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Q: i live in a foster home yeh and is alright were i am now but they are thinking about moving me again because they am saying im not makin progress were i am now. but i have ive made loads with this familly but ive tried explaining that to the social worker but shes a bitch what should i do? or is there anything i can do because i dont wanna move again ive just settled into this one.

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okay.. well have you tried telling her that you really like the condition your in now?? try telling her that you like where your at and you don't think you'll feel better anywhere else..you need to really tell her how you feel because it should be ultimately your decision!!

*jeN

Q: have you hugged an emo kid today?

not today but i'll be sure to find one 2morrow!!

*jeN

Q: Okay me and my boyfriend have been dating for 10 months now. Well I've stayed at he's house for the past 2 weeks straight, only been home 2x. My boyfriend loves that I stay there. He feels closer to me and he loves that feelings of having me around to make him happy and when he wakes up he LOVES to see my face sleeping next to hes..but ya whatever I have a problem though. He's little brother is really mean to me (only when he's friends are around) and he says I look like shit and I need to go home this isnt my house and im lazy and just bullshit. Plus he has a friend named trevor which is ALWAYS ALWAYS around him and he never leaves. he acts like its hes house and he tries to tell me to leave but i've been around way longer than him and I hate it soooo much, but im not going to go home because my boyfriend don't want me to..so what should I do about the other 2 guys and don't say "try to ignore them" cause trust me i have already tried that many of times.

Talk to your boyfriend..If he wants you there maybe he can shut them up and have them leave you alone!!!!!

*jEn

Q: i would like to get a haircut.unfortunately, i'm not too sure what would look good on me. does anyone know a website where i could upload a picture and see how i look with different hairstyles. thank you. :+hugs+:

You could try going on google and type in like Hairstyles, Hair Ideas... Something like that..

*jEn

Q: Well I really love this boy.. and i think he likes me but how do I know if he does..??

YOu can always talk to him about it! IF you really want to know how he feels just tell him how you feel.

*jEn

Q: i have a bf and he is the first 1 and i realy realy love him and we were walkin in the halway talkin and he kissed me on the cheek, i wanna kiss him but i dont kno when the right time is. can you please help me?

*Cassy*

I think the right time is when you feel you really want to kiss him. I mean kissing isn't bad!! I think kissing you can do whenever whereever!!

*jEn

Q: what do guys consider slutty?
no dumb ass answers thnx

I consider slutty when you walk around with tight tight pants on or dasiy dukes and be all prissy about it! Like your the best person in the world and everyone is in love with you! Or when you go sleep around with guys and just move on from one to another!

*jEN

Q: You know how there are face shapes such as heart, oblong, square & round? Well, I'm having trouble figuring out what shape my face is. I was wondering if anyone could help me out. My photo is on my advice column: x0_cAliFoRnIa

Thanks!

I think you have a heart face. cause it curves in like a heart at the bottom!

*jEn

Q: I like this guy, Jared. He is my friend, but i dont know how i can get him to like me that way. Im a very out going person and well usually, thats how i get my guys. But he is different. I dunno its just all so frustrating. PLease help!!

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Well if you know how to get guys, use that on him. Yea... he's your friend but that should make it easier! But do whatever you feel that could get him!!

*jEn

Q: why is it so bad for a white person to say nigga ? is it ohk for a spanish person to say it ??? i mean black people do say it to each other ... and they're aloud to call white people wiggers and white people spicks ? ummm ....

well okay you see there was this thing back in the 50's called segragation. And at that time black and whites didn't get along. So most black people find it offenseive for whites to call them that!

*jEn

Q: well, there are these auditions for teens to become singers or dancers it is number one to get teens into movies and comercials, so i signed up and asked my mom and she said it was alright and now, today, one day before the auditions, she said that she doesnt want me to go. because i will be with my dad for 6 weeks and she thinks that if they want me to come soon then i wont be here, so what do i tell her? need help fast. it is tomorrow at noon! PLEASE HELP I NEED IT FOR MY FUTURE!

i will rate high for ANY realistic answers!

thanks

It depends on how far away you are from your mom.. I mean if your not that far then you could get there as quick as you can! If you really feel that it is in your heart that you want to be a singer and you think that you can make it in the business then go for it! Tell your mom that whatever happens you'll go through with it!

*jEn

Q: I would greatly appreciate ideas for activities with friends. Please give me ideas that need to be planned (Ex. 6 Flags, baseball game, party, waterpark). Also please give ideas that are fairly spontaneous (Besides shopping, movies, pool, park, minigolf, bowling, going out to eat, and hanging out at someone's house). Thanks so much!

Waterparks are always fun! Espically with your friends. If you want to be spontaneous and just do anything throw a party, do a scavenger hunt around you neighborhood, do anything that will let you have fun! That's what the summer'z all about!

*jEn

Q: okay ready i like this boy and he kinda likes me...we talk alot everyday and we talk about everything and i was talkin to my friend brian and he said to ask him out before i loose him forever...But i dont kno if i want to ask him out i want him to ask me out...Wat should i do..

I rate!! good advice..

xo Confused Gurl xo

If you really like him, you should work up the guts to ask him out! You might be scared to do it but you'll get through it!

