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ok i have this so called guy friend who likes my good friend, my friend knew that he has a crush on her and he knows it too
and him and i always talk about her and i always listen and trying to help him out and he said this to me after my friend told me to tell him:
"friend": she said she likes someone ?
me : yeah
"friend": : ic...
me : yeah
me: ey no meeting in the library for a while
me : cause people are being UGh
me: so annoying
"friend": : well theres no need to talk to you anymore
me: as in?
"friend": : i only talk to you cause of her...
me: icic
me: umm ok then
"friend": : nice knowin you
and he signed out so was he using me?

i'm sorry to say, but yes he was using you. and what an @$$hole too. i think you should tell your friend what happened, because clearly the guy is very rude and not a very good person. just like he was using you, he could be using your friend for.... umm... things.

when you tell her though be as neutral as possible, or else she will think that you are saying this because you like him and want to steal him from her. if she thinks you are trying to steal him though (which i know you are not, im just talking about a possible situation that might occur), assure her that you are not, and that the disision is entirely up to her.

anyways good luck!!

hi i need to know what's a tropical forest in Brazil is called and it covers 1/3 of Brazil... and it starts with an "A."

the Amazon Rainforest

What were some of the experiments that the Nazis did?I just want to know what they were for and how they went about trying to do them.

the doctor the first person was talking about was very obsessed with twins. he would do things like stitch them together, or make them switch arms, very cruel and horrendous things.

what is the recipe for cabbage strudels?

Ingredients

Strudel dough
-2 C + 3 Tblsp all-purpose flour
-1/2 egg, beaten
-1/2 Tblsp vegetable oil
-Generous 1/2 C (120ml) lukewarm water
Filling
-3 Tblsp butter
-150g (about 5 oz.) thinly sliced pork, cut into bite-size pieces
-1/2 cabbage, shredded
-1/2 onion, peeled and thinly sliced
-2+1 tbls Kikkoman Soy Sauce
-1 potato peeled and thinly sliced
- Toasted crusts from 1 slice white sandwich bread, coarsely crumbled or diced
-Kikkoman Soy Sauce, butter and sour cream,to taste
-Flour for kneading

Directions

- Make dough by placing flour and salt in deep bowl; stir. Make a well in center of flour,pour in egg, oil and enough warm water to make a soft dough. Stir with hands, knead thoroughly on well-floured board.
- When dough is smooth, cover with tea towel; let stand for 30 minutes.
- Spread clean tea towel on table, sprinkle with flour and place dough onit. Roll doughout as thinly as possible; slip palms underdough and gently stretch out even thinner.
- To make filling, melt a spoonful of the butter in a skillet and saute the pork, cabbage and onions. Season with 2 t soy sauce; drain off any liquid, reserve for later.
- Melt another spoonful of butter in a separate skillet and fry the potato; add spoonful of soy sauce to adjust seasoning. Drain off liquid, reserve for later.
- Spread cooled meat and vegetable mixture on the thin dough; sprinkle with toasted bread then roll up the strudel. Brush the top with a spoonful of melted butter and the reserved liquids.
- Bake for 30 minutes at 185C/375F. To ensure crispy crust, brush the top with the additional soy sauce and melted butter several times during baking.

*Suggestions: This strudel is particularly delicious when served piping hot, with a dollop of sour cream on top.

I know its wierd but i really like movies about mental people...Like the butterfly effect, a beautiful mind, sybil...So if you can think of any like that, i would LOVE to to watch it.

My Left Foot. A very beautiful, touching movie. I loved it. and its based on a true story.

I need some REALLY good chicken recipes [I have chicken breast],
I don't know what to do with it. I've tried a lot.
I just want something that tastes good, is easy to make, and one that you need basic ingredients for.

PLEASE help. :)

Thanks

marinate the chicken breast in some mayonaise (just enough so that the chicken is evenly coated), salt and black pepper for as long as you want, starting at thirty minutes. than spread it out in a pan and sprinkle with chedder cheese or parmesan. put it in the oven at 375F for twenty minutes. enjoy!!

*some people hate mayo but the chicken wont taste like it. the mayo just makes it juicy.

hi.. so i'm 16/f.. 5'5" and i weigh like 103 pounds.. i know its not overweight or anything but do you think it would be healthy to loose like 8 pounds.. because i don't like how i look in a bathing suit and i wanna be skinnier...

according to this

http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/

you are underweight. losing 8 pounds will endanger your health. dont do it. you are your own worst critic, so to others you look a lot better. please dont do it, its not only unhealthy itll make your body look ugly and like a skeleton.

can you tell me your first kiss story? Just what happened?

Mine was less than wonderful haha.

