theres this guy, my boyfriend. sometimes i feel like i like him and other times i feel like i dont. he is crazy over me. i feel like i want to dump him but i dont want him to be upset. (this guy also gave me chocolate 4 no reason and we have been going out for about 3 weeks) i need help!!!!! il give 5's and feedback to the first 4 good answers i get! PLZ HELP!!!!

If you really don't want him to be upset, do it ASAP. The longer you wait, the harder it will be and more complicated things will get. Just get some alone time, like on the weekend, and explain to him your feelings aren't true anymore, you both should start seeing different people, and it's time for the both of you to move on. The next time you get a boyfriend, just think about if you really DO like him before accepting him. That'll prevent any future heartbreaks. Hope it works out.

Aw come on, they're not a waste of time. Hygiene is important! lol. Do you know why we bathe? We have so much junk of our bodies, it's not funny. We shed skin cells each day, we sweat, get get dirt on ourselves, we're surrounded by germs, lice and so much more. The least you can do is cleanse yourself each day. Just keep this in mind the next time you don't want to take a shower.

Also, the day you get a boyfriend or a girlfriend (If you don't have one already), you'll want to smell teriffic for them. And when you do get one, think about them while you're in the shower/bath while you prep yourself up for them ;)

You can make showering fun by singing, acting out a scene, putting a radio in the bathroom, getting scented candles, scented soap/body gel, all that good stuff. Makes you feel good about showering. If you're the thinker type, think about what has happened in your day, reflect back on everything, think about the future, pick a topic and debate it out with yourself etc. Or you can try a bubble bath. I hope you enjoy showers/baths more!

I know how you feel. If someone even just jokes about my looks it makes me VERY self concious. I either end up changing it or never forgeting that comment about me if I can't change it. And even if you DO do something about it, you still can't forget. People don't realize how hurtful things can be, no matter how little, no matter how jokingly, no matter how long ago. Many times we remember bad comments more vividly than good ones.

There's not much to do about it unless you try. Try to shrug things off and not take it seriously. Know that most people don't even realize what they say. And if it's bugging you too much, go right up to them and explain how you really feel. You can't keep thinking about it without taking action or just letting it go. You need to do either one of the two, or even both, or else you'll just be eaten up alive.

Another way to keep you from obsessing is to keep yourself busy. Busy equals no time to mope around feeling sorry for yourself right? Go cook, do some cleaning, read, play a game, get involved in clubs etc. Hope it works out.

Look, you deserve better and you do not need to waste your time on a guy that cheats on you. Once he has cheated on you, that means he is CAPABLE of doing it again. If he really did love you he wouldn't have tried to hurt you. Your dreams mean nothing, dreams happen all the time. I once drempt myself on a rock that was falling to the bottomless pit. lol, that didn't mean anything and I'm not dead yet =P So get out there and find a real man!

I'm not supposed to have a boyfriend either. But luckily I'm 15 and I don't have an annoying little sister. Bwahaha. lol. Okay. So here's what you should do. Explain to her what your boyfriend means to you and why he is important. Maybe she'll soften up and understand. If that doesn't work, promise her YOU won't tell on HER if she ever gets a boyfriend ;) You could also pretend you guys broke up already and spend time with him less, just for a while to throw your sister off.

Are you kidding me? You think you're in LOVE? I don't think you even know what LOVE IS! Just because he touched you and did things you like, doesn't mean you're in love. You should have more self control. If you really did have sex, I'd be worried if I were you. You could be pregnant or have and sexually transmitted disease. You are not a good girl after what you have done because you could have prevented it, so don't say that you are. I am not trying to make you feel bad, but you need to realize what you've done. Tell your parents, do something, because you may be at risk. Self control, that's all you would needed to have prevented this.

PS, a guy that would use you for sex is NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU. He is using you for your body. Think about that. If he was responsible he would have thought about his actions.

I really think you should talk to her about it. A relationship should have a balance, not "oh the boyfriend has to give in to everything". Keep it equal and talk it out. If she refuses to talk or gets too hotheaded about things, maybe she's not the right girl for you.

Nothing. Everyone gets jealous once in a while, some people are jealous constantly. She's your bestfriend, and if she really is your bestfriend, you will leave her man alone. Just because someone is cute/hot it does not mean he's YOUR soul mate and that you should ruin a good relationship. Just get out there and find a guy that's perfect for you.

That doesn't mean he's bisexual or gay. Guys can joke around. Or maybe he was just curious what was on the back, I know I would have been.

But, if he really was gay or bi, you should have no problem with him.

Listen to yourself, dear...

"I personally wouldn't want to date someone who's bisexual, not because I have anything against ... That would just be uncomfortable."

There is no "but". You either have something against them or you don't. And feeling uncomfortable means you do.

I've had my heart broken by a guy before. He liked me, but that was when he was unsure about his sexuality, not a good time to get involved with anyone. Then he decided he was gay. Yeah, I was crushed. So I know how you feel.

