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hheyy ;] for the freshman team in cheerleading do you know how many spots on average there is open considering 19 girls tried out. :]
i screwed up my cheer a littlee, but my dance was pretty good & my backhandspring was like basically perfectt. what are my chances of getting in. thankss :]
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okay, so, hi.
i don't really know much about this.

i think you have a pretty good chance on getting in though.
even though you screwed up your cheer a little.
'cause everyone makes mistakes.
& i'm pretty should they will understand.

as far as how many spots there would be.
i have no idea.
but, i don't think it would be a small number.
maybe like, ten to fifteen.

but forgive me if i'm wrong about all this.
hope i helped. :]


15/f. i kinda like this kid, well i do like him. but anyway, last night i was talking to him online for like an hour and we were actually having like a real conversation and it was cool. but in school, its so different. i'm really shy, so online i'm good, but in person i dont know what to say. i was going to atleast smile or say hi to him today in school but i never got the chance. and he didnt do anything either so i think he's also a little shy. so how can i end up becoming atleast friends or more with him? i need to take small steps i cant just walk up to him and start a conversation b/c im like really shy. and i need to atleast become somewhat friends with him cuz i only have 2 weeks of school left and he's gonna be gone like almost the whole summer. and who knows if ill have any classes with him next year. helpppppp! (link)
you sound kinda like how i used to be.

make eye contact or something one time.
smile and mumble/say a hi.
& i know you said you "can't just walk up to him and start a conversation" but you can try.
'cause i don't know what else to do.

to start a conversation, ask him about himself.
then if you can relate what he said to something that happened to you or someone you know, tell him that.
& then that might trigger something that happened to him or someone he knows.
etc.

but whenever the conversation, like, dies, just ask more about himself.
unless you would like to just tell him more about yourself.
but shy people don't usually like to talk about themselves.
anyways, i say something 'safe' like, "you know what i hate? when you get gum on your shoe and stuff." etc.

or maybe just say hi, blahblahblah, and kind of walk with him a little.

i hope i helped.
ask more if you need too.


this is from:falling in love Sux

i hate it when she is close to me as in leaning and touchy. becuase it messes up my mind about her, if she likes me too or just oddly close to me. i want to think of her as my other friends but my feeling dont let me to. Why is she still close?

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oh, okay.

i think in the other question you said you told her how you feel.

maybe you should tell her again and include the fact that her acting like that makes you feel like she likes you too.
even though she's told you that she doesn't.
mixed signals, you know?

she might be close because [if you've already told her your moving] she'll miss you and wants to spend a lot of time with you and such.
or, she's in denial about liking you back.
or, just like you said, she's oddly close.

instead of wasting time wondering, ask her herself.

i hope i helped & that this is was the type of answer you were looking for.


whats a good cute and cool myspace name? like if my name is Criss ? (link)
criss [the cute one]

crissayboo[:

criss [=

criss;crazy

criss. [is, like, awesome]

i'd have more, but you weren't exactly specific.
like, cute and cool could mean so many things with different people.
so just ask me again with a more specific question if you aren't happy with any of the ones above.

hope i helped. ;]


So it's summer, as of today. Now I realize that.. I'm going to be really bored the whole time. My group of "best friends" never call me anymore, because they're always out drinking. I confronted them about it once & they say that they've changed now & I haven't. At school I talked to a lot of people but no one called me after or on weekends. Now it's summer & I won't see anyone anymore. What do I do? I have no friends. I don't want to sit at home all summer. Plus my mom is always like, "where are your friends?" & I make up a lie because I can't tell her that they don't talk to me anymore, I feel like a loser.
I don't know what I'm going to do all summer. It seems like my old friends don't even feel bad that I have no friends. (link)
okay, so go you for not following the crowd and drinking like your 'best friends'.

go somewhere and make new friends.
that's what i've done.
if its not too late enroll in a camp type thing for maybe a week, or go to activities hosted by a local library or something like that.
if you're the only one going, it might be a bit scary.
but once you introduce yourself to one person its not anymore.