Just to see as a little comparison of things. thanks!

my first kiss was very recent, just a month ago when i was fifteen (im 16 now). my bff called me and invited me over to her house where they was a family birthday celebration for her cousin. lets call him kyle.

well basicly i've only met kyle once before, but he was hot and he thought i was hot so i was like why not. so basicly at the party we are talking and then the younger generation decides to go to the movies. so we all go. when we all sit down, kyle tells me he wants to hold hands so i was like what the heck.

so were sitting there whispering throghtout the movie when he asks me if i have a bf. i say no. he asks me would i want to be his gf. i say yes.

then he starts leaning in like we are going to rub noses, and i was like freaking out so i pulled back when our noses touched and then giggled. but then i thought wow what the heck are you doing you are either going to kiss now or never. so the next time he tries to kiss me i was like ok, and i gave him a peck on the lips, and then we did like 5 or 6 pecks, and the whole time i was thinking man this is wierd feeling cuz his lips were like hecka squishy!!!

and then i was really not enjoying the kisses at all, and i even started thinking of this guy i used to have a crush on and then while making out with him i realized i still do have a crush on him.

needless to say i dumped him two weeks later, and i dont think i will ever kiss anyone again unless i love them, or else it is nasty.

hope i didnt bore you with my "exciting" story. ha

yea but i just emailed jalen and i was like ay when are we gonna hang out again and he was like ah never
member me you answered my question about jalen

huh. i wonder why he said that. it seemed like he was a very sweet guy from your description, and especially the finger biting and the pulling down the pants part... that was just plain flirting!! i am guessing then he pretended to be a sweet guy so that he could use you, but after you told him no when he started to pull your pants down, he decided against it and is now being very rude to you.

forget about him. i know its hard because you like him, but he will just end up using you and breaking your heart. please i know it sound tough, but hes a loser. thats no way to treat a girl, and you dont deserve it.

and mind you he seems to be very skilled at getting girls to fall for him so that he can hump them then dump them, so if he starts sugaring up to you again, than ignore him. honeslty, hes not worth it.

good luck and sorry about my false advice last time, but he really is an @$$hole

yea but i just emailed jalen and i was like ay when are we gonna hang out again and he was like ah never

what?

okay i have known this boy jalen hes about 14 and i have known him since like january of last year i ment him through school well last year we had no connection outside of school well about a week or 2 ago i found him on aim/aol and we been talking well i told him i liked him and he said hes not looking for a girlfriend until may cause his grandma just died a few days ago.well then i asked him if he ever had feelings for me and he said yea in like november from when we stayed after school and we was all huggin and holdin hands.Well yesterday he asked me to come outside and his dad will drop him off by the apartments and we can meet there and just walk around(his dad dropped him off cause he lives about 7 minutes away)

THIS IS EXACTLEY WHAT HAPPEND WHEN WE HUNG OUT IM NOT LEAVEING ANYTHING OUT AND I NEED YOUR OPINION:

okay so i was walking with my dog to the apartment and i saw this really tall black dude with a due rag on so i new it was him so i screamed his name and we started walking torwards my house and then i had him wait at the corner so i could go get my other dog well then i came back out side and we walked by the lake and sat down on the bench.well everytime i got up he would be like sit down.well we started walking torwards my house again and everytime i stopped he would like grab my hips and push me.Well then i dropped my dog off and it was just me this time.and when we were walking i had on my sweatpants he pulled them down a lil bit.but i said ah no.then when we were sitting i covered his mouth i was like shut up jalen then he bit my finger and i was crying he was like ah sorry.then when i had to go home i walked him where his dad was picking him up and he was like by sarah and he walked torwards my way and he gave me a hug i loved it...
hes nice to me outside of school but sometimes mean to me in school but lately hes been really nice

what does this mean and he asked me to hang out with him i didnt ask him....

awwww he totally likes you!!! i bet he was not sure at first, or he was too depressed about his grandma's death, which is why he might have been mean to you. but from what you told me i am very sure he likes you. go hang out with him since he asked. i'm pretty sure he will ask you out soon =)

hay i just got a baby lizard and i dont know what to name it are there any suggestions????? id love as many as i could get... please help!
thanx

Eric
chico
iggy
spot
chici
bruce
archie
twiggy
stripe
sandy
mango
dino

and my ultimate favorite

geico

See I realy like this boy that go to my school and I need to know how to turn him on at school?

ok this works reaaaally well. if you are eating and you get something on your finger, instead of sticking it in your mouth to lick it off, (or using a napkin to clean it off like civil people do haha) stick out your tongue and lick it up in one neat stroke. do it playfully not sluttily. than laugh.