But that shouldn't keep you from being friends with the guy. If he's shy, just be friendly and slowly become part of the picture. If you find out he's gay, you should still be his friend. Who knows, he could give you great fashion tips ;) lol. If you find out he's bi, you should go for it because dating is about experiencing new things. You say you've always fallen for gay boys. Well if he's bi this is your chance to date the guy you've always wanted.

You've been dating him for 2 weeks? Hon, that's not enough to know you are in love with him. You may not agree with me, but I think the word "love" is SO overused when people don't even know what it means. If you're having doubts about your boyfriend, it is not love. If I were you, I would get both your bestfriend and boyfriend and sit down with them both. Have a long time with them and tell them you know one of them is lying. Explain to them you need to know the truth, even if it hurts, but you will still always be there for support. Honestly though, either your boyfriend or bestfriend are lying. And whoever the liar is, isn't worth your trust. I hope you find the truth.

Ok, I am fifteen and I was in your position last year when I was fourteen, which was just a few months ago. I really thought relationships before college were stupid and I found myself always annoyed when I heard students saying "I love you" to their boyfriend/girlfriend. There's not point if you're going to break up anyway and move on right?

Hmm...well...since then my views have changed. And yes, I have a boyfriend of four months now. I do believe I am in love. He took me out of my own depression and emptiness, and I did the same for him.

Even if your relationship doesn't work out, think of it this way, at least you gained experience and you are one step closer to finding your soul mate. You never would have experienced these things without your boyfriend would you? Even if you are not together forever, at least you helped each other out through the hard times.

You said you were JUST asked out and you think you are in love. I wouldn't be so sure as to say whether you really are in love or aren't yet. I think you're just really happy you've been asked out and your feelings are taking over your head. You should go out with the boy and THEN decide if it is love. It might be love, it might not. You decide.

My mom is the same as yours, she doesn't want me dating till I'm like...done with college because she doesn't believe love can be found at a young age. Shh, don't tell her I have a boyfriend. haha.

I DO think it is POSSIBLE to fall in love at a young age. That does NOT mean it will last forever though and it does NOT mean you WILL find true love. It is only a possiblity.

So I say, go for it. I hope you find your true love, and if it doesn't work out, keep on trying. Dating is about experience and bonding with someone and finding out what you need and want. You won't always find love at first, but it is better to have gained the experience than to not have at all.

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Lol, yes normal. Either your hormones are raging or you just feel like you have a lot of love in you. lol.

From what you've told us, sounds to me your boyfriend is better off as a guy friend. Sounds like he jokes around more than he is affectionate with you. Most guys are like this. You should talk to him about how you are feeling. If you can't work it out, I think you two are better off as friends, not in a romantic relationship. Dating is about exploring, not just confining yourself to one person you're unsure of.

Disability or no, no one should bring you down and say offensive things to you. The solution is not to yell and make things even worse. You need to talk to them calmly and make them understand what they just said to you. Are you sure your family and friends are not defending you? Perhaps you just have not explained to them what is happening and that you would like more support from them. Keeping your feelings bottled up makes you feel bad, AND no one knows how you are really feeling. Don't look down upon yourself and say people won't offend you just because you have a disability. Everyone is offended in some way or another. And we all have to work it out calmly. I hope you get the respect you want.

My boyfriend used to be really shy and I made the first move for everything. I was in your position about the kiss, but being the chicken I was I never went for it. But in time he was the one that finally kissed me. Hehe. If you want to wait for him to kiss you, it might work...but just remember that he may never kiss you because he's so shy! Since you say he is shy, I think it would be best to either give HUGE hints about kissing him and THEN go for it, OR ask him directly if it would be okay for you to kiss him. You pick which one's best for the situation. I give you those two options because you don't want to startle your shy guy ;) Good luck!

Even if you believe you still love him, there's nothing you can do that would go back in time and prevent him from cheating on you. If he had to cheat on you, he is not worth coming back to. Dating is all about gaining new experiences and finding the one true love. Your life doesn't have to end after just one breakup. Go out there and find your man! (=

I'm no professional but my mom is a hairstylist, lol. And what I do know is she only buys the expensive top ones, and they really are better. Sorry if I'm not much help, lol. I hope your straightening iron works well though.

I'm not religious. Yes, I think our world is quite corrupted, but there are still good people out there. I think everyone deserves a chance to find happiness. I don't believe the world will end soon because of the crime and etc. If it does end it'll either be because of some scientific thing like another Ice Age or something. It is possible someone might blow up the world because of a bomb or whatever, but if the world ever does end, at least some of us have already found happiness.

Everyone has the right to believe whatever they like. I hope you see my point of view and I by no means am making you change your thoughts.

Want my honest opinion? That's low of you for using him. Yes, I think you're using him because you don't even know if you love him. Sounds like you're only keeping him as a backup in case the other guy you think you like doesn't work out. I think you and your boyfriend rushed into a relationship too early because you both have doubts on your love for each other.

I really think the two of you should talk and split up. If not, at least get some space from each other to sort out things. If you are not sure about how you feel about him, that proves you do not have strong feelings for him. Do a favor for yourself and your boyfriend and tell him the truth.