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Q: Um hi... well i have been on and off with my boyfriend for about a year now and he likes my bestestestest friend now but i still like him a lot... what should i do??
uhmm i dont really kno. it depends on if you wanna go out with him again, or if you just wanna stay good friends. it all depends on whut you wanna do. just go with your heart. sry i wasnt that much of a help.

Q: What is Epilepsy? Causes? Symptoms? Signs? And what is it's relation with demonic possession. I heard some people say a person is demon possessed or it could be explained that they have epilepsy because the symptoms are the same?...
okay well i dont really kno anything about either .. but i just reciently saw "exorcism of emily rose" and it IS based on a true story... so tasuki is trippin with her answer. okay demonds...idunno. im not even gunna get into that whole thing because it will start a whole new subject but puhles.. whoever thinks Demonds are gunna be friendly may have a few screws loose O_o sryy haha. but anyways yeuh this prolly wasnt much of a help but i just wanted to say that that movie is based on a true story so demonic possession is true. =)

Q: My friends are always saying that when you go to heaven your always happy....but am i the only person who thinks that would suck? I mean think about it. There would be no excitment, no enthusiasim, no love, there wouldn't even be hate or sorrow...which i think we all need a little bit of. Am i the only one who thinks this way?

I'll rate fives for your thoughts!

~Melissa~
nobody knos whut heaven is really like. words cant explain how awesome its going to be. idunno thats my opinion.

Q: first off...your background reeks of beauty! lol dane cook is so effin hott...and secondly::my problem...

i really like my boyfriend we actually just recently started going out a few weeks ago. well ive never had my first kiss and he has. im afraid that if we kiss he will be like "wow you suck at kissing we're breaking up" what if that happens? im so worried im a bad kisser. also, i have a couple warts on my hands. its really embarassing and like ive had them removed before but they keep growing back. what if we hold hands and he feels one and is like omg nasty! i would die. help me alese!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :'(
heyy ma.

omg ik dane cook is liek my fucken lover ♥♥♥♥♥ hahaha

okay anywayssss. uhm really just dont be worried. just remember.....at one point he has had a first kiss and he was prolly thinking the same thing. so i REALLY DOUBT he will dump you cause of that ;D hah.

and about the warts problem... if they are on just one hand, hold hands with your other one.. if they are on both then i dunno whut to tell you. he prolly wont even notice. if he does WHO CARES. i doubt he would care because guess whut... NOBODY is perfect. so yeuh. hope i helped!!! drop by the inbox nd tell me how every thing went! ♥ aleseeeeeeee xo

Q: hey hun .. how are you? well .. yeah i guess i better get to the point.

okay so theres this kid i like .. but he's one of my best friends ever. i don't know if he likes me too .. but he'll always look at me in class and stuff. i sit with him at lunch .. and he always sits next to me. he always tries to make me laugh too. and yeah it works :). but the thing about this is that like .. the 3rd day of school there was a rumor going around that i liked him .. but i didn't at the time. so people would ask if i did .. i'd say no. and theres another part .. he's my ex's like best friend. i broke up with him (jon) during the summer and now we like don't talk so yeah. and another thing .. the kid i like(tom) broke up with one of my good friends during the summer. i don't know if she still likes him .. but the situation just seems awkward to like an ex's friend and a friends ex. i don't know what to do .. i've told one girl that i trust that i like him .. but she didn't put very much input into it. so i don't know if i should just not tell anyone or if people still ask if i like him (from the rumor) if i should say yes or what. i mean i hate lying .. but i don't want everything to spread around in the matter of like 20 minutes .. if i tell someone.

idk what to do .. please help?

thanks babe.
hey maa.

well okayy.....just ask around .. see if he likes you too. and also ask your friend who went out with him if she cared if you liked him. i mean she cant hold on to him forever i guess. but uh yeuh. and who cares if its your ex'z best friend. haha. yeuh well im liek blanking out rite now so if i missed sumthin just get at me in tha inbox. hope i helped! alese xoxo

Q: well i have a bff okay and she is just like me and theres one problem, she smokes weed sometimes, i dont want her to fuck her life up, idk what to do, help me!
heyy. well all i can say is just talk to her about it. if shes your friend help her with her problem. if she is a good friend she will understand you are trying to help her. thats all i can pretty much say. hope i helped!!!♥