like, for example, i'm shy.
but i'm trying to fix that.
whenever i go to the beach or camp or something, i say, 'hi, i'm crista. :]' and then, 'i like your [blank]' or even, [say if they have band merchandise, or sports equipment, etc.] 'you play [blank]?' or 'you listen to [blank]?'
basically i just find something we have in common and start talking.

the only problem i've come upon is when they don't talk quite as much as i do, and there are awkward silences and stuff.
just ask them about themselves, or explain a little about yourself to them.
after i did that, they opened up quickly.

if you don't want to meet new people though, just call someone you do know and make a date to do something.
and don't make it something vague that won't happen, be aggressive and make the date definate.

hope i helped.
any other questions about this, ask me.
if you like. [:



There are days I wish I never meet her, and I wish I never help her from her issues.
But for some reason I was lead to this path to meet her and help her, but why!?
I am in love with my best friend that I know for 8 years. And I am a woman who found out that I am bisexual. I had past relationships with men but they never work out and I never got over her. It’s hard when I try to deny my feeling of her when she is a touchy close person to me. She leans on me and teases too. I know friends do that but she can go too far on being close. She is still very close to me after I told her ho w I felt about her. She was shocked about it and she told me she is fine with it and will still be my friend no matter how I feel in my heart. She doesn’t feel the same way about me and she not ready for a relationship and she isn’t sure what gender she likes her self. I ask her why that is and she said she doesn’t feel any towards to men.
When I try to get over her I just can’t! I cry because I can’t get over her. What should I do?
I am moving to Hawaii with my family and my plan was to never talk to her no more so I can get over her. But she is my best friend and I don’t want to break her heart. What should I do if I see her with someone elus? I won’t handle it well I know it I just wish I can find out what to do.
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okay, this isn't an area i'm very strong in, but i'll try.

first of all, you should never deny your feelings.
if anything embrace them.

second of all, you should get over her, but that takes time.
just go with the flow.

third of all, you shouldn't ignore her, 'cause that will only make you want to see her more.
let her know your moving.

but when you do move, hopefully you'll get over her faster because of being miles away with lots of new people.

if you see her with someone else, try being happy for her.
'cause even though you're not the one with her, she's probably happy.
they say true love is when no matter what you just want the other person to be happy, no matter where they are or who they're with.

and when you need to, cry it out.
crying is good for you.

hope i helped. :]


dno what category this goes in so yeah...
i need a good name for msn, does anyone have any good sayings or quotes i can use...
i want heaps so plz tell me your fave sayings or quotes... or a cool way to write my name- sally
thanx xoxo (link)
for your name:

$@11Y

[SALLY]

SALLY;SWEETHEART

SALLY[:

for quotes, my all time favorites are:

well-behaved women don't get noticed.

the key to individuality is getting rid of the 'i'm afraid of looking stupid' line of thought.

i am what i am.

you laugh 'cause i'm different, i laugh 'cause you're all the same. :]

& that's it.

hope i helped somewhat. [:


At what age do teenagers usually get past basic levels of thought and begin thinking more intellectually?What I mean is...when do they start to form their own opinions,have some idea of what they want out of life,and just generally gain a more adult outlook? (link)
i think its when they want to be known as an individual and start to become interested in standing out and stuff.

unfortunately, some teens never get to that point.

some will always be babied by other people, but might break out of the shell when they notice everyone is telling them something different.

i hope i actually answered this.

but on a side note: i'm a teenager too.


