, but they help Immensely. I’ve been told by several different specialists that it really doesn’t matter what workout you do, when trying to lose fat from certain areas one must patiently wait for the body to burn it off. Simple things like walking and bike-riding burn a lot of calories, which is what you seem to need, more than toning, from what you’ve said. Toning comes after losing the chub.
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I am sure that this question has been asked before but I'd like some answers pertaining to my exact situation. I ussually hate online advice forums, but thougth I'd give it a try before I critisize it. Ok, so enough, here's my problem.
My best friend is a girl. She (and I) are 15 years old. I've known her for about two years now. We have been through so much together and help eachother out in so many ways that I see our friendship permanent unless I personally screw it up. When we first met, I immediatly liked her and wanted to date her. When I found out she felt the same way, I planned on asking her out. But some stupid girl found out that she liked me and proclaimed it to the school and also wrote a letter from me (which I didn't write) to her asking her out. Then this menace of a girl embarrased her in front of the entire cafeteria by starting a chant of "ask her out (then my name)". After that, we just became friends and never really brought it up again. It's been two years since then and we have both had at least one boyfriend or girlfriend. I am starting to really like her and it haints me that we never even gave it a shot. But I am not sure if she likes me more than a best friend or if she would agree to go out with me. She is the only person I trust and I can't give her up as a friend, which is why I haven't risked our friendship by asking her out. So, where do I go? What do I do? What do I tell her? What will she say? If she refuses to go out with me, will our friendship be awkward and ruined? (link)
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If your lady-friend is single, I would simply talk to her (In Person, without the pressure to look into your eyes, people tend to lie) Tell her, though it may seem difficult, exactly what you have said here. For example, you might say 'You know, Jane, the feelings I had for you when we first meant never left, and I would very much like to see what it would be like if I were more than a friend to you. I love being friends with you, so whether you say yes or no, we will still be fine. I wasn’t sure how to tell you this *chuckle* Have I creeped you out yet?' Except, not quite so creepy. Honestly I think you should relax, you are good friends as you have said, so just tell her how you feel and try and make sure she's comfortable, even if she doesn't feel the same way. If there is pressure on either side of the decision, the friendship could break, because no one works well under pressure.
Just relax, think calmly before you speak, and consider that this Could be strange for her to hear after so long, and tell the truth. I have a feeling she will understand.
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im confused on something..im a 16 alomost 17 female and i had a dream bout my ex bf(aaron) friend harry and ever since that dream ive kinda liked him but the thing is ive never talked to him before and my friend christin talks to his other friend stef...but i think christin is pullin my chain bout me gettin harrys sn..im so confused...o and is it normal to like someone that u never even talked to before?
~*Tracy*~
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Oh heavens yes! You're still young yet, though it may not seem like it. Those dreams can be Very stimulating, even to people much older. If you like the dream, it becomes your fantasy. However there is one fatal flaw with all this dreaming nonsense, some of it simply can't be reality, and can certainly never be thought of as such, or brought into real life. You can't go into a relationship thinking about the fact that you boinked the other participant in a dream, you will become tense and focus Only one sexual things. BE CAREFUL. This is not something you want to do, Ever. Relationships that begin like that end with someone devastated or looking back and thinking 'How stupid was that shit? Where was my brain?' Fantasies seem nice, and they are, but must, as a general rule of thumb, stay in the mind.
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I'm having trouble falling asleep. Does anyone now anything that could help me fall asleep easier and faster? (link)
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I am a chronic insomniac, its rather hard for me to get to sleep, so I understand your problem. The thousands of suggestions I have received can be summed up into these three statements: 'Make sure the room is dark and any sounds are calming and somewhat quiet' and the dreaded 'Do something active during the day that will let your body know that you need rest' and lastly 'Get daily stresses off of your mind before bed, do something calming that takes your thoughts away from everyday life'
These, unfortunately, are cures for temporary restlessness. You may have a problem that is not so easily cured, in which case I would consult a medical professional, but try the simple things first, they can be of much assistance. Also, try not to second guess them because they seem as though they would be ineffective at first glance, sometimes the little things are what keep the mind healthy enough to help your body function properly.
Good Luck =)
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I'm 13 ans my boyfriend is 17 is that wrong? I love him and he loves me and he is super nice to me and does not nag me about sex he said its all up to me and we have talked about all that! So is it wrong???? (link)
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If you need to ask a group of people with whom you have no respectable relationships, I think you honestly know that what you are asking about is wrong. Or, you could be trying to get attention by broadcasting the fact that you have a somewhat controversial relationship. Frankly, do whatever you want, it doesn’t affect me. However, a word of advice: to be more convincing, you might try asking a good friend private, moral-based questions like these, because they will most probably show much more concern.
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hey! umm well ive bin with my bf for 10 months now and like i love him more then anything!! hes 19 nd im 15 and i no he loves me tooo but like i dunno just all of a sudden it feels werid like i feel like were fallin apart and i dont want that to happen cuz i love him more then anything!! i reeli need sum adice on like wut to do cuz i reeli dont wanna lose him, he meens everything to me!! plz help!! maybee we just need sum tyme alone..or sumthin i dunno just plz tell me wut i think!!! =( (link)
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This sort of thing happens in relationships that last for any significant amount of time. People grow and change, especially when they are younger, and if by chance they grow in separate directions or begin to move apart, it's completely normal. I think that the best solution is to take a short time apart, a week or two, just to see if it is truly that you have grown apart or if this is being caused by tension and distractions from other things. Whatever you do, just be ready for the outcome, whatever it is. I know that you love him, but if it doesn’t work there is no use hurting the both of you over it, so be honest with yourself, and keep your head on strait. Who knows, this could be temporary! Don’t worry about it, things will work out for the best.
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