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Hey, my name is Elena (pronounced EE-lay-nuh) and I run the advice column at my high-school newspaper. I've been told I give great advice that works. So go ahead and ask me ANYTHING from light-hearted questions to serious problems. If you need to know how to fix your broken iPod or fix a broken heart, I'll answer. Remember, I only know what you tell me so my advice may not work in your specific situation. Ask away! :)

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hey i saw you answered one girls question of if she was overweight. I know im overweight because im 5' 4" and 140lbs. but i have lost 15lbs. so i use to be huge lol ok so my thing is what is a BMI? what is my BMI? and how do you know about that?

Well good job keeping up with the weight loss! BMI stands for body mass index. It compares your height to your weight and finds the healthy weight for your height. Without your age I cannot calculate yours, but you can go to kidshealth.com and click on TEENS. Then go to Health and Fitness and click on
"What is the right weight for my height?" scroll down and fill in the info and then look at the graph. Ask if you need more help.

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will we break up? Does space mean he doesn't love me anymore? I thought that we would be together forever and now...

From the way you are talking it sounds like you are a little desperate and he really DOES need space. Try not to be so clingy and thinking about "together forever" because it scares guys off. Maybe you could use this time to think about why you need to be with him so much. If you become a little more independent and
self-confident and actually give him the space he asked for, and then talk about it after a while with him it may just work. Let him come to you though. You aren't broken up so he can't just leave you confused, so you will talk eventually but use this time to really analyze your relationship. Hope it works out

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So here’s the story. I've been dating the same girl for about two years. I transferred colleges to Columbus and needed a place to stay, and her brother offered me a place to stay. The first thing he said to me about the rules there were, "Come and go as you please, do whatever-just don't break anything." With this being said, about two weeks ago I had two guy friends and a friend who happened to be a girl from high school down to my place to drink. We all are underage, but didn't drive anywhere, get incredibly carried away with drinking or anything completely irresponsible-we just had a few drinks.
The next week my girl friend's brother called me on it and said nothing more than, as long as we don't drive or anything like that, its fine.
Then this past weekend, he told my girlfriends parents about it and made it sound as if there was some wild sex orgy and drunken ridiculousness going on in the basement, where I stay, which is not at all what happened. I'm obviously mad because I now feel like he is going to tell my girlfriends parents about every little thing I do. Also, my girlfriend is non-stop complaining about my mother, what little drinking I do, who I hang out with and yadda, yadda...
So what should I do? I've already thought about it extensively and spoken with several of my better friends about the issue-I just want to see what an unbiased third party would tell me to do.

You live with him, so he's going to find out everything you do. Talk to your roommate about the ground rules for living together (his weren't very good), his betrayal of your trust and how he needs to tell YOU(not his parents) how he really feels. As for your girlfriend, it sounds like it isn't working out because she doesn't approve of you. So maybe you should make other living arrangements and talk to or break-up with your girlfriend. She may not realize her nagging bothers you, but if she gets angry I would break-up because she obviously doesn't approve of your actions and choices.
Sounds like a bad situation, hope this helped.

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16/f.
so i like this guy and hes 19 turning 20. im turning 17 so its no big deal. i really do like him and i dont know what to do about it. we've been friends for about a year now but i just started liking him like a month ago.i know he liked me like in january but i didnt like him then. i started talking to him more and more on AIM and i just started liking him. now i talk to him usually everyday. the problem is that he lives like 20 minutes away and he doesnt have a car any more bc he got into some trouble. i dont know if he likes me anymore. like he IMs me almost everytime im on but idk he might think of me as a friend now. but like last week he asked me why i didnt have a bf and who i liked and then i had an away message on and he left me a kissy face then signed off. i think he might like this other chick but im not sure. i hung out with him last friday and he didnt show any signs of liking me. what do you think i should do?

Considering he asked who you liked, he cares who you like. You don't get over liking a girl that quickly. Tell him (even if it is nerve-wracking)that since you found out how he felt, you started thinking about the feelings you have for him, but it took you a while to fully understand your true feelings. I recommend saying it in person, rather than the online conversations it sounds like you normally have. Go for it, and if he changed his mind about you, you won't have to wonder what could be and you can move on.

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I'm 15, 5"6' and i weigh 130 pounds. i'm all legs, if i put my hand right under my boob it reaches my a little bit past my hip. when i sit down i get rolls, like three of them. and i don't know if its because i have the smallest torso known to man kind or because im fat.

Actually you are not overweight. I calculated your BMI, which is more accurate than just you weight. If you BMI is 95% you are overwheight, you however are a healthy 63%. Belly bulge is average, and yes it may be because of your very small torso. Don't try and loose weight, but instead to abdomen strenghting excercises if you are seriously concerned with your body fat. Don't Worry, You're a Healthy Weight!

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