Hello There;
This is a colunm for anyone with questions on relationship problems, question about their sexuality, questions about their spirituality, advice on talking to parents, and about whether they should, being made homeless by parents, unexpected pregnancies, depression and suicidal thoughts.
I have been, or have had someone very close to me in each of those situations, and can answer questions, provide useful information, and just be there, as a virtual shoulder to cry on!!
Ask away!!
Charming Ashlie xx
E-mail: browneyedwiccan@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Bath, Uk
Occupation: Unemployed
Age: 20
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Member Since: May 23, 2007
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Ok...it's like this: I'm dating a guy, now I want to get him all horny. How should I do this best? I'm 15 btw and he is 22. He made the first move on getting to know each other ^~^
I really want to seduce him. So...any advice? X3 (link)
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firstly its illegal to be having sex at your age; i know thats not what you want to hear, but you just have to think carefully of what you are getting into!
thats the same age gap between myself and my current boyfriend, but i am 20, so it doesnt seem as big.
at 22 you have experienced many more things since you were 15, and you have to think carefully about why a 22 year old is interested in a 15 year old.
the best thing that can drive a guy crazy is making them wait; that way you have time to think, and if you do decide to go for it, it will be like his ultimate fantasy come true.
talk to him some more about the relationship you two have; do people know about you? if people dont then its a fair bet you might get used!
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I would prefer a guy's opinion on this one, but a girl's opinion works also!
Well, this guy and I have been liking each other off and on for the past 2 years. We have been a little more serious recently.. but aren't going out. He would rather be friends with benefits.. we don't have sex or anything, though. I don't necessarily want a relationship with him really badly because i also like the friends thing, but he doesn't think i'm the girlfriend type and I just want to prove to him that I am so he might re-consider a relationship. What are some good ways to make him see that I am girlfriend material, or to make him like me even more?
Thanks! (link)
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the only way to prove you are the girlfriend type can be solved in two ways;
1. stop acting like his girlfriend without the title or privelages
2. ask him what he thinks makes you not girlfriend material
hope this helps you
charming ashlie
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im grossed out
i hear them moaning
and like they have no respect cuz my grammas funeral is tomorrow and like
what do i do
im scared
and i feeel like
idk
i mean i know its natual but like
it sounds ugh
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your probably thinking that its wrong for them to be having sex; they probably feel more connected, and emotionally healed from having sex.
Parents are rather disrespectful; they moan when they can hear you having sex; they see it as wrong and insensative; but they dont care when the tables are turned.
Put your headphones on, with some music; or shame them by moving about the house loudly.
im sorry i cant say much more!!
charming ashlie
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15/f - Me
16/f - My best friend, Emily
I have been best friends with Emily for two years now. At times, we've been eachothers only friends and have gone through a lot. She says she doesn't want to go on living anymore and she's depressed. Half of the time, I think she's attention seeking. She's such a drama queen sometimes, always starting things.
I want to slap her, and say 'look at your life, it's amazing. There's people with horrible lives fighting to live with everything they have. What's wrong with you?' Lately she's been sulking a lot and it drives me crazy, and then she acts overly happy with other people just to get my attention. I don't want to put up with this if she's not really depressed.
I also want to just invite her to hang out all of the time and show her why life is so great. Does she even deserve that though? Should she learn it for herself? I don't even know why she wants so much attention. Isn't that just giving her what she wants?
She's considering talking to counsellors (she did as a child) but doesn't think it will help. Her life is absolutely amazing compared to some peoples', she has nothing to whine about. God. I want to tell her that SO badly. This drives me crazy, every single day! I constantly worry, but sometimes I get to the point where I think if she's going to act like such a baby all of the time that I'm going to snap.
How do I treat this? Should I try just telling her why her life is so great (as if she needs to get over being such a drama queen) or could this be serious? Wow I just started to tear up, thinking about if I said that and she actually tried to kill herself..
Help me.. please.. thanks so much. (link)
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Sometimes a stern talking to does help; maybe tell her to snap out of it; to look around her and realise she has friends, and friends are everything!
But maybe she wouldnt react to that so nicely, especially if she is just being an attention seeker.
Its up to you to know if she is being genuine or not; and if she isnt, then what sort of friend is she?
does she worry about you? is she nice to you?
charming ashlie
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okay so this boy i like his name is j and i am totally head over heals for him i love him so much and he acts like he likes me to he always flirts with me and always hugging me and he always wants to hang out with me.but you see hes a total player so i don't know if he likes me or is just being you know player-e but the problem is one min. he acts like he loves me and then the next he's talking about his ex./my best friend Emily so it hurts me cuz i get my hopes up like o my god he likes me and then hes like "dose Emily talk about me any more??" and his current girl friend hes going out with only because shes go 38C's and Emily has almost D's so i think he only likes her because she's got huge boobs but I'm not sher? and i don't know whether to forget about him and find a new guy to like or to sit tight and hope one day he gets over his big boob fetish cuz i only got 36B's so i know he don't like me for them. but it extremely complicated and I'm trying to do the best i can to enplane it but I'm so confused about it myself. so can some one pleas help me decide what to do.
thanks in advance and i am sooo sorry to have written a book but i need help and I'm so confused (link)
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Unfortunately some guys are idiots. Its a really sad fact, one that we shouldnt have to live with, but we do put up with it, dont we?!