Q: hey so im a sophomore and this guy i like is a freshman. he likes me too and we are "dating" so like we're not bf/gf but we're dating. anyways hes like pretty cool and stuff and i really like him but like he always trys to make me feel guilty (ex. ok, i`ll go to the game w/ you if it makes you happy...) and pulls this sad face. i`m sick of it. why cant he just make his own decisions and stop being all whiney. i really like him though i just dont know how to deal w/ this stuff. and he's way to shy. i finally had to grab and hold his hand b/c he wouldnt do it. how annoying! so do you have any advice for my weird/unanswerable question!? thanks!
okay first of all i dont really get the whole "dating but not bf and gf" thing but okay.haha. but anyways.... i would just say talk to him. be liek well you dont have to go to the game if you dont want to and make HiM feel guilty. and maybe have your friends talk to him and have them say liek "dude you should grab HER hand. girls feel awkward when they have to grab the guys hand" or sumthing liek that idunno hahha. but yeuh i cant really think of anything else to say. really hope i helped. ♥ alese

Q: there is this super hott guy that i think is hott and it makes me so mad when all my friends are always saying.. o he is so ugly, u can do so much better... and it makes me so mad and idk what i should do.. i dont know if i should stop liking him or tell my friends that im gunna like him...and im 13
heyy girl. if you like him it wont matter whut your friends think. tell your friends that they have their own opinion on guys. dont stop liking him because of what your friends think of. hope i helped!!♥

Q: Is it okay to date several guys at once. i am 14 and i dont want to be serious with just ONE guy...i just like to hang out with them all!!!
uhm DATiNG more than one guy at a time is called Cheating and that is not a good thing. you will get a reputation as a whore and guys dont liek girls that cheat. its okay to hang out with a bunch of guys as friends but its kinda whorey to date more than one guy. sry if i sound liek a bitch.

Q: Hey
=( I really dont like my stepmom. I dont necessarily HATE her but i strongly dislike her. My dad & her had an affair. I love my mom so much. I live with her mainly. shes like my best friend && we are really close. So My step mom really hurt my mom, me and my whole family life! She barely talks to me. Shes just not very nice. Sometimes she acts too nice like in a fake way & it drives me crazy. I like my dad but we are not all that close because of the divorce. i Hate going over to my dads because of my stepmom & just being around lies. My step brother & step sister dont even know the whole truth. What should I do? I give 5's.
heyy. wow this was liek the same for me. my Ex step dad was such a prick. omgg i hated him so much. but it turns out that he cheated on my mom with another chick and there is more to the story but its WAYY too long. but there really isnt anything i can say to do. Just dont be liek mean to her. try being nice to her... if you dont want you dont have to start a convo. with her. but if she talks to you then dont be liek youre a bitch dont talk to me.. just answer her civily(sp?) haha. well i hope i helped. ♥ alese xoxo

Q: okay im 16 and just got my bellybutton pierced like last week. theres is this girl bianca and i basicly coacher her into the school and like made her cool and hot and all of that sort of stuff. and like she has been bragging that she got her belly ring when she was in summer of 8th grade and its like.. okay get over it. but she is turing into a totall bitch about it and i really dont want to be friends with a girl like that. do you guys think its okay to get your bellybutton pierced at 13/14. i tried telling her to stop bragging and no one cares because no one really does except for her, is there any way to get some sence into her to make her stop being annoying?
uhm well i got mine when i wasz 12.... so i dont really think itsz wrong at all. As for making her stop braging... either start braging about yoursz and get annoying about it ** not to every1 else.. just to her** and maybe she will think to herself, "hey this IS kinda annoying.. maybe im being that way..god im an annoying bitch" .. well maybe not the last part haha. but if she doesnt.. then just try your hardest to ignore her. ik itsz hard to but whut she wants is attention..and if no1 gives it to her... then maybe she will stop. well hope i helped. drop by the inbox nd tell me how everything went =). xoxo♥alese

Q: does anyone know how to make these kind of swirls in this pic...http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y201/babiibrightside/Blueheartzandstarz.jpg
not like when you have to download a ton of programs (maybe just 1) just if theres a way to do it with paint or jasc paint shop pro studio...
thanxx
ok that chick dont kno whuts shes talking about. i didnt have to d.l any special brushesz to do it ...

Well i have animation shop.. just go to www.jasc.com and d.l the free trial. then go to www.dafont.com and download the font Porcelain, and if you dont know how to unzip it, go to www.winzip.com. THen go to Start, My computer, HP_PAVILION (C:) *or you might be D instead..idunno* then click on WIndowns, Fonts, and then find the font. Then unzip it. In the left corner it should say "Extract ALl Files" when you clicked on the font. Click that and fallow the directions. When you have it unzipped Cut it*instead of copying it* and go to Start, Control Panel, Appearances and Themes, then on the left it should say Fonts, and then Paste the font in there.