okay theres this girl in my class. ive known her since this year and shes okay i guess.. oh yeah im 13 and a girl too. im not really friends with her but we sit at the same lunch table so we talk occasionally. i used to think she was okay, until one day she just changed. well it kinda progressed to her changing.. i only see her at lunch and special periods. first in the year we had music and i liked her and we usually partnered together. next was art and we were at diff tables. she sat at a table with alot of the cool popular people.. maybe that affected her? like soon after that its like she was trying to make herself be something.. she just wasnt before. its like she is so fake i hate it. then soon she got a new haircut and she keeps flipping it all the time.. and the way she acts its like too overly nice and shes trying to be cool i think but i'd rather her just be the girl from before. and then she acts all nice and stuff.. like now in homec thats what she does, but at lunch like once i asked if i could borrow a little hand sanitizer and she was all like "no!" and like pretty meanly. it was just a little sanitizer and it was hanging from her bag.. yeah thats pretty sad i couldnt even borrow a little. and like its like shes trying to act like shes superior to other people and would just seem like.. UGHH i dont wanna be around her! but shes in my home ec group and if shes not in our group she will have nobody else so we have to have her!!! DOUBLE ughhhhh. HELP. PLEASE. (link)
this is sort of easy for me.

like, i decided to just kinda ignore this girl 'cause she gave me lots of crap.

but she's in the small group i always hang out with so that makes it hard.

just ignore her.

if she says something to you, respond, but not in a way to make conversation.

don't look at her, laugh at/with her [if she tends to make people laugh], don't talk to her unless you have to.

but school's almost over, so this doesn't even have to go on for long.

hope i helped.

let me know how it turned out.

=D


ok so i have this really big crush on this guy thats in my class, tomorrow is the last day of school and hes moving to another country over the summer, i want to kiss him so bad but it would be awkward, i like him so much but i dont know his phone number and i want him to know that i like him
please help!!!

p.s. im 13, so is he =]

help fast, i need it by tomorrow
thanks in advance
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well, i would tell him i like him and that i want to keep in touch by asking his number.

but if you're shy, skip the confession and just say something like you'll miss him and want to keep in touch by asking his number.

like, i wouldn't kiss him 'cause you're right.

it'd be awkward on so many levels, you have no idea.

but he's moving, so it doesn't really matter.

if you're feeling extra confident, i think you should go for it.

hope i helped.

tell me how it results.



So im trying to make a new SN for aim and i need some ideas.
I wanted something that reflected on how my life changed. one of my i deas were xxTimesxChangexx
But i want something more special.
I used to be really depressed and suucidle and now i am finnaly happy and free of the problems of the past. i have a wonder ful boyfriend and i am living life to the fulkest.

Any one have any ideas (link)
things change

enjoying the moment

living the life

loving the life

loving the moment

new and improved

um ... i might have more later.

if any of the previous names are taken you can change it up by taking out spaces, adding 'x's, or adding other stuff like smiley faces [XD,XP,x3,etc.] and abreviations for some stuff that represents you [hxc,sxe,tbs,mcr,etc.].

and if that doesn't work you can change up the letters to numbers instead.

for example, the first one can be changed to: th1ng5 ch7ng3

change the combination of anything that suits your fancy and you'll have a nice screen name that fits the new you.

hope i helped somewhat.

sorry about not very many ideas for screen names.

school has like fried my creative side.


I heard a song on the radio that I really liked! I'm not sure the name, help please?
It goes like this
"Wind it up (uh), wind it up(uh), wind it up oh yeah.
Wind it up(uh), wind it up(uh), wind it up oh yeah.
Wind it up(uh), wind it up(uh), wind it up oh yeah.
Forget the conversation, just wind your body up."
It's not by Gwen Stefani, it's a girl & a guy singing in it. Thanks. (link)
actually i think it is by gwen stefani.

its probably featuring another artist like akon or something, but i'd have to hear it.

the title is "wind it up".

'kaythanks.