*jEn

Q: I am so in love with my girlfriend. She is amazing and everything I need her to be. But this summer I have the choice to move away to Philly with my father (which I been wanting for years) to get away from my mother. And I will be getting paid to play basketball there. But my girlfriend will still be here and I don't want to leave her cause I know we would have a great future together if I stay and I know things won't be the same even if I do come and visit a lot. What do you guys think I should do?

If you really want to go live with your father i'm sure she would understand. There are always long distance relationship's. And there are many ways to talk to each other these days. During the summer and that you 2 could still see each other!!

Q: A couple months ago me and this guy got together. Turns out he said he just wants to be friends. Anyway, Im going to see him next week he lives in west virgina i live in north carolina. When I say get together I dont mean go out I mean we just act like a couple. Anyway, I was talking online and I was like "I cant wait to see you I mean see all of you guys" and he was like "yeah I cant wait to see you either" does this mean he wants to "be with me" again? and not just friends?

That's kind of tricky because you never know what guys are thinking. Maybe just play it out when you see him and see what he wants. If he wants to "be with you" and you want to be with him go for it!!

Q: My 7th grade class is going on a school trip to Lake Compounce in Conneticut. It is on June 16th and (this may sound weird but...) I want to GO with someone (as in a DATE) I am not sure what to do. Should I drop hints, or ask? Ask one of ym guy friends and tell them I want to go as friends? Or tell them it is a date? Please help!
Also although we usually have a dress code we can wear w/e we want (I am going to wear a bikini under my clothes) but I am not sure what to wear. I want to dresss attractively, but not sluty.

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(As long as it is not retarded)

THANKS!

It sounds like fun! If you don't feel comfortable asking someone else ask one of your guy friends. If you feel comfortable saying it's like a date tell them! don't be scared! and when you get a date..you'll have a better time!!You should wear your bikini under your clothes. You can wear clothes and not be slutty!

*jEn

Q: Alright! I really like this boy and he thought we broke up because i didn't reallt talk to him because when i sit near my friends and with him, i am more tempted to talk to my friends. well, he broke up with me and asked this other girl out who he said was annoying. My brother was talking to him and he told him that he broke up with me because he thought that if he went out with me for a long time, i would talk to him more but i didn't realize it. He said he doesn't hate me but he wants to be my friend. How do I get him to like me agtain????
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Well with my friends i've noticed if you start to like someone else the boy you went out with will get jealous and he will come back to you. My friend dated this guy for 8 months and they broke up and then she liked someone else and he sprung back to her. He loved her then! If you really want to get back with him maybe start liking someone else!

Q: I'm on my summer holiday and my dad and my mother are absolutely getting on my nerves. They know that it bothers me and it really angers me. I wish that they'd shut up with it all. They argue about everything and it has always caused issues for me since I was a child. I have always protected my dad and I have always repressed my feelings because I was always worried about them. Pleasing them and being perfect for them and it feels like I receive nothing. Nothing. I don't know what to do and the pain. I don't know how to deal with it all. They are really gettting to me and I want to know how I stop them from driving me crazy. I know that I'm not happy and that's what bothering me and I want to know exactly how to be happy. I just never knew it truly. I don't know how to deal with it at all. I have no one to talk to . We have no car so I am stuck in this house for all summer and I will flip if I don't get away from my dad who's husslin' me about my weight just because he doesn't understand what it is to have womanly curves . How in the hell do I deal with this. Because I'm on the verge of doing them some serious harm if they don't stop because nothing seems enough after all the things that I have done for them. Help me out please.

Go out by yourself! I know that sounds stupid but if you really want to get out that bad go for walks around your neighborhood, go to a park, find people to hand out with!

Q: i dont no what to do. my best friend/the guy i love. that "loves" me back. is moving to bosten(i live in ny) and i go to him "are you ever gonna come back to me"? nd he said no. then i asked him if he would forget me and he said yea. then i asked when ur like 23 nd out of collage are you gonna come back to me, nd he said no i will forget you. i dont no what to do im so sad. i cryed alot about it cuz i really really really love him. and now hes moving in 2 weeks. im crying right now. im gonna miss him alot, nd he is going to forget me. someone please tell me what to do. i need help

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- confused

WOW!! Well first of if someone LOVES you they will never forget you. No matter what they say. He's probaly just saying all of this because it is really easy for him to let you go. Not because he wants to but because he has to! You'll obvisuly never forget him and that is all that matters. When he moves call him some times. See how he's doing. There are many ways to keep in touch. Trust me...if he really loves you, he will never forget you!!!

Q: ok, so recentally i have been crushing on one of my friend's brother. I know she is really protective of him and i dont know if i should tell her or not. what should i do?

Talk to her about it! It may be very akward but you know what you'll never know how she feels about it until you talk to her!

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mmm.. well i'm 15 years old! i go to Alan B. Shepard. I am now a Sophmore!!! yay!! i Love softball, singing, dancing (when no 1 is watching), hanging wit friends!!! I am a Chad Michael Murray-acholic and i REFUSE to go to rehab!! I am also in love with the t.v. show ONE TREE HILL!!! if you wanna know anything else just ask!!