Then go into your Animation shop and Copy/paste the piccha of you or w.e you want with swirls on it. then click the A at the top and find the font Porcelain and make it BiG, liek size 75, or you might have to type in liek 85 or sumthing.. it depends on how big the piccha is. They have to be on Caps Lock. the best letters to use is A, B, P, O.. stuff liek that. and just put the swirly part of the letter in the corner.

thats what i do and it looks good. for an example in my advice column my piccha has swirls that i made.

hope i helped nd i hope this wasnt confusing haha. if it was you can iM me on aol. Ox3cheerOxbabi

Q: heyy this is the person who asked about the cutting.. um you helped a little bit but im sorry to say not enough. but n e wyas.. there is this guy and like all of my friends say that we were the cutest cuple in the world. and then we broke up.. and like he said he doesnt want a gf but like right now i want to go back out with him and like its killing me!! (literally) like everynight i will just like be in my room listening to music and then i will think of him and i will just out of no where burst into tears! then at a football game we were both at he was flirting with his other ex- gf right in front of me just to make me mad and like they went down to the playground behind the feil by themselves and like his arm was around her but he says they r not going out. i just really dont know what to do. on of my friends who has had this happen to her before says i should just give it time and try later b/c she talkd to him and says right now there is no chance but maybe later. what do i do?




:-/
heyy. im sry i wasnt much help last time.

but for thisz new problem i would just say wait. Getting a new bf might take your mind off of him. Sportsz usually helps too. cause the practices and games will take up your time instead of just sittin there thinking about him. if itsz really meant to be, then it will. it might not seem liek it now but it takes time. thatsz pretty much all i can say. sry if im not really that much of a help again. ♥alese

Q: i'm trying to make a pic like this with all the swirls and stuff but i cant figure out how...do you need like a certain program..or can you just do it with paint? will rate 5s for anything
thanx
Well i have animation shop.. just go to www.jasc.com and d.l the free trial. then go to www.dafont.com and download the font Porcelain, and if you dont know how to unzip it, go to www.winzip.com. THen go to Start, My computer, HP_PAVILION (C:) *or you might be D instead..idunno* then click on WIndowns, Fonts, and then find the font. Then unzip it. In the left corner it should say "Extract ALl Files" when you clicked on the font. Click that and fallow the directions. When you have it unzipped Cut it*instead of copying it* and go to Start, Control Panel, Appearances and Themes, then on the left it should say Fonts, and then Paste the font in there.

Then go into your Animation shop and Copy/paste the piccha of you or w.e you want with swirls on it. then click the A at the top and find the font Porcelain and make it BiG, liek size 75, or you might have to type in liek 85 or sumthing.. it depends on how big the piccha is. They have to be on Caps Lock. the best letters to use is A, B, P, O.. stuff liek that. and just put the swirly part of the letter in the corner.

thats what i do and it looks good. for an example in my advice column my piccha has swirls that i made.

hope i helped nd i hope this wasnt confusing haha. if it was you can iM me on aol. Ox3cheerOxbabi

Q: HEY. okay. well, first thing...its pretty cool how you do this. it must make you feel good. haha. i think i might make one. well, theres this really cool guy in 10th grade. and hes my neighbor. and hes hot (just a plus, haha) and ive ALWAYS had like a thing for him. its not like a crush though...its ilke inbetween LIKING him and a crush. but more liking him. but see the thing is...he smokes pot. and cigerettes. and i wopuldnt be suprised if he smoked anything else. and he hangs out with like allll the wrong people. see, i HATE him for that. like seriously, I HATE THAT. hes not like goth or anything though. like when you look athim, you wouldnt thing "Oh, that guys a drugie". and like i dont think he likes me. because he relly doesnt notice me. but thennnnn theres this guy in my grade. im in 8th by the way. and he really likes me. im not bragging or anything. he just loves me. and i love him. idt i want to go out though...because idk. and i dont have time to have a comitment like that, im just saying it because i dont want to be a bag girlfriend. like if i was a girlfriend id want to in a long term relationship. and idk i flirt with alot of guys...im not a slut or anything, just like normal. and like nick (8th grader who loves me) put his arm around me at the movies. and says super nice things to me. hes really sweet. and hes SUPER good looking to...haha. yeah, well i know what the ovious thing is. i just felt i needed to tell someone who hasnt heard it before. and can tell me their opinion first hand. i mean i tell my friends everyhing...its just cool that you dont know me. kay well im excited to hear your comment back. =)
heyy girl =). well the older guy who somkesz...if you dont liek that..then i would say just kinda forget about him... im not saying hesz GUNNA, but he might be a bad influence(spelling? haha) on you...but i dont kno the kid so i cant really say that. The 8th grader seemsz liek a cool kid!! keep being good friendsz with him and when you are ready to date hesz always there.. well i dont really kno whut else to say so i hope i helped!!! drop by my inbox and tell me how thingsz went or if you ever need anything else =) ♥