Forget this guy, i know you dont want to, and your still lost in the false hope, and the spending time with him because his behaviour is confusing.
You have to break it down into facts;
You know he is a player
You know he has a current girlfriend
You know he still likes your friend
You know he is into big boobs, and you know you havent got them
You have nothing to offer except for your lovely personality, probably attractive look, but he is too imatture to see that.
It wont work; and its making you confused and unhappy; so forget him.
Stop spending as much time with him, and start spending time with guys that are nice, available, and most importantly; think your a hot momma!!
Charming Ashlie xx
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i lost my ipod and i found out that i dropped it in my neighbors lawn and he accidentally mowed over it. it's now broken. i bought the ipod less than a year ago (i cant remember exactly when, and i dont have a receipt, but i bought it online either last august, september, or october).
will apple give me a new ipod free of charge because of the warranty if i show them the broken ipod? (link)
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if you still have the packaging and instructions then there should details of the warranty in there. have a look over that, there should be a website or phone number so you can contact someone from Apple about it.
good luck,
Charming Ashlie
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So im graduating HS this June and i want to make the most out of my summer...what should i do?
I want to "start a new" lifestyle, and i want to be more independant, and feel like i can do something to help other people (link)
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I recommend making a list of all of the things you have always wanted to do; maybe even things you fleetingly wanted to try out; or maybe do more of what you love. Even stupid things, like fasting, trying meditation, staying up for 2 nights straight; spending all day in your pjs watching a programme you love. skinny dipping, sunbathing topless!!
Anything you have wanted to try on a list; then work out which of them you can actually find a way to do, then do them!!
Get a job, even just part time, and enjoy independance that money brings!!
Charming Ashlie
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15/f (16 in a week, Grade Ten)
So, I'm getting older and I want more freedom. In the past I've always just lied to my parents if I wanted to go out late, but I want them to know where I am. I am responsible, I get straight A's in school and I 'never get in trouble' - or so they think.
I have never in my life asked if I'm allowed to go to parties or drink, and I'm too afraid to ask.
Should I just wait out the rest of being young, and wait until I move out to party and have fun? Why might I be so worried about asking my parents if I'm allowed to go out, anyways?
I know I'm responsible enough to handle myself (and I have on several occasions), but they still are my parents and I don't want them to worry about me. Please help, any advice is appreciated. Thanks! =) (link)
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Just ask if you can go to a friends party! Start off smaller; dont say you want to go clubbing or anything; just ask if you can go to parties at your friends house; that way they know where you are; and can get in touch with parents. Then once they can trust you with that; start mentioning group outings to places; like out of town, or to the movies at night; keep going farther and farther, but not too quick; and just enjoy the freedom you do have, without the freedom you dont have making you miserable!!
Charming Ashlie
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how do i make clear to friend who is on the other side of the planet that i fell in love with someone else and that i am no longer interested in him? he has changed the way he acts with me ever since i told him how i felt towards him..... i got over him and now i am engaged. but he doesn't know that yet... and i don't know what kind of opportunity i should look for to tell him... (link)
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hmmmm.... well, if he is on the other side of the planet then its easy to avoid him; but if you want to salvage some kind of friendship from this, then you might start of subtly mentioning the name of your partner; like when you tell this person in your emails or whatever what you have done that day, then start saying what you have done with your fiancee.
the real question in your mind at the moment, should be, what stopped you from telling them before?
i hope this helps.
When they ask who the person is, you might just have to be honest with them...
Charmings Ashlie xx
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im an outgoing, crazy, funny girl....i always help people and show love and care......
over all, people like my personality and like me for it....
i give great advice to people...
except i cant use it on myself....
i really like this guy and the normal outgoing me wouldj ust call someone up and be like HEY WHATS UP!? and talk or whatever but, as an example...lets say you were calling up a celebrity...your favorit one...you would be more concious of what youre saying and more nervous and stuff right
the thing is...i know this kid will love the real me and the outgoing, crazy, "HEY WHATS UP LOSERRR!? WHAT DID YOU DO TODAY!?" self...but i just cant find the guts to call him or talk to him......
i like him and he likes me but i think he gets upset that i dont call him that much then in person i can be all awesome and great...
im not a big phone person....ive always been scared of awkward silences and that im too boring......
i WANNA call him a lot and show him im thinking about him and i care about him but im always nervous hes with friends and ill be tongue twisted in what to say or how to end it if hes with friends or what to talk about ...idk...im a mess
but the funny thing is...i know if i called him and just was myself and how i am with my friends and stuff, hed love it and itd make him feel great that i called and i wanna talk to him and im thinking about him adn stuff.......
i just dont know whats wrong with me....im so nervous and self concious and i have NO gutss what so ever
i just dont know what to do....i feel not worthy or good enough for him....
inside, im that girl that hed love more than anything....i just cant bring it out.......
HELP!
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This may sound strange; but why do you have to call him? why dont you email him instead? if your nervous you can spend as long as you want re-writting. Why not sms him? again, you can spend ages re-writting!!
Why does he not call you?
These questions arent to confuse, but to give you some perspective; its not going to be the be all, and end all of a relationship if you are too nervous at this stage in the game to call him.
You need to encourage more time in person with him; maybe if you are calling with the specific idea of inviting him over, or arranging a trip into town with mutual friends (at first) then you wont be so tongue tied?
time spent in person is a lot better than awkward phone calls...
I hope you get your guy
Charming Ashlie xx
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