Every since i've seen the movie preminition i've been paranoid that my mom or dad is going to get in a car crash. i hate when they drive and i get so scared they'll get in a wreck. what can i do to make me less paranoid!? (link)
think happy thoughts.
=D


k so here i am right now. like sitting on the computer looking through advicenators since im bored. and like i hear breath next to my ear. and im like alrightt. and i blow i off an but then i keep hearing it. and so i looked in the direction where it was coming from and the breathing noise stops. and it kept doing that. and like so i just opened my bedroom door because its kinda creapy you know. so yeah it just keep doing that. so here i am right now like.. listening to something breathing in my ear and yeah. idk what the hell it is. or even if its breathing but something is making this weird noise in my ear. :o
ideas? (link)
this might sound like a stupid answer, but maybe its your breathing.

is it really quiet in the room?

you might of been breathing, then paranoia could of taken over and whenever you looked over you stopped breathing to see if you would hear anything different.


how do you show a guy you like him. without telling him. & i dont mean this in a horny or perverted way.
thanks! (link)
flirt with him.

excessively if you must.

boys are slow, and usually oblivious though.


I am 13, female. I have a female art teacher who I have a crush on. No one but me knows yet. Since it is almost at the end of the school year (week and a half untill last day), I wanted to send an email or note or something similar to her after school was out and tell what I feel about her. My question is this: Should I send her the email or not? (link)
i wouldn't send it because, a] she's an adult and technically you're still a child, so you couldn't make a relationship of it, b] she's a teacher and you're a student, so even if you did make a relationship out of it you could get her fired, c] you'll probably grow out of it and gain a new crush over summer.
hope i helped.


i know i already ask this quetion again and some of you probaly had all ready read the first part and stuff and for some who didnt well my freind has a boyfriend and she is talking to this boy on the internet and yes they be talking about sex like you making me horny and all that stuff and i just want to know is it cheating. (link)
i didn't see the other question, but i wouldn't consider it cheating unless they are actually doing something besides talking.
but that doesn't mean her boyfriend wouldn't be jealous if someone told him.
um ... yeah.


I like this guy and e's not cute but he's really nice. I like I mean LOVE this guy cuz he's sweet and sensitive. I really feel bad for him because he can't EVER see his mother again and he's my friend, whome which i LOVE! Wht should I dooooo!?! (link)
you can love people even if they're not society's definition of attractive.
if you really love him you wouldn't really notice that he's not cute because he's so sweet and such.
like the person below said, if you wouldn't mind people knowing you were with him and maybe being teased about him, give it a go.
hope i helped.


im not gonna lie. im not the smartest person in my school. and i mostly get d's and f's and i try really hard and do worse half the time. people at my school always call me ditzy and blonde and stupid and a bimbo and i ahte when people call me these names. like like they dont take me seriously. what should i do?
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the only thing i can think of to do is to tell them to stop and ignore them when they don't.


At lunch I used to be friends with probably the most snottyest (sp?) people ever. They are insecure. I sat with them everyday. They critizied whatever I wore, or looked like or anything out of weakness. I got in a cat fight with them. So I asked one of my very good church friends who sat at that lunch who is EXTREMELY popular. And She's like sure you can sit with me. So I have been sitting with her for a while. But you see she is like really confident, and she gets whatever she wants, shes out of nowhere GORGEOUS. and shes like the boy magnet in our school. She teaches me to be confident when ever I see her. She always gets all the attention. And I just cant act myself around her and if I do then she just thinks of me as "oh my gosh you are so boring". Im not jealous of her. Its just I wish I could just have fun with her but shes the one is just too cool for me. We go shopping together etc. Hollister is where we go. So I have become more stylish. But you see a few days ago she sometimes ditches me at lunch so sometimes I HAVE to go sit with my old friends and they are so still rude to me. But I like my church friend a lot more. So what should I do? And I dont have any other friends on this lunch shift at school. Im dead serious. So what do you think?
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well, make other friends.
you've already ditched your old friends and such, and that's good.
just because you don't have any other friend on that lunch shift at school doesn't mean you can't make more.
sit with a totally new group or sit with that are in your class but you don't actually talk to.
its not hard, trust me.
hope i helped. :3




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