Q: Ok. Well to start off meh friends name is kelsey shes like a best friend to me. One nigtht she called me and told me "Omg I have meh period" and then everything changed. She ignored me. She NEVER returned meh fone calls (one time it took over 2 weeks.) I know were all changing but..Why is Kelsey just like forgetting im there? I try to be nice and all but i gave up on that because it didn't seem to work. I do cheerleading and so does she. I should have been on the team with her but meh other coach put meh one a team higher than her. I called her one day and told her "Oh gosh, I made the Highest squad!!" she told me that was g@y and dumb that i got on a squad higher than her. She can't even rember the pratices and games and who does she come to for advice? Me. How do i get to the competion/football game? what time? then i get stuck telling her. I really dislike her now because of her weird mood swings and addtutdie Problem. Alese, What do u think is wrong with her?
heyy girl. well alot of ppl change...but ive never really had a friend change that much. if shesz gunna be a bitch to you, and just use you for telling her when the gamesz are nd stuff..i would say forget her. and about you being on the higher team for cheerleading..shes just jealous. so dont worry about that. it might be hard at first to forget about her, but trust me...in the long run itsz gunna be for the best. you dont need a friend liek that. Hope i helped =)♥

Q: Im going into 9th grade and we have been having tryouts for the soccer team for that past week. Everyday the head coach splits people up into teams to scrimmage..she always says dont worry these are not going to be the final teams...but everyday its the same team. Also everyday she says about the next day that the teams will be different..but its not.. So i kno im good at soccer and yet im on the lowest team along with a few other people...and we think we deserve to be on the next highest team...but i dunno what to about it...should i talk to the head coach or not...because she can be mean at points and i dont wanan do anything that will get her mad at me and think less of me....What should I do?
well maybe you and the other ppl were put on the lower squad to help out the ppl who rnt as good as it. if you are really mad about not being on the older squad just go to her and be liek...well i thought i was really good at soccer... why am i on the lower squad??? or sumthing liek that... idunno whut else to say. hope i helped. ♥

Q: Yesterday I had my first attempt at scrunching my hair. I used the product 'Sprunch' by Aussie, but I'm not so sure I did it right. I got out of the shower, and dried my hair until it was just damp, and not soaking wet. Then I sprayed in the stuff and scrunched itttt. It only took like 8 minutes, so do you guys think I went to fast and wasn't patient enough or something? Because my hair didn't come out really scrunched by the time it dried, it was just likee my natural wavy hair, but I want it scrunched. Can anyone who scrunches their hair tell me how long to scrunch it for, and maybe some other tips to get it looking really good. I would like to wear my hair to school tmorrow scrunched, but I need to know the right way to do it first.

THANK YOUU.
Heyy.. i use sprunch spray by aussie too. okay well make sure your hair isnt too dry .. but not too wet.. K then you liek flip your hair over to the floor and spray it not too much..but enough... and then blow dry your hair untill its wet.. and then spray alot of it....thats whut i do and it comes out really good....

O0h and if you do it liek awhile b4 you have to leave...put it up in liek a bun/type thing..untill youhave to leave. thats whut my sister and i do and it workz so it doesnt come out.

Hope i helped =)

Q: ok i have a problem-
im a girl, and im 14 yo!! 8i like this kid, and he likes me. and then theres this OTHER kid that i kinda like but not as much as the other kid. ok so they both like me, k? yea ok so i dont know which to pick because im really good friends with one kid and their liek best frinds so i have to make a big decistion.
can you help me?!
kthanksbye, frusterated
well i dont really kno whut to tell you.....but which ever one you liek better and the one you get along with most is prolly your best bet. and if they had past girlfriends.. ask them how they were..as bf'z that is. if they are liek yeuh he never called and stuff liek that..then i would choose the other one. but idunno. its really your choice. Hope i helped. ♥

Q: Hey.. im so sick of my boyfriend.. he said he wanted to take a break cause he was sick of everyone asking him how his g/f was (me). so i said ok.. so we were on a break for about a week .. then i found out from my friend that he didnt wanna go out anymore.. and so he starts telling everyone that.. but he hasnt even told me! i try to call him.. but he never answers his
phone and he is never online.. and im only 12 and we have been going out for 5 months.. idk if he still loves me.. i just need to reach him! i hope you can help.o yeah and im a female.
Heyy grl. hmmm..Just keep on tryna call him.. and maybe write a lil note explaining how you feel and have one of your friends give it to him. But if he is telling every1 and not even you this stuff.. i dont really think hes worth it. sryy to say. well hope i helped thats pretty much all i can think of. ♥ alese

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heyy every1. my name is alese and im here to help with nethin i can. A lil bit about meee..
i am a compeition cheerleader for the DeMarco Stars♥I play Volleyball for my School♥I love to shop♥I hate when ppl call me a prep cause i wear Hollister and Abercrombie♥I love these hearts♥I have friends that are prolly better than yours♥I put bologna in my left pocket♥My cellfone is my baby♥thats pretty much it for nowww.♥so Im me on aol if you have any questions♥Love ya!

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