^^^
thats only if you have talked to him before.

if you havent

drop something right in front of him. you can pick it up facing him, and make sure he sees your cleavage as you bend over. OR if you dont have enough for cleavage, you can show off your booty when you bend over (like stick it up high in the air.)

good luck!! be safe and have fun!!

i have been wondering about this since like the 5th grade. i was told two different way to abbreviate the word exadera (i know i spelt that wrongg. haha) kayy so which is it. ect or etc??

thankkk you soo muchhh

etc

(et cetera)

Is there any natural ways I can get better with stuff in my house?
I'm not sick but I got this nasty feeling in my throat which I get before I'm sick so I'm trying to prevent it.
I coughed once in a while (it's only my mouth and throat, nothing else) because it feels liek something's stuck in my throat so I thought if I washed it away I would feel better so I drank different juices and water but all it did was make me pee three times more then usual.

chamomile tea. it fixes all throat problems real well. and yes like others have said vitamins, humidifiers. also breathing through your nose, helps prevent that feeling like somthings in your throat, and blow your nose, dont like breathe it in and swallow it. (like you know when you have mucus at the very back of your nose, like way inside near your throat, and you can sort of snort it in and itll go down your throat. often the feeling thats somethings stuck in your throat is because of that mucus from your nose.) so blow your nose twice a day, once in the morning and once at night, even if it feels like you dont have to.

hope i helped! (and didnt gross you out haha)

last night i did sit-ups. this morning i woke up at 7:00, nothing was wrong. woke up at 10:00, my neck hurt MISERABLY. it STILL hurts, i can't turn my head or anything. it's my right side, i can't lift my right arm. it hurts too bad. i was thinking maybe it was the sit-ups, that i could have strained/pulled my neck or something. but my throat is like swollen, my ears.. i can't hear really well.. they feel full. the pain is my whole right side of my neck, front & back. please don't tell me to see the doctor. do you know what's wrong with me? has anyone else ever had this?

most often things like these happen because you slept in an uncomfortable position. and its usually a couple of hours after you wake up you feel the pain, but only what you described of your neck, front, and back.
as for the throat and ears, i'm pretty sure its your lymph nodes, and you slept in a position that blocked off the circulation in your lymphatic system.

But mind you, its so hard to make a diagnosis over the internet, and especially if you arent a doctor!! so just warning you, i could be completely wrong.

but if this does not feel any better by tomorow, i would see a doctor because there might be somthing very wrong.

but meanwhile you could apply a warmed up ice pack to your neck and throat (not too hot!) which should relieve the pain a bit. also drink some hot chamomile tea.

good luck

kay so i read that girls can get circumsized. how is that done.. or like ... HOW? or how is that possable. like how do the girls get that done.. JUST WONDERING.

when a girl is circumcised, her clitoris, inner and outer lips are removed. in most cases, what is left of the skin is sewn up leaving only a hole the size of a pea for menstrual blood and urine to pass through.

it is done mostly in the middle east and parts of africa on girls ages 6 to 8. they are asked to lie down, then someone get ahold of her arms, and two other people spread out her legs. than, the above mentioned are cut off, using either a knife, a sharp peice of glass, or by a rock. than it is sewn up.

in these countries, it is extremely shameful to lose your virginity, and men will not marry a woman who is uncircmumcised, or uncut. it is believed that the cutting off of the clitoris and than sewing the lips together will prevent the girl from losing her virginity.

the process is extremely painful (no drugs are used) and often results with infections or even death.

i hope i explained it well.

I had sex today while wearing a tampon.
I don't know where my tampon went.
I dont know if it came out or not.
I'm scared.
Does anyone know what will happen if it is in me and what I should do and if it was a good idea to have sex with a tampon in.

go to the ER right NOW!! dont wait another minute. if the tampon is in for over 5 hours, you are in danger of getting TSS. best wishes, please check next time!!!

14/f

im super selfconscience of my face. i am not ugly, and i dont have pimples or acne. my skin tone is white? i get tan in summer and i have an oliveish skin color. my eyebrows are brown and i have natually light brown hair. i have freckles, also some faical hair. its even imbarrasing to ask a private question about. i have kinda of a unibrown when i was younger (really light though), but its not there anymore because ive had my eyebrows waxed once and i get my eyebrows stringed at times, also i tweeze them. i also haev a mustach. its not dark but you can see it. i hate when people get close to my face and i have to look at all the pictures of me so my mustach isnt obvious. i am not going to get it waxed or anything, but is there any home remedies or something i can do to lighten it or make it less noticable? please and thank you

ps. my sister put lemon juice in my hair before because she said it lightens your hair, could i use that?

i dont know about the lemon juice, but its worth trying. what really works well is bleach, though, it dyes it completely blonde. a baking soda and water mixture work well too, but not as efective as the bleach.

Okay, so I'm 15 and I'm only 5'3 I'm like the 5th shortest kid in my grade. Some kids who are in lower grades than me are taller! I drink milk like 3 times a day and I sleep like crazy and yet I'm still short- how can I get tall?

swimming (but actual lap swimming, not frolicking in the water) stretches out your spine, which makes you one to two inches taller. (its because you dont have to fight the gravity which compresses each spine bone).

but your height is determined by genes. you will most likely be a little bit taller than your mom, but always shorter than your dad.

also good posture (shoulders back, chin up, chest out) adds a lot of height.

you can also wear high heels!